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Sweetpea · 12-28-2004, 06:15 PM

2005 is just around the corner . . . What are everyone's New Year's resolutions about their sex lives??

do tell, do tell!!!!

For Me:
Have sex with hubby in a public place (any ideas on good places?)

Masturbate more

Learn some sexy stripper moves, have pole installed in bedroom pronto

Averett · 12-28-2004, 06:18 PM

Lets see... have more? Yeah, that'll do

ShaniFaye · 12-28-2004, 06:19 PM

WAY more knife play

thats about it.....Id like to be able to enjoy anal but I cant so I'll be content satisfying his anal play desires

RMMsGirl · 12-28-2004, 06:22 PM

Try out more positions. And have it more often.

Sweetpea · 12-28-2004, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Averett

Lets see... have more? Yeah, that'll do

Yes, i like that . . . a good start certainly

Sweetpea · 12-28-2004, 06:51 PM

[QUOTE=ShaniFaye]WAY more knife play

I have always been curious about knife play, mostly because Ms. Hottie herself Angelina Jolie is into it . . . Would you mind giving a quick explaination?

Sugar&Spice · 12-28-2004, 07:51 PM

Let myself completely relax while my boyfriend is going down on me so that I can have a few more orgasms from it. He does a great job but for some reason I seldomly let myself go.

sapphire · 12-28-2004, 08:23 PM

Im currently single so I'll be on the look out for some new partners and experiences. Maybe I'll even try the threesome thing. I need to be more adventurous.

snowy · 12-28-2004, 08:54 PM

Have better sex more often.

Things are looking up as far as that resolution is concerned.

icksters · 12-28-2004, 09:45 PM

Have sex more often, experiment a little more (new places and positions)

ShaniFaye · 12-29-2004, 04:52 AM

[QUOTE=sweetpea]

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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye

WAY more knife play

I have always been curious about knife play, mostly because Ms. Hottie herself Angelina Jolie is into it . . . Would you mind giving a quick explaination?

ok I will give a "text book" explanation...then I will give my own lol

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First, here are a few misconceptions related to knife play that I would like dispel from the outset.

The first deals with the "depth" of the cutting. In S&M the goal of the Top in all cases, is to inflict a maximum or desired level of sensation, WITHOUT disfiguring the physique of the bottom. Knife play is therefore about 75% "touching, scraping and rubbing" and about 25% actual cutting.

The second popular misconception, is that a knife has but one use, but one sensation that it can produce, and is therefore of limited use to the SM devotee. Knives have a cutting edge of course, but also have sides, points, handles and since they are made of metal, can be refrigerated or heated as the Top may decide.

A third erroneous view involves the concept of actual blood letting. True, there may well be some, but this is absolutely unnecessary if undesired.

Finally, the fourth most popular misconception involves the idea that to play with knives means to scar by necessity, and that scars, permanent lasting scars are the name of the game. My current partner and I have played in this manner on many occasions, and she has not ONE permanent scar on her body.

Having gotten that out of the way, let's begin:

Knives are dangerous things. They have been used to kill and maim for thousands of years. Of concern to the Top, should be the fact that unless they are cared for VERY well, are sharp and are above all CLEAN, knives can well incur their traditional penalties.

Buy quality equipment. You are looking for carbon steel blades, the finest quality you can find. You want a keen, smooth UNSERRATED edge. You want to keep this edge razor sharp, or rather dull. Either or, as befits your level of experience. The most dangerous knives are those that are a "little" sharp. These are unpredictable. They cut sometimes, but not others, depending on the texture of the skin. Sharp always cuts. Dull never will. Choose either and be sure of the situation.

Keep the knives you choose WELL. That means, use them for no other purpose. Keep them in a fine state of repair. A knife that is chipped or knicked or has a loose handle, is absolutely ready for the garbage can., or non-S&M related uses.

The purchase of a blade, to be used in S&M play bears a deal of consideration. Visit a knife shop, and have a look at what they have on display. For your first blade, I would strongly suggest that you stay well away from all the fancy "fantasy" blades that they have on sale. They look pretty, but tend to be very cumbersome for the first time "player". Choose instead a basic knife, of medium size. A bowie with a six inch blade is a good choice. Remember, we are going for QUALITY here, so expect to spend from 100 to 150 dollars US.

