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little_tippler · 01-23-2007, 05:23 AM

I'm 26 but here goes:

Be more determined about what you want

Don't be scared of rejection

Don't let others make you think you're not good enough

Don't sacrifice everything for someone who sacrifices nothing for you

In conflicts always keep your calm but don't be afraid to speak up

Be more dedicated and try harder for the things you love

Actions speak volumes louder than words

A person's appearance says next to nothing about who they are - don't trust 1st impressions

No matter what, always have dignity, be honest, and be your own person.

Halx · 01-23-2007, 06:31 AM

I'm on board with tippler... pretty much general advice that we as young people don't really know is REAL.

JustJess · 01-23-2007, 06:45 AM

Don't take Theater 351 in your freshman year, it's not going to do you any good.
You aren't actually invincible, and if you go on, you're going to have so much more explaining to do later... which is awkward and annoying.
Don't "date" your brother's friends. Ever.
The truth will set you free - it's not just a cliche, people.

Those would be minor changes that would increase my mental healthiness... but still leave me being who I am. If I were to go crazy with this, I'd consider advising science and math courses in college, but probably not.

Going to the extreme.... I would tell my 5-year-old self to be Really Stubborn and Insistent that Daddy go to the doctor a lot for colonoscopies for the next 2 years. Really Really Really. Mom raised us to be opinionated.... I would have advised myself to be as opinionated as my 5-yr-old self could be... which was a LOT. But I would not be me now. I would not have gone into theater, I would not have met Q, I would not be me. I don't know what the value of that trade off would be, since my family would have been happier, healthier, more stable. But I am often happy with who I am, and I love my husband, and I am a strong person now. So I dunno.

Demeter · 01-25-2007, 09:37 AM

I'm not 35, and for all it's worth...my advice to me...

- They might know you better than you know yourself. Don't underestimate their wisdom.

- get therapy if you have to, but damn it, learn to love yourself. It's the undiagnosed depression that's talking crap about you.

- work your ass off & find a way to make law school happen. Do it.

- He'll mellow in later years and you'll actually learn to love him.

- What you are doing right now will come back and rip your heart right from your chest...many many times over.

hunnychile · 01-25-2007, 04:18 PM

- Spend more time reading books instead of watching mindless TV.

- Remember how important it is to make a good first impression.

- Never say "Never".

- Nothing is impossible.

- Always use sunscreen

shalafi · 01-26-2007, 10:12 AM

Go to the gym you fat bastard.

Go ahead and ask her out. If she says no your no worse off than not asking her.

Quit choking down Cuervo just because your friends claim to like it! Go buy some Patron moron.

Don't sell that bike. You'll miss it later.

Its alot cheaper if you don't wait 8 years between going to the dentist.

soundmotor · 01-26-2007, 12:49 PM

double post

soundmotor · 01-26-2007, 12:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Philangicality

Im 23 years old, and in my fifth year of uni. I want to hear some advice from the older folk as to what advice you would give yourself when you were my age; or anyone for that matter that you think is important. Anything from women,work,travel,life,money,drugs etc. Thanks

Start my own business sooner & before marriage & kids. When you are single you have nothing to lose. When you are married, your decisions must factor the impact on your family. I'm not saying you cannot found a great business after you are married & childed, but you might miss out on something crazy, wild-assed, & spectacular in a direction you would have never looked if you are.

hagatha · 01-28-2007, 09:38 AM

You will have a life altering experience when you are 41. I won't tell you what, because that will ruin it, it will hurt like hell but the lesson needed to be learned.
That is all.

Impetuous1 · 01-28-2007, 03:20 PM

Some of these are things that apply to me today and others go back several years. I'm 31 BTW, if it matters....

Stop being so uptight.

Respect yourself and don't try to change those who don't respect you. Just walk away and don't get tangled up in their mess.

Love yourself.

You don't have to isolate yourself and be fearful of trusting others.

Tell someone. Keeping it inside will just hurt you more.

Trust your own judgement. Indecision is just stagnation.

You don't have to go to college immediately after high school. You can go backpacking across europe. You'll regret not doing it later.

Pick one major and stick with it. You can always change your mind after you have the degree. Don't rule out community college.

Keep in touch with those you love and who love you.

