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Gilda · 05-22-2005, 04:02 PM

This sprung from a thread I started in Coming Together about what it means to "be a man", and how that's different from being a woman. Part of my presumption is that women are less offended by being referred to as "girls" than are men being referred to as "boys".

So here it is, how much does it bother you to be called a "girl"? In your response, it would be helpful if you listed your age, as I suspect this is at least somewhat age related. Please pick the choice that most closely matches how you feel most of the time.

I'm 28, and I voted not at all. Grace, 24, had she been voting would have voted very little, and my sister, 19, said there should be an option for, "I prefer being called a girl; the word "woman" makes me feel old."

Grasshopper Green · 05-22-2005, 04:12 PM

I'm 27, and while I notice it when people call me a girl, it doesn't bother me one bit.

ngdawg · 05-22-2005, 04:17 PM

I've been called worse.....

maleficent · 05-22-2005, 04:18 PM

At 40 - I notice - -while I probably wouldn't correct someone - because that would be rude.. it bugs the crap out of me..for the same reason I said in the man topic -- No man at above the age of 18 would stand for being called a boy-- why don't women get the same respect.

We've had this conversation here before --i just cant find the topic...

GIrl to me suggests frivolous and immature and someone who doesn't want to grow up.. Women are people who know who and what they are and are happy with that. Women are sexual beings.. Girls -- well -that's kiddie porn.

I don't get why being called a girl - and why calling another woman a girl is OK... It's not - it's demeaning.. Women should celebrate being women and not settle for anything less.

/me puts on her copy of Helen Reddy's I am Woman Hear Me Roar cd - and well - chooses not to burn her bra

amonkie · 05-22-2005, 04:29 PM

I and a couple of my friends greet each other with a "hey, girl!", and mean it in a casual way. In any other context, referring to someone as a girl is making the statement they're behaving in an immature or childish way. Because of that, I have associated a negative use of girl unless I have created another situation such as the greeting as an exception.

Squishor · 05-22-2005, 04:30 PM

It bothers me. I am 41 but it's bothered me ever since I was 17 or so. It has always felt belittling and kind of like I'm being cut off at the knees, so to speak. Why shouldn't I get credit for my time served here in this life? If I'm a "girl" does that mean I count for less? And, if I am a girl, then what are all these female children?

cierah · 05-22-2005, 05:59 PM

I'm 20 and it bothers me. It also bothers me to be called 'lady' or worse yet 'ma'am'. I'm not young enough to be a girl nor am I old enough to be a lady. I also dislike being called Miss or Mrs. I prefer Ms. - only because Ms. should be like Mr. and be universal regardless of age or maritial status. Yes. I prefer Ms. I really hate it when ppl my age with kids tell their kids to 'watch out for the lady'. That makes me feel very old.

Seeker · 05-22-2005, 06:26 PM

I need to find the 'woman' in me.. this has only just come as a realisation for me today.. after reading the man thread..

I have some work to do!

Supple Cow · 05-22-2005, 07:15 PM

Being upset about a specific word seems pretty silly, but that is not to say I don't notice what word people choose to refer to me. Usually, people who say "girl" mean it in a friendly way as in "she's one of the girls" or when they refer to everyone as "boys" and "girls"... what should bother me about that? I think it's pretty easy to tell when somebody who says it believes that women are inherently inferior. The way they say "girl" opposite "man" and the tone of their voice often belie their condescension.

pinkie · 05-22-2005, 08:54 PM

I like being called a girl and I call my husband my "baby boy" all the time.

SparklingDot · 05-22-2005, 10:04 PM

I'm 20, and I don't mind being called a girl. I even use the word to refer to myself quite often. Biologically, I am female, but that sounds too technical for me. Call me a woman, or a girl, or something connoting my femininity, but don't you dare be condescending about it. Then we'd have a problem.

