Advances from Sister-in-Law
 

Hi,
I am certain this situation has been documented and discussed often. I have always been attracted to my wife's younger sister since we married 21 years ago. For the record I am 51, my wife is 45 and her sister is 38. I have spent time with her in the past when I travel on business to her home town. We usually go out to dinner, have some drinks, and have even done some sightseeing together. A couple of times we have spent the entire day together.
On her last visit here (she is here about 7 or 8 times a year to see her nephew and niece) she has been making some open moves. For example when I picked her up at the airport she gave me a long kiss and held my hand and touched me on the drive home. We were alone a few times when everybody else was out of the house and she sat next to me on the couch and we started flirting and teasing each other. This led to about an hour of kissing, touching and hugging but it has not progressed beyond that yet. She has said that she finds me attractive and has for years, I feel the same but at this point it seems crazy to go any further with her. She has never married and has had only one serious boyfriend that she threw out.
I appreciate hearing from married guys who might have been or are in similar circumstances.

It's crazy that you've gone that far with her.

You need to have an open and frank conversation with her explaining that the physical stuff can't happen. You also probably need to limit your alone time with her period if you really want to avoid trouble.

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Umm, don't do it.

OK, the absolute best thing that could come of this it that you, your wife, and her sister decide to be polyamorous together and live happily ever after.

That's not likely, as awesome as it might be.

So, if you value your marriage, you need to end this and never speak of it again. If your sister-in-law values her sister, she needs to end this and never speak of it again. If you tell your wife, your marriage and her relationship with her sister are screwed. And if you keep this up, she will find out.

BTW, you were eying your wife's sister when she was 17 and you were 30?

Deciding time. Have you experienced enough to be done with the fantasy? Been around for a while and don't need to add yourself to the list of tawdry fails that you know about? Or are you still full of juice and ready to let the idea of a smoother, younger woman who wants you be worth more than whatever else you've built up for the last 20-plus years?

I would disengage from the hot young sister and put my energy into the wife. Let the fantasy add to your wife-time and not detract from it. That is, keep your mouth shut and let the wife assume that all the energy you pour into her is a result of her and not her little sister. I know a fellow who's brother fucked up everything by taking this exact scenario to the next level. He is now a pariah on both sides of his family because of the way he handled it.

However, you know all this. If you want permission to let your dick rule then you sure don't need any advice except to use a rubber. The last thing you need to do is transfer something from the little sister to the big sister using your infected dick as the carrier. Nor do you need to put a baby in that smooth young belly.

Yeah, I'm just going to go ahead and predict a divorce in your future. Sorry, man.

How did I jump to that conclusion? Pretty easily, actually. You spent an HOUR making out with your sister-in-law. You (the plural you, not just the poster) waited until everyone was out of the house to start up. And there's a truism - the only way to keep a secret between two people are if one of them is dead. Guess what? One of you is going to tell your wife or she's going to figure it out because you really can't put the toothpaste back in the tube now. You're obviously considering starting an affair with the SIL at this point - you're looking for pointers on how to get away with it. And I'll bet you manage to do so for at least a while. But then the secret's going to get out somehow and your life is going to take a sharp turn towards the cliff.

My best suggestion is to start spinning things in your favor as much as possible. Maybe mentioning how aggressive the SIL is, that you don't want to be alone with her because you don't trust her intentions, etc. and then come clean down the road with what happened. As I see it, that's your best bet if you want to maintain the status quo with your wife.

Then again, you may not give a shit about what your wife thinks. In that case, go get you some of that young ass!

So you're saying he should kill his wife?

Why would he need to kill the wife? She doesn't know the secret. Obviously, I'm advising that he murder his sister-in-law. Duh.

I suggest using poison then disposing of the body in a dumpster of some sort, preferrably a day or two before a scheduled pick-up, probably after wrapping her in a rug.





Too far on the satire?

Apparently. It's easier than talking to her.

Or the sister in law...

i love how those last 3 post played out.

Well since the only thing cooler than nailing two sisters is spreading your seed to two generations, the Jazz I knew would've concocted an elaborate scheme to not only get the OP off the hook entirely but land him a sympathy fuck from the mother-in law. You're going soft, Jazzy pants.

Well, duh.

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Too early?

I know this.

