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LordEden · 03-31-2011, 11:41 AM

That's not your mind saying that, that's your penis thinking that.

Cimarron29414 · 03-31-2011, 11:44 AM

Chicken,

...and you would be wrong. You really aren't getting it.

It is far more likely that she did not give you a second's thought while she spent the weekend humping the cheerleading squad while the football team watched.

Say it with me Chicken, "New Pussy (tm)."

KirStang · 03-31-2011, 12:24 PM

Chicken,

I could not get over the thought of losing my first girlfriend either. As a result, the relationship died a slow, ugly, convulsive death. It's far better to make a clean break and clear your head--especially with the negative and unhealthy thoughts surrounding it, than to keep hoping and dragging the corpse that was your relationship through the mud.

Hope this helps.

ChickenMuffin · 03-31-2011, 12:36 PM

-_-'... Seeing how this is a dead end road for me. She had asked me if I wanted my gifts back, should I take them back? I gave her a DSi XL on her 20th birthday and it has meaning to it. I told her that I gave her that gift for a reason and I denied taking my gifts back because I thought in my head if we had more time to self reflect over time because right now, we have school and it'll be done 2 weeks until summer starts. I keep thinking second chances here, and why is it not possible for a break up and then start all over? One of my friend has had that and it turned out fine for him. I believe my girlfriend isn't thinking about me atm but because of school she needs to move on to concentrate.

I mean, in the long run if this chance won't ever come then should I have gotten my gifts back? We had a clean break up, no fighting or whatsoever. But I still want to turn things around, just over time.

LordEden · 03-31-2011, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ChickenMuffin

-_-'... Seeing how this is a dead end road for me. She had asked me if I wanted my gifts back, should I take them back? I gave her a DSi XL on her 20th birthday and it has meaning to it. I told her that I gave her that gift for a reason and I denied taking my gifts back because I thought in my head if we had more time to self reflect over time because right now, we have school and it'll be done 2 weeks until summer starts. I keep thinking second chances here, and why is it not possible for a break up and then start all over? One of my friend has had that and it turned out fine for him. I believe my girlfriend isn't thinking about me atm but because of school she needs to move on to concentrate.

I mean, in the long run if this chance won't ever come then should I have gotten my gifts back? We had a clean break up, no fighting or whatsoever. But I still want to turn things around, just over time.

Dude, you guys broke up, she is NOT your GF. Move on, for your own sake, MOVE ON. You guys dated for what? 6 months? That's not a long time and it's even less when you are counting from the first time you held hands.

Wanna be a Native American giver? No one does, just let her have them and chock it up to buying presents while thinking with your cock. Don't do that. Wait till after 6 months to buy her a $400 (or whatever I'm pulling that figure out my ass) gift.

Cimarron29414 · 03-31-2011, 01:06 PM

It's been a while since I wanted to bitch-slap someone who seems determined not to read. It's like Chicken is the masculine version of Chelle. Sure, the eyes are moving over the page, the words parsed in some cognitive filter that knows that one's a noun and that one's a verb, but then they are hitting this FUCKING BRICK WALL!!!

Chicken, the next post you write needs to say, "Here is my plan for acquiring New Pussy (tm):" If it says anything else, I'm done, man.

ChickenMuffin · 03-31-2011, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414

It's been a while since I wanted to bitch-slap someone who seems determined not to read. It's like Chicken is the masculine version of Chelle. Sure, the eyes are moving over the page, the words parsed in some cognitive filter that knows that one's a noun and that one's a verb, but then they are hitting this FUCKING BRICK WALL!!!

Chicken, the next post you write needs to say, "Here is my plan for acquiring New Pussy (tm):" If it says anything else, I'm done, man.

It hurts to come on a girl like this, too strong. Am I just on this first timer bullshit spell? Maybe I feel sorry for myself most of the time, like the type that doesn't get much attention from girls and that's why this one girl is special. I need confidence, workout session presumably. Know who I am and understand.
I'm trying real hard, real hard... can't sleep, can't eat. Doing an assignment atm and seeing her online on msn makes me.. weep.

The_Jazz · 03-31-2011, 01:12 PM

Allow me to summon the spirit of the Great Departed Gucci:

"Someone needs to revoke your penis. You don't deserve it any more."

Did that strike the right note? I think so.

Seriously, MOVE ON. I've already had to deal with one fucktard stalker on the back end of things today. Don't be that guy. Seriously, don't be him. He's a douche, and we all wish he would leave her alone and make everyone's life better. You're not there yet, but that's the direction you're heading. Don't "accidentally" drive by her house. Delete her from Facebook. Delete her from MSN. Take her number out of your phone. Burn all the stuff she gave you. Give her back her jacket. MOVE ON. Spend $200 and get yourself a nice hooker if you have to - if sex is going to help you move on past this chick, then there's nothing wrong with a little financial transaction between consenting adults.

KirStang · 03-31-2011, 01:15 PM

That's why I'm telling you to go hang out with friends. You're sitting alone, by yourself, doing some bullshit assignment, in front of the computer, INSTEAD OF HANGING OUT AND/OR IMPROVING YOURSELF.

