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04-14-2008, 01:34 PM | #1 (permalink) |
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Social Networking and how it has impacted your romantic (or platonic) relationships
I've given this some brief thought for a while, and just wanted to throw it out there to see what you guys think.
I've used facebook since its beginning, and I've slowly watched it grow from a selective college network to a college network to an everything network. It now pervades every aspect of a young person's (teenager to late 20's) life. In particular, its quite the "stalker" tool. The problem with that is -- its *quite* invasive to your privacy. Want to change your relationship status? Sure. Want to do it without everyone seeing it changed? Nope. If you change it, your friends will see, specifically, that you have changed your "Relationship Status" recently, when they click on the "Friends" tab. Want your ex'es to stop seeing your profile? The only way to do it is to block or remove them. But if you want to be the nice guy (or gal), and not remove them from your friends list, then there is no way to stop them from seeing your profile. One aspect I have noticed and would like to point out --- undergraduates ("young people") tend to list their relationships (and who it is with) very explicitly. Grad students ("old people") are more careful with their relationship status and often leave it blank (unknown and unlisted). It seems to suggest that the older people know that they have to play the field more (they are more serious) and cannot afford to announce to everyone of a specific relationship until they are ready for that level of commitment. In short, the older people take it alot more seriously. Thoughts? |
04-14-2008, 01:41 PM | #2 (permalink) |
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Location: Canada
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I don't think it's 'pervasive' by any means. The only reason I joined facebook to begin with was because I had intel that people were putting pictures of me up there. I check it a couple of times a week, but I find it mostly useless.
If you're worried about people having access to sensitive information, the best solution is not publishing that information on the internet. It really is that easy.
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04-14-2008, 01:42 PM | #3 (permalink) | |
Lover - Protector - Teacher
Location: Seattle, WA
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2) Put your exes in a security group for Exes, and remove viewing rights to certain parts of your profile. I use facebook all the time, and I'm very protective about my privacy. I don't have any Applications installed, either.
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04-14-2008, 02:04 PM | #5 (permalink) | |||||
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So you'd have to "cast a net" on all your ex'es friends, so to speak, to really prevent them from seeing your profile. And what if you have mutual friends? Would you have to limit your mutual friends too? Clearly, this is not feasible. Its really quite hard to do it perfectly. Quote:
However, its undeniable that Social Networking sites are here to stay, and that they are a tool. Its equal in the sense that everyone has the same tool. If you limit yourself, you're cutting yourself out of the loop -- why give yourself a disadvantage when everyone else is making full use out of the tool ? Last edited by match000; 04-14-2008 at 02:11 PM.. Reason: Automerged Doublepost |
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04-14-2008, 02:24 PM | #6 (permalink) | |
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Location: Fauxenix, Azerona
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04-14-2008, 02:35 PM | #7 (permalink) | ||
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For example, I have a few of my old high school students added as friends now (they are all frat/sorority students in college now, with all the pics and Wall posts to exhibit that glorious fact), and of course they have all left that information open to me, because they don't think about it. When I added them, I made sure that they were on my limited profile, and I plan to keep it that way. If people's feelings get hurt, that's their problem. It's my privacy, and they have no expectation to "see" my whole life. No one does. Quote:
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04-14-2008, 03:03 PM | #8 (permalink) |
Confused Adult
Location: Spokane, WA
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facebook is utterly worthless and I don't know why people even use it. Myspace has a bit more customization imo, and they've cut down on the metric fuckton of spam that people used to get (just turn on captcha you noobs) I'm lucky to get one or two bogus friend request or messages in a month, IF I GET ANY.
I'm kind of retreating back to LJ for now because it has the ultimate vision policy in place when it comes to letting who see what. I just wish there was a little more to LJ and a little less to myspace and it would be the perfect medium. *shrug* |
04-14-2008, 03:42 PM | #9 (permalink) |
Kick Ass Kunoichi
Location: Oregon
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Both are just tools I use to keep in touch with people I probably wouldn't otherwise keep in touch with; it also gives me a non-TFP way of getting ahold of TFPers. The latter proved to be incredibly useful when the server died.
I keep my privacy on those sites under strict control; only my friends can see my complete profile. If you search for my name, you will only get to see that I have a profile. I do not post my real name and my screen name anywhere side by side on the net that is publicly accessible; meaning, the only place you can see these two things is on my Facebook, if you're my friend, and in that case, you probably know both of those things already. My intention in doing this is to keep people from finding information about me via the internet; I'd rather keep my private life private, thanks. And even on Facebook, it can be such.
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