Plan9

How illuminating.

Also:

+1

Cranky women using hormone surges as an excuse for acting like total babies is as much an accepted reason as dickhead men using their balls as an excuse for sexual assault. What's next, huh? The friggin' Twinkie Defense for cheating on your spouse or vehicular homicide during rush hour?

Nobody has the right to go all Michael-Douglas-in-Falling-Down on the world because of their genitals. Especially not when it involves wasting lo mein.

As our illustrious leader Dr. Phil "All Balls" McGraw often says: "You have to own your problems."

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Wes Mantooth

I agree I don't think it excuses that kind of behavior either, I guess it explains it, but in the end everyone is responsible for how they act. I would say there is always an exception to the rule (like maybe starting a new medication you haven't adjusted to yet or something like that) but in general adults shouldn't get a free pass for acting like spoiled children no matter what the case.

Again not much more to report. I haven't heard back from her, so I guess I'm just going to put this one behind me and add it to the ever growing list of bizarre, strange, weird and downright scary relationships I've gotten myself involved with over the years.

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MSD

It's one thing to support someone you love, but this is someone you've been seeing for a matter of weeks. Sometimes normal people have outbursts and deserve another chance, but she's chosen not to talk it over with you. You said in the OP that you were considering walking away, so whether she's crazy, immature, or none of the above, she's obviously not someone you care about deeply and are willing to be a therapist or punching bag for.

Zeraph

1. you had WORK
2. she actually *threw* things

GTFO +1

Plan9

Tell her she can make it up to you in the form of NSA sex in skeezy hotel rooms.

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Wes Mantooth

Good call, thats pretty much how I feel about it. I think my brain was going along the lines of, she calls me back, we talk things over and I find out she has some sort of disorder...and I don't know maybe if she was switching meds or something like that and it might have just been a one time thing that was worth getting past. I don't know, like I said I don't know enough about this stuff to know how it really works. But I agree with you, I just don't love her or care about here enough to play that role, it wouldn't be fair for either of us.

This weekend I've been invited out for a get together with some friends and I have a feelings she's going to be there, It should make for a unique and awkward weekend for all involved. I usually hate drama, but it might be kind of fun to sit back and watch this one unfold.

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Plan9

Don't poke badgers with spoons, bro.

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Wes Mantooth

Well I wouldn't provoke anyone but you know how these things tend to unfold, sometimes you just have to sit back, watch and let it be what it is. She might not show up anyway, but she tends to hang out with some of the people that are going to be there.

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spindles

I'm not sure you get to sit and watch your own drama unfold...

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Cimarron29414

Thank you for getting my joke (rabbit boiling in the pot)....or, perhaps you didn't get it either!

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dlish

sometimes you underestimate me Cim. of course i got the joke!

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Wes Mantooth

So it would seem I have a little resolution here. I got a call from her last night...which was rather coincidental because usually when I go out I turn my cell off, this time I forgot and she happened call.

Anyway long story short, she told me she was having a "bad day" and just needed somebody to show her they "give a fuck". Apparently she felt pretty terrible about it and wanted to call and talk but was too embarrassed too, one of her friends convinced her to I guess. So I guess essentially...yeah I don't know how to put this to words, and quite frankly too drunk to try. I told her it was all water under the bridge, not to worry about it and come on over and say hi if she happens to see me around. I suppose its just not worth the headache to make a huge deal out of it and just let the whole thing die down.

So I guess everything seems to have worked out pretty good. Well I suppose its not much fun being single again...but that's why God invented alcohol and easy women.

Thanks again to everyone for your time and advice, it certainly helped put everything in perspective. I really do appreciate it.

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Plan9

Well, at least this sets us up for the sequel.

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dlish

im a little confused here..

are you back together or not?

its water under the bridge?? damn...watch out for the icepick

out of curiosity..what were the titles of the DVD's? I've got my money on 'Falling Down' & 'Fatal Attraction'

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Wes Mantooth

No we aren't back together and I never plan on getting back together with her. I was a little over tired and quite drunk when I made that post above so it was probably confusing. Anyway I had made up my mind that unless she had a darn good reason for acting like she did then it was over. I don't think having a bad day and needing somebody to care is a good enough reason, so its over. Basically I told her we were probably in two very different places in our lives right now and it would be for the best if we just decided to be friends. She agreed. I told her the whole incident was water under the bridge and to come on over and say hi if she saw me around.

Like I posted earlier, we know a lot of the same people. I knew I'd see her again and I'm good friends with some of her friends I just didn't see any need in making the situation worse with an ugly breakup. I figured why not just let the whole thing blow over as easy as possible and avoid a whole bunch of ugly and awkward things down the road. Besides its not like she cheated on me or something, she seemed to genuinely feel bad so why beat her up over it?

Oddly enough as bizarre as this whole situation was this is probably the first time a relationship of mine has come to an end without being as messy as possible. Go figure huh?

EDIT: Missed your last question question dlish. Should I be worried that she had copies of Deliverance and House of 1000 Corpses? I kid, I never actually opened them and just popped the envelopes back in the mail. Now I am curious though.

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MSD

Worried? Now I'm reconsidering the wisdom of telling you to run away.

Raghnar -ITA-

My girlfriend was similar: he made me a major scene after a couple of months because I was going to see a good friend of mine (woman that I haven't saw for ages) an evening, I've told her 15 days before but she haven't remembered. And so on: embarrassment, frustration, jealously, immatureness, woman cycle, all mixed up in a polemic mixture ready to blow of the world for a tiny thing.

We've talked, she's calmed down, now we have celebrated our fourth year together.
Because of work and family I'm going to living with a friend of mine (woman) and not with her in cold blood she's got nothing to complain about (I'm a little sad about it... a little jealously spice up the things, sometimes ).

Everyone have highs and lows, recognize the reason and forgive the lows are part of a relationship...

Maybe you've done well letting her go, only you know her, anyway keeping her worked for me!

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Wes Mantooth

Thanks for the reply Raghnar. I was thinking along the same lines when I was contemplating what to do about the whole situation. Maybe it was just a one off thing, let it go and maybe I'd find something really special on the other side. Situations like this in relationships almost feel like a coin toss, you just hope calling heads is the right choice. I feel pretty good about my decision though and I'll live with it.

Congrats on the four years together by the way. It really doesn't sound like a long time, but when you've been through a long string of bad relationships it makes you think how special it is to wade through all the muck and mire of dating and come out on the other side with somebody you truly love and care about. Its pretty darn cool if you ask me.

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