jillian

ok now at risk of outing myself as a size queen im about to ask advice... my new bf is quite large.. and by large i dont mean above average i mean freakishly huge... i have had several large men and played with large toys and some other kinky things so sex with him isnt that big of a problem... my problem is that he really wants to get deeper than what he currently can... weve tried several positions angles lubes everything and still only almost half shaft as he says... so my question is... is it even possible to go deeper when they hit the wall so to speak... when he hits bottom it doesnt feel all that great but he really wants to get deeper and i really want him to enjoy sex with me.. hes got enough left that he isnt getting enough stimulation to cum.. we wind up having sex... i cum and cam and cum... he pulls out and i have to give him a nice 2 fisted hand job.. or i he strokes off when he is still inside me... so any advice??

*Nikki*

Hmmm. Sounds like his problem. I don't think that there is much you can do on your end. It's not like you can allow him to go deeper then possible. I have a feeling that maybe he has had this problem before??

I have only been with one guy that was very large and I really didn't see the benifit to it for me. It hurt more then anything else.

I think maybe the two of you will have to get creative with this and think about different ways for him to get off that are just as satisfying.

ironmaiden7o7

I think once you hit the 'wall' there isn't much farther you can go, and if you feel pain, then that's the limit. I guess you and him will really have to be experimentative here, and create new ways to get yourself and him going.

ngdawg

I would think the stimulation of feeling you would be enough for him-I've been with huge guys, am tiny (or short-not sure how you'd classify that!) and the disparity in size was never an issue. Perhaps he is over-thinking and THAT is the reason for his hesitation in cumming? Distraction is a definite O-killer all-around. Maybe some fantasy play to take both your minds off the goal......I agree with Ironmaiden, once you get to the point of pain, there isn't much more you can do, so you need to avoid that and get more creative. Good luck.

raeanna74

What about wrapping your hand or his around the base of the shaft right up against you? That could extend the sensations further along his shaft. Otherwise there isn't a lot that you can do to allow him deeper.

I found one position that I've used with larger men that prevents them from "hitting the wall" as much and seems to help them. I lay on my stomach with my legs together. The man enters me from behind. The fact that my legs are together somewhat prevents deep penetration but the legs pressed around their shaft extends the sensation farther along for them. If you've not tried this you could try it. BTW this is a great position for g-spot stim and smaller men aren't able to do this quite as well so you're situation is perfect for enjoying it.

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Squishor

Yeah, I was going to suggest wrapping a hand around too. Sometimes I do that with my bf and I find it's a turn-on, kind of like I'm masturbating him into me (hope he feels the same way). The position raeanna74 suggested sounds good too, since your legs and/or butt cheeks can add "depth." As one who is a bit on the smaller side, I've had problems and pain in the past when trying to accomodate the larger types...it's been a fear of mine that I might start really liking somebody only to find that they were too big for me. Good luck!

sexymama

You could also try a masturbation sleeve such as the "gigi" that passion party offers. Here is a link.

http://yourpassionconsultant.com/con...ith/him01.html

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There's lots of room for experimentation and shared pleasure. I hope you two will experiment. Seriously, when you hit the wall, stop. It's there for a reason. Don't hurt yourself, it not worth it. A man who cares about you will not do anything to cause you pain during sex. It's supposed to feel GOOD!

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Elusive Dreamer

damn. girl. damn.

that wall is usually a sign... a big fat, STOP sign inside of you.
like the other's said... don't hurt yourself because mr. huge can't get off.
it's too bad he can't enjoy it with you, but you two are really going to have to finish that off some other way unless you're trying to cause yourself undesired pain... ?

jillian

i expected theses answers and told him all about the wall... its just hes seen some freaky porn where these girls can make things disappear deeper than i or any other normal girl could ever even dream... hes cool with it... he and i wondered if there was anything that these girls new that we already didnt... ive used the hand method several times... tried the legs together thing last night.... didnt help.. but i did find out that i can take him alot deeper during anal.. its taking some work.... but i think i might be able to get every last inch inside me this way... i tried to get him to put it all in but he was scared of hurting me so hopefully next time i can have him inside me completely and give him something that no other girl has ever done before... if not it will be ok... we still have mind blowing sex and he doesnt mind the not getting off thing