He's got to let his wife catch him bollock deep in the sister and she'll be so aroused that she will plumb depths of previously unknown incestuous lesbian tendencies.

I saw it in a movie once. It was on www.lesbo-sister-banging.com I think.

Kill yourself instead, and throw your own body in the dumpster. Take responsibility for your own actions.

What are you thinking? And, what was your wife thinking when she married you?

the question im posing is - are the advances really coming from the SIL?

your situation is really fucked up. There's no turning back. You have two choices really. you can either keep doing what your doing or you can just let it stop right there.

personally id recommend the latter.

imagine trying to explain to your kids that their cousins are in fact brothers and sisters, and that their aunt is their step mother.

that alone is enough to turn me off ever doing something this stupid.

but then again, like the others have said, if you dont give a shit, then do as you please, and good luck with nailing the mother too. Just let me know in advance when the Jerry Springer show's going to be airing.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

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Hey Sis, if Ma and Pa git a deevorce, will we still be cousins?

Sorry, it's just that that is one of my favourite one-liners, and this is the spot to drop it.

I had a divorced SIL that was quite willing to go the distance. We definitely found each other attractive "that" way, and we flirted a bit, and whenever there was a family party/dance we would hang out on the dance floor. Come to think of it, she french-kissed me at my wedding party and I don't know if I ever told the wife that particular detail :o But I avoided The Deed, refused any opportunity that provided itself, because my marriage and my kids were more important than some sex with a woman who would probably get a kick out of banging her older sister's man. Years later I found out my ma was disgusted at the SIL's behaviour, and my ex was aware of it but also was aware that I wasn't ever planning on getting into her sister's pants.

Actually, maybe I should have. She was better looking way back then, and my own divorce would have happened that much sooner . . .

Thank you for all of the feedback - it is unanimous and I agree 100% !

I love TFP.

You married the wrong woman. Or maybe the right one depending on how you look at it.
Personally I would choose the woman who wasn't trying to fuck her in laws. But that's just me, I don't want any vines on my family tree.

If you had married the younger sister do you think she would be trying to fuck your brother at this point?

We all face daily challenges. Temptation to jump ship is where you are. Just remember that every decision you make you need to think it through. There is no going back on this one! There is no do over. Once its done its cast and stone. Be very careful in what you wish for.. My advice is nice to look at but don't touch the merchandise!

Just bang her. Your wife is going to find out anyways, so you may as well scratch "sisters" off your bucket list and enjoy life pre-alimony.

That is exactly how I think and question ....

For me personally, getting attracted to sister-in-law is very logical. It is a special relationship. But that is result of trust and freedom that is part of that relationship. In my environment there is lot of open and gentle flirting - But purely verbal.

You shall never never never ACT on it. Even if one of you slip at times, the other shall immediately do the needful responsibly to maintain the distance.

Because what seems an amazing fun will turn out to be a real rotten situation later...

My ex-husband's mother waited until her husband died of alcoholic induced cirrhosis
before she married her husband's older brother, the hot-shot Illinois defense attorney,
even though they were messin' around before that.

My ex-husband's one brother and two sisters are indeed cousins and half-siblings.
Big drama -true story.


To the OP. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?

Jerry!, Jerry!, Jerry!

Oh, I'm just practicing for when you will be on the show. It never works out well in the end. It breaks up their family, the wife will leave you, and the sister will get over you once the novelty of being off limits wears off.

This situation with your SIL should be handled exactly like you and one of your dude-friend's wives.

You don't think railing your best friend's wife would be cool, right?

Of course, as CuriousBear points out wisely, the closeness and trust of those kinds of relationships allow for some fun flirtation. I've smacked my best friend's wife on the ass before. That didn't mean I am going to be a homewrecker. I'm not saying there aren't some outlier behaviors possible, maybe even something out of a lurid novel if that's what you are all after.

Cheating, backstabbing and lying, though, are NOT positive, healthy things to be doing.

You're right, you're right.

