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CUTigers · 08-30-2003, 04:48 PM

The first question obviously would be how many people here believe in the idea of a soulmate? The second question is, if you do, do you think that person has to be someone with whom you are romantically involved with?

Personally, I'm unsure about the idea of a soulmate. I think it is a comforting notion to think that there is someone who is destined to become your "other-half", someone who you can trust and depend on for any situation forever, which leads to the question of whether a soulmate can be a platonic friend. A soulmate, to me, would encompass a sense of intimacy, a complete trust and exploration of each other..something that can only be found in a relationship. Anyone else have ideas on this?

Mr. Spacemonkey · 08-30-2003, 05:12 PM

Well i don't believe that there is only one person you are ment to spend the rest of your life with, if that's what you mean by soulmate. However if you mean people being compatible in each others disposition, point of view, sensitivity, and having complete trust in that person and that kind of thing, then i would say i believe in the idea of a soulmate.

As for the second question, i guess it wouldn't neccesarily have to be someone who you are romantically involved with as long as you and that person see eye to eye on almost everything.

This thread kind of reminds me of the episode of the simpsons where Homer starts to disbelieve that marge is his soulmate so he goes on a quest to find his true soulmate and he questions the idea of Barney being his soulmate.

i_t_man · 08-30-2003, 06:57 PM

I don't believe in soulmates, everytime you here about someone finding their "soulmate", the person always happens to live in the same town. Out of all the people on the planet, your soulmate lives no more than an hour away? How do you know your soulmate isn't a seal hunter the lives in a shack above the Arctic Circle?

I'm not trying to sound negative but I think the term "soulmate" is used by people who are trying to convince themselves they found "the one".

Also, you don't here alot of guys using the term, wonder why.

Quietus · 08-30-2003, 08:08 PM

I would say a soulmate is someone who you connect with deeply on an emotional, intellectual, and spiritual level. People don't necessarily have only one soulmate, and I don't think it's something that just happens. If you are somewhat compatible with someone you spend more time with them and eventually learn to completely understand and relate to the other person, then perhaps you have found a soulmate.

I don't think people have only one soulmate either, I think one of the the most important components of love and intimacy is familiarity.

tikki · 08-31-2003, 02:06 AM

I don't believe in a soul mate. I believe on compatibility.

RoadRage · 08-31-2003, 10:09 AM

Quoing Judy Tenuta (comic psycho-bitch, early 1990s), "As I get older, I realize there is no Mr. Right, so now I'm looking for Mr. He'll-Do."

People really don't realize the sheer numbers of people on the planet, and that finding "The One" is an insane proposition at best and more likely an impossible one. Just find someone who can put up with your bullshit and whose bullshit you can put up with, and you're more than halfway home.

1337haxor · 08-31-2003, 10:16 AM

Ill beleive in a soulmate when I've found one.

Sledge · 09-01-2003, 06:14 AM

Soulmates were invented by someone who wanted their relationship to be more special than, well, a normal relationship. Why bother? If you've got one, enjoy it for what it is.

Nefir · 09-01-2003, 06:54 AM

I believe a soulmate is someone who has all the traits which fit perfectly with your own, thus creating as perfect a relationship as you're ever gonna have in life.

Everyone's ideal mate is different, and odds are there are ALOT more than just one potential soulmate walking the world at a given time, for each person.

I just haven't found mine yet

QuasiMojo · 09-01-2003, 02:41 PM

I want to believe

meff · 09-01-2003, 03:32 PM

My wife. It's amazing how in tune we are to each other, sometimes even scary.

You'll know when you meet him/her.

anti fishstick · 09-01-2003, 04:12 PM

i don't believe in finding my other half. i am ONE dammit. not one-half. soulmates are wishy-washy ideals to make people feel like they've truly found 'true love'. i think love in its purest form can not be felt by any human being because no one is perfect, and there are always going to be varying levels of dysfunction to even a successful relationship. i think if a soulmate does exist, you can definately have more than one. because there are SO many people in this world. and we're not DESTINED to meet any of them...