StormBerlin · 05-22-2005, 10:05 PM

I guess it really depends on the context. I just turned 20 and Mr. Right Now's room mates tease him about dating someone so much younger than him (five years) and I take notice but I don't let it get to me.

fallsauce · 05-23-2005, 12:09 AM

I'm 18, and I think it'd be weirder to call me a lady (really jarring) or woman. Girl is just easier to say thank woman, I think I call everyone who sounds under 25 that.

Nancy · 05-23-2005, 04:38 AM

Not at all. In fact I find it very arrousing for some reason when Loverboy and our fuck buddy call me "lille pige" (=little girl)

JustJess · 05-23-2005, 10:01 AM

I'm 26. I just don't know that I've "earned" the woman title yet. It still sounds weird in my ears. That being said, I think the connotations of the word have shifted from how mal and squishor see it - for a lot of 20-somethings, it's just a casual way to refer to each other rather than a denotation of level/ability/etc. And of course, condescending tones put all bets off.

xxSquirtxx · 05-23-2005, 10:31 AM

I'm 38. I'll take girl over ma'am any day. Unless it's some 16 yo punk talking to me, then he'd better call me ma'am.

maleficent · 05-23-2005, 10:40 AM

ma'am bugs me because even at my advanced age, that is how i would address someone older than I am ...

One of the girls or one of the boys in a casual environment is completely different than in a corporate environment when being referred to as a girl... Sorry, that doesn't fly with me at all... Maybe it's my age, maybe it's because I've been working too long, but dammit, I have earned the title of woman, to me, it is disrespectful to be called a girl - I didn't earn the demotion.

Begin Rant...
For women in their late 20s or older to refer to themselves as girls is a disservice to them -- why not refer to yourselves as a woman - it's what you are- if you don't respect yourself enough to think of yourself that way.. no one else is going to...

cellophanedeity · 05-23-2005, 11:16 AM

I don't mind being called girl. Most of the time I don't even notice, unless it's obviously condicending. Maybe it's because I'm still eighteen, but it doesn't bother me.

Different people call me different things. My mum calls me either woman or girl, but most of my friends calls me a chick. I like chick best, I think, as long as it's friendly.

anti fishstick · 05-23-2005, 03:33 PM

i'm 22 and it bothers me a little just because i think i look younger because of my height and maybe how i dress. i've tried to dress more mature but i don't know if it works for me. but i'm more often called "lady" and not girl or woman. *shrugs*

xxSquirtxx · 05-23-2005, 03:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by maleficent

One of the girls or one of the boys in a casual environment is completely different than in a corporate environment when being referred to as a girl... Sorry, that doesn't fly with me at all... Maybe it's my age, maybe it's because I've been working too long, but dammit, I have earned the title of woman, to me, it is disrespectful to be called a girl - I didn't earn the demotion.

I would agree with that. I'm never in any corporate environment, so I guess I do think of using the term girl as something done among friends. Obviously, I'd never go for being addressed as such in a work environment.

Sweetpea · 05-23-2005, 04:14 PM

I wouldn't mind in the least if everyone called me a girl until i died

I like the term and don't mind it at all. Lady or woman works too . .

Sweetpea

Squishor · 05-23-2005, 04:20 PM

Even in the small office where I work, I notice my boss refers to the women in the front office as "girls" but he refers to me as "my assistant" or "my associate." It shouldn't come as any surprise that he has more respect for my capabilities. I think that's what we're trying to point out here - I don't think he's consciously putting them down every time he calls them girls but there's an attitude at the root of the words he chooses. "Girl" was a common way to refer to grown women before the whole feminist thing happened, and a lot of women had to work very hard to open people's eyes to the ingrained double standards in our world. That the 20-somethings of today just shrug it off as irrelevent kind of rubs salt in the wound (nothing personal to anyone here). Because if anyone thinks that they are regarded as highly as someone who gets acknowledged as a grown-up, think again. You are being diminutized and you'd better stay cute or else you might find there are a whole lot of people who won't like you as much anymore. There is still a wage gap between men and women, a real-life indicator of the underlying attitudes I'm talking about. Here are some quick statistics:

http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0763170.html

maleficent · 05-23-2005, 04:24 PM

said much better than I have been, Squishor... and absolutely correct...