Knives to stay clear of are chrome plated ones, serrated ones, those made for food preparation, double edged knives (unless you are an expert) "fruit knives", which tend to be chrome plated stainless steel, and are unsharpenable, hobby knives, widget blades, disposable razor blades, box knives, carpet knives, switch blades, folding knives unless they have a positive lock and of course, cheap knives.

http://meltingpot.fortunecity.com/mali/18/knife.html

99.9 % of the time when Dave and I uses knives there is NO cutting...its a sensatory thing ONLY. We have a collection of daggers and knives that we use for this purpose only. The one that is being used on knows that no sudden moves need to be made by them (normally we are using restraints so that isnt possible) and that even if the person has to sneeze or cough the person with the knife is warned.

Dave is the only person I have ever trusted to get anywhere near me with a sharp object...100% trust is essential in knife play....you will not get the enjoyment that can be had if you have ANY doubts about the person in charge.

Cutting is saved for "special" occasions and is not done unless we are both stone cold sober.

now...the "mommy" speech is over

I will just say that knife play done properly can be an awesome erotic experience....one of the best orgasms I've ever had came while being blindfolded and having a dagger against my neck, it seemed like it was never ever going to stop.

If you're interested in that kind of thing spend some time experimenting alone...run the knife over yourself in various places in different ways, using different degrees of pressure....you'll be amazed at how your body and mind react to it.

/this post is too long I think

little_tippler · 12-29-2004, 05:53 AM

Feel less tired so that I want more sex, have more sex, try more positions, get fitter so I get tired less fast, give more head, get more head, be less shy about what I want...lots of stuff! lol

Sweetpea · 12-29-2004, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye

ok I will give a "text book" explanation...then I will give my own lol

99.9 % of the time when Dave and I uses knives there is NO cutting...its a sensatory thing ONLY. We have a collection of daggers and knives that we use for this purpose only. The one that is being used on knows that no sudden moves need to be made by them (normally we are using restraints so that isnt possible) and that even if the person has to sneeze or cough the person with the knife is warned.

Dave is the only person I have ever trusted to get anywhere near me with a sharp object...100% trust is essential in knife play....you will not get the enjoyment that can be had if you have ANY doubts about the person in charge.

Cutting is saved for "special" occasions and is not done unless we are both stone cold sober.
If you're interested in that kind of thing spend some time experimenting alone...run the knife over yourself in various places in different ways, using different degrees of pressure....you'll be amazed at how your body and mind react to it.

/this post is too long I think

Very interesting, THANKS so much for explaining about this so well and how it relates in your sex life . . . I will give it some thought and perhaps have to try it

And nope, not too long . . . would be hard to explain everything in just one paragraph!

Sweetpea · 12-29-2004, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

Feel less tired so that I want more sex, have more sex, try more positions, get fitter so I get tired less fast, give more head, get more head, be less shy about what I want...lots of stuff! lol

Love that . . . being less Shy about getting what ya need . . . i think i am going to add that to my list too

Nancy · 12-29-2004, 12:44 PM

I have got to try a FFM this year!

fallenangel · 12-29-2004, 09:40 PM

Expand my S&M experiences.

Go to at least ONE Of the local fetish clubs in full gear

MMF 3 way (have had the other experience

)

Work on separating my sexual needs with my emotional needs.

sexymama · 12-31-2004, 09:07 AM

More D/s play.

Make sure sex life stays healthy and active even with new baby on the way and after he is born.

koli70 · 12-31-2004, 10:05 PM

Have more orgasms....

ngdawg · 01-01-2005, 07:37 PM

apology accepted-comment removed by me

amonkie · 01-01-2005, 09:18 PM

Be more bold about what *I* want, even though I get just as much pleasure over pleasing and surprising someone else. I think this should also involve spending some money on myself too

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Sweetpea · 01-02-2005, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by fallenangel

Expand my S&M experiences.

Go to at least ONE Of the local fetish clubs in full gear

MMF 3 way (have had the other experience

)

Work on separating my sexual needs with my emotional needs.

Yeah, that is a good one fallenangel . . . emotional needs always seem to get confused with sex, probably because both are so intense, the psyche has a hard time separating them . . . But truly, emotional needs and sexual needs are very different.

How was your 'other' experience, the FFM??? do tell, do tell

countingsheep · 01-03-2005, 01:33 PM

sex in public places. like a movie theatre.

also teach my b/f tp be more sensual about sex.

