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Old 02-18-2009, 05:12 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Dating with scars, 66?

Last week a client told me she worried about her mother being lonely, and perhaps beginning to date. Ive been thinking about this woman periodically and wondering if one would think her dateable knowing these facts (which are what I gleaned from her daughter) :

1) She is a lovely woman, probably tall and willowy, who just cut her hair short after years of having it quite long. I understand it looks great.
2) She is a widow of 4 years.
3) She is lonely.
4) She is 66 yrs old.
5) She has had a double mastectomy with no reconstructive surgery.

Her daughter is concerned that men might not stick with her, if they dated her at all. She sort of bitterly mentioned that so many older men want to date younger woman that she is afraid her mother could end up dating an 80 yr old, her being that dude's younger babe! I would hope to think better of you rocket gendered folks, but I wonder. The few men that Ive asked have been reticent, thinking perhaps that one likes what one likes or that no one is guaranteed a partner, which are correct.

Nonetheless, I feel sad for this woman, who if she were to live to 90 might spend the next 24 yrs lonely, without a partner. What do you think her odds are? What do you think her responsibilities are? Would you advise her to have reconstructive surgery? Do you think that would better her odds?

Im not asking to bring out judgements, but Im genuinely curious about others' opinions.

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Old 02-18-2009, 07:06 PM   #2 (permalink)
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My question would be, does the woman feel lonely? The daughter might be projecting her own fears, not her mother's.
Her odds? Of what? Finding a man? About as good as any other 66 years old woman's. And if a man was only interested in snaring a younger woman, well, he's not worth wanting at any rate, so why try?
Her responsibilities? Only to herself.

My mother-in-law is 77 years old and has a boyfriend. She travels the 3.5 hours once or twice a month (or he will) to spend two weeks together. Trust me, she didn't attract him with her tits.
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Old 02-19-2009, 05:44 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I would think it is all about her confidence. I've told this story before, but I once saw a woman on a nude beach, probably in the 70-80 age range, with a single full mastectomy. She wasn't hiding or covering it, and there was a beauty about her, because you could see her confidence.
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She sort of bitterly mentioned that so many older men want to date younger woman that she is afraid her mother could end up dating an 80 yr old, her being that dude's younger babe!
That statement really leaps out at me. As Ng said, it sounds like she is projecting her own concerns. (80 to 66 falls well within the "1/2 the age plus 7" guideline.)
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Old 02-19-2009, 09:43 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Yes, thank you! I feel the same. This is the good cheer I hoped to hear, and what I had passed on to her daughter. The woman feels lonely and is lovely. So far, what is there not to like?!
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