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w4r10ck · 02-21-2009, 07:27 AM

I'm a bit drunk right now. I hope I didn't post something I'll regret later on.

Plainly put, I suffer from really low self-esteem. Plus, I'm never able to talk the right stuff with women I know (read, women find me more of a bore than a friend. I'm a computer programmer, and do not have much of a sense of humour.) I can understand most of my behavioural problems, and am trying really hard to sort them out. But there's something I seem to be missing out on...

And yes, I do whine a bit...!

Could the elders please help me out...?

(edit) I know, I'm being very vague on my behavioural profile. If there's anything specific you guys want to ask me about myself, fire away!

Thanks.

thespian86 · 02-21-2009, 09:07 AM

Okay, this will be blunt, and harsh, but true.

Stop whining. Stop caring so much. Stop trying so hard. Stop "being a loser". You are playing into the stereotype.

It all starts with you believing that you have "low self-esteem". What are you good at? I'm sure there is an answer to that, and when you realize the few to a lot of things that you are good at, or enjoy, then use that as a means of creating some sort of identity for yourself; rooted in the things you know and enjoy. The trick is, at some point, you'll realize it was who you were all along, but now you'll be confident in it! Hooray!

Also, I'm a firm believer that people, no matter how insightful, are usually the opposite of what they describe themselves to be because it becomes an issue of "if you say you are, you clearly aren't". It's a shot in the dark but I bet on the inside you are actually a self-righteous prick who thinks he knows better then the rest of the world. It's cool, so am I. And I used to be all "self-loathing and miserable and 'no-one-understands-me'" but I'm not so I don't anymore.

Just be yourself. You'll do better.

Plan9 · 02-21-2009, 09:26 AM

You are what you do... so do something.

Zeraph · 02-21-2009, 09:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by punkmusicfan21

inside you are actually a self-righteous prick who thinks he knows better then the rest of the world. It's cool, so am I.

Hah, so am I. I think we're all a bit of a self-righteous pric on the inside.

Iliftrocks · 02-25-2009, 04:53 AM

You could always become a goth/emo and let that work for ya..... Have a good cry

(Guess I'm a prick too)

cdwonderful · 02-25-2009, 03:05 PM

one, if you have trouble relating to women and what they find interesting..... perhaps, just perhaps you are not listening close enough? Even computer programmers can be intuitive (IE. thinking outside the box) try remembering reverse engineering in C+ and adapt it to your females hopefuls. Good luck , bucko.....

Iliftrocks · 02-26-2009, 08:06 AM

You are operating from a position of weakness. You need to learn how to put forth a stronger stance.

Don't get this wrong, I'm not calling you a dog, but you might want to watch a couple episodes each of It's Me or the Dog, and The Dog Whisperer. They both focus on projecting the kind of image that you will want to project to interest women, and people in general. Just listen and learn. It also beats the hell out of trying to get any useful information from the likes of Dr. Phil...

By the way, no matter the subject, people will respond to your dialogue more favourably if you put forth a more secure self image. (Just watch the shows, trust me)

Xerxys · 02-26-2009, 05:54 PM

Get a hobby, get a life, exercise, then friends will happen organically!!!

Life is wayyyyy simpler than most people think.

02-21-2009, 07:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
w4r10ck Upright Location: Assam, India	What's wrong with me...? I'm a bit drunk right now. I hope I didn't post something I'll regret later on. Plainly put, I suffer from really low self-esteem. Plus, I'm never able to talk the right stuff with women I know (read, women find me more of a bore than a friend. I'm a computer programmer, and do not have much of a sense of humour.) I can understand most of my behavioural problems, and am trying really hard to sort them out. But there's something I seem to be missing out on... And yes, I do whine a bit...! Could the elders please help me out...? (edit) I know, I'm being very vague on my behavioural profile. If there's anything specific you guys want to ask me about myself, fire away! Thanks. Last edited by w4r10ck; 02-21-2009 at 07:30 AM..

02-21-2009, 09:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
thespian86 change is hard. Location: the green room.	Okay, this will be blunt, and harsh, but true. Stop whining. Stop caring so much. Stop trying so hard. Stop "being a loser". You are playing into the stereotype. It all starts with you believing that you have "low self-esteem". What are you good at? I'm sure there is an answer to that, and when you realize the few to a lot of things that you are good at, or enjoy, then use that as a means of creating some sort of identity for yourself; rooted in the things you know and enjoy. The trick is, at some point, you'll realize it was who you were all along, but now you'll be confident in it! Hooray! Also, I'm a firm believer that people, no matter how insightful, are usually the opposite of what they describe themselves to be because it becomes an issue of "if you say you are, you clearly aren't". It's a shot in the dark but I bet on the inside you are actually a self-righteous prick who thinks he knows better then the rest of the world. It's cool, so am I. And I used to be all "self-loathing and miserable and 'no-one-understands-me'" but I'm not so I don't anymore. Just be yourself. You'll do better. __________________ EX: Whats new? ME: I officially love coffee more then you now. EX: uh... ME: So, not much.

02-21-2009, 09:26 AM	#3 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	You are what you do... so do something. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

02-25-2009, 04:53 AM	#5 (permalink)
Iliftrocks Junkie Location: Near Raleigh, NC	You could always become a goth/emo and let that work for ya..... Have a good cry (Guess I'm a prick too) __________________ bill hicks - "I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out."

02-25-2009, 03:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
cdwonderful another passenger Location: Youngstown, Ohio	one, if you have trouble relating to women and what they find interesting..... perhaps, just perhaps you are not listening close enough? Even computer programmers can be intuitive (IE. thinking outside the box) try remembering reverse engineering in C+ and adapt it to your females hopefuls. Good luck , bucko..... __________________ Never try to teach a pig to whistle it wastes your time, and annoys the pig.....

02-26-2009, 08:06 AM	#7 (permalink)
Iliftrocks Junkie Location: Near Raleigh, NC	You are operating from a position of weakness. You need to learn how to put forth a stronger stance. Don't get this wrong, I'm not calling you a dog, but you might want to watch a couple episodes each of It's Me or the Dog, and The Dog Whisperer. They both focus on projecting the kind of image that you will want to project to interest women, and people in general. Just listen and learn. It also beats the hell out of trying to get any useful information from the likes of Dr. Phil... By the way, no matter the subject, people will respond to your dialogue more favourably if you put forth a more secure self image. (Just watch the shows, trust me) __________________ bill hicks - "I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out."

02-26-2009, 05:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
Xerxys Junkie Location: My head.	Get a hobby, get a life, exercise, then friends will happen organically!!! Life is wayyyyy simpler than most people think.