abaya

Given that I'm in a long-distance relationship, getting myself off is a regular thing (most often with a vibe-dildo combo). Now, I know we girls are supposed to pee after intercourse with a man, but what if I am having intercourse with a sizeable dildo? Since they are close to the same size, I am guessing the dangers of a UTI are similar. But should I also get up to pee afterwards, or can I just go to sleep without worrying about my urinary tract? Thanks, ladies!

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ShaniFaye

I dont know about anyone else, but orgasms always make me have to pee anyway....no matter how I acheived it

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cellophanedeity

I didn't even know that you were supposed to pee after intercourse. I mean, I can see how it would help clean up everything, especially if the guy orgasmed inside of you, but I don't usually.

If it would make you feel better, then pee. Or, if you have a history of UTIs, then you may want to pee just in case.

Sage

I pee when I use a dildo (same as after intercourse- I get UTI's if I don't) but if I just use my fingers then I don't. You could either *not* pee and perhaps get a UTI, or pee and definitely not get one. Just remember to keep that dildo clean by washing it before and after using!!

On another note, what causes UTIs (according to my microbiologist friend) is bacteria from the rectal area getting pushed up into the urethra. So, if you're just out of the shower, chances are slim that you'd get one if you didn't pee. But otherwise, it's a real possibility.

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Sweetpea

I have a history of UTI's so i always pee afterwards, even if i'm out of the shower, since my tract is really sensitive.

So yes, i would have to agree with sage... just fingering, don't worry about it. But using a dildo or vibe, then do.



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It's not just bacteria from the anus but rather a bruising/irritation of the urethra from the bumping and rubbing on it through the vagina. Rough sex or being rough with the dildo could cause irritation. If you are holding urine in your bladder then any germs that get into the urethra, combined with the irritation can cause your body to be more susceptible to a UTI.

If I were using clean hands only and no dildo I would not worry about it. I'm not terribly prone to UTI's and there are times when I don't pee right after. BUT I almost always do pee after I masterbate and of course after I have sex because I've gotten them enough to want to avoid it.

If you are one of those people who have never had a UTI then you are not as prone to it. If your dildo is clean I wouldn't be as anxious about having to go.

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I agree with the other ladies here, the risks are pretty much the same, so it doesn't hurt to pee. It only takes a minute, why risk the chance of a UTI?

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abaya

Thanks, ladies. You're all right, I should be peeing after masturbating. I just get so sleepy and cozy in bed, so it's hard to motivate myself to go to the bathroom. I've also never had a UTI, to my knowledge, so I guess I am less paranoid. But good to know all this stuff.

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rlynnm

Definitely pee afterwards, just in case.

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....that and it is a nice relief after a good romp with yourself in the sheets!

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cellophanedeity

I had a request to post this from a lovely guy on the tfp.

"If you can be bothered, I just wanted to add to the "Peeing after Masturbation" thread, that you ladies should feel lucky you can pee after masturbating. For guys, peeing after sex/masturbation is just asking for trouble and spraying everywhere."

abaya

Huh? I thought almost all guys HAD to pee after sex/masturbation... that there is just an overwhelming urge after cumming. For me, I never have that urge... that's why I wondered if I had to do it after masturbation.

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abaya

Well, here's some feedback from a male TFPer in response to my last post (sorry took so long to post it, I've been busy this weekend!):

"I never feel the urge. and if one is still erect, it is a recipe for disaster anyways.

but it has not been an issue for me. So to answer your thought, no guys do not have to do this..."

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Babes

I always pee. Always! I've only had one UTI and I was very little, but I remember how uncomfortable it was for me. Maybe I was just a wimpy little kid, but I remember it enough to do eveything within my power to avoid infection. It's not a big deal for me, though, because an orgasm makes me feel the need to pee.

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Gilda

I always pee as a part of the cleanup after sex. It just makes me feel cleaner.

I'm glad I saw this. I thought getting an urgent need to urinate after an orgasm made me a little wierd.

For what it's worth, as a part of her maintenance routine, Sissy has to pee and disinfect after every time she dilates, which is a considerably more gentle process than masturbation.

Gilda

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abaya

Gilda, can I ask what dilating is?...

Also, a comment from a male TFPer on the topic of peeing after sex:

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Gilda

Sorry, sometimes I forget that this is outside most people's store of knowledge.

The new vaginal cavity is created by the surgeon and initially packed with cotton and sewn shut. After about a week, the packing is removed and dilation is begun. The body treats the new vaginal canal like a wound, and tries to close it up if it isn't periodically stretched with dilators, or smooth plastic stents, which look like this:



The patient starts with the smallest one, putting a lubricant on it and inserting it into her new vagina, holding it in place with slight pressure for a set period of time, about two hours a day for ther first couple of weeks, gradually building up to the larger stents and dilating less often over a period of months as the vaginal canal becomes stretched out better, the patient learns to relax her muscles, and the body becomes accustomed to its new organ. It eventually gets to the point where the patient only has to dilate for a short period of time every couple of weeks to maintain depth and volume, and that can even be a bit lessened a bit if she's dilating naturally through intercourse or masturbating with a large enough dildo, though some kind of formal dilation is required for life, even with regular sexual activity. Otherwise, she risks loss of depth, volume, elasticity, or even collapse.