Maleigh99 · 01-03-2005, 08:10 PM

Do a better strip tease and try more dirty talk

Redgirl · 01-03-2005, 11:06 PM

I want to try for multiple orgasms this year. Also I need to try anal again, and just try to be more adventerous. I'm going to be in the mood more often so he is more content with our sex life. He's so sweet when he's getting it on a regular basis!

aphroditeskiss1 · 01-03-2005, 11:14 PM

I want to learn some sexy stripper moves. Anyone have any ideas as to how to go about doing that?

Sweetpea · 01-04-2005, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by aphroditeskiss1

I want to learn some sexy stripper moves. Anyone have any ideas as to how to go about doing that?

Hey, this was one of my resolutions too!! I found this site and i am thinking about ordering one of them . . . .
http://www.activevideos.com/exotic.h...n%20to%20strip

however, it would be more fun to actually take lessons somewhere on this . . . has anyone ever taken stripper lessons?

sexymama · 01-05-2005, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by countingsheep

sex in public places. like a movie theatre.

Done it, had a great time! Let us know if/when it happens. Good luck.

maleficent · 01-05-2005, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetpea

however, it would be more fun to actually take lessons somewhere on this . . . has anyone ever taken stripper lessons?

Check your local health clubs -- most of the bigger ones have a Cardio Strip class -which looks to be fun.

Sweetpea · 01-10-2005, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

Check your local health clubs -- most of the bigger ones have a Cardio Strip class -which looks to be fun.

cool, thanks Mal . . . i will do that.

pinkie · 01-10-2005, 02:57 PM

Sweetpea · 01-10-2005, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by pinkie

aw, god, that is so awesome Pinkie . . . let us know how it works out for ya

Now *I* want one too!!!

pinkie · 01-10-2005, 06:35 PM

I'm sure it'll be the best 80 bucks I ever blow.

I'll be sure and let you know.

I'm a poet tonight!!!

anti fishstick · 01-10-2005, 10:01 PM

I guess I'd just like to be more open and spiritually connected. I haven't been able to let go as much. We make our own tantric sex sometimes, but it used to happen more frequently.

Elusive Dreamer · 01-19-2005, 05:05 PM

well... i think since being inspired by my new partner... i want to be more exciting to him. i hope i am!! i'd also like to learn to try new things with him. stuff that i've never done or really, had the imagination/inspiration to do. there's many things i'd like to try

hopefully i won't chicken out and i can surprise and excite him (eek!)

Nancy · 01-19-2005, 11:26 PM

I already took care of my girl on girl action resolution January the 1st

snowy · 01-19-2005, 11:31 PM

Well, if I'd had a resolution for girl on girl action it would be taken care of...

Squishor · 01-19-2005, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Nancy

I have got to try a FFM this year!

FFM?

Fairly Fluffy Man?

Free Fall Machine? http://www.desc.med.vu.nl/FFM_us.htm

http://www.ffm.co.jp ?

Forschungsgesellschaft Flucht und Migration?

Nancy · 01-19-2005, 11:48 PM

lol, not quite!

FFM would be a female, female, male threesome

Squishor · 01-20-2005, 08:43 AM

I was thinking...BBW=Big Beautiful Woman...so FFM=Friendly Fat Man??? I'm so glad you cleared that up!

Sorry, it seems so obvious now.

nspanky34 · 02-08-2005, 08:09 AM

1. Do it more than 3 times in a day!
2. Do it in a Public place or on the beach!
3. Have a 3 some!

12-28-2004, 06:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	Sex New Year's Resolutions!? 2005 is just around the corner . . . What are everyone's New Year's resolutions about their sex lives?? do tell, do tell!!!! For Me: Have sex with hubby in a public place (any ideas on good places?) Masturbate more Learn some sexy stripper moves, have pole installed in bedroom pronto

12-28-2004, 06:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Lets see... have more? Yeah, that'll do __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-28-2004, 06:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	WAY more knife play thats about it.....Id like to be able to enjoy anal but I cant so I'll be content satisfying his anal play desires __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

12-28-2004, 07:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	Let myself completely relax while my boyfriend is going down on me so that I can have a few more orgasms from it. He does a great job but for some reason I seldomly let myself go. __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

12-28-2004, 08:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Have better sex more often. Things are looking up as far as that resolution is concerned. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

12-28-2004, 06:22 PM	#4 (permalink)
RMMsGirl Tilted Location: Bakersfield, Ca	Try out more positions. And have it more often.

