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StormBerlin · 10-15-2004, 12:16 AM

What is it with guys and period blood? I know it's prolly strange to them, but to make you not want to have sex at all, is that normal? I just got off of being on the shot for three years and I'm going to be on my period for a while before my body gets back to normal. My boyfriend doesn't like period blood at all. But it sucks because I'm finally getting back to WANTING to have sex. *sigh* it's just frustrating. Any advice to help me cope? Thanks in advance ladies

Nancy · 10-15-2004, 04:03 AM

Loverboy isn't crazy about period blood either so I just had to accept that sex is out of the question during that week. Instead we just do anal all week and/or I perform oral sex on him. I don't know if you're into anal sex stormberlin but that's definitely the best alternative during that time

raeanna74 · 10-15-2004, 04:41 AM

Hubby doesn't like it much at all. I personally don't like the mess it makes with sex either. But neither one of us has too much trouble with it if we do it in the shower. He just closes he eyes before he pulls out and I wash him off. In a sense if he doesn't see it then it's not there, right??

I don't know how your SO feels about doing it in the shower at that time but it's definately easier to clean up and he really doesn't have to 'notice' the blood at all sometimes.

Otherwise I just resign myself to masterbation (which I personally will sometimes do in the shower at that time because of the mess again) and keep myself happy.

Janey · 10-15-2004, 05:39 AM

I don't like the messiness. My BF doesn't care. He'll go down on me if i let him. But I don't want to have all that blood everywhere. Since I don't get too horny then, I just wait it out...

gremlinx8 · 10-15-2004, 05:56 AM

My boyfriend doesn't really care, we just tend to do it later in the week when the flow is lighter; not as much mess that way.

StickODynomite · 10-15-2004, 03:16 PM

My bf doesn't care at all. He knows its natural for a woman to get her period and it doesn't turn him off. In fact, he says he likes it b/c it always stays so wet.
He wont go down on me when I'm on my period.. but I can understand that !

For the messiness, we just put a towel down and that's that. Its not like there's going to be blood on the headboard or anything. . . It doesn't get THAT messy.

Sugar&Spice · 10-15-2004, 05:51 PM

My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind it at all. We usually do it about the same as when I am not on my period. But, I don't have that much blood on my period so there is never any mess.

RainbowBright · 10-15-2004, 08:46 PM

My hubby worked at getting used to it. It's not like you can actually see it while you're doing it anyway. But a lot of times I wear one of those instead cups and as long as we don't do it doggy style he can't feel it. (once I didn't even tell him it was in and he didn't notice) Keeps things a lot cleaner and you can wear them for 12 hours.

lady · 10-17-2004, 05:18 PM

I'm in the exact same position as you StormBerlin. It sucks.

I'm coming off the depo shot and have had my period for about a month now (straight) and we had sex while I had my period and he kind of freaked out afterwards because there was blood all over the sheets. Says it freaked him out because he associates blood with injury. I'm going to try an Instead cup, I've got some around here somewhere. Maybe that'll work until the depo gets out of my system.

la petite moi · 10-17-2004, 06:43 PM

My boyfriend doesn't care at ALL. In fact, he said he will even give me oral sex when I'm on my period (of course, that's gross- so I don't wouldn't let him).

StormBerlin · 10-17-2004, 09:09 PM

I like shower sex, but sometimes I want it to be slow and sensual love making. That's hard in a shower because we run out of hot water :P I don't know anything about those cups. Are they designed to stop blood flow? Where can I get one?

jenjen · 10-17-2004, 10:40 PM

My ex didn't mind fingering me when I was having my period, but wouldn't do oral or regular sex. I can't say it bothers me all that much, it just sucks that men have hangups about that kind of thing, then don't understand why we don't want to swallow.

RMMsGirl · 10-18-2004, 10:23 AM

My fiance doesn't care at all. We just put a towel down and then throw it in the washer when we're done.

StickODynomite · 10-18-2004, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by jenjen

My ex didn't mind fingering me when I was having my period, but wouldn't do oral or regular sex. I can't say it bothers me all that much, it just sucks that men have hangups about that kind of thing, then don't understand why we don't want to swallow.

Isn't that some sh!t ?

