Let Go: 20 Mental Barriers You Should Let Go Of - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Cynthetiq · 07-24-2011, 09:25 PM

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1. Let go of attachments: According to Buddhist Philosophy, attachment is one of the roots of all suffering. I can’t agree more. We attach ourselves to all sorts of things even the most self-slapping stupid notions in the universe. Are you attached to something? How much are you attached? Is it keeping you back from something? Is it making you suffer? Look at it straight through – break the illusion. Know that every attachment can be detached.

2. Let go of guilt: Guilt has absolutely no function whatsoever. Think about it – what could guilt possibly resolve? It just holds you imprisoned to self-mortification and sorrow.

3. Let go of Negative thinking: Pessimistic thoughts and negative attitudes keep you locked in a dark aura that permeates in everything you do. It’s a dangerous line to follow. Know that thoughts influence the world around us. Enough said

4. Let go of self-criticism: Many times we are our biggest pain in the neck. We criticize ourselves with the best of intentions but then go over the acceptable limit. Criticism then turns to disempowering messages. Let go of it and be kind and gentle to yourself.

5. Let go of prejudice: Prejudice keeps you bitter and resentful. It restricts your opportunities to connect meaningfully with others.

6. Let go of compulsive thinking: Do you keep on doing something just because you feel you have to do it without any apparent reason? It’s time to honestly reflect on its usefulness and its side-effects.

7. Let go of the need for others’ approval: We often tend to seek approval by others. This is an attention-seeking behaviour and one which threatens our self-confidence and authenticity.

8. Let go of limiting beliefs: Most of our limits are self-imposed. Life doesn’t have defined limits. Our beliefs do. Learn to identify those beliefs which narrow down your possibilities for action and let go of them.

9. Let go of grudges: Let me put it this way – grudges are bad for your heart. Keep them long enough or numerous enough and your health will eventually suffer. Research is showing the relationship between heart disease and emotions such as anger and grudges.

10. Let go of the “I’ll do it tomorrow” attitude: This is a delaying tactic of your subconscious saboteur trying to keep you from accomplishing important tasks. Try to be aware of it when you think it and consciously push yourself to do at least the first part of it. Naturally you will then continue the whole task because the hard part is only the beginning.

11. Let go of anxious thoughts: These are born out of our fear of the unknown and uncertainty about the future. The thought that something unpleasant may happen is only an unreal thought we have created ourselves. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on real evidence?”

12. Let go of past heartbreaks: A heartbreak can take quite a long time to heal. Your heart is locked as your mind keeps on hovering over the same thought. The thing to realize is that in heartbreaks it is not the loss that make you suffer but the idea you create in your heads about that loss.

13. Let go of bad memories: Sometimes we remember unpleasant things that stir up some sad feelings in us. Bad memories make you relive those sad moments in the present. Keep them where they are – in the past.

14. Let go of useless things: We also attach ourselves to things of all sort. Sometimes we clutter our life with useless objects. Let go of them and simplify your working and living environment.

15. Let go of bad company: If there are people around you that are insincere, harbour envy, are highly pessimistic or disempowering, keep away from them.

16. Let go of the idea that you are a product of your past: One very common mistake we fall into is the belief that we are determined by our past experiences. This limits our view on future possibilities since we are stuck in believing that the future can only be more of the same as our past.

17. Let go of identifying yourself with your job/role: This is one of the risks of modern day life. Since roles are always becoming more specialized we think that we are part of our roles. This makes us lose perspective of our true nature.

18. Let go of counterproductive habits: These are the repetitive patterns of behavior that obstruct or distract you from constructive and productive behavior. They can be anything from watching too much TV and overeating to self-destructive behavior such as drug abuse.

19. Let go of taking things too personally: Very often we are disturbed emotionally because we interpret people’s words and actions from a very subjective perspective. When we take things personally we get irritated, hurt and disappointed. When you look at life from a more detached and objective point of view, we stay emotionally balanced and focused on our priorities.

20. Let go of the ticking clock: Time is one of our biggest sources of stress. Well, not time really but our perception of it. Sometimes we are enslaved by the concept of time even in our moments of leisure. This has devoured a lot of our genuine freedom and space. Learning to spend moments without the constant awareness of time can be liberating and finally productive.