12-28-2004, 06:51 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	[QUOTE=ShaniFaye]WAY more knife play I have always been curious about knife play, mostly because Ms. Hottie herself Angelina Jolie is into it . . . Would you mind giving a quick explaination?

12-28-2004, 08:23 PM	#8 (permalink)
sapphire Tilted	Im currently single so I'll be on the look out for some new partners and experiences. Maybe I'll even try the threesome thing. I need to be more adventurous.

12-28-2004, 09:45 PM	#10 (permalink)
icksters Tilted Location: New York	Have sex more often, experiment a little more (new places and positions)

12-29-2004, 05:53 AM	#12 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Feel less tired so that I want more sex, have more sex, try more positions, get fitter so I get tired less fast, give more head, get more head, be less shy about what I want...lots of stuff! lol __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

12-29-2004, 12:44 PM	#15 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	I have got to try a FFM this year! __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

12-29-2004, 09:40 PM	#16 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	Expand my S&M experiences. Go to at least ONE Of the local fetish clubs in full gear MMF 3 way (have had the other experience ) Work on separating my sexual needs with my emotional needs. __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

12-31-2004, 09:07 AM	#17 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	More D/s play. Make sure sex life stays healthy and active even with new baby on the way and after he is born. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

12-31-2004, 10:05 PM	#18 (permalink)
koli70 Crazy Location: South Dakota	Have more orgasms....

01-01-2005, 07:37 PM	#19 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	apology accepted-comment removed by me Last edited by ngdawg; 01-01-2005 at 08:34 PM..

01-01-2005, 09:18 PM	#20 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Be more bold about what I want, even though I get just as much pleasure over pleasing and surprising someone else. I think this should also involve spending some money on myself too . __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

01-03-2005, 01:33 PM	#22 (permalink)
countingsheep Upright Location: beach	sex in public places. like a movie theatre. also teach my b/f tp be more sensual about sex. __________________ lick it before you stick it

01-03-2005, 08:10 PM	#23 (permalink)
Maleigh99 Upright Location: Texas	Do a better strip tease and try more dirty talk

01-03-2005, 11:06 PM	#24 (permalink)
Redgirl Addict Location: Native America	I want to try for multiple orgasms this year. Also I need to try anal again, and just try to be more adventerous. I'm going to be in the mood more often so he is more content with our sex life. He's so sweet when he's getting it on a regular basis! __________________ Thought for the day: Men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it's up to the women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.

01-03-2005, 11:14 PM	#25 (permalink)
aphroditeskiss1 Insane Location: Albuquerque, NM	I want to learn some sexy stripper moves. Anyone have any ideas as to how to go about doing that? __________________ "You always said destiny would blow me away. But nothing's gonna blow me away"- Something Coporate " I do not pop pills! I take them and I eat them..." - Foamy's friend

01-10-2005, 02:57 PM	#30 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	To buy this:

01-10-2005, 06:35 PM	#32 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	I'm sure it'll be the best 80 bucks I ever blow. I'll be sure and let you know. I'm a poet tonight!!!

01-10-2005, 10:01 PM	#33 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	I guess I'd just like to be more open and spiritually connected. I haven't been able to let go as much. We make our own tantric sex sometimes, but it used to happen more frequently. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

01-19-2005, 05:05 PM	#34 (permalink)
Elusive Dreamer Upright Location: chicago	well... i think since being inspired by my new partner... i want to be more exciting to him. i hope i am!! i'd also like to learn to try new things with him. stuff that i've never done or really, had the imagination/inspiration to do. there's many things i'd like to try hopefully i won't chicken out and i can surprise and excite him (eek!)

01-19-2005, 11:26 PM	#35 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	I already took care of my girl on girl action resolution January the 1st __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

01-19-2005, 11:31 PM	#36 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Well, if I'd had a resolution for girl on girl action it would be taken care of... __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

01-19-2005, 11:48 PM	#38 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	lol, not quite! FFM would be a female, female, male threesome __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

01-20-2005, 08:43 AM	#39 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	I was thinking...BBW=Big Beautiful Woman...so FFM=Friendly Fat Man??? I'm so glad you cleared that up! Sorry, it seems so obvious now.

02-08-2005, 08:09 AM	#40 (permalink)
nspanky34 Upright Location: pittsburgh	1. Do it more than 3 times in a day! 2. Do it in a Public place or on the beach! 3. Have a 3 some! __________________ Vote for Pedro! Idiots...