It's okay to ask for help. You don't have to go it alone or try to be so strong.

Stop being so self conscious. Lots of people are worried about their image too.

You can't force someone to do the right thing.

For God's sake, quit hanging on to that junky ass car just because you like the way it rides! It'll put you several thousand dollars in debt and will take you years to pay off. Not to mention missing work because of it's craptacular unreliability.

Just remembered a very good one.

If it's too hard, it's probably not meant to be.

jbw97361 · 01-28-2007, 06:23 PM

For myself: Don't even bother with college, after three years and 30,000 in tuition (not dorm) debt from a public four year university, you'll have nothing to show for it.

Don't do things just to meet the expectations that other people have for you.

insidious_machinae · 02-04-2007, 06:14 AM

Stay away from Jessica. Stop letting women walk all over you. Don't settle for the best you *think* you can get.

Suzz04 · 02-04-2007, 09:22 AM

I had to do alot of thinking on this one. And I do mean alot. There are alot of things that I have now that I wouldn't have because of my mistakes. I'm 30 now and here's what I would tell my 20 year old self.

You are bipolar. You will have along time in figuring this out. No matter what you try once you find out you are, nothing will work other than medicine. Get this started and life will be alot less stressful with the constant maniac/depress swings. (and i do mean constant by 2-4 episodes in a month)

Don't run away. Tell mom and dad you're leaving. Do the marriage... have the kid.. then get out. Don't let him talk you into waiting til after Christmas to leave. Do it right then in October, not January.

Don't date Marty. Nothing good came of it. And at then end he was dangerous when you spend 6 months trying to get it through to him that you don't want to be dating anymore. But, you might have to do this anyway to get to the next step in life.

Do go back to college the second time. If you don't you'll not have met Bill. You'll spend 5 years with him. And you'll learn some very hard lessons. At the end don't let your "best friend" move in with you. That's what killed the relationship even with the "open" relationship going on. He will completely ingore you at that point when she moves in and you'll have a nervous breakdown and kick them both out of your lives.

Be strong. You'll face going to the hospital to get help after you've tried commiting suicide. You'll find peace while you're there. They will help you beyond what you think they can. Trust in the Pysch. He knows exactly how to help us and has.

To my future self, I have no idea what's to come right now. I'm slowly rebuilding my own life and trying to live MY life while helping my daughter live hers. I won't dare attempt a relationship for a least a year so I can make sure that I am confident in myself as well as have myself under control and know who I really am.

One day in 5 years...10 ... I'll come back and read this and realize that I just might have been on to something with staying relationship free til I'm ready to go again.

match000 · 02-08-2007, 12:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bill O'Rights

Keep focused on the "big" picture. That stuff that you think is so important? It's not. It's just a bunch of small distractions that'll work themselves out.

so u mean girls will magically work themselves out with me? great!

CookieCutter · 02-08-2007, 11:50 AM

I'm 23 and also in my 5th year of college...I would tell my younger self to be confident. There are many times I look back on that I wish I would have stood up, spoken up, anything. Instead I sat back, shutup, and let people walk all over me.

I'm glad I'm a stronger person now

desal75 · 02-14-2007, 02:46 PM

Invest in Google!!

No seriously. Sometimes I think about how much easier my life would have been had I used protection and not had a son at 18. I think of going away to college, having a more normal early adulthood. Being more financially secure because of it, leaving the area in which I have always lived to experience the world a little more. Basically all of the things that you kind of give up when you become a father very early.

Then, I think of how different my life would be in so many negative ways. Number one being not having an 11 year old son who is, and always will be, my best friend on Earth.

soniclifemonkey · 02-18-2007, 06:39 PM

As far as money goes, some cousin or old chum is going to give you a call and want to sell you some life insureance. Tell him to fuck off. DO NOT buy a stupid fucking whole life insurance contract. Some term will do AFTER you have a wife and kids. And start putting some money away for retirement as soon as you can/

Even with that just make those mistakes and live with them. Even when you are 80 there are still things you are not going to know. If I'm 100 what would I tell my 80 year old self? You will never know it all.

Knowing this when you are young could be helpful: Being at peace, is the meaning of life.

Of course you will spend the rest of you life defining peace.