Sweetpea · 05-23-2005, 04:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Squishor

Even in the small office where I work, I notice my boss refers to the women in the front office as "girls" but he refers to me as "my assistant" or "my associate." It shouldn't come as any surprise that he has more respect for my capabilities. I think that's what we're trying to point out here - I don't think he's consciously putting them down every time he calls them girls but there's an attitude at the root of the words he chooses. "Girl" was a common way to refer to grown women before the whole feminist thing happened, and a lot of women had to work very hard to open people's eyes to the ingrained double standards in our world. That the 20-somethings of today just shrug it off as irrelevent kind of rubs salt in the wound (nothing personal to anyone here). Because if anyone thinks that they are regarded as highly as someone who gets acknowledged as a grown-up, think again. You are being diminutized and you'd better stay cute or else you might find there are a whole lot of people who won't like you as much anymore. There is still a wage gap between men and women, a real-life indicator of the underlying attitudes I'm talking about. Here are some quick statistics:

http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0763170.html

Well put. Thanks for opening my eyes.

Sweetpea

Demeter · 05-23-2005, 04:34 PM

I'm over thirty, so I take 'girl' as a compliment.
I doubt anyone would use the term to purposely be insulting, at least most of the time.

Elphaba · 05-23-2005, 04:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by maleficent

ma'am bugs me because even at my advanced age, that is how i would address someone older than I am ...

One of the girls or one of the boys in a casual environment is completely different than in a corporate environment when being referred to as a girl... Sorry, that doesn't fly with me at all... Maybe it's my age, maybe it's because I've been working too long, but dammit, I have earned the title of woman, to me, it is disrespectful to be called a girl - I didn't earn the demotion.

Begin Rant...
For women in their late 20s or older to refer to themselves as girls is a disservice to them -- why not refer to yourselves as a woman - it's what you are- if you don't respect yourself enough to think of yourself that way.. no one else is going to...

The term "girl" has political relevance for anyone over 30 years old. I agree with everyone that pointed out that context matters; I call my mother "girl" when we are being silly together. The term is unacceptable in any other setting that is not between good friends.

Squishor · 05-23-2005, 06:01 PM

I also agree that context makes all the difference in the world.

Disk_Pusher · 05-23-2005, 08:13 PM

I'm 21 and the the words girl, gal, and chick all bother me to the point where yes, I will correct someone.

I have issues with "girls". When I think of a girl I think of all the negetive qualities I see in today's female (age nonwithstanding), especially the fetishism of items. When I think of a woman, I think of a female who has charge of her own life, and isn't defined by her material possesions, someone who is defined by their mind. I don't like being classified as a "girl" - to me it's almost a slur.

I know it's quite silly for me to get so worked up over a few words, and there are certainly better things to get worked up about in the long run but I really can't seem to help but feel strongly on the issue.

onodrim · 05-23-2005, 09:39 PM

I think it really depends on the situation. For example, I went to pick up some keys at a storage facility for my roomate a little while back. I was waiting in the lobby since the woman I needed to talk to was on the phone, and one of her coworkers walked by and said something like "You know there's a girl out here waiting for you right?" In that situation it did bother me because I felt like they were not taking me seriously as someone there to do any business with them.
However, I'm in rehearsals right now for a show, and the music director is a charming and lively man elderly man who is in his 80's. It is just a part of his personality to call the woman's section "girls" as we rehearse, something like "Hey girls, that sounds great!" and for him it works because you know it's just the way he speaks, and probably has been for the past however many years.

