HELP: all about girls
 

okay....im new to this forum...and...this is to all you ladies out there....can you plz give me some feed back? thx....okay....the story begins like this....i met this girl online, somehow....dont ask...she went to the same school i did....but she graduated from my highschool just when i started to messege her...though like maybe already 2 years already i been talking to her to about all my personal feelings, everything about me, every little detail....now....she knows all my relationship on my past girlfriends and stuff...shes really cute online, shes like a lil baby girl....very very cute attitude.....then we met after like 2 years of online talk talk talk....then i dont know...this is where i got lost....we went to the zoo....shes busy she was doing her zoology hw...and she hugs me pretty much alot......and takes ur arm by her side while we walk wiith her head on my chest...like a couple....i felt so good....at that moment....we never seen each other tho...only through online.....conversation....that day i slept only 1.5 hours i cant believe it, i was so tired....but i tired to keep a cool attitude....smiling charm...then i got really dizzy told her that too....i went home....couldnt stop thinking about her....i kept thinking i was holding her arm, and her head by my side.....it was the sweetest thing ever......this girl isnt just any girl....she has a very cute personality even in real life......shes hyper all the time...shes the type of girl that all men would like to hold and protect at whatever costs.....such a sweetheart......but i have a scar from my earlier girlfriend.....and it was horrible.....completely cold, and im afraid to go and start all over and love again.....i hope i dont really like this new girl that i have met.....:confused:

You are really confused. You say she is great but then say you hope you don't like her. You either like her or you don't.

Oh, and meet her. Talk to her face to face. You guys have a real foundation to build on. You could probably start off a good relationship.

i met her...and it made me crazy, i been thinking all about her since i got back....and i DO like her, rally like her, but im afraid if i take it another step it....later when we breakup i will get hurt like i did last time and it was just horrible.....what does it mean when girls take ur arm and sets her head on ur shoulder....i dont get it...could she me like that to most guys? probally or probally not....or does she really like me? or atleast some? i swear it was so romantic....it was like a dream come true...thta girl was perfect to begin with...to have her head on my side as we walked.....was fantastic....i do anyhing to go back and do it once more

Women are fucked up. They are incredibly friendly and a guy takes it as a sign of something more than it is sometimes. Proceed slowly friend.

Hows that saying go....


It's better to have love and lost than to never have loved at all!?!?! Love is a wonderful and amazing thing, and it will heal the wounds that your heart has.

While the heart is a fragile delicate thing, it can be healed by time. I say go for it, you're gonna hurt if you don't let yourself fall for her because you're worried about getting hurt!

my thanks guys

Stop using the elipsis so much. Even though it doesn't slow down my reading, it is annoying. Also, there is no such thing as "all about girls". You're an illusioned young lad who never matured beyond middle school. I don't mean this offensively, I mean it honestly. I too have been deeply affected by a certain girl starting from middle school, and I have fought thousands of battles within myself because of this. Talk it out with your friends in proper grammar. It does help, trust me. The more you force yourself to use proper grammar all the damn time, the easier it is for you to think clearly. Even the way you write is insanely reflective of the cloudiness of your mind. Stop it. Go read, like I do. :thumbsup:

Umm... I'm nuts, don't listen to me. Oh and uhh... online dating is the weirdest thing you can do. Stop it! ;)

Get her in real life (I got the impression that you went to the zoo with her, though you post is a bit hard to follow) don't worry about getting burned again, and go with it. Love can be a great thing, and it never seems to play out the same way twice. The only bearing what happend before has on the present is that it *will not* happen again. (That's not to say you won't get burned, but if you do it will be in a totally new way)

Think of it this way, while your in love and on cloud 9 you know your alive, if things don't work out the pain lets you know your alive. Its good to know your alive.

so your only real problem is that u dont wanna be hurt by her.

you can either, not be with her, and be hurt cause u aren't with her

OR!!!

you can be with her! and MAYBE u will have some problems, but if she is a great a girl as you say im sure there wont be many problems and it'll be awsome.

SO JUST DO IT!

thx guys, a lil clearification, it wasnt a date at all, it was just after 2 years of consuling, reguarding my problems in my shitty life i am in right here. shes comforted me, helped me cross millions of hardships, an understand, yet cute, energetic girl, both online and real life, its so hard to describe this feeling, cuz i dont get nervious around her at all, i be myself, and i love her company, her closeness with me, its just all so romantic, and i cant stop thinking about it. thats really all there is to it. really. i even forgotten the ex-gf i had 4 years ago and it took me a full 4-5 years to recover trust me, shes just the best thing yet. im glad, i think my problems are resolved so far, so i would like to thank you guys for ur patients and time. thank you all. good bye

you go get em' tiger.

new update, she caught on, she knows something is up with me, shes thinking that i might be in love with her, which is a BIG no no, im about to lie my ass off and blame it on my ex...shit!

i know the feeling
 

Yep, had a similar experience myself, except i fell for someone i knew very well. We beat around the bush for a while, but there's only so long you can hide emotional confusion and frustration like that; ie she's going to find out/realize what's going on. Best advice i can offer is to just go for it. You can't worry about the future while living in the present.
When i finally told my friend what was going on, whe made it clear that she didn't feel the same way. I'll admit, it hurt for a long while, and it took us nearly a year to start talking like we used to again. It's been a while longer now, and we're really good friends again. It's tough sometimes, and sometimes i'd swear that there's more to our relationship, but fo rnow it's what we've got, and it's pretty good. Good luck man.

p.s. as horrible as it sounds, there's no better way to get one girl off your mind, than to find anotherone to put there :p

my thx

Here is one bit of universal advice when it comes to females (and life in general for that matter): DON'T LIE!!

