kate jack

A show on TLC called "My unique family" right now where the husband is now a woman. The wife stayed with her husband and they're raising their 2 children together... It was interesting to hear the wife say that throughout their entire marriage - up until the point where her husband told her he wanted to change genders - she had no idea he was even interested in becoming a female.

Made me curious - would you stay with your spouse if they changed gender?




My values are telling me that if I married someone, it would be for more than just their body. So I'd stay.

Bear Cub

Not a chance. How could you ever trust someone who has been living their life as one big lie?

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ngdawg

So, is he now a gay woman?


I don't know that I'd stay married-gender reassignment kind of kills the married aspect in my mind.

Cernunnos

Staying or leaving would be decided on the strength of our marriage, our love for one another, and the manner in which she goes about the gender reassignment.

In an ideal situation, with a very strong marriage, a deep and loving bond, and a gentle way of bringing up the topic well in advance of the operation, I believe that I would stay with them.

Worth noting is that I may feel less physically attracted to them afterwards, but sex would probably still be just as rewarding. I enjoy giving and receiving anal, so if she magically became a he with a fully functional penis, I think it would be alright, even though I don't consider myself bisexual. In my mind, I would always privately consider him to be my wife and my woman, regardless of the gender switch.

thespian86

Thats not tough for me at all; I'd be gone when it comes to the marriage. She would of lied to me, I'm not interested in men, etc.

But, I would probably still be very close to them, but homophobia aside, I think I would be uncomfortable being in love with what was once my beautiful wife, and is now a handsome young man. Again, not because of the homosexual implications, but because it would be a different person. It wouldn't be even close to the same.

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ironman

Thought this things happened only in South Park.

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Charlatan

This is not something that can be answered lightly.

I know I am not gay, so staying with my wife if she decided to become a man would be a very difficult decision. Wrapped into that decision is also the main issue that s/he was not truthful with me.

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Jinn

I don't think I could, no.

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StanT

Stay friends, stay civil, and deal with our children together? Sure

Stay married? Not a chance. Not what I signed up for.

ratbastid

Regarding the "not truthful with me" bit... I could forgive it, given she was probably untruthful with herself first.

777

Since women are more physically affectionate then men, I can see a marrige between a changed woman and his/her wife much more likely to work out than a changed man and her/his husband. Because where two men would shake hands, women would hug, and where two men would hug, women would do that kiss on each cheek thing. If my beautiful wife became became my beautiful husband, then I would say that her/he and I would get a divorce. She/he wouldn't be the same person any more. Couldn't she just stay as a tomboy instead of becoming an actual boy?

dlish

should i stay or should i go?

it'd be causing major identity crisis not just for my spouse but also for myself.

would i be sleeping with a man or a woman now?

that alone would mean i'd go

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QuasiMondo

Wouldn't happen. Won't even give it a second thought.

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Vinrej

We can remain friends but marriage wise I'm gone.

Spartanx9

It would be weird, way too weird. I wouldn't stay married.

Ayashe

I honestly don't think I could stay in the relationship. I do know that I heard of a couple where this occurred and I believe the new woman started a career in politics also. I have to agree though, it isn't a matter to deal with lightly.

mixedmedia

I could never stayed married to a man who became a woman.

But I would remain his most avid fan.

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matthew330

Only if it promised it'd change back when it was business time.

Spartanx9

the person is an it now?

Willravel

I can't imagine getting married to someone I don't love deeply on many very important levels. So, in this hypothetical situation, yes, I would probably stay married. Unfortunately, there would probably not be much intimate time anymore and there is much to be said about the pairing of the masculine and feminine personalities, which may mean looking into developing a more complex living situation. Perhaps a new wife, husband (formerly wife), and myself. Or maybe 2 wives and two husbands.

matthew330

I suppose I could have phrased that better. As long as my formerly she wife, promised to me that the current he, would be willing to become a she(again) for me....on demand... i'd stick it out.

ItWasMe

Wow, what a delicate situation. Would my new female husband now be a lesbian, and still be interested in me? I am not interested in women. Would my new female husband be interested in men instead of me? I am pretty sure that would be a no go for me. Would I still love him (now her)? Yes. We have only been married since we were 29, but we have been very good friends since we were 12. I think the marriage would be over. I would like to hope that our friendship, at least, could survive. But even that seems like an upwards climb once we started seeing other people.

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