Splice · 09-01-2003, 09:01 PM

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Originally posted by i_t_man
I don't believe in soulmates, everytime you here about someone finding their "soulmate", the person always happens to live in the same town. Out of all the people on the planet, your soulmate lives no more than an hour away? How do you know your soulmate isn't a seal hunter the lives in a shack above the Arctic Circle?

I'm not trying to sound negative but I think the term "soulmate" is used by people who are trying to convince themselves they found "the one".

Also, you don't hear alot of guys using the term, wonder why.

Well said. I completely agree with you i_t_man. I have always believed that a "soulmate" can be anywhere on this planet, not just in our part of the woods.

bundy · 09-02-2003, 04:41 AM

no, i don´t think that the whole ´soulmates´ idea is real.
there are just too many souls on this earth to make it viable.
i believe in working hard to make a compatible relationship work.
i don´t think that a relationship will just magically work forever as if deemed by some ´fate´.
and so, to answer the second question, no, i´m not currently involved with my soulmate.

fuzzix · 09-02-2003, 04:54 AM

I don't believe in destiny, but I do believe in soulmates. And I also think there would have to be a romantic link.

sexymama · 09-02-2003, 05:16 AM

A soulmate is someone who encourages you intellectually, spiritually, and physically. In other words, they compliment (not complete) you. IMHO you may have more than one soulmate in a lifetime. And most likely it is just a romantic idea -- but what a nice idea to feel that your mate is a person who compliments you so completely. I believe that Lebell is my soulmate and I'm thrilled. He is the first man I've ever dated that is also my best friend. Yes, I want to believe that I have "found the one!"

08-30-2003, 04:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
CUTigers Upright	Soulmate? The first question obviously would be how many people here believe in the idea of a soulmate? The second question is, if you do, do you think that person has to be someone with whom you are romantically involved with? Personally, I'm unsure about the idea of a soulmate. I think it is a comforting notion to think that there is someone who is destined to become your "other-half", someone who you can trust and depend on for any situation forever, which leads to the question of whether a soulmate can be a platonic friend. A soulmate, to me, would encompass a sense of intimacy, a complete trust and exploration of each other..something that can only be found in a relationship. Anyone else have ideas on this?

08-30-2003, 05:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mr. Spacemonkey Wake up Location: Nowhere special	Well i don't believe that there is only one person you are ment to spend the rest of your life with, if that's what you mean by soulmate. However if you mean people being compatible in each others disposition, point of view, sensitivity, and having complete trust in that person and that kind of thing, then i would say i believe in the idea of a soulmate. As for the second question, i guess it wouldn't neccesarily have to be someone who you are romantically involved with as long as you and that person see eye to eye on almost everything. This thread kind of reminds me of the episode of the simpsons where Homer starts to disbelieve that marge is his soulmate so he goes on a quest to find his true soulmate and he questions the idea of Barney being his soulmate. __________________ "I hope that when the world comes to an end, I can breathe a sigh of relief, because there will be so much to look forward to." -- Donnie Darko

08-30-2003, 08:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
Quietus Tilted Location: Tempe, AZ	I would say a soulmate is someone who you connect with deeply on an emotional, intellectual, and spiritual level. People don't necessarily have only one soulmate, and I don't think it's something that just happens. If you are somewhat compatible with someone you spend more time with them and eventually learn to completely understand and relate to the other person, then perhaps you have found a soulmate. I don't think people have only one soulmate either, I think one of the the most important components of love and intimacy is familiarity. __________________ "And I think it’s gonna be a long long time 'Till touchdown brings me 'round again to find I’m not the man they think I am at home Oh, no, no, no, I’m a rocket man, Rocket man, burning out his fuse up here alone..."

08-31-2003, 02:06 AM	#5 (permalink)
tikki Justified Location: West Lafayette, IN	I don't believe in a soul mate. I believe on compatibility. __________________ Take notice. Take interest. Take me with you.

