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McFrosticles · 05-30-2007, 07:51 PM

So my girlfriend of 3 months confessed today that she is still bulimic.

Now, when we first started dating, I knew she WAS a bulimic, but I understood it was over.

Well apparently not. Turns out she did it a few weeks ago. She does not do it very often, in fact usually in large week / month periods. I told her that I was not angry, but I was upset because she is a great person and it upsets me that she has this problem.

I really care about her and I hope I can help her get over this problem. Not only that, she is feeling a little down in the dumps lately (weight, skin problems, problems at work). It all seems to be bearing down on her at the same time.

Any suggestions? Words can only do so much.

Willravel · 05-30-2007, 08:07 PM

I would simply tell her that you love her and want to help in any way you can. If I were in your shoes, a therapist would be a great place to start. If she doesn't like therapists, I usually tell people, "If you feel sick, then you go to a doctor, right? Then it makes sense to see a psychologist to make sure you're healthy."

Stress relief is also something that might help. Meditating is something you can do together. Taking long walks together would be nice. Just finding some way to let the stress of the day drain out and get some peace.

Best of luck!

Sultana · 05-31-2007, 06:57 AM

I don't have much to contribute, but isn't three months a little soon to tell someone that you love them? Even to be supportive and all?

But yes, push the therapist. You are not trained to deal with these kind of issues, and you shouldn't be put into that kind of a role.

lankrypt0 · 05-31-2007, 07:10 AM

Agree with Sultatna, a therapist is the best bet in this situation. While you don't have to tell her you love her, just let her know that no matter what, you will be there for whatever help/support she needs, even if its just to talk or hold her.

shesus · 05-31-2007, 02:46 PM

Definitely therapy or even a nutritionist.

A friend of mine is bulemic and he calls it his 'secret trick'. It is definitely a mental think and needs to be dealt with by a professional. It is something that she will probably always have to deal with in her life. My friend goes to a therapist and a nutritionist and then uses us to try 'practice' how to eat small portions.

It's a horrible thing to watch and puts the people who care in a helpless position.

05-30-2007, 07:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
McFrosticles Tilted	Dealing with bulimia So my girlfriend of 3 months confessed today that she is still bulimic. Now, when we first started dating, I knew she WAS a bulimic, but I understood it was over. Well apparently not. Turns out she did it a few weeks ago. She does not do it very often, in fact usually in large week / month periods. I told her that I was not angry, but I was upset because she is a great person and it upsets me that she has this problem. I really care about her and I hope I can help her get over this problem. Not only that, she is feeling a little down in the dumps lately (weight, skin problems, problems at work). It all seems to be bearing down on her at the same time. Any suggestions? Words can only do so much. __________________ Good Grief

05-31-2007, 06:57 AM	#3 (permalink)
Sultana Falling Angel Location: L.A. L.A. land	I don't have much to contribute, but isn't three months a little soon to tell someone that you love them? Even to be supportive and all? But yes, push the therapist. You are not trained to deal with these kind of issues, and you shouldn't be put into that kind of a role. __________________ "Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." - Matt Groening My goal? To fulfill my potential.

05-31-2007, 02:46 PM	#5 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	Definitely therapy or even a nutritionist. A friend of mine is bulemic and he calls it his 'secret trick'. It is definitely a mental think and needs to be dealt with by a professional. It is something that she will probably always have to deal with in her life. My friend goes to a therapist and a nutritionist and then uses us to try 'practice' how to eat small portions. It's a horrible thing to watch and puts the people who care in a helpless position. __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company

05-30-2007, 08:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	I would simply tell her that you love her and want to help in any way you can. If I were in your shoes, a therapist would be a great place to start. If she doesn't like therapists, I usually tell people, "If you feel sick, then you go to a doctor, right? Then it makes sense to see a psychologist to make sure you're healthy." Stress relief is also something that might help. Meditating is something you can do together. Taking long walks together would be nice. Just finding some way to let the stress of the day drain out and get some peace. Best of luck!

05-31-2007, 07:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
lankrypt0 Crazy Location: Aberdeen, NJ	Agree with Sultatna, a therapist is the best bet in this situation. While you don't have to tell her you love her, just let her know that no matter what, you will be there for whatever help/support she needs, even if its just to talk or hold her.