making new friends later in life
 

i'm turning 37 soon and am hankering a bit for some new friends. i was fine with my stable of friends till last year when a real good friend of mine died. it just doesn't seem as easy to put myself out there now as it was when i was in college and high school. it's been that long since i really tried i guess, but i've lost touch with some friends that got married and dropped off the earth and with others that have moved away, so there are a lot of things i like to do that i don't have a partner in crime for.

i don't know whether it's a matter of me not being as tolerant as i was with putting up with other people's red flags to get to a point where a friendship is good or if like i was, most people are satisfied with what they have going already so there's a dearth of available quality friends.

i live in l.a. so it's not like there's not a lot of options and from what i know i'm a likable guy with good social skills, so i'm just writing this to get it out there and fill in some gaps i guess.

thoughts?

Find a social hobby. That will go a long long way. It can be almost anything. Cards, cigars, golf, working out (runners and bikers especially). And maybe scan facebook for your old friends.

But good friends take a long time to find.

yes, good friends are hard to find. actually you don't really find them, you find out after some time passes that you have friends who turn out to be good friends.