Gilda · 05-23-2005, 10:40 PM

I suppose in a corporate setting I can see how it would be an issue of respect. In my job, the women are paid exactly what the men are, and It really matters not at all to me whether the principal or the other teachers call me girl, woman, or lady, so long as they treat me with the respect I've earned. The students know they damn well better call me Miss Nakamura (Students tend do tend to turn all female titles into Miss unless the teacher is picky about it, and making a fuss about having them call me Mrs. would be opening myself up to problems best left alone), or Ma'am, but nothing else.

fallsauce · 05-24-2005, 01:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gilda

The students know they damn well better call me Miss Nakamura (Students tend do tend to turn all female titles into Miss unless the teacher is picky about it, and making a fuss about having them call me Mrs. would be opening myself up to problems best left alone), or Ma'am, but nothing else.

Personally, I pronounce Miss and Ms the same (maybe a little more 'm' in 'Ms'). Just saying that maybe they're using 'Ms', and then you really can't nitpick.

Meditrina · 05-24-2005, 04:40 AM

I am 36, and I said that I would notice but not take offense. Ma'am bothers me more. I am, however, not the kind of person that would say anything to the person calling me ma'am.

SiN · 05-24-2005, 07:03 AM

no, it doesn't really bother me (although like anything, a wrong implication/context could indeed be bothersome) ... and yes, I'm old ... enough

superredhead · 05-24-2005, 07:46 AM

as long as it's not condescending, i don't mind being called a girl at all. actually, at 21 i still get a little shocked when people call me ma'am or mrs since i think i still look like i'm 12.

KinkyKiwi · 05-24-2005, 04:34 PM

i dont mind..i kinda like it actually..but i'm a youngin so ask me when i'm 30

rhaevyn · 05-24-2005, 06:24 PM

I'm 19, and while I notice when people call me a "girl," I don't really mind. Depends on the context, though.

getwonk'd · 05-25-2005, 11:46 AM

It might have bothered me before I had kids, but now I know that I refer to myself as "girl", especially when talking to my kids.

diddagirl · 05-25-2005, 05:36 PM

I cant say it really bothers me to be called a girl. Truthfully i think often times (or most times) I think of myself as a girl. I am only 21, and I really dont feel ready to age myself enough to call me a women. I guess in the words of Britney Spears "I'm not a girl......not yet a women".

Manuel Hong · 05-25-2005, 06:46 PM

I agree that it depends upon the context, but I wouldn't let it bother me in any case. If it was someone I was close to and they were being derogatory, it might piss me off, but that hasn't happened. M'am from a young cute guy would bum me out much more. I'm 36.

fallsauce · 05-25-2005, 10:22 PM

I just want to throw a wrench in here and say that maybe the reason more women than men don't mind being called a girl is because 'girl' can be the equivalent of both 'boy' and 'guy'.

View Poll Results: How much does it bother you to be called a girl?
Not at all; I take little notice of the difference.	32	39.02%
Very little; I might notice, but wouldn't take offense.	28	34.15%
Somewhat; I'd notice and be a little annoyed.	11	13.41%
A lot; I might correct people who do this.	11	13.41%
Voters: 82. You may not vote on this poll

05-22-2005, 04:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	Does it bother you to be called a "girl"? This sprung from a thread I started in Coming Together about what it means to "be a man", and how that's different from being a woman. Part of my presumption is that women are less offended by being referred to as "girls" than are men being referred to as "boys". So here it is, how much does it bother you to be called a "girl"? In your response, it would be helpful if you listed your age, as I suspect this is at least somewhat age related. Please pick the choice that most closely matches how you feel most of the time. I'm 28, and I voted not at all. Grace, 24, had she been voting would have voted very little, and my sister, 19, said there should be an option for, "I prefer being called a girl; the word "woman" makes me feel old." __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert Last edited by Gilda; 05-22-2005 at 04:19 PM.. Reason: Added my vote and commentary.

05-22-2005, 04:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	I'm 27, and while I notice it when people call me a girl, it doesn't bother me one bit. __________________ "They say that patriotism is the last refuge to which a scoundrel clings; steal a little and they throw you in jail, steal a lot and they make you king" Formerly Medusa

05-22-2005, 04:17 PM	#3 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	I've been called worse..... __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.