That's not to say, "always tell the entire truth as soon as you know it;" but lying is bound to get you in trouble. If you have feelings for this girl and you know she doesn't share them and will be scared if you mention them, just tell the truth and make sure she knows that you will be her friend regardless of how she feels right now (assuming that is the case). Worst-case scenario is she tells you to go to hell and never talks to you again. If she is as great as you say though, she will not react that way but will listen to you and understand. Best-case, she appreciates your honesty and you score major points. ;)

Good luck to you, I'm sure things will work out even though you have the most horrid grammar I have seen on this board. *grin*

I assume no responsibility for the above advice. It is only one man's advice and should be treated as such. :D

u also have my thx

just talk and be truthful and hope for the best.

If anyone can make a device to read the minds of women, they would make a fortune.

Then again, the same can be said of a device that reads anyone's mind :)

But ya, talk to her more. It is what you two do best, talk, share feelings, don't lie. If she knows that you like her, she might act a bit weird at first, but if she likes you too, she will come foreward and you two can finally get together. If she doesn't feel that way about you, at least she will know to stop leading you on in the way that all girls seem to do regardless of whether or not they like you... I hate that.

no matter what dont lie. tell her u like her. there is nothing wrong with that, she probly likes u too

fuck her brains out then you she will be brainless robot in your control.
Kidding of course.
Women are mean but not all are, don't let it get to you.

girls never make any sense at all.. its too bad too cause the're all so god damn attractive (well, ok, not all... but guys arn't really attactive at all... to me... so that leaves girls) I just wish i could meet a girl who didn't constantly confuse me with the way she thinks...

yeah, don't lie to her, that'll only make it worse.

Stiltzkin, I agree, proper grammer is the only way to communicate!

This doesn't follow any sensible rules of grammar but: :thumbsup: :) :D ;) :p :cool:

Love = Pain, it doesn't matter if it's a first time date or if your married 50 years. Like my dad alway said when they took out my stitches,"Take the pain!" it is worth it in the long run. It hurts but you won't die and most people learn from their past.

If you have spent the last two years whining, and moaning, and bithching about another girl and she still talks to you... chances are she won't dump you anytime soon

i'm not a girl but it sounds like you're in love.. and they say it's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do! so go for it kiddo

mate take your time its great that you guys talk and who knows it might lead some where

Okay, from what I've read in your entries, first you called her just a girl you had been chatting with online for a few years, but who had graduated from your high school when you two started chatting.

THEN you go on to say that no, that's not right; that she's in fact your counselor and that you've been going to her for a few years to get over the heartless bitch who ripped you to shreds previously.

So what I want to know is this: what's the real deal here?

If this is a college girl, then damn it....DATE THE GIRL AND GET IT OVER WITH!!! Old adage: It is far better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

If she's your therapist, then you need to stop seeing her and start working on your personal relationship with her - as opposed to your professional relationship.

As for your description of going to the zoo with her, that's either a mixed-up way of trying to describe your feelings or you've got a fantasy life that Walter Mitty would be envious of!

Sit up straight. Take several deep breaths. Make a choice about this girl and pursue it.

damn... I thought that I paused alot and used lots of ellipsis in my threads... you really take the cake.

I think you need to make a decision as to what you want to do. Also, clarify your thoughts a little better so that you understand them better yourself and possible be able to give a better description as to what's going on in your head.

I agree, just take it slow and if things were meant to be they will fall into place.

Your heart may say one thing, but your brain may say another. I now go with my logic over my heart because of a past experience.

That's a shit load of

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1)Take Nothing For Granted
2)Do Not Read Into Anything
3)Face Value is Everything At This Stage
4)Make Yourself "Unavailable" {you'll feel like some kind of mind guerilla, but BELIEVE ME................

These are Q-mojes' 4(count'em F o u r) rules of "Initial Engagement of the Opposite Sex.

-count yourself fortunate, good sir. Most folk pay good money to hear this sage advice.

:)

I dunno if this is any advice, but here's what I got to offer:

Me and my wife (shyla on this board, a Rookie too) met together online and talked on the phone and on-line for over 4 months. I told her I loved her, and she said the same. She dropped her abusive ex and I dropped my abusive family and she drove over 3000 miles to pick me up and we came back down to Texas after the first time I met her in Oregon. We just celebrated our 2 year anniversary a few days ago! Things off the net can work fine, if you both are really interested and in love with each other. All I can say is, take it slow, and talk alot, be very open and just let it go from there.

Good luck.

Look, if you don't try, you'll never know She could be your "soulmate" or just a great lay or your best friend or all of the above, but if you don't step off of the gangplank, you'll never know if you're gonna land in sharks or silk sheets.