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JadziaDax · 05-20-2003, 08:24 AM

Do you find that most of your friends are of the same sex or the opposite sex?

I find that the majority of my friends are male. I've always been just one of the guys. I fit in so well sometimes with my love of hockey (and some other sports). I've always been more comfortable in a room of men that surrounded by women.

I do have female friends, but very few. I have found that most of the female acquaintances I've had in the past were quick to stab me in the back or talk shit about me when my back was turned. The ones I'm friends with now are trusthworthy.

BlueBongo · 05-20-2003, 10:53 AM

When I was growing up most all of my friends were male.. and even now the main majority of the people I'd call friends are male.. I suppose it's just odd. My best friend however is female.. but I've known the bum since High School. Good times...

Minx · 05-20-2003, 01:01 PM

Males absolutely. I trust them more (sorry, no offence meant!).
Maybe it's because I was so close to my brother and hung out with him so much, I'm not sure. I just have always found that men, if they are true friends and just not trying to get into your pants, are so honest. A g/f will tell you what you want to hear, not the truth necessarily. I've always been more comfortable with men than women.....the "catty" aspect perhaps or maybe it's just because I like to talk football

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To this day I don't have a real "girlfriend"...someone's shoulder to cry on. Kinda makes me sad at times.

NetterButter · 05-20-2003, 04:01 PM

my best friend is a guy, someone i'm gonna marry this august. otherwise, all of my other best friends (since elementary) are all girls. love em all, miss em too.

onodrim · 05-20-2003, 04:17 PM

I've always been much better friends with guys than girls. I played many sports for years, and always had more in common with the guys than the girls. Like Minx, I'm very close to my older brother, and idolized him a lot growing up. I'm just more comfortable with a group of guys.

snowy · 05-20-2003, 04:29 PM

I have a lot of guy friends, more than I have girl friends. But my closest friends are female. We're all girls who are "just one of the guys" otherwise. We have lots of fun together and with guy friends.

*Nikki* · 05-20-2003, 05:17 PM

I have about an equal amount of both.

I find that it is hard to keep guys as friends though because in the end they always want to get in my pants.

Janie · 05-20-2003, 06:02 PM

as a small child, i was painfully shy and didn't really have many friends apart from a few girls i played with. around high school, i started hanging out with the guys, and now i find i'm much more comfortable around guys. with girls there always seems to be this standard of behaviour (unless you've known them for years). as for guys wanting to get in my pants, i've pretty much remained friends with the ones that did or told me they did.

Minx · 05-21-2003, 09:50 AM

On the topic of friends...I read this today and wanted to share it with you.

A friend is someone who dances with you in the sunlight and walks beside you in the shadows.

Atropos4 · 05-21-2003, 12:56 PM

This may sound like I'm some socially inept loser but I honestly don't have any close friends besides Alpha phi.
Basically during my senior year of HS I took a step back from the friend thing. I first of all, was older than everyone in my class, secondly, I wasn't into all the same recreational things as they were.
Not to sound big headed but I was more mature than most of them. I still see some old friends around but I don't keep in touch with any of them.
I tried after HS to keep in touch. I invited my two closest friends to my bridal shower and wedding. (married just a month after I graduated) One showed up for 5 minutes at my shower and one didn't show at all. The one that didn't also did not show up at my wedding. The one that did show up came to my wedding and kinda helped us get ready but then only showed up for 5 minutes at the reception. The entire time she was at the reception she made fun of my brother who at the time had a huge crush on her. That experience really hurt me. Now it seems like everytime I start to make a friend, they stab me in the back.

Alpha phi has the same things happen to him. We stick together and are the best of friends.
I'd still like a girl friend I can chit chat with about sex, periods, love, careers, pets, books and so on.
I love the ladies lounge because I actually get to talk to other women about these things. Hugs all around and a big thank-you.

snowy · 05-21-2003, 09:40 PM

Ohh, Atropos4...your post made me want to cry. I'm sorry you've had such a horrible experience with girlfriend, but at least you've got alpha phi to kind of make up for it. But I know what you mean about wanting a close girlfriend...I went through the majority of last year without a close girlfriend, and it was only this year in the winter that I found my two closest girlfriends at college, and managed to add a third this spring. It is nice at times to be able to come to the ladies' lounge and just let loose and know someone will understand.

I want to let all of you know how much I value your friendship, your caring, your listening skills and your feedback. Hugs and kisses to all of you, and thank goodness for girlfriends!

ally · 05-24-2003, 05:51 PM

I find it easior to be comfortable around guys, they just dont care how you look or what makeup your weearing if neither of you is trying to impress the other.
But I have always had a lot of girlfreinds too. It's nice to have someone to talk to about your guy who understands.
Right now my best freinds are ( besides greg700 of course) several girls i've met since I came to college, a girl and guy who have been my best freinds since I was four, and an ex boyfreind.

sierra2774 · 05-25-2003, 04:19 PM

I get along much better with guys....I do have one close Friend who is female, but for the most part, I talk to my Guy Friends when I need advice.