05-22-2005, 04:18 PM	#4 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	At 40 - I notice - -while I probably wouldn't correct someone - because that would be rude.. it bugs the crap out of me..for the same reason I said in the man topic -- No man at above the age of 18 would stand for being called a boy-- why don't women get the same respect. We've had this conversation here before --i just cant find the topic... GIrl to me suggests frivolous and immature and someone who doesn't want to grow up.. Women are people who know who and what they are and are happy with that. Women are sexual beings.. Girls -- well -that's kiddie porn. I don't get why being called a girl - and why calling another woman a girl is OK... It's not - it's demeaning.. Women should celebrate being women and not settle for anything less. /me puts on her copy of Helen Reddy's I am Woman Hear Me Roar cd - and well - chooses not to burn her bra __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-22-2005, 04:29 PM	#5 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	I and a couple of my friends greet each other with a "hey, girl!", and mean it in a casual way. In any other context, referring to someone as a girl is making the statement they're behaving in an immature or childish way. Because of that, I have associated a negative use of girl unless I have created another situation such as the greeting as an exception. __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

05-22-2005, 04:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	It bothers me. I am 41 but it's bothered me ever since I was 17 or so. It has always felt belittling and kind of like I'm being cut off at the knees, so to speak. Why shouldn't I get credit for my time served here in this life? If I'm a "girl" does that mean I count for less? And, if I am a girl, then what are all these female children?

05-22-2005, 05:59 PM	#7 (permalink)
cierah Crazy Location: Canada	I'm 20 and it bothers me. It also bothers me to be called 'lady' or worse yet 'ma'am'. I'm not young enough to be a girl nor am I old enough to be a lady. I also dislike being called Miss or Mrs. I prefer Ms. - only because Ms. should be like Mr. and be universal regardless of age or maritial status. Yes. I prefer Ms. I really hate it when ppl my age with kids tell their kids to 'watch out for the lady'. That makes me feel very old. __________________ "You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories" -Stainslaw J. Lec

05-22-2005, 06:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
Seeker Getting Clearer Location: with spirit	I need to find the 'woman' in me.. this has only just come as a realisation for me today.. after reading the man thread.. I have some work to do! __________________ *To those who wander but who are not lost...* ~ Knowledge is not something you acquire, it is something you open yourself to.

05-22-2005, 07:15 PM	#9 (permalink)
Supple Cow Americow, the Beautiful Location: Washington, D.C.	Being upset about a specific word seems pretty silly, but that is not to say I don't notice what word people choose to refer to me. Usually, people who say "girl" mean it in a friendly way as in "she's one of the girls" or when they refer to everyone as "boys" and "girls"... what should bother me about that? I think it's pretty easy to tell when somebody who says it believes that women are inherently inferior. The way they say "girl" opposite "man" and the tone of their voice often belie their condescension. __________________ "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." (Michael Jordan)

05-22-2005, 08:54 PM	#10 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	I like being called a girl and I call my husband my "baby boy" all the time.

05-22-2005, 10:04 PM	#11 (permalink)
SparklingDot Insane	I'm 20, and I don't mind being called a girl. I even use the word to refer to myself quite often. Biologically, I am female, but that sounds too technical for me. Call me a woman, or a girl, or something connoting my femininity, but don't you dare be condescending about it. Then we'd have a problem. __________________ 17 seconds is all you really need - Smashing Pumpkins

05-22-2005, 10:05 PM	#12 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	I guess it really depends on the context. I just turned 20 and Mr. Right Now's room mates tease him about dating someone so much younger than him (five years) and I take notice but I don't let it get to me. __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

05-23-2005, 12:09 AM	#13 (permalink)
fallsauce Insane	I'm 18, and I think it'd be weirder to call me a lady (really jarring) or woman. Girl is just easier to say thank woman, I think I call everyone who sounds under 25 that. __________________ "Hey little kitty with your tail dragging on the floor You could have a following in every town that you go" Electric Six - I Invented The Night

05-23-2005, 04:38 AM	#14 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	Not at all. In fact I find it very arrousing for some reason when Loverboy and our fuck buddy call me "lille pige" (=little girl) __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

05-23-2005, 10:01 AM	#15 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	I'm 26. I just don't know that I've "earned" the woman title yet. It still sounds weird in my ears. That being said, I think the connotations of the word have shifted from how mal and squishor see it - for a lot of 20-somethings, it's just a casual way to refer to each other rather than a denotation of level/ability/etc. And of course, condescending tones put all bets off. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.