I get it man, I really do. We all feel like trash and unwanted at different times of our lives, but you really MUST get out there and do something different or else you're just wallowing in a mud hole.

I'll tell you this right now too. You might want her back. You might even get her back. But you know what? That's for the worse. Because all the mis-trust and all that shit will come back, you'll break up again and you'll end up worse for wear. So please listen to us. Go work out. Go for a run. Go play World of Warcraft. Go fuck some random girl. Go party. Do anything but wallow.

LordEden · 03-31-2011, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by KirStang

... You're sitting alone, by yourself, doing some bullshit assignment, in front of the computer...

Go play World of Warcraft.

Yeah THAT'S what he needs, another world for him to think he is being social ("But I talk to people everyday!") and for him to whine to other guys who use WoW as an outlet.

Bad KirStang, if he starts playing WoW now, he may never recover. He might still be pining for this girl when he turns 30.

*****

I know I say this a lot, but I miss Gucci, this thread needs him. If you can take a power kick in the ass from the combined might of Jazz, Gucci, and Plan9 then still be emo.... you will never recover. I did all the time in my whiny emo blogs I posted Pre-Cinn.

*****

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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414

It's been a while since I wanted to bitch-slap someone who seems determined not to read. It's like Chicken is the masculine version of Chelle. Sure, the eyes are moving over the page, the words parsed in some cognitive filter that knows that one's a noun and that one's a verb, but then they are hitting this FUCKING BRICK WALL!!!

Chicken, the next post you write needs to say, "Here is my plan for acquiring New Pussy (tm):" If it says anything else, I'm done, man.

That's saying a lot seeing how you do most of your posting in TiltedSesspool.

Hey, maybe we can hook Chelle and Chicken up. We could watch them date for 12 months before they both get up the courage to hold hands. We could make a reality TV show out of.

KirStang · 03-31-2011, 02:22 PM

:Shrug: WoW is a pretty good distraction. You focus more on grabbing the dropped magic goods versus being reminded of how heartbroken you are.

Worked for me. :P

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The point is, Chicken ain't thinking straight and needs a distraction or SOMETHING to put some space between him and thinking about his ex.

ChickenMuffin · 03-31-2011, 02:43 PM

I wish I knew you guys in real life, I just text'ed my cousin and he's at work, I need back my family bonds.

WhoaitsZ · 03-31-2011, 06:13 PM

being a control freak only works with weak or lame people. I know the feeling of intense loss and heartache. That said, you cannot control her.

If she loves sex like you say she does then you need to learn to trust and let shit go... if you get another chance.

Walk away. Put the photos and videos away. Wait a few weeks and maybe see if she is up to dating again. If not, burn the photos and such and walk away.

citadel · 03-31-2011, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Plan9

Guy was an asshole.

Cimarron's post helped me get it.

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Originally Posted by The_Jazz

Chickenmuffin, I think that you really need to take a step back and try to analyze the situation as emotionlessly as you can. Think about what's good and bad about the relationship. Think about what you'd tell a friend in the same spot. Most importantly, don't lie to yourself.

This is why it's important to have good friends in your life. When you're in a relationship you may not pick up on some of the stupid games or subplots. A trusted friend can give it to you straight without having to worry about the other person's feelings; they can be detached.

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Originally Posted by ChickenMuffin

She's also the type that may be very convincing to no end to cover up what my hunches would notice. I do understand that if she tells me the truth that she was checking out guys, and that would further lead into complications because she knows that I wouldn't really trust her anymore. She knows the outcome so therefore, she tries to pertain her innocence as much as possible, I just haven't been open about it because I do sometimes check out other women, I felt as if though everything I've done for her and she would do something small like that in front of me. Well, it's a bit disappointing and I didn't know how to react to it. There is only so much I can take but I have slowly digested all.

ChickenMuffin, no offense to you, but is English your 2nd language? I find some of your phrases confusing.

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Originally Posted by ChickenMuffin

She had asked me if I wanted my gifts back, should I take them back?

If it was a gift ("Happy birthday!"), it wasn't meant to be given with strings and a notarized agreement attached. If you lent her some of your stuff ("Did you hear this CD yet? You can borrow my copy so you can hear it."), then you should weigh the value of getting it back vs. the value of getting out of each other's lives.

Like others, I'm noticing a disturbing trend. It's like you were giving gifts to use as leverage, keeping track to hold the upper hand. Are you upset about losing the girl you love, or upset about losing control over a girl?

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Originally Posted by ChickenMuffin

I mean, in the long run if this chance won't ever come then should I have gotten my gifts back? We had a clean break up, no fighting or whatsoever. But I still want to turn things around, just over time.

You shouldn't be reserving an honorable breakup for someone who's willing to return items of value to you. Whatever relationship you're ending, with a boss, GF or CPA, you should end it with integrity. You're responsible for your actions, she's responsible for hers. You can only control your actions, you can't control hers. If she says she wants out, walk away. If it's possible to be mature when getting back the shoes you left in her closet after that day you went hiking, get them, if not, buy a new pair of shoes and write off the expense to experience.

