02-09-2010, 11:28 AM | #1 (permalink) |
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"I do love a man in uniform."
Can someone please explain to me the obsession with men in uniform?
I’ve had friends, know people, met people, and have been around people that only date people that have to wear a uniform. And I’m not talking about the trash man or clowns. The main ones seem to be firemen, police men and any type of military. Although I have yet to meet or hear of a woman that has a thing for men in the Coast Guard. (I’m a BOAT!!) The more I think about it as I write this, the more I can relate. I like a woman that looks a certain way. I have a type. It makes sense to me. But that doesn’t mean I won’t stray from my “form” when tempted. So, I don’t understand how someone can focus their sexual attraction on such a niche group of people. Especially women that only date men in the military. What is the attraction their? Yes, they tend to more physically fit, and more “alpha male.” But there are plenty of men that fit that description that don’t wear a uniform and get shot at. Most jobs that require a uniform have some level of danger to them. So, is it the excitement? The thrill of not knowing if you loved one will come home at the end of the day? Fuck, I’m a chef; I could cut myself and bleed to death. I’m more likely to get run over crossing the street then a cop is getting shot on an average day. So, what is it? The shiny buttons? The medals? The silly hats most people in uniform have to wear? And are there men that only date women in uniform? Cause I really wanna fuck a meter maid.
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02-09-2010, 11:56 AM | #3 (permalink) |
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A uniform implies at the very least association with an organization, an organization usually with some standards; as well, it also usually indicates some form of authority or responsibility.
So we have the first which indicates peer approval, something women find desirable in a mate, and the second which indicates power, another desirable trait.
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02-09-2010, 01:09 PM | #5 (permalink) |
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"A man in a uniform" is usually referring to firemen, police officers and military. All are required to be in shape, all save lives in one way or another and all exude a subconscious alpha male pheromone due to doing something courageous or being in a position of authority.
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02-09-2010, 01:19 PM | #6 (permalink) |
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Because uniforms are beautiful.
On men and women. Whenever I see a chick in a uniform (especially military), her hot level automatically go's WAY up. She could be the biggest fuggo in the world; the uniform makes her look good.
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02-09-2010, 01:29 PM | #8 (permalink) |
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A uniform signifies strength and courage, also the fact they had to work hard to be able to wear it. All the shiny medals and colored ribbons are visually attractive. It's a very clean, sleak look that radiates awesomeness.
I'm not gay, just so you know. I just grow a big rubbery one for uniforms.
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02-09-2010, 01:36 PM | #9 (permalink) |
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I guess the part of this that I don't get is the "power" thing you all have mentioned.
These people chose this as a job. Why does that mean they have more power then anyone else? Cause they carry a gun or save lives? They're providing a service. Same as the person behind the counter at Taco Bell or the lawyer or the server/bartender. I don't see cops, firemen, or military personnel as special. It's a job.
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02-09-2010, 01:37 PM | #10 (permalink) |
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Hmmm...I'm not sure what it is. It's not JUST what the uniform represents, because I'm not a fan of Marine dress uniforms. Or the Navy dress whites.
I suppose it has something to do with the fact that men in uniform just look more... put together. I hate to go all "subconscious and biological" here, but I suppose you could argue that someone in uniform (especially a military uniform) knows how to take care of himself, and therefore, you, and any offspring that might happen to come along. I guess. I just think most uniforms are flattering to the male body...so, hell yeah, they look good.
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02-09-2010, 01:44 PM | #12 (permalink) | |
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I see military members and police and firefighters as special people, but that's for another thread a few weeks ago.
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02-09-2010, 02:23 PM | #13 (permalink) |
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Actually, it is all about the silly hat, useless medals, and shiny boots. Those aren't usually combined with a gun, though.
... Maybe it's because we take time to do silly things... like work on our putting skill... in the middle of hostile areas: Last edited by Plan9; 02-09-2010 at 02:42 PM.. |
02-09-2010, 02:46 PM | #15 (permalink) |
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C'mon, King... you're killing me here. I can't have any fun with what was the most interesting part of my life so far? You're a real dick-stepper, ya know?
Heh, and you want the truth? Men in uniform have a stable paycheck. Aside from all the patriotic hero bullshit above (authority, being physically fit, guns, yelling a lot), getting into a relationship with Joe is a goldmine for a lot of trailer trash girls... the kind you find living around military bases. Getting married to Joe is a huge upgrade in lifestyle if you work at Walmart. You get free housing (on post housing is really nice at a lot of places), healthcare (TriCare for you and your bratlings), access to the commissary (grocery store), PX (kinda like WalMart), and you know Joe is getting paid every two weeks like clockwork. If Joe dies overseas? Wife gets $400,000. The marriage rate among lower enlisted guys, especially prior to a deployment, is way outta control from what I've seen. Relationships move at an accelerated pace for no good reason. Maybe the guy wants something to come home to and the girl likes the idea of stability for herself and whatever kids she might have leftover from the last Joe she shacked up with on post. It's all Jerry Springer'd. Between deployments I had a lot of women interested in me because I was an attractive walking benefits package. Last edited by Plan9; 02-10-2010 at 02:24 AM.. |
02-09-2010, 02:51 PM | #16 (permalink) |
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The cut of most uniform pants is what really does it for me. They fit really nicely where it counts.