05-23-2005, 10:31 AM	#16 (permalink)
xxSquirtxx More anal, less shenanigans Location: Always lurking	I'm 38. I'll take girl over ma'am any day. Unless it's some 16 yo punk talking to me, then he'd better call me ma'am.

05-23-2005, 10:40 AM	#17 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	ma'am bugs me because even at my advanced age, that is how i would address someone older than I am ... One of the girls or one of the boys in a casual environment is completely different than in a corporate environment when being referred to as a girl... Sorry, that doesn't fly with me at all... Maybe it's my age, maybe it's because I've been working too long, but dammit, I have earned the title of woman, to me, it is disrespectful to be called a girl - I didn't earn the demotion. Begin Rant... For women in their late 20s or older to refer to themselves as girls is a disservice to them -- why not refer to yourselves as a woman - it's what you are- if you don't respect yourself enough to think of yourself that way.. no one else is going to... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-23-2005, 11:16 AM	#18 (permalink)
cellophanedeity Heliotrope Location: A warm room	I don't mind being called girl. Most of the time I don't even notice, unless it's obviously condicending. Maybe it's because I'm still eighteen, but it doesn't bother me. Different people call me different things. My mum calls me either woman or girl, but most of my friends calls me a chick. I like chick best, I think, as long as it's friendly.

05-23-2005, 03:33 PM	#19 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	i'm 22 and it bothers me a little just because i think i look younger because of my height and maybe how i dress. i've tried to dress more mature but i don't know if it works for me. but i'm more often called "lady" and not girl or woman. shrugs __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

05-23-2005, 04:14 PM	#21 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	I wouldn't mind in the least if everyone called me a girl until i died I like the term and don't mind it at all. Lady or woman works too . . Sweetpea __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

05-23-2005, 04:20 PM	#22 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	Even in the small office where I work, I notice my boss refers to the women in the front office as "girls" but he refers to me as "my assistant" or "my associate." It shouldn't come as any surprise that he has more respect for my capabilities. I think that's what we're trying to point out here - I don't think he's consciously putting them down every time he calls them girls but there's an attitude at the root of the words he chooses. "Girl" was a common way to refer to grown women before the whole feminist thing happened, and a lot of women had to work very hard to open people's eyes to the ingrained double standards in our world. That the 20-somethings of today just shrug it off as irrelevent kind of rubs salt in the wound (nothing personal to anyone here). Because if anyone thinks that they are regarded as highly as someone who gets acknowledged as a grown-up, think again. You are being diminutized and you'd better stay cute or else you might find there are a whole lot of people who won't like you as much anymore. There is still a wage gap between men and women, a real-life indicator of the underlying attitudes I'm talking about. Here are some quick statistics: http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0763170.html

05-23-2005, 04:24 PM	#23 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	said much better than I have been, Squishor... and absolutely correct... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-23-2005, 04:34 PM	#25 (permalink)
Demeter Psycho	I'm over thirty, so I take 'girl' as a compliment. I doubt anyone would use the term to purposely be insulting, at least most of the time. __________________ I am not bound to please thee with my answers. William Shakespeare

05-23-2005, 06:01 PM	#27 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	I also agree that context makes all the difference in the world.