I still have many of these to work on.

Right now I'm working on 11. I really need to let the fear go. What happens is what will happen. I've got so many things on the burner and I am afraid to fail at all of them. I'm putting in many hours into them all and I'm currently successful at them. I am though afraid that in the end I will fail at them.

Anything here you are currently challenged with? What's your story?

dlish · 07-24-2011, 09:47 PM

i dont have much time to make a lengthy post, so ill keep it short.

By letting go of a lot of those things, many people would essentially be letting go of who they are and how they identify with themselves. by letting go, do we then just become shadows of our current selves? who's to say that we would be better off? i know i wouldnt want to let go of some of those things on the list..but maybe thats just in securities.

Cynthetiq · 07-24-2011, 10:02 PM

what things there would you like to keep? how do they increase or better your life?

mixedmedia · 07-25-2011, 01:16 AM

I think most people know you have to let go of these things.
Letting go of them is another thing entirely.

SuburbanZombie · 07-25-2011, 06:33 AM

I have defeated a number of those already. A few were extinct before the battle started.

Currently engaged in a battle to the death with #'s 1 and 14.

Unfortunately, #10 and 18 broke from the main force and are sweeping through my unprotected flanks. I suspect I have a 15 in my ranks somewhere.

Jove · 07-25-2011, 07:20 AM

I have difficulty with 3,6, and 11, but exercise and yoga seem to help decrease the three I just listed.

Iliftrocks · 07-26-2011, 08:25 AM

Religion would never survive, if people would just do these things.

Baraka_Guru · 07-26-2011, 08:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Iliftrocks

Religion would never survive, if people would just do these things.

Some religions have these challenges as their foundation. Buddhism does, at least.

Ourcrazymodern? · 07-29-2011, 05:48 PM

Letting go of lists seems pretty hard for our species. As a butterfly, it's harder still. We're not hardwired to do what we'd rather not, producing many of our difficulties & only some of our solutions, right? The bread can wait, but I want the marinated mushrooms NOW. On the list you gave, Cynthetic, I have the most trouble letting go of 15 & 18. I'm an addict.

07-24-2011, 09:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	i dont have much time to make a lengthy post, so ill keep it short. By letting go of a lot of those things, many people would essentially be letting go of who they are and how they identify with themselves. by letting go, do we then just become shadows of our current selves? who's to say that we would be better off? i know i wouldnt want to let go of some of those things on the list..but maybe thats just in securities. __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy

07-24-2011, 10:02 PM	#3 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	what things there would you like to keep? how do they increase or better your life? __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

07-25-2011, 01:16 AM	#4 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I think most people know you have to let go of these things. Letting go of them is another thing entirely. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

07-26-2011, 08:25 AM	#7 (permalink)
Iliftrocks Junkie Location: Near Raleigh, NC	Religion would never survive, if people would just do these things. __________________ bill hicks - "I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out."

07-29-2011, 05:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
Ourcrazymodern? still, wondering. Location: South Minneapolis, somewhere near the gorgeous gorge	Letting go of lists seems pretty hard for our species. As a butterfly, it's harder still. We're not hardwired to do what we'd rather not, producing many of our difficulties & only some of our solutions, right? The bread can wait, but I want the marinated mushrooms NOW. On the list you gave, Cynthetic, I have the most trouble letting go of 15 & 18. I'm an addict. __________________ BE JUST AND FEAR NOT

07-25-2011, 06:33 AM	#5 (permalink)
SuburbanZombie Upright Location: Suburban Bliss	I have defeated a number of those already. A few were extinct before the battle started. Currently engaged in a battle to the death with #'s 1 and 14. Unfortunately, #10 and 18 broke from the main force and are sweeping through my unprotected flanks. I suspect I have a 15 in my ranks somewhere.

07-25-2011, 07:20 AM	#6 (permalink)
Jove Groovy Hipster Nerd Location: Michigan	I have difficulty with 3,6, and 11, but exercise and yoga seem to help decrease the three I just listed.