I'm glad my guy doesn't expect me to (or cares if i do) swallow

KinkyKiwi · 10-18-2004, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by StormBerlin

But it sucks because I'm finally getting back to WANTING to have sex. *sigh* it's just frustrating. Any advice to help me cope? Thanks in advance ladies

this may be off topic but i'm about to go on depo..does it make you ..umm..unhorny? because thats why i was gonna switch from the pill?

and please please please share more information about this cup thingy!

as to not having sex..i wouldnt know if he would be okay with it..hes okay with like rubbing down there with a tampon in..but even if he was okay with sex during that time..i dont think i could ever be..altho maybe..since i did hear it helps with cramps..meh i dunno..i guess i'll have to ask him

StormBerlin · 10-18-2004, 06:07 PM

Yeah, depo totally made me lose my sex drive. It sucked. Please share more info about the cup!

KinkyKiwi · 10-18-2004, 06:19 PM

oh that sooooo totally stinks..

ugh well at least if it happens to me i'll know that its still the birthcontrol lol...pills doing the same thing...maybe thats how they make them so effective? weight gain and you lose your sex drive...double hit...ouch

themisfit · 10-19-2004, 05:20 PM

it bothers me more than hubby, and that is more due to just not feeling well...as far as periods go...anyone thought of trying the new Seasonal pill?

Kyp's Girl · 10-20-2004, 04:45 PM

My husband has the same problem so we usually dont ahve sex during that week.

KinkyKiwi · 10-21-2004, 10:36 AM

my friend is having liek HORRIBLE pain on the seasonal pill...the hormones mess you up pretty good..and please more info about teh cup...anyone...

qtpye4u84 · 11-07-2004, 09:53 PM

Shower thing works, head and anal work also. I get really horny on my periods so my little toy gets a lot of attention. Boyfriend can't see blood thats not his, he will get light headed.

Taking a shower with him around that time, he closes his eye's.

kollege_gal2000 · 11-09-2004, 09:17 AM

My boyfriends ok with the subject. Again he also understands that it is a way of life. He looks forward to my period as do I for a comfort of not being pregnant.

We've used the shower, I also masterbate alot during that time, and yes toys are good to use also.

Life_Force · 11-22-2004, 01:54 PM

My honey is okay with it as long as I am comfortable. I have heard that your sensitivity level goes way up during the cycle and it seems to be true. The only draw back is the mess the bloody war leaves behind so I usually do oral on him or ask him to accompany me in the shower. Oooh La La and Wha La.. no mess.

aphroditeskiss1 · 11-22-2004, 02:47 PM

The instead cup is a tampon alternative. I've never tried it but I've heard they work well. I bet if you Google "instead cup" you'll find their website or something.

la petite moi · 11-22-2004, 05:38 PM

My mom used that cup thing for awhile. She loved them, but you gotta stuff them up there yourself, whereas with tampons you can use an applicators.

pinkie · 11-23-2004, 10:46 AM

My hubby will go down on me, even if I'm bleeding... it's usually me that doesn't want it during that time due to pain and mess.

Maleigh99 · 11-24-2004, 09:19 AM

I think, for us, it's not a huge deal since we've been dealing with periods monthly since puberty. Guys don't know about that crap. It's gross to most of them. Hell, it's gross to most of us. The unknown can freak a person out and they're pretty fond of their members and probably don't want to see it covered in blood. Just my opinion.

Acetylene · 11-26-2004, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by KinkyKiwi

this may be off topic but i'm about to go on depo..does it make you ..umm..unhorny? because thats why i was gonna switch from the pill?

and please please please share more information about this cup thingy!

as to not having sex..i wouldnt know if he would be okay with it..hes okay with like rubbing down there with a tampon in..but even if he was okay with sex during that time..i dont think i could ever be..altho maybe..since i did hear it helps with cramps..meh i dunno..i guess i'll have to ask him

Depo's effects can vary. The side effect they list on the package is "changes in sex drive." Note they don't say more or less! I've been on it twice, the first time It actually made me super horny, this time it didn't seem to change much.

indigochild111 · 11-28-2004, 09:31 PM

Wow, I didn't know that about the pill or the depo shot. Huh, makes me think twice about it..I happen to enjoy sex. As for the boyfriend and sex during my period well..I'm pretty sure that he'd have sex with me while it's pretty messy. When he's horny...well..he's horny. But, I'm usually in way too much pain and feeling waaaay too disgusting at that time. We've done it when I'm lighter...I've noticed that when I get aroused I stop bleeding for the time being.

scarletletter · 11-28-2004, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by StormBerlin

Yeah, depo totally made me lose my sex drive. It sucked. Please share more info about the cup!

You should be able to get the instead cup at a discount department store like Target or maybe walmart. ive seen them at target though, but i havent used them. every guy ive been with hasn't had a problem with the blood. i figure as long as im bleeding, its just another month that they didnt knock me up, guys should be ecstatic.