05-23-2005, 08:13 PM	#28 (permalink)
Disk_Pusher Tilted Location: Fresno, soon to be Sacramento!	I'm 21 and the the words girl, gal, and chick all bother me to the point where yes, I will correct someone. I have issues with "girls". When I think of a girl I think of all the negetive qualities I see in today's female (age nonwithstanding), especially the fetishism of items. When I think of a woman, I think of a female who has charge of her own life, and isn't defined by her material possesions, someone who is defined by their mind. I don't like being classified as a "girl" - to me it's almost a slur. I know it's quite silly for me to get so worked up over a few words, and there are certainly better things to get worked up about in the long run but I really can't seem to help but feel strongly on the issue.

05-23-2005, 09:39 PM	#29 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	I think it really depends on the situation. For example, I went to pick up some keys at a storage facility for my roomate a little while back. I was waiting in the lobby since the woman I needed to talk to was on the phone, and one of her coworkers walked by and said something like "You know there's a girl out here waiting for you right?" In that situation it did bother me because I felt like they were not taking me seriously as someone there to do any business with them. However, I'm in rehearsals right now for a show, and the music director is a charming and lively man elderly man who is in his 80's. It is just a part of his personality to call the woman's section "girls" as we rehearse, something like "Hey girls, that sounds great!" and for him it works because you know it's just the way he speaks, and probably has been for the past however many years. __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan

05-23-2005, 10:40 PM	#30 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	I suppose in a corporate setting I can see how it would be an issue of respect. In my job, the women are paid exactly what the men are, and It really matters not at all to me whether the principal or the other teachers call me girl, woman, or lady, so long as they treat me with the respect I've earned. The students know they damn well better call me Miss Nakamura (Students tend do tend to turn all female titles into Miss unless the teacher is picky about it, and making a fuss about having them call me Mrs. would be opening myself up to problems best left alone), or Ma'am, but nothing else. __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert

05-24-2005, 04:40 AM	#32 (permalink)
Meditrina Junkie Location: LI,NY	I am 36, and I said that I would notice but not take offense. Ma'am bothers me more. I am, however, not the kind of person that would say anything to the person calling me ma'am. __________________ "Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles." ~Alex Karras

05-24-2005, 07:03 AM	#33 (permalink)
SiN strangelove Location: ...more here than there...	no, it doesn't really bother me (although like anything, a wrong implication/context could indeed be bothersome) ... and yes, I'm old ... enough __________________ - + - ° GiRLie GeeK ° - + - ° 01110010011011110110111101110100001000000110110101100101 Therell be days/When Ill stray/I may appear to be/Constantly out of reach/I give in to sin/Because I like to practise what I preach

05-24-2005, 07:46 AM	#34 (permalink)
superredhead Crazy Location: Around So Cal.	as long as it's not condescending, i don't mind being called a girl at all. actually, at 21 i still get a little shocked when people call me ma'am or mrs since i think i still look like i'm 12. __________________ yawn

05-24-2005, 04:34 PM	#35 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	i dont mind..i kinda like it actually..but i'm a youngin so ask me when i'm 30 __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.

05-24-2005, 06:24 PM	#36 (permalink)
rhaevyn Insane Location: Pittsburgh, PA	I'm 19, and while I notice when people call me a "girl," I don't really mind. Depends on the context, though. __________________ ~Alex~ You've come far, and though you're far from the end, you don't mind where you are, 'cause you know where you've been.

05-25-2005, 11:46 AM	#37 (permalink)
getwonk'd Tilted Location: Central Wisconsin	It might have bothered me before I had kids, but now I know that I refer to myself as "girl", especially when talking to my kids.

05-25-2005, 05:36 PM	#38 (permalink)
diddagirl Addict Location: Calgary, AB	I cant say it really bothers me to be called a girl. Truthfully i think often times (or most times) I think of myself as a girl. I am only 21, and I really dont feel ready to age myself enough to call me a women. I guess in the words of Britney Spears "I'm not a girl......not yet a women". __________________ "Is it so small a thing to have enjoyed the sun, to have lived long in the spring, to have loved, to have thought, to have done." -Matthew Arnold