I feel like my life is over
 

I am 26 years old , it's 7 am here, I just arrived home from a party. I feel really empty, I don't know why. I have the feeling that my life has ended somehow, I miss the times when no money were needed for having fun. Maybe I just become an adult at 26 :) What am I going to do now : job , sleep, job, sleep, die ? :(

That's life. It gets better.

Set yourself up to do something that you know will be an extremely difficult challenge, then do it. The more difficult it is, the more alive you'll feel.

I completely felt in a rut until I sold my business, sold my house, and set out to make a new life in a new town. I may be broke and struggling, but I'm definitely not in a rut any longer, and I can honestly say that I wasn't really experiencing life until now.

life isn't all slave save die.
You just have to find out what makes life worth living for you.
Go out there and explore the world.

A book that was really inspirational to me was: the 4-hour work week. By Tim Ferriss (http://fourhourworkweek.com/). For both the business side of things, but more importantly, the LIFE side of things. There are far too many things out there to enjoy.

Me? - I'm a weird case because I've actually broken away from the whole 9-5 work gig, and technically have no need to work again, but still felt a feeling of emptiness and longing for a reason to exist. I'm still recovering from the "depressing" feelings, but it's the simple things in life now that bring me the most joy. A kiss and a smile from my wife. Riding a motorcycle in perfect weather. Watching puppies jump around and play. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy "winning" in business and becoming more successful, but there's more to life than just money. Besides, two out of the three things I mentioned don't require much money to accomplish :)

Thanks for the replies ,I feel better now, just a strange feeling of being very awake I had this morning :) Yes, life isn't over :)

If I may add, perhaps its because at 26 you just don't get the same joy of going to parties anymore? I do not know anything about you and do not presume to but perhaps its time that you try new things? Ever go on a float trip? Their lots of fun. Mountain biking, snow skiing.. jogging? Art? Looking at or making your own. If you feel like I am sterotyping you ( I feel like I am for some reason) then I am sorry but the key word for me there was "party". I am only 23 and I grew old of parties several years ago... and didn't really start going to any untill I was out of high school but in my experience I was never inspired to do great things at a party.

Yeah, you're moving out of one phase (I'd imagine) and into another. Learn what the phase is about and enjoy it.

yes, I found that the phase that ended with my late twenties was quite detailed, both in experience and in my memories. Yet, the entire decade of my 30's sped by in a great blur. I can barely remember specific events, like I can in my teens & twenties.

I believe that at that point life takes on a frenetic pace as career starts, marriages occur, families start, you need to save.. save.. save for home, kids & retirement.

partying is the last thing I wanted to do, or remember.

Now nearing the end of my 40's, I truly enjoy a quiet cup of coffee on a picnic table in the mild sunshine. I used to think those old guys that did that were boring.

I get like that sometimes. I have a sort of escapist solution really -- I find a cause to believe in and dedicate myself to it until I feel marginally better or something weird happens. I figure if I'm going to be miserable anyway, I might as well do something that helps other people. Everyone thinks I'm all kind and stuff because I help so many people and work on so many projects, but really, I'm just not mature enough to deal with my own lonliness and early-life crisis(es). Helping other people is like a momentary relief from dealing with stuff. It doesn't really help in the longrun, but it's something to do and beats some of the alternative troubles I could get myself into... I recommend it.

Wait, you feel empty, and there are people out there that invite you to parties?! I don't get invited to those.

So trust me, you're doing better than a lot of people out there :thumbsup:

What you are going to do now is wake up tomorrow and enjoy it like there is no greater gift you could be given in this world! Tomorrow... 8/18/2007... your one chance in a life time to enjoy that day ... take advantagee of it. It will be gone before you know it!

Or it gets worse. Or it gets better... then worse... then better, again. Or, in some cases, it's pretty much a continuous and uneventful mediocrity. But eventually, in all cases, it does get worse... and then you die.

The great thing about life is that its your's; you can do whatever you want with it.



The day you accept that there are things which are unattainable, places you can't visit, or a goal which you cannot reach is the day your life is over. Not a moment sooner. The trick is that despair doesn't have to remain. You can also control your thoughts and the directions they'll take you.

Take the time to sit down and seriously consider what it is you enjoy. Focus on that, and turn your life in the direction you want it to go. Knowing how you'll acheive those things is unecissary, just stay focused on what you want in life.

Wow, you sound like me quite a bit. I've literally ruined my credit and put myself deep in debt just to keep friends, and more specifically, a girl around, but I have so much anxiety over finances now that I wonder if I would rather be alone and yet financially stable.

Parties can be depressing if you leave them wondering why everyone else was so happy and you weren't. I've felt that way before.

...and yes, sometimes the simple joys in life are the more contemporary. I remember living with my parents and younger brother. I lived with them until I was 23. I never had a girlfriend (still don't, but I have partied), never went out, and never had any friends. All I did was buy stuff......... but I remember simple, subtle things like just hanging out with the family (when we weren't arguing), running around in the backyard with the dogs (five), and just chatting with my bro (even though he is 8 years younger than me), on anything and everything. In the past year I've done a lot of treacherous things, things I wanted to do when I couldn't do them, but now with an empty wallet, lots of debt, lots of drama with (former) friends, and having to worry constantly about a girl who will never permanently be mine, I'm ready to just go back to simplicity.