Here's what you do: take the wife out for a nice dinner. Order the apricot flambe for dessert. When it arrives, knock the waiter in the arm, spilling the flaming dessert across the restaurant. In the ensuing chaos, slip out the back and drive directly to the SIL's house but call you MIL on the way there and ask her to meet you since you and the wife have something to tell her. Tell the SIL all about the "disaster" in the restaurant and tune into local news coverage. Allow her to "comfort" you in your time of distress - "comfort" means no pants. Leave the front door unlocked, so that when your MIL walks in, she drops dead of a massive coronary because you've been feeding her lots of red meat recently. When the SIL gets up in a panic because her mom just dropped dead, donkey punch her then nail both dead bodies. Put both bodies in the MIL's car with the MIL in the driver's seat and glue her foot to the accelerator. Steal a tow truck and tow the car to the local farmers' market. Position the car to drive through the market, turn it on and release. You'll get off scott free because everyone knows that old people constantly mistake the gas and the brake around farmers' markets.

Let's see, I think I've conservatively proposed killing 10 people here in a manner that will get you out of trouble. As well as thrown in some necrophilia and grand theft auto. I believe my work here is done. Manic? Have I made my triumphant return?

Jazz, one question.
Is there room for a sheep in this tale?

Hmmmmm. Perhaps after going to the farmers market, the OP could get some good wellington boots and find a sheep farm with a pond. He finds a comely sheep and takes it over to the pond. Then he sticks the back legs of the sheep down front of his boots and drops his pants. By wading into the water, he'll get the sheep to back up into....

No, nevermind. There's no room for sheep.

Baa Baa Humbug.

All is right with the world again. Take a bow.

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I've forever been attracted to my wife's sister. But its not going to happen because well, she's a sister and I'm married. Seriously, there's no good ending to this. None, at all. Its great for fantasizing but beyond that you've got to avoid situations like you just described. And hope that your wife and her sister never get in a fight.

My wife's sister is lovely as a person, but I feel no sexual attraction to her at all, so I guess I'm safe there.

If I did lust after her, I'd keep it locked up in my head - it'd mess up my marriage, her marriage, both sets of kids. Ouch.

I did know two families in the 70's as I was growing up - they were part of my parents social circle - and at some point the two couples split and re-convened the other way round (each marying the other's ex), and both couples had kids in both marriages, leading to four sets of kids, as follows:

Man 1 + Woman 1 = Kids A
Man 2 + Woman 2 = Kids B
Man 1 + Woman 2 = Kids C
Man 2 + Woman 1 = Kids D.

A and B being step-siblings in BOTH directions.

(A and C) and (B and D) being half-siblings in both directions.

C and D being unrelated, but having step-siblings and half-siblings in common.

Subsequently one of the second marriages broke up, and I can tell you that the wedding planning for the kid of the second failed marriage was interesting...

OMG YOU CAN'T KILL YOUR WIFE OR SIL! WTF! That's insane! You'll get caught because the cops would totally find this post.. Seriously just throw out that idea now..


(no srsly, murder is bad, I'm scared to post that without this warning.. damn big brother.. We totally need a sarcasm punctuation like I saw on digg today)

You have already gone pretty far past the line, making out for an hour. People don't do that for no reason. Being married is tough. Trust me, I know and don't look down on you at all. Different circumstances could have put me in the same spot, and may still.
I would just keep doing what your doing. Maybe don't screw her...but if you like making out with her/etc. then really what is the difference between making out once or 20 times if you have to explain it?
I know that my wife would find no consolation in my cutting an affair short. (because you are really having an affair already) Make it worth your while and be careful.

I knew I was safe when I married a girl who doesn't have a younger sister - phew!!

^^ Does she have an older one?

no - only an older brother.... and I'm definitely not hitting on him.

Two great pieces of advice from John Updike from Couples.

Wow, I really love those quotations. :)

One of my cousins had kids with Man A, then she ended up marrying Man A's little brother and having kids with him too. Then divorcing him... So some of the kids are cousins, and some of them have an uncle for a father and a father for an uncle... it gets confusing.

This is just wrong on so many levels, I think most of which have been covered.

:no:

You think that's confusing, how about this old song?:thumbsup:
"I'M MY OWN GRANDPA"

Lindy

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One of my cousins had kids with Man A, then she ended up marrying Man A's little brother and having kids with him too. Then divorcing him... So some of the kids are cousins, and some of them have an uncle for a father and a father for an uncle... it gets confusing.
I would just think of them as all brothers.

Which reminds me of Harlan Ellison's science fiction short story If All Men Were Brothers, Would You Want Your Sister to Marry One?

Lindy:rolleyes:

erOP--You're playing with fire. If you value your marriage you need to cool it with little sister. Keep your alone time with her to minimum, and keep your distance when you're alone with her.

