CJK21

Alright so i started my spring semester at my local community college last week and i have class with this one cute girl...I walked in the first day and she was staring into my eyes as i was walking in...it was almost an uncomfortably long stare...so i got up and went to the bathroom in the middle of class to see if she would look at me again..sure enough, she was...and when i looked at her she looked away quickly.

So the next time our class met, i walked in....and again she was looking at me. this time i flashed a smile and she smiled back at me...so it got me wondering, then i started paying a little more attention to some things...she kept texting someone during class...and that made me wonder if she was involved with someone..im going to strike up some small talk with her the next time we have class....but what do you guys think??

Baraka_Guru

She might be interested. But some people are peoplewatchers. Don't read too much into it. Talk to her and learn more.

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Shauk

small talk, ask if she wants a study partner, you'll find out more from there.

CJK21

yeah thats what im gonna do...i just dont want to end up looking like an idiot if she does have a man...but it wont hurt to ask! lol

Jove

Instead of the usual greetings of "hello, I am *insert your name here*, how are you?", you should sit next to her and talk to her like someone you have known for a long time, but haven't seen in a while.

Xerxys

I'm immensely skilled in this type of things and by the info you have provided I can tell you now that she does, in fact, have a boyfriend. More like HAD a boyfriend. He is still in her parents basement being harvested for blood and liver but the had/have, that is all semantics.

Also, you are a blood type AB+ no? Yeah she definitely wants you for your body. It is my understanding that she is open minded and you would make an excellent friend to her.

Talk to her and set up a blin-..erm, a date.

fresnelly

If she does have a boyfriend, it doesn't make you an idiot. Just out of luck but free to pursue others.

Or focus on your studies. Whatever.

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The_Jazz

Wait, wasn't there recently a sort-of similar thread where I admitted that I flew to Southern Asia routinely to cuckold some guy who'd dropped a condom?

Yeah, there was. But I'm boning this community college chick on the side, so as not to be completely bored.

Satire aside, no one here can answer your question. Gather your nads and talk to her. Perhaps you can offer her a delightful evening watching the local debate team or siphoning gas out of the tanks of your fellow students. Or you can be ballsy and ask her to come to your place to watch your collection of "Bob the Builder" DVD's.

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highthief

I didn't even have to read the OP to know that, yes, she does have a boyfriend. He's about 6'5", 280, linebacker.

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Cynthetiq

might as well ask us if she shaves her pussy or takes it in the ass. Our guess is just a guess...

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Pearl Trade

You do realize that she most likely has friends to text with right? Or is that not possible...

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lostgirl

^^That's what I was just about to say. She may not have a boyfriend, she is probably texting her girlfriends to talk about this cute guy she has in class.

Go for it!

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CJK21

hahaha well thanks for all the input (whether it was poking fun at my question or serious) but ive just had pretty bad luck with girls as of late...you know girls who have wanted only one thing or led me on and then i come to find out that she is playin me...i know that she could be texting her friends but idk...i def am gonna talk to her, its not that i dont have any courage or anything like some people may believe...its just this will be the third class ive seen her and i want to formulate a game plan before i approach her...

Cernunnos

Before formulating a game plan, you might want to have a conversation and determine if she's worth planning for. Some personality details would also be helpful in designing your approach. I've noticed that the typical female specimen will often drop a hint (sledgehammer) that she has a boyfriend, if indeed she has one.

As an alternative, you can e-stalk for information.

Actual advice: Scan the room and snag a seat by her side, then introduce yourself as the charming stud that you undoubtedly are. If she smiles and reciprocates, continue conversing, and before leaving, request her contact information.

CJK21

well yea i mean my curiousity is solely based on attraction as of now but once i start to talk to her i will have a better understanding of who she is and what shes all about lol. thanks for the input

Manic_Skafe

CJ, I can't tell what that is in your avatar but I want a bite. And be sure to tell us how it goes.

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CJK21

haha my phone? and i will be sure to tell you guys how it goes!

MSD

I don't have a girlfriend, but I average about 1400 text and picture messages a month. I'll second that if she smiled at you and immediately started texting that she was probably telling a friend or two "It's that cute guy again, I hope he comes over and talks to me."
You are suffering from a psychological condition known as "thinking way too hard." Go talk to her. The worst that can happen is she's not interested. Even then, nothing wrong with making new friends.

CJK21

haha i know! i definitely am thinking way too hard..

Bubkin

Dude, the way I see it, a beautiful woman is checking you out: go and help her make babies, instead of posting about it on the internet

CJK21

hahaha great advice

Lady Bear Cub

I want to know where you are hiding your vagina? And if these girls from your past had cocks.