Navy officer dress whites are my favorite. Sooooo hot. Ohhh yeah.
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02-09-2010, 03:41 PM | #20 (permalink) |
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heh.... heh.......
heh.... good one. I'm just not a fan of the doublespeak. Plenty of women know what they want, they just cop out and go with the "men in uniform" bit so they don't come across as too blatant in their superficial checklist. I don't blame them, I'm not attracted to hairy out of shape handout recipients either. People already deal with enough fucked up individuals in their dating life, they don't need to add "women/men in uniform" with PTSD to that equation either, but they don't really know what they're asking for I guess. Yes, it's a broad stroke I use to paint a grim picture but that's just the pessimist in me speaking. Last edited by Shauk; 02-09-2010 at 03:48 PM.. |
02-09-2010, 03:41 PM | #21 (permalink) |
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02-09-2010, 04:30 PM | #25 (permalink) | |
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Well, it's only my perspective as a former servicemember. The perspective of those that find uniforms attractive is the purpose of this thread, no? My perspective is moot... I don't give a shit about uniforms. Most of them are too showy and impractical (dress), or poorly designed and constructed (field). Well, duh... that's only the shittiest salute ever. And aside from PTSD, you have to remember a lot of Joes kill babies and abuse prisoners. Last edited by Plan9; 02-09-2010 at 04:16 PM.. |
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02-09-2010, 04:53 PM | #26 (permalink) |
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This guy even looks badass to me. He's got the camo, the boots, black coat, hand on the gun (with a 'nade launcher no less). Only thing that could make it better would be some cooler shades and gloves.
Once again, I grow a monster sized woody for uniforms.
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02-09-2010, 06:40 PM | #27 (permalink) |
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Cromp gives me a woody too...
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02-09-2010, 08:13 PM | #29 (permalink) |
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Same reason a guy in a suit and tie looks better than a guy in jeans and a t-shirt. It means money, which subconsciously means a whole lot of things. Trustworthy being one the biggest; you don't inherently distrust someone in a uniform without a whole lot of personal experience to back it up. Even children respect someone in a uniform, and distrust the scruffy guy in flip flops.
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02-10-2010, 01:42 AM | #30 (permalink) |
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I don't have any particular attraction to men in uniforms, but sometimes they look hot. Like any other man can at times. I'd say for women who have an obsession with this, Plan9's response is the answer.
For women who casually like this sort of thing, I suspect it's just because they look good and put together. It may also be a fun fantasy for some girls...like another user said, a bit of a fetish.
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02-10-2010, 08:12 AM | #31 (permalink) |
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when i told my girl that i was thinking about joining the military years back, she threatened to beat me with a baseball bat.
when i told her i was thinking about becoming a game warden, she threatened to end the relationship. why did i get the oddball?
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02-10-2010, 10:13 AM | #32 (permalink) |
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Because once you're in a relationship, with established parameters and a routine, service in LE, Military, etc. is a huge burden she did not sign up for. I don't think very many relationships make the civ > uniform translation.
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02-10-2010, 10:21 AM | #33 (permalink) |
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Well, I won't date military men because I hate the idea of my significant other being deployed and missing out on things that happen in life. I want to be with someone who is there with me, who I can rely on. And then there is the going to war, possibly dying or possibly ending up with PTSD. It's just something I don't want for myself.
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I asked this question on a women only board and I got a few different responses that I thought I would share.
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I admire well-shaped male, whose uniform fits tightly and he has good physical bearing. It's not the rank for me. My husband is a car mechanic and seeing him in his black neat working overall, made my heart beat faster. |
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02-10-2010, 11:35 AM | #37 (permalink) |
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I don't find uniforms more attractive than other outfits. But I'd say women are drawn toward someone wearing a clean cut uniform because it means he has a stable, well paying job, a career, and can support her, her shoe fetish, and her brats. Same applies for men wearing suits.
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02-10-2010, 12:03 PM | #38 (permalink) |
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Air Force dress blues are HOT. But...I don't wanna marry a military guy. And I'm likely to be just as attracted to the guy over in the corner with the jeans & the long hair playing guitar. *shrug*
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very. she would do anything for me, and she's proved that time and time again.
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02-10-2010, 07:15 PM | #40 (permalink) |
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Hey, there...
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