Of course you could go for it, but you should be prepared for some serious repercussions.

if your into it, go for it. just make sure you don't risk anything you're not willing to lose

When life gets rough - I turn to the teachings of Confucious.

Confucious say...
Wife who put husband in doghouse soon find him in cat house.
Man with tight trousers is pressing his luck.
Foolish man give wife grand piano, wise man give wife upright organ.
Secretary not permanent fixture until screwed on top of desk.
Passionate kiss like spider's web, soon lead to undoing of fly.
Man's wife his better half, his mistress his better whole.
It is good for girl to meet boy in park, but better for boy to park meat in girl.

But seriously - unless you can magically pull of the almighty threesome (you'll still get that awkwardness afterwards) then risk is greater than reward.
Totally read the last couple of chapters in "The Game" by Neil Strauss if you want that fighting chance ;)

Well, I can guess what subject will come up sometime during the sisters' next argument.

Personally, I think you screwed the pooch the first time you did anything with the sister-in-law that involved more physical contact than a hug or a quick peck on the cheek. I mean, you have options...

Tell the wife what you've been doing, risk divorce, alienation with that whole side of the family. Maybe the sister will still want you afterwards, but she'll be a pariah as well.

Tell the sister-in-law it's got to stop, it was a mistake. Run the risk that she'll flip and spill the beans, completing the "alienated pariah" scenario again.

Divorce the wife and get with the sister. Again with the alienation, might be the right call, might not be the right call. Who can tell until the deed is done?

Keep it quiet, slowly distance yourself from the sister. Find reasons to be away or busy when she's in town, or when you're in that area on business. Try to set her up with a friend of yours or something. Pray word of this never leaks out.

GOLDEN ADVICE
Just follow this. Sooner or later, the SIL will be thankful and grateful to you.

Good Lawd this is the wildest thread in a while!

Okay...several folks here have been the true "voice of reason" and that's good. So, in truth...do you want to get a divorce and pursue the little dick tease (really?) or just walk away and say, "No this has got to stop, here & now". How strong are you? Or better yet, how hot is the SIL? Is she worth all that heartbreak?

Or are you just yanking our tfp chains?? I'd love to hear the conclusion to THIS ONE!

did you hit that yet?

Well gawdamn.

You know, I've been meaning to ask if there was anything wrong with the ol' "hit it, then quit it."

I wonder how the discussion would be if the question is from a female, getting attracted to her sister-in-law

That would be hot, but creepy. I'm oddly conflicted on that one. It would be straight out of Jerry Springer. Woman sleeps with another woman, guy finds out and figures "hey, this may not be too bad...", finds out woman #2 is his sister, begin banjo playing...

I remember posting a similar response to a similar thread once upon a time. I think it was Abaya that responded, saying I was crazy to even mention it.

Either I'm not crazy or I'm crazy but only as crazy as Smeth. I can live with either of those. :thumbsup:

Will, here the girls are sisters... So it brings a different angle.
Now the sisters end-up in incest?

I love Confucious sayings a lot!

Of course, the SIL could be the husband's brother's wife, so no banjo's needed, but the husband would need to decide if the threesome was worth the falling out with his brother.

If you really want to cheat on your wife.... Why not try dating outside the family? Much lower risk level... It sounds like fun to bang the wife's sister but the risk is probably prohibitive I would think.

Have you fucked her yet? If so, cross sisters off your list. Wait until shit hits the fan. If not... Think about your wife, do you love her, are you just attracted to the sister... whats going on in your brain not your head. oh and factor your heart in to.

My wife has three sisters that I am absolutely in lust for. My wife knows it, the sisters know it, and everyone seems okay with it. Only one of them is married, the youngest, and I've tried forever to get them in bed. They laugh it off, my wife rolls her eyes, and I continue being frustrated. I've gotten the older one to flash me once, and yes, my wife was present (she flashed me as well. It was a comparison of breast size in our pool a looooooooooooooong time ago.)

That being said, I'd be very, no VERY careful about what you are doing, especially since your wife doesn't seem to know what's happening. Like someone else mentioned, it'll only lead to divorce.

I wish I had seen this earlier. All of my good friends are under explicit orders to sleep with my wife if the opportunity presents itself.