If your speadsheet detailing who's invested more in the other can only be balanced by demanding the return of presents, find yourself a good therapist who you trust to talk about it with.

My vote is with the therapist.

Cimarron29414 · 04-01-2011, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by LordEden

That's saying a lot seeing how you do most of your posting in TiltedSesspool.

Hey, maybe we can hook Chelle and Chicken up. We could watch them date for 12 months before they both get up the courage to hold hands. We could make a reality TV show out of.

Funny shit on both accounts. The first one is so true.

EventHorizon · 04-01-2011, 07:33 AM

its your first love. its natural to feel like shit dude, but you gotta move on. ask for your shit back, give her a trash bag full of her stuff and go to a strip club with some friends to get your mind off of her.

EDIT: i'm with 9 on this one, fuck everything (female) that moves so that you realize that vaginas are common enough and that eventually you'll meet that special someone regardless of their prowess/willingness to try new things in the sack.

monkeysugar · 04-11-2011, 02:04 AM

That sucks. Pretty sure everyone has been in that spot at some point. Read, re-read, and memorize Snowy's post. Chill the fuck out, quit obsessing, maybe sit down with someone and see what can be figured out about some of your insecurities.

Get the DS and everything else back, sell it all on craigslist, and get thee to a titty bar.

03-31-2011, 11:44 AM	#42 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	Chicken, ...and you would be wrong. You really aren't getting it. It is far more likely that she did not give you a second's thought while she spent the weekend humping the cheerleading squad while the football team watched. Say it with me Chicken, "New Pussy (tm)." __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly." Last edited by Cimarron29414; 04-01-2011 at 06:12 AM..

03-31-2011, 01:06 PM	#46 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	It's been a while since I wanted to bitch-slap someone who seems determined not to read. It's like Chicken is the masculine version of Chelle. Sure, the eyes are moving over the page, the words parsed in some cognitive filter that knows that one's a noun and that one's a verb, but then they are hitting this FUCKING BRICK WALL!!! Chicken, the next post you write needs to say, "Here is my plan for acquiring New Pussy (tm):" If it says anything else, I'm done, man. __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly."

03-31-2011, 01:12 PM	#48 (permalink)
The_Jazz Asshole Administrator Location: Chicago	Allow me to summon the spirit of the Great Departed Gucci: "Someone needs to revoke your penis. You don't deserve it any more." Did that strike the right note? I think so. Seriously, MOVE ON. I've already had to deal with one fucktard stalker on the back end of things today. Don't be that guy. Seriously, don't be him. He's a douche, and we all wish he would leave her alone and make everyone's life better. You're not there yet, but that's the direction you're heading. Don't "accidentally" drive by her house. Delete her from Facebook. Delete her from MSN. Take her number out of your phone. Burn all the stuff she gave you. Give her back her jacket. MOVE ON. Spend $200 and get yourself a nice hooker if you have to - if sex is going to help you move on past this chick, then there's nothing wrong with a little financial transaction between consenting adults. __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - B. Franklin "There ought to be limits to freedom." - George W. Bush "We have met the enemy and he is us." - Pogo

04-11-2011, 02:04 AM	#57 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	That sucks. Pretty sure everyone has been in that spot at some point. Read, re-read, and memorize Snowy's post. Chill the fuck out, quit obsessing, maybe sit down with someone and see what can be figured out about some of your insecurities. Get the DS and everything else back, sell it all on craigslist, and get thee to a titty bar. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good. Last edited by monkeysugar; 04-12-2011 at 05:40 PM..

03-31-2011, 12:36 PM	#44 (permalink)
ChickenMuffin Tilted	-_-'... Seeing how this is a dead end road for me. She had asked me if I wanted my gifts back, should I take them back? I gave her a DSi XL on her 20th birthday and it has meaning to it. I told her that I gave her that gift for a reason and I denied taking my gifts back because I thought in my head if we had more time to self reflect over time because right now, we have school and it'll be done 2 weeks until summer starts. I keep thinking second chances here, and why is it not possible for a break up and then start all over? One of my friend has had that and it turned out fine for him. I believe my girlfriend isn't thinking about me atm but because of school she needs to move on to concentrate. I mean, in the long run if this chance won't ever come then should I have gotten my gifts back? We had a clean break up, no fighting or whatsoever. But I still want to turn things around, just over time.

03-31-2011, 02:43 PM	#52 (permalink)
ChickenMuffin Tilted	I wish I knew you guys in real life, I just text'ed my cousin and he's at work, I need back my family bonds.

03-31-2011, 06:13 PM	#53 (permalink)
WhoaitsZ Crazy Location: right behind you...	being a control freak only works with weak or lame people. I know the feeling of intense loss and heartache. That said, you cannot control her. If she loves sex like you say she does then you need to learn to trust and let shit go... if you get another chance. Walk away. Put the photos and videos away. Wait a few weeks and maybe see if she is up to dating again. If not, burn the photos and such and walk away.