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soma · 11-25-2007, 08:11 AM

Last night I went on my first date with this girl I met last weekend. I learned a lot about her personality, interests, and life experiences, and found that we do have a lot in common. She's gorgeous too, but the attraction is definitely more than skin deep.

I'm just not sure what to do from here. I want her to know that I'm attracted to her, but I don't want to seem like I'm desperate and willing to do anything to see her again. We haven't made plans yet for a second date, but I was thinking of calling her soon to do so. I don't want to call too early, or too late, you know?

Advice?

edit: wow. I've been spelling proceed wrong my entire life.

Martian · 11-25-2007, 08:12 AM

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How about stop with the damn games?

You're interested in her. If your asking her on a first date didn't clue her in, asking her on the second probably will. If not, she's a fucking moron and you can do better.

Call her already.

soma · 11-25-2007, 08:19 AM

What should I say when I call her. I don't want to tell her how attracted I am to her because it's really early and it might scare her off. Should I just go for a second date and work from there? Or maybe just tell her I really enjoyed spending time with her and would like to do it again? Or ... I don't know.

Xazy · 11-25-2007, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by soma

What should I say when I call her. I don't want to tell her how attracted I am to her because it's really early and it might scare her off. Should I just go for a second date and work from there? Or maybe just tell her I really enjoyed spending time with her and would like to do it again? Or ... I don't know.

It was only the first date, just ask her out on a second.

ratbastid · 11-25-2007, 08:34 AM

Here's the deal: girls worry about when guys call and they make the timing of that call mean a lot of stuff too. But mostly they don't mind if you call soon. They're flattered if you call the next day. They only get concerned if you call too late.

"Hi, Buffy? soma here. Listen, I had a great time last night, and I'd really like to see you again. What's that you say? You would too? Why that's swell! Perhaps this weekend we could go to a drive-in or a sock hop or an ice cream social or whatever it is you young people do these days? Very well. I'll pick you up at 6:00."

I went a little "Stewie" in the middle there, but that's your basic approach, right there. Straightforward but not desperate. Go ahead and call today, or tomorrow would be fine too. Don't wait any longer than that.

Also--if you have some more casual way to be in contact with her like email or SMS, you could hit her that way and just let her know you enjoyed last night. That's nice too.

ngdawg · 11-25-2007, 08:53 AM

"Why, that's swell"??

Hey, Andy, we can put a show on right here in the barn and get enough money to pay off your bicycle!

Sorry....don't know what came over me...

Carry on....

Shauk · 11-25-2007, 10:28 AM

tell her to come over and give you a BJ. She's be right there.

oh goddamnit you caught me in make believe land again.

yeah man Just call her up and say you had a good time and you're interested in having another good time this weekend

Plan9 · 11-25-2007, 10:56 AM

Who makes a verbal request for a blowjob?

Who does that? Usually it is non-verbal, no?

You pull it out and wave it in the direction of her face.

...

Man, I hate dating. Six dates in the last month and zero click.

World's King · 11-25-2007, 11:03 AM

Call her.

"Hi, this is Soma (or whatever your real name is). Would like to go out again?"

It's that easy.

ratbastid · 11-25-2007, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Crompsin

You pull it out and wave it in the direction of her face.

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Man, I hate dating. Six dates in the last month and zero click.

You're being too subtle. The girls are probably missing your signals. I recommend adding a firm push on the back of her head.

soma · 11-25-2007, 02:26 PM

Cool. Date #2 next Saturday!

pig · 11-25-2007, 02:29 PM

fuck that! grab her by the ears and heave on that shit like you're trying to put on a duckboot with the laces partially done up.

soma: don't make it a bigger deal than it has to be. just call her, ask her how she's doing...if the attraction is there it will take care of itself. at some point, ask her if she'd like to get together soon. sort of like making a new friend, only you want to put your hoo-hoo-dilly in her cha-cha.

edit: well done young man. well done.

soma · 11-25-2007, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by pig

you want to put your hoo-hoo-dilly in her cha-cha.

Well put.

Yeah. But she's a rockin girl. Definitely has more similar taste in music, movies, etc than my ex. She's also interested in politics and worldly issues. Oi. And she's hotter. Wow. New pussy is really working out well so far.

eribrav · 11-25-2007, 03:54 PM

We're rooting for you.
Will await an update next weekend.

Ustwo · 11-25-2007, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by soma

Well put.

Yeah. But she's a rockin girl. Definitely has more similar taste in music, movies, etc than my ex. She's also interested in politics and worldly issues. Oi. And she's hotter. Wow. New pussy is really working out well so far.

Remember, by following the path laid out by Ustwo you can find true happiness.

soma · 11-25-2007, 04:25 PM

eribrav: Thanks. I'm hoping for the best!

Ustwo: Yes.

ratbastid · 11-25-2007, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Ustwo

Remember, by following the path laid out by Ustwo you can find true happiness.

Just remember: when he starts talking politics... turn left.

Plan9 · 11-25-2007, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ratbastid

Just remember: when he starts talking politics... turn left.

His compass goes in circles in normal hands, eh?

soma · 12-01-2007, 07:02 PM

Woo! Update time!

