Grasshopper Green

From a very stereotypical, very 1950's-esque view of gender roles, I'm not a typical woman:

I make more money than my husband.
I am not motherly; my husband is fantastic with children.
I take care of the cars; he washes the dishes.
I watch movies with car chases and things blowing up; he loves chick flicks.
Very, very few people on this Earth have seen me cry; he frequently wants to talk about feelings.
Until fairly recently, he was a better cook than I.

All that aside...do I need him? You better believe it. I don't need him to take care of me per se, but I need him nonetheless because he makes my world a better place. No one can calm me down like he can when I'm having an anxiety attack. No one else can sense when I need a hug, even when I haven't said a damn thing. No one else loves me unconditionally like he does. I'm not a caregiver type, and I managed absolutely fine when he was in the military and was gone for extensive periods of time. I don't need him to pay my bills, or balance my checkbook, or mow my lawn (I do need him to open jars every once in awhile!), but I still need him. I admire caregivers (see mm's post above) because they have strengths that I don't possess. I am surrounded by women who want nothing more than to find a man to marry so they can stay home and have kids and be housewives - it's not my cup of tea, but who am I to suggest that that view is wrong? If that's what floats their boats (both his and hers), then more power to them. It's just not for me, and I doubt it ever will be.

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Formerly Medusa

helix_luco

i think it's been made apparent by the previous posts that a certain amount of mutual dependence and venerability are necessary to forming strong relationships... Maybe the childishness of one of the partners in a relationship is acting as a primitive substitute?

John$

I like the way you originally presented your question. It was clear and direct. I wish you had received better answers. As a culture, we do tend to react instead of reflect. There I go being direct with my primitive views. Feel free to ignore them if you can.

My mom was a self empowered lady. As a result, I am attracted to that kind of woman. I actually do not mind being intimidated. It happens and I get over it.

There is a difference between a childlike and a childish persona. I do like that authentic and transparent open and natural expression from a person in my life. Sex is best with a degree of trust and innocents. As I see it naturally. It is what I like.

Two self empowered adults can communicate authentically and still be kind and sensitive to what they recognize as their partners vulnerable points. I recognize that each of us has these vulnerable areas, although I would be hard pressed to prove it.

Somehow lost in all this discussion was your interest in starting a family. In my view the kind of guy that would fit best with your preferences will not be easy to find. I suggest that you keep doing what you think best and add a confidence factor to that effort.

The law of attraction works best when you add the gratitude energy beforehand.

Best Wishes!!!

John

DRP976

A female does not need a male to take care of her.

A male does not need a female to take care of him.

Unless they make it so...

L_Driver

I try to strike a fair balance. I want my independence, yet I want to be taken care of. Seriously, who doesn't want it all?