soma

Ok, so I found out that the girl I'm dating is still feeling a bit heart broken over her ex. Apparently, the guy told her he never wants to see her again. Hrm...

So I was thinking I probably have to approach this situation a bit differently than before. Should I try to talk to her about it and be consoling to her? Or should I just try to have as much fun with her as I can so she can forget about it? Or a combination of both? I'd be interested to hear your replies on this.

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Ustwo

You need new pussy.
She needs new dick.

You are a match made in soap operas.

Don't even THINK about consoling her about a break up, don't EVER bring him up once. Have fun and try to introduce her to your smoked sausage.

Women become very forgetful of such things after a good O.

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jewels

Don't change the way you treat her. If you've seen her more than once, she obviously enjoys your company. She's trying to move forward, away from the hurt, so don't remind her.

Since I'm in a nearby boat (although the ex and I still talk often, there was no "never wanna see you"), when I date a guy, I definitely don't want him bringing it up, especially if he's heard about it from someone else. I'm trying to get over the Other Guy and I sure as hell don't want to begin a new relationship with conversations about relationships that didn't work out. I will be the one to bring it up if and when I feel it necessary or important.

The best consoling you can do in this situation is to be the guy who makes her forget. Show her a good time, listen and talk with her. Give her time. Although you may feel that you're compared to him, let it go. This will pass with time once she sees what an amazing guy you are.

snowy

Ustwo...sometimes you are truly brilliant.

Don't talk about it. Don't bring it up. Listen if she does want to talk about it, but don't bring it up yourself and don't ask questions about it that would give her permission to go on. Generally go about things as if it were a regular relationship. The less he gets mentioned, the more he is being forgotten.

Broken hearts usually need time to mend, but sometimes a good distraction works just as well.

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Plan9

Holy Dr. PhilTwo! Brutal. Correct.

Yeah, if you let her babble about it... she will think it's okay and that will most likely lead to you becoming a "friend option" instead of a "fuck option."

Ignore her babble, make sure to reinforce that you're there in person by doing things instead of getting into those annoying touchy-feely talk situations.

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Fotzlid

you're the rebound guy.
enjoy it while it lasts.
like the others said, the less you talk of the other guy, the longer you'll get to hang around with her.

maleficent

Ustwo nailed it :heh:

you start consoling her you move into the "friend" zone and you ain't gettin' none in the friend zone...

but ummm what's wrong with her that the ex never wants to see her again? is she a crazy stalker type? why would she volunteer that info to you?

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fatmanforprez

UsTwo is as all here have said brilliant. Introduce her to your smoked sausage for breakfast, lunch, dinner, dessert, and secondsies. If her appitite survives read off the rest of the hobbit meals.

For the thus unspoken cry against the brutal and apparently sexist underpinnings, please keep the following in mind. I believe in treating people as I would like to be treated myself, and I would love someone to take my mind of previous pains for a while.

This isn't even a "friends zone" thing, it's about fulfilling both your needs while allowing valuable mental recuperation.

Unicase

Leave her memory of her ex in dust and show her that you're the man she wants. Don't be nice to her, it will like they say 'take you to friend zone' which is bad for you since you want to be more than friends.

Baraka_Guru

Just make sure the relationship isn't built on empty rebound sex. Be sure to do that "fun" stuff you mentioned as well.

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dirtyrascal7

Fun -- that is what you want her to think of when she hears your name or thinks about you. Focus only on developing your connection and relationship with her and don't worry about any other drama she has going on.

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Her relationship isn't yours to get over.


Have fun with this girl. Don't worry about the past.

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Plan9

Hahaha...

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soma

ustwo: good advice, and definitely loLed when reading your post
everyOneSuggestingNotToMentionTheEx: did it, worked out well
maleicient,cropsin,unicase: I'm a little worried about falling into the friend zone right now...
everyOneElse: thanks for the replies!

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