Me and this girl went to a gallery and looked at art for awhile. Actually we were there for about 20 mins. The place closes early on weekends. Afterwards it was time for some coffee. We just chatted and enjoyed each others company. Things were going well. We were both busy later so we called it a night. She told me she enjoyed herself andencouraged me to call her again. We hugged and she kissed me. It was cold as fuck outside but she made me melt. I was smiling like an idiot on my drive home.

ratbastid · 12-02-2007, 05:19 AM

Rock on with your bad self.

genuinegirly · 12-02-2007, 07:12 PM

Awesome date! Sounds like you're on the right track.

Ustwo · 12-04-2007, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ratbastid

Just remember: when he starts talking politics... turn left.

Mine is the path to understanding in all things....

WWUTD

hrandani · 12-05-2007, 08:32 AM

Ustwo is just jesus on decaf.

11-25-2007, 08:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	How To Procede With This Girl? Last night I went on my first date with this girl I met last weekend. I learned a lot about her personality, interests, and life experiences, and found that we do have a lot in common. She's gorgeous too, but the attraction is definitely more than skin deep. I'm just not sure what to do from here. I want her to know that I'm attracted to her, but I don't want to seem like I'm desperate and willing to do anything to see her again. We haven't made plans yet for a second date, but I was thinking of calling her soon to do so. I don't want to call too early, or too late, you know? Advice? edit: wow. I've been spelling proceed wrong my entire life. __________________ Having Girl Problems? Last edited by soma; 11-25-2007 at 08:16 AM..

11-25-2007, 08:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	... How about stop with the damn games? You're interested in her. If your asking her on a first date didn't clue her in, asking her on the second probably will. If not, she's a fucking moron and you can do better. Call her already. __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame

11-25-2007, 08:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	What should I say when I call her. I don't want to tell her how attracted I am to her because it's really early and it might scare her off. Should I just go for a second date and work from there? Or maybe just tell her I really enjoyed spending time with her and would like to do it again? Or ... I don't know. __________________ Having Girl Problems?

11-25-2007, 10:56 AM	#8 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Who makes a verbal request for a blowjob? Who does that? Usually it is non-verbal, no? You pull it out and wave it in the direction of her face. ... Man, I hate dating. Six dates in the last month and zero click. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

11-25-2007, 11:03 AM	#9 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Call her. "Hi, this is Soma (or whatever your real name is). Would like to go out again?" It's that easy. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

11-25-2007, 08:34 AM	#5 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Here's the deal: girls worry about when guys call and they make the timing of that call mean a lot of stuff too. But mostly they don't mind if you call soon. They're flattered if you call the next day. They only get concerned if you call too late. "Hi, Buffy? soma here. Listen, I had a great time last night, and I'd really like to see you again. What's that you say? You would too? Why that's swell! Perhaps this weekend we could go to a drive-in or a sock hop or an ice cream social or whatever it is you young people do these days? Very well. I'll pick you up at 6:00." I went a little "Stewie" in the middle there, but that's your basic approach, right there. Straightforward but not desperate. Go ahead and call today, or tomorrow would be fine too. Don't wait any longer than that. Also--if you have some more casual way to be in contact with her like email or SMS, you could hit her that way and just let her know you enjoyed last night. That's nice too.

11-25-2007, 08:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	"Why, that's swell"?? Hey, Andy, we can put a show on right here in the barn and get enough money to pay off your bicycle! Sorry....don't know what came over me... Carry on....

11-25-2007, 10:28 AM	#7 (permalink)
Shauk Confused Adult Location: Spokane, WA	tell her to come over and give you a BJ. She's be right there. oh goddamnit you caught me in make believe land again. yeah man Just call her up and say you had a good time and you're interested in having another good time this weekend

11-25-2007, 02:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	Cool. Date #2 next Saturday! __________________ Having Girl Problems?

11-25-2007, 02:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
pig pigglet pigglet Location: Locash	fuck that! grab her by the ears and heave on that shit like you're trying to put on a duckboot with the laces partially done up. soma: don't make it a bigger deal than it has to be. just call her, ask her how she's doing...if the attraction is there it will take care of itself. at some point, ask her if she'd like to get together soon. sort of like making a new friend, only you want to put your hoo-hoo-dilly in her cha-cha. edit: well done young man. well done. __________________ You don't love me, you just love my piggy style

11-25-2007, 03:54 PM	#14 (permalink)
eribrav Junkie Location: upstate NY	We're rooting for you. Will await an update next weekend.

11-25-2007, 04:25 PM	#16 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	eribrav: Thanks. I'm hoping for the best! Ustwo: Yes. __________________ Having Girl Problems?

12-01-2007, 07:02 PM	#19 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	Woo! Update time! Me and this girl went to a gallery and looked at art for awhile. Actually we were there for about 20 mins. The place closes early on weekends. Afterwards it was time for some coffee. We just chatted and enjoyed each others company. Things were going well. We were both busy later so we called it a night. She told me she enjoyed herself andencouraged me to call her again. We hugged and she kissed me. It was cold as fuck outside but she made me melt. I was smiling like an idiot on my drive home. __________________ Having Girl Problems?

12-02-2007, 05:19 AM	#20 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Rock on with your bad self.

12-02-2007, 07:12 PM	#21 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	Awesome date! Sounds like you're on the right track. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

12-05-2007, 08:32 AM	#23 (permalink)
hrandani Insane	Ustwo is just jesus on decaf.