05-20-2003, 08:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
JadziaDax Loser Location: who the fuck cares?	The friends you keep Do you find that most of your friends are of the same sex or the opposite sex? I find that the majority of my friends are male. I've always been just one of the guys. I fit in so well sometimes with my love of hockey (and some other sports). I've always been more comfortable in a room of men that surrounded by women. I do have female friends, but very few. I have found that most of the female acquaintances I've had in the past were quick to stab me in the back or talk shit about me when my back was turned. The ones I'm friends with now are trusthworthy.

05-20-2003, 01:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	Males absolutely. I trust them more (sorry, no offence meant!). Maybe it's because I was so close to my brother and hung out with him so much, I'm not sure. I just have always found that men, if they are true friends and just not trying to get into your pants, are so honest. A g/f will tell you what you want to hear, not the truth necessarily. I've always been more comfortable with men than women.....the "catty" aspect perhaps or maybe it's just because I like to talk football . To this day I don't have a real "girlfriend"...someone's shoulder to cry on. Kinda makes me sad at times. __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

05-20-2003, 04:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
NetterButter Crazy Location: in a hole, ventura county,cali	my best friend is a guy, someone i'm gonna marry this august. otherwise, all of my other best friends (since elementary) are all girls. love em all, miss em too. __________________ www.holeinthe.net

05-20-2003, 04:17 PM	#5 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	I've always been much better friends with guys than girls. I played many sports for years, and always had more in common with the guys than the girls. Like Minx, I'm very close to my older brother, and idolized him a lot growing up. I'm just more comfortable with a group of guys. __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan

05-20-2003, 04:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	I have a lot of guy friends, more than I have girl friends. But my closest friends are female. We're all girls who are "just one of the guys" otherwise. We have lots of fun together and with guy friends. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

05-20-2003, 05:17 PM	#7 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	I have about an equal amount of both. I find that it is hard to keep guys as friends though because in the end they always want to get in my pants.

05-20-2003, 06:02 PM	#8 (permalink)
Janie Insane Location: Greater Vancouver	as a small child, i was painfully shy and didn't really have many friends apart from a few girls i played with. around high school, i started hanging out with the guys, and now i find i'm much more comfortable around guys. with girls there always seems to be this standard of behaviour (unless you've known them for years). as for guys wanting to get in my pants, i've pretty much remained friends with the ones that did or told me they did. __________________ cheers to the motherland

05-21-2003, 09:50 AM	#9 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	On the topic of friends...I read this today and wanted to share it with you. A friend is someone who dances with you in the sunlight and walks beside you in the shadows. __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

05-21-2003, 12:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
Atropos4 Think about it Location: North Carolina	This may sound like I'm some socially inept loser but I honestly don't have any close friends besides Alpha phi. Basically during my senior year of HS I took a step back from the friend thing. I first of all, was older than everyone in my class, secondly, I wasn't into all the same recreational things as they were. Not to sound big headed but I was more mature than most of them. I still see some old friends around but I don't keep in touch with any of them. I tried after HS to keep in touch. I invited my two closest friends to my bridal shower and wedding. (married just a month after I graduated) One showed up for 5 minutes at my shower and one didn't show at all. The one that didn't also did not show up at my wedding. The one that did show up came to my wedding and kinda helped us get ready but then only showed up for 5 minutes at the reception. The entire time she was at the reception she made fun of my brother who at the time had a huge crush on her. That experience really hurt me. Now it seems like everytime I start to make a friend, they stab me in the back. Alpha phi has the same things happen to him. We stick together and are the best of friends. I'd still like a girl friend I can chit chat with about sex, periods, love, careers, pets, books and so on. I love the ladies lounge because I actually get to talk to other women about these things. Hugs all around and a big thank-you. __________________ Minds are like parachutes. They work better open. "If I were Hermione, I would have licked his pantleg." Last edited by Atropos4; 05-21-2003 at 12:58 PM..

05-21-2003, 09:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Ohh, Atropos4...your post made me want to cry. I'm sorry you've had such a horrible experience with girlfriend, but at least you've got alpha phi to kind of make up for it. But I know what you mean about wanting a close girlfriend...I went through the majority of last year without a close girlfriend, and it was only this year in the winter that I found my two closest girlfriends at college, and managed to add a third this spring. It is nice at times to be able to come to the ladies' lounge and just let loose and know someone will understand. I want to let all of you know how much I value your friendship, your caring, your listening skills and your feedback. Hugs and kisses to all of you, and thank goodness for girlfriends! __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

05-24-2003, 05:51 PM	#12 (permalink)
ally Insane Location: Boone,NC	I find it easior to be comfortable around guys, they just dont care how you look or what makeup your weearing if neither of you is trying to impress the other. But I have always had a lot of girlfreinds too. It's nice to have someone to talk to about your guy who understands. Right now my best freinds are ( besides greg700 of course) several girls i've met since I came to college, a girl and guy who have been my best freinds since I was four, and an ex boyfreind.

05-25-2003, 04:19 PM	#13 (permalink)
sierra2774 Addict Location: Northeast Ohio	I get along much better with guys....I do have one close Friend who is female, but for the most part, I talk to my Guy Friends when I need advice. __________________ "Every tomorrow brings new opportunities, challenges we must address...A chance to affirm all our wishes and dreams, to seek beauty and true happiness."