01-23-2007, 05:23 AM	#41 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	I'm 26 but here goes: Be more determined about what you want Don't be scared of rejection Don't let others make you think you're not good enough Don't sacrifice everything for someone who sacrifices nothing for you In conflicts always keep your calm but don't be afraid to speak up Be more dedicated and try harder for the things you love Actions speak volumes louder than words A person's appearance says next to nothing about who they are - don't trust 1st impressions No matter what, always have dignity, be honest, and be your own person. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

01-23-2007, 06:31 AM	#42 (permalink)
Halx Please touch this. Owner/Admin Location: Manhattan	I'm on board with tippler... pretty much general advice that we as young people don't really know is REAL. __________________ You have found this post informative. -The Administrator [Don't Feed The Animals]

01-23-2007, 06:45 AM	#43 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	Don't take Theater 351 in your freshman year, it's not going to do you any good. You aren't actually invincible, and if you go on, you're going to have so much more explaining to do later... which is awkward and annoying. Don't "date" your brother's friends. Ever. The truth will set you free - it's not just a cliche, people. Those would be minor changes that would increase my mental healthiness... but still leave me being who I am. If I were to go crazy with this, I'd consider advising science and math courses in college, but probably not. Going to the extreme.... I would tell my 5-year-old self to be Really Stubborn and Insistent that Daddy go to the doctor a lot for colonoscopies for the next 2 years. Really Really Really. Mom raised us to be opinionated.... I would have advised myself to be as opinionated as my 5-yr-old self could be... which was a LOT. But I would not be me now. I would not have gone into theater, I would not have met Q, I would not be me. I don't know what the value of that trade off would be, since my family would have been happier, healthier, more stable. But I am often happy with who I am, and I love my husband, and I am a strong person now. So I dunno. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.

01-25-2007, 09:37 AM	#44 (permalink)
Demeter Psycho	I'm not 35, and for all it's worth...my advice to me... - They might know you better than you know yourself. Don't underestimate their wisdom. - get therapy if you have to, but damn it, learn to love yourself. It's the undiagnosed depression that's talking crap about you. - work your ass off & find a way to make law school happen. Do it. - He'll mellow in later years and you'll actually learn to love him. - What you are doing right now will come back and rip your heart right from your chest...many many times over. __________________ I am not bound to please thee with my answers. William Shakespeare

01-25-2007, 04:18 PM	#45 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	- Spend more time reading books instead of watching mindless TV. - Remember how important it is to make a good first impression. - Never say "Never". - Nothing is impossible. - Always use sunscreen __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB

01-26-2007, 10:12 AM	#46 (permalink)
shalafi ARRRRRRRRRR Location: Stuart, Florida	Go to the gym you fat bastard. Go ahead and ask her out. If she says no your no worse off than not asking her. Quit choking down Cuervo just because your friends claim to like it! Go buy some Patron moron. Don't sell that bike. You'll miss it later. Its alot cheaper if you don't wait 8 years between going to the dentist.

01-26-2007, 12:49 PM	#47 (permalink)
soundmotor Crazy Location: Near & There	double post

01-28-2007, 09:38 AM	#49 (permalink)
hagatha Addict	You will have a life altering experience when you are 41. I won't tell you what, because that will ruin it, it will hurt like hell but the lesson needed to be learned. That is all. __________________ Thats the last time I trust the strangest people I ever met....H. Simpson

01-28-2007, 03:20 PM	#50 (permalink)
Impetuous1 Insane Location: Arizona	Some of these are things that apply to me today and others go back several years. I'm 31 BTW, if it matters.... Stop being so uptight. Respect yourself and don't try to change those who don't respect you. Just walk away and don't get tangled up in their mess. Love yourself. You don't have to isolate yourself and be fearful of trusting others. Tell someone. Keeping it inside will just hurt you more. Trust your own judgement. Indecision is just stagnation. You don't have to go to college immediately after high school. You can go backpacking across europe. You'll regret not doing it later. Pick one major and stick with it. You can always change your mind after you have the degree. Don't rule out community college. Keep in touch with those you love and who love you. It's okay to ask for help. You don't have to go it alone or try to be so strong. Stop being so self conscious. Lots of people are worried about their image too. You can't force someone to do the right thing. For God's sake, quit hanging on to that junky ass car just because you like the way it rides! It'll put you several thousand dollars in debt and will take you years to pay off. Not to mention missing work because of it's craptacular unreliability. Just remembered a very good one. If it's too hard, it's probably not meant to be. Last edited by Impetuous1; 01-28-2007 at 03:42 PM..