It's especially important the first few four or five months while she's still healing. An MTF doesn't have periods of the same sort we get, but she does go through a healing period during which her newly formed vagina is discharging a pus-like fluid and bits of tissue daily for quite some time. We like to joke with Sissy that she got to have her entire life's worth of periods all jammed together into one five-month long megaperiod instead of spread out four days a month for thirty-some years.

Out of curiosity, we figured it out for comparison, and we menstruate for about four to five years of our lives.

A vagina is definitely a high maintenance organ, whether natural or surgically created.

Here are two links with detailed instructions (the second is NSFW):

http://www.tsroadmap.com/physical/va.../dilation.html
http://www.intelleng.com/zen.html

And here's a picture of a patient being dilated (so not safe for work that it defies description) The end of the ruler there indicates where the tip of the dilator, and thus, the end of the vaginal canal is:

http://www.supornclinic.com/HTML/SRS..._25_17.8cm.jpg

The best SRS surgeons (like Dr. Suporn, whose site I've linked to), can give their patients more vaginal depth than most genetic women have, unlike the miserably shallow results of the earliest successful surgeries in the 1950's.

Gilda

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abaya

Another comment from a male TFP'er on this topic:

I can only say that my bf ALWAYS has to pee after coming, whether through masturbation, intercourse, or oral. As for me, I almost never have to... I mean, I do lose some feeling in my legs (or rather, I just feel EVERYthing!) but I never have the urge to pee. The only reason I make myself do it is to protect from those lovely UTI's.

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Gilda

I don't know about common, but both of those certainly describe me.

Gilda

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abaya

Gilda--a sidenote (hopefully not threadjack, of my own thread!) to thank you for your previous post on this thread (about Sissy's dilating). I found the websites to be very educational about a topic that I have heard very little about. I was amazed to see how many SRS's had taken place in Thailand... but then again, having been there, I know that MTF's are quite visible and supported by the community. So it makes sense.

I went through Dr. Suporn's website and read many of the testimonials... amazing stuff. So thank you for your candid response!

/and now back to peeing after masturbation, et. al.

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sunkssd

I always get the urge to pee after sex or masturbation, but not because of risk of an UTI. I've never had one, so I guess I should be lucky.

Nienna

its intresting, but when i was single and masturbated frequently, i got more UTI's back then as opposed to now that i have sex with my bf.

and heres a related question. i don't know if this is common or not, but what about peeing during intercourse?? sometimes i feel the urge to pee during sex with my bf but i hold it back and therefore loose my O (orgasm). and on one occasion during sex i did pee (not much) and it freaked me out. ever since then i pee before and after sex if i have to. but is this what they call the "golden shower"?? is that normal?? and if so why does that happen??

and to be honest, ive been too ashamed to ask my gyn. should i bother asking if theres a problem??

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Gilda

It would be a good idea to ask your gynecologist. They've heard all kinds of foolish questions, but this definitely isn't one of them, and it's better to be informed about your body than not.

However, what you're describing sounds like you may be on the verge of a g-spot orgasm, which produces what feels like an urgent need to urinate. The urge to pee is the release trigger for the orgasm in this case, and it may not actually be an "urge to pee", but the pre-release sensation for the female ejaculation that often accompanies a g-spot orgasm. You may have to just let it go once or twice and see what happens.

This might help you understand what I'm talking about.

There is a flaw here, though. To find your own g-spot, you insert your fingers palm down, not up. A partner would be doing it palm up.

Gilda

Nienna

intresting.....

no wonder sex with him is amazing. lol....they really are the most intense O's i have ever experienced during my whole sex life....

good to know thanks Gilda!

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CaliLivChick

Oh, you would know if you had a UTI... the constant feeling of having to pee, but then when you do pee, only very little comes out, and you still feel like you have to pee... and it HURTS!

I have had so many UTIs that I got to the point where I asked my GYN what I could do about it, and she gave me a prescription for the antibiotic to take whenever I have sex (or even masturbate... the vaginal fluids have bacteria that can also cause a UTI), just in case, and firm orders to pee after. I also get either Azo or Uristat (they work the same, just depends on what's in the store) over the counter, and take that if I feel something coming on. Those help the having to go pee feeling. I also take the Azo/Uristat when I'm going out drinking, because once you break the seal, it's all over... this way, you don't have to go pee until you get home. =)