She's probably texting about you to a friend.

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Wes Mantooth

Yeah, unless she holds up a sign reading "I want to fuck you right here on this desk in front of the whole class" I don't think the signs are going to get any more obvious. Strike while the irons hot! You're in college...getting it on with cute girls is half the reason for being there. Weather she has a boyfriend or not is her issue, just keep limber in case you have to dive out the window at 3 am when he bursts through the door.

Seriously though go for it, what could possibly you have to lose?

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genuinegirly

I was going to respond with something productive that might actually help you, but I realize everyone has already said what I was going to contribute. So instead, I'll give you the following tangential rant:

Why is she texting during class? Why are you interested in a woman who is texting during class? It shows an incredible lack of respect for your instructor, is likely distracting to other students in the class, and it will negatively impact her grade. What university/college are you attending where this behavior is acceptable? /end rant

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LordEden

Did anyone else get this mental picture of GG making this rant in a business suit, hair in a tight bun, and wearing those librarian glasses? There is also the picture of her holding a wooden ruler just WAITING to smack someone on the wrist?

Side note: Anyone else get turned on by that mental image? .... you know... just asking.

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The_Jazz

Ummmmm........

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CJK21

what are you trying to implicate? that im a pussy cuz i want more out of a woman than just a fuck? i respect women and treat them well....all i was saying was that it seems as of late that i havent had any luck with females as far as a relationship goes

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haha its just something my generation does, and there is a policy in place to punish students who text...she just hasnt been caught yet

Lady Bear Cub

Not at all. I just thought the role reversal was funny.

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CJK21

ok i see that now that you mention it. sorry for jumping the gun lol

Lady Bear Cub

I should have worded it better.

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CJK21

haha well i also could have looked at it in a different way! lol its all good though!!

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alright so i have class with her tuesday...and i was thinking of walking into class and asking her if the seat next to her is taken...if she says no im gonna sit down and start talking to her...or not? what do yall think?

Cynthetiq

I think you should talk to her when the opportunity presents itself. If that is Tuesday then that's the day.

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Daniel_

There may be a parallel between this case and a recent situation at my office.

A new woman was hired in January, let's call her W. A guy in the office (known here as G) happened to mention to me after a couple of weeks that W is very pretty, and he'd be more than happy to pursue an active interest in W.

I asked if he'd have a chance, as I was unaware whether W was single or in a relationship.

G confirmed that he didn't know, and wasn't sure how to find out.

G is single, and aged in his late 20s. He's very conscious of being overweight (and is actively reducing the problem, but has a way to go) but is very personable and well liked - he has had a couple of long lasting relationships in the 5 years I've known him, and is a decent, fun bloke.

As it happens, W lives part way between the office and my home, and walks to work, so if I am leaving on time (not often), I offer to drop her at the corner of her road.

The conversation with G was on Friday, and as it transpired, I gave W a lift that evening. We have cassual friday at work, and as a new member of the team, I'd not seen many of her casual outfits. This week she wore a different pair of boots, so in order to find out for G what her status was, I commented "they're lovely boots" and she says "I like them, but they make me look taller" (she's 5' 9"). Being over six foot myself, I pointed out that had never been a problem for me when I was dating, but what did her boyfriend think.

And there we go - cue a ten minute conversation about why she's currently single, what she looks for in a man, and so on.

I didn't do this for G, I did it to prove to myself how easy it is to start a non-creepy conversation and find this sort of thing out.

So, OP, talk to her, tell her she looks great, and that you envy her BF. If she's interested in you and single she'll make it clear, and if she's not interested, or not single, she'll have the chnce to set you straight without you having awkwardly asked her on a date.

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highthief

Terrible. Never ask a yes or no question in those situations. It's a class with unassigned seating, not an airplane. Just assume and sit down next to her and start chatting. Start with the easy stuff - the class, your names, etc - and go from there.

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Xerxys

^^ I'm not saying that's bad news, I mean I too believe that being assertive is a good idea. But It will be embarrassing when her boyfriend walks over and goes "That's my seat"!

CJK21

haha im pretty sure if she does have a bf, hes not in that class...

Plan9

Oh, yessir.

genuinegirly

You have given me an idea for a completely G-rated exhibition post. Thank you!

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Plan9

Well, it's only G-rated on your side.

monkeysugar

Just talk to her and be yourself. It's really as simple as that. Don't overanalyze what you're going to say or how you are going to make your introduction and despair over what opening line to use...just go up and talk to her like you would any other person. If she's got a boyfriend she will make it known.

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