01-28-2007, 06:23 PM	#51 (permalink)
jbw97361 Tilted	For myself: Don't even bother with college, after three years and 30,000 in tuition (not dorm) debt from a public four year university, you'll have nothing to show for it. Don't do things just to meet the expectations that other people have for you. __________________ JBW

02-04-2007, 06:14 AM	#52 (permalink)
insidious_machinae Psycho	Stay away from Jessica. Stop letting women walk all over you. Don't settle for the best you think you can get.

02-04-2007, 09:22 AM	#53 (permalink)
Suzz04 Crazy Location: Virginia	I had to do alot of thinking on this one. And I do mean alot. There are alot of things that I have now that I wouldn't have because of my mistakes. I'm 30 now and here's what I would tell my 20 year old self. You are bipolar. You will have along time in figuring this out. No matter what you try once you find out you are, nothing will work other than medicine. Get this started and life will be alot less stressful with the constant maniac/depress swings. (and i do mean constant by 2-4 episodes in a month) Don't run away. Tell mom and dad you're leaving. Do the marriage... have the kid.. then get out. Don't let him talk you into waiting til after Christmas to leave. Do it right then in October, not January. Don't date Marty. Nothing good came of it. And at then end he was dangerous when you spend 6 months trying to get it through to him that you don't want to be dating anymore. But, you might have to do this anyway to get to the next step in life. Do go back to college the second time. If you don't you'll not have met Bill. You'll spend 5 years with him. And you'll learn some very hard lessons. At the end don't let your "best friend" move in with you. That's what killed the relationship even with the "open" relationship going on. He will completely ingore you at that point when she moves in and you'll have a nervous breakdown and kick them both out of your lives. Be strong. You'll face going to the hospital to get help after you've tried commiting suicide. You'll find peace while you're there. They will help you beyond what you think they can. Trust in the Pysch. He knows exactly how to help us and has. To my future self, I have no idea what's to come right now. I'm slowly rebuilding my own life and trying to live MY life while helping my daughter live hers. I won't dare attempt a relationship for a least a year so I can make sure that I am confident in myself as well as have myself under control and know who I really am. One day in 5 years...10 ... I'll come back and read this and realize that I just might have been on to something with staying relationship free til I'm ready to go again. __________________ Quantum Cat Theory: Upon hearing the sound of a can being opened, it becomes possible for a cat to travel faster than the speed of light.

02-08-2007, 11:50 AM	#55 (permalink)
CookieCutter Upright	I'm 23 and also in my 5th year of college...I would tell my younger self to be confident. There are many times I look back on that I wish I would have stood up, spoken up, anything. Instead I sat back, shutup, and let people walk all over me. I'm glad I'm a stronger person now

02-14-2007, 02:46 PM	#56 (permalink)
desal75 Psycho Location: Western New York	Invest in Google!! No seriously. Sometimes I think about how much easier my life would have been had I used protection and not had a son at 18. I think of going away to college, having a more normal early adulthood. Being more financially secure because of it, leaving the area in which I have always lived to experience the world a little more. Basically all of the things that you kind of give up when you become a father very early. Then, I think of how different my life would be in so many negative ways. Number one being not having an 11 year old son who is, and always will be, my best friend on Earth. __________________ The Man in Black fled across the desert and the Gunslinger followed.

02-18-2007, 06:39 PM	#57 (permalink)
soniclifemonkey Upright Location: Boston	As far as money goes, some cousin or old chum is going to give you a call and want to sell you some life insureance. Tell him to fuck off. DO NOT buy a stupid fucking whole life insurance contract. Some term will do AFTER you have a wife and kids. And start putting some money away for retirement as soon as you can/ Even with that just make those mistakes and live with them. Even when you are 80 there are still things you are not going to know. If I'm 100 what would I tell my 80 year old self? You will never know it all. Knowing this when you are young could be helpful: Being at peace, is the meaning of life. Of course you will spend the rest of you life defining peace.