If my wife never sleeps with another man, I don't want it to be because of lack of opportunity, but because our relationship is more important to her than any lust she has for another man.

Maybe that's what's going on with our op's wife. She had some doubts and put her sister up to the task of getting him to cheat. Or maybe she was looking for an out of marriage she wasn't happy in. Plot twists abound.

That is quite possible! Never thought in that angle.

Wow ,think about what you doing. Happy wife, happy life. This will not make her happy !

men
 

I sort of agree with the poster, that said his wife may have put the sister up to it. If the sisters are close at all, this is a possibility. There are women out there who can be very devious, and calculating.
If that is not the case, then the wife should take her sister to the airport when it is time for her to leave, and the husband should do a lot of golfing or any other distraction to keep his mind off the sister-in-law. Plus, I think the sil just tore up her sister card, she would be no sister of mine If I found this out, and didn't put her up to it, how many people would be hurt by this? it would have a very sad ending.

A toast a toast!

To our wives and girlfriends! May they never meet.

The way I see it, when a man and woman marry, they give each other their bodies. If you want to screw half the whores in chinatown, you need to secure your wife's permission. In essence, it is because your sexuality no longer belongs to yourself.

If you are too uncomfortable to ask your wife's permission to kiss another woman because you have a feeling she would say no, your marriage promise will be void on your end if you proceed with the kiss.

If you talk to your wife and get feedback on a soft approach as to what she thinks about threesomes, you can more accurately gauge whether asking to sexually interact with another woman would in itself be a dealbreaker in your relationship.

As you've been married a long time, you probably already know the answer to such a question, and thus most probably come to the disappointing conclusion that she would be very hurt by the idea of you kissing her sister. This leads me to lesson number 1 on increasing sexuality within a male/female potential romantic relationship.

YOU WILL HAVE SEX IF YOU CONTINUE TO SEE EACH OTHER ALONE.

Treating this as a law of physics is what you need to do to be able to determine the final outcome of your situation. If you do not resolve yourself to the incredibly difficult task of distancing yourself from an attractive person who is sexually interested in you, the conclusion is inescapable. Cut. Print.

I dont agree you are not guiding him right. its an old attraction and should be fulfilled.

Oh dear lord, now my head hurts... See? This is why I don't watch Soap Opera crap on daytime TV. It's just too damn complicated, and I've got a financial, Computer science, and Network Engineering background!

...good one, Merlocke :lol:

Bone the SIL, Move to Canada

My wife's younger sister looks like she could be her twin. Nice tight little 19 year old body and all. Thank god for me that she could care less about me in any way, so I am free to work my imagination all I want about a wife-me-SIL threesome and never have to worry about anything beyond that. good time :D

that being said, back off the sis dude.

How's you marriage?
If its just routine and all the luster is lost I would try the sis.

I'd love to say "get buried in there hard and fast!" but the other posters are absolutely right:

1) It will happen unless you stop it right now
2) It will come out (she'll suddenly be 'unable to live with her conscience' and have to tell her sister)*
3) It will end really badly

And for what?

Clearly you're after some on the side. Go get it from an Asian Massage parlor or a hooker somewhere. It's going to be way cheaper. And easier actually. Plus you'll get the satisfaction of turning the sister down.


*$100 says she envies the fact that the sis has the husband/'complete' life etc and in some perverted way wants to ruin it/show her that it was all artificial.

As awesome as this outcome would be... Methinks you've spent one night too many watching late night porn. :p

You say it like it's a bad thing. :D

watching thread closely since i am in a similar situation, with twins

xniper, is the sister-in-law a twin of your wife? Or do you have twin children?

twins is one of my fantasy
but it is just a fantasy

thank you for all the input and advice, i will update everybody shortly on what has happened....

Best thread ever. How did I miss this.

i broke it off with her firmly but politely.. she was ready for us to have sex,,,,

whoah!

i think it was a good but brave call. not everyone would have stopped it there, especially when it's complicated and involved.

the issue you have now is a disgruntled SIL who could work against you because you've scorned her as a direct result of your rejection.

what's your call now?

Really?!?!? That's it?!?!!? You're as big a story tease as you are a va-jay-jay tease!:)

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Take it from me, you don't ever want to sabotage your marriage, you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
Flirting is natural, maybe... but no touchy feely. If you dig what I'm saying.