08-31-2003, 10:09 AM	#6 (permalink)
RoadRage Stay off the sidewalk! Location: Oklahoma City, OK	Quoing Judy Tenuta (comic psycho-bitch, early 1990s), "As I get older, I realize there is no Mr. Right, so now I'm looking for Mr. He'll-Do." People really don't realize the sheer numbers of people on the planet, and that finding "The One" is an insane proposition at best and more likely an impossible one. Just find someone who can put up with your bullshit and whose bullshit you can put up with, and you're more than halfway home. __________________ Join TFP Team SETI 43K workunits complete, 34 members, more of each needed. Last edited by RoadRage; 08-31-2003 at 10:11 AM..

08-30-2003, 06:57 PM	#3 (permalink)
i_t_man Tilted Location: Seattle	I don't believe in soulmates, everytime you here about someone finding their "soulmate", the person always happens to live in the same town. Out of all the people on the planet, your soulmate lives no more than an hour away? How do you know your soulmate isn't a seal hunter the lives in a shack above the Arctic Circle? I'm not trying to sound negative but I think the term "soulmate" is used by people who are trying to convince themselves they found "the one". Also, you don't here alot of guys using the term, wonder why.

08-31-2003, 10:16 AM	#7 (permalink)
1337haxor Insane Location: PA	Ill beleive in a soulmate when I've found one.

09-01-2003, 06:14 AM	#8 (permalink)
Sledge Pasture Bedtime	Soulmates were invented by someone who wanted their relationship to be more special than, well, a normal relationship. Why bother? If you've got one, enjoy it for what it is.

09-01-2003, 06:54 AM	#9 (permalink)
Nefir Junkie Location: Louisville, KY	I believe a soulmate is someone who has all the traits which fit perfectly with your own, thus creating as perfect a relationship as you're ever gonna have in life. Everyone's ideal mate is different, and odds are there are ALOT more than just one potential soulmate walking the world at a given time, for each person. I just haven't found mine yet __________________ You do not use a Macintosh, instead you use a Tandy Kompressor break your glowstick, Kompressor eat your candy Kompressor open jaws, Kompressor release ants Kompressor watch you scream, Because Kompressor does not dance

09-01-2003, 02:41 PM	#10 (permalink)
QuasiMojo King Knave Location: Lancaster	I want to believe __________________ AzAbOv ZoBeLoE

09-01-2003, 03:32 PM	#11 (permalink)
meff Vanishing, like I do.. Location: Austin, TX	My wife. It's amazing how in tune we are to each other, sometimes even scary. You'll know when you meet him/her. __________________ Toy-like people make me boy-like.

09-01-2003, 04:12 PM	#12 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	i don't believe in finding my other half. i am ONE dammit. not one-half. soulmates are wishy-washy ideals to make people feel like they've truly found 'true love'. i think love in its purest form can not be felt by any human being because no one is perfect, and there are always going to be varying levels of dysfunction to even a successful relationship. i think if a soulmate does exist, you can definately have more than one. because there are SO many people in this world. and we're not DESTINED to meet any of them... __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

09-02-2003, 04:41 AM	#14 (permalink)
bundy . Location: Tokyo	no, i don´t think that the whole ´soulmates´ idea is real. there are just too many souls on this earth to make it viable. i believe in working hard to make a compatible relationship work. i don´t think that a relationship will just magically work forever as if deemed by some ´fate´. and so, to answer the second question, no, i´m not currently involved with my soulmate. __________________ Ohayo!!!

09-02-2003, 04:54 AM	#15 (permalink)
fuzzix Psycho Location: Australia	I don't believe in destiny, but I do believe in soulmates. And I also think there would have to be a romantic link. __________________ I'm most definately not 'lovin' it'.

09-02-2003, 05:16 AM	#16 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	A soulmate is someone who encourages you intellectually, spiritually, and physically. In other words, they compliment (not complete) you. IMHO you may have more than one soulmate in a lifetime. And most likely it is just a romantic idea -- but what a nice idea to feel that your mate is a person who compliments you so completely. I believe that Lebell is my soulmate and I'm thrilled. He is the first man I've ever dated that is also my best friend. Yes, I want to believe that I have "found the one!" __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.