StormBerlin · 11-29-2004, 12:45 AM

I bought a trial size pack of instead cups for 2.99 (the cost of shipping the little buggers) with an instructional video (oh!) and a coupon for my next purchase

Cant' wait to be on the rag again to try them out.

Anassa · 11-29-2004, 10:03 PM

My ex never minded it, however it made me pretty self-conscious to recieve oral. Usually I would wash prior, and then insert a tampon to inhibit more blood. We would put a towel down for sex, then we'd take a romantic shower together to clean up. Good luck with your cups

10-15-2004, 12:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	Guys and blood. What is it with guys and period blood? I know it's prolly strange to them, but to make you not want to have sex at all, is that normal? I just got off of being on the shot for three years and I'm going to be on my period for a while before my body gets back to normal. My boyfriend doesn't like period blood at all. But it sucks because I'm finally getting back to WANTING to have sex. sigh it's just frustrating. Any advice to help me cope? Thanks in advance ladies __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

10-15-2004, 04:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	Loverboy isn't crazy about period blood either so I just had to accept that sex is out of the question during that week. Instead we just do anal all week and/or I perform oral sex on him. I don't know if you're into anal sex stormberlin but that's definitely the best alternative during that time __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

10-15-2004, 04:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Hubby doesn't like it much at all. I personally don't like the mess it makes with sex either. But neither one of us has too much trouble with it if we do it in the shower. He just closes he eyes before he pulls out and I wash him off. In a sense if he doesn't see it then it's not there, right?? I don't know how your SO feels about doing it in the shower at that time but it's definately easier to clean up and he really doesn't have to 'notice' the blood at all sometimes. Otherwise I just resign myself to masterbation (which I personally will sometimes do in the shower at that time because of the mess again) and keep myself happy. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

10-15-2004, 03:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
StickODynomite Insane Location: Arizona :\|	My bf doesn't care at all. He knows its natural for a woman to get her period and it doesn't turn him off. In fact, he says he likes it b/c it always stays so wet. He wont go down on me when I'm on my period.. but I can understand that ! For the messiness, we just put a towel down and that's that. Its not like there's going to be blood on the headboard or anything. . . It doesn't get THAT messy. __________________ "The human mind is like a parachute, it works best when open."

10-15-2004, 05:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind it at all. We usually do it about the same as when I am not on my period. But, I don't have that much blood on my period so there is never any mess. __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

10-15-2004, 05:39 AM	#4 (permalink)
Janey Junkie Location: Toronto	I don't like the messiness. My BF doesn't care. He'll go down on me if i let him. But I don't want to have all that blood everywhere. Since I don't get too horny then, I just wait it out...

10-15-2004, 05:56 AM	#5 (permalink)
gremlinx8 Insane Location: Illinois	My boyfriend doesn't really care, we just tend to do it later in the week when the flow is lighter; not as much mess that way.

10-15-2004, 08:46 PM	#8 (permalink)
RainbowBright Crazy	My hubby worked at getting used to it. It's not like you can actually see it while you're doing it anyway. But a lot of times I wear one of those instead cups and as long as we don't do it doggy style he can't feel it. (once I didn't even tell him it was in and he didn't notice) Keeps things a lot cleaner and you can wear them for 12 hours.

10-17-2004, 05:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
lady Addict Location: Vancouver, BC	I'm in the exact same position as you StormBerlin. It sucks. I'm coming off the depo shot and have had my period for about a month now (straight) and we had sex while I had my period and he kind of freaked out afterwards because there was blood all over the sheets. Says it freaked him out because he associates blood with injury. I'm going to try an Instead cup, I've got some around here somewhere. Maybe that'll work until the depo gets out of my system. __________________ Our doubts are traitors, And make us lose the good we oft might win By fearing to attempt.

10-17-2004, 06:43 PM	#10 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	My boyfriend doesn't care at ALL. In fact, he said he will even give me oral sex when I'm on my period (of course, that's gross- so I don't wouldn't let him). Last edited by la petite moi; 10-17-2004 at 06:49 PM..

10-17-2004, 09:09 PM	#11 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	I like shower sex, but sometimes I want it to be slow and sensual love making. That's hard in a shower because we run out of hot water :P I don't know anything about those cups. Are they designed to stop blood flow? Where can I get one? __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

10-17-2004, 10:40 PM	#12 (permalink)
jenjen Tilted Location: Oregon	My ex didn't mind fingering me when I was having my period, but wouldn't do oral or regular sex. I can't say it bothers me all that much, it just sucks that men have hangups about that kind of thing, then don't understand why we don't want to swallow.

10-18-2004, 10:23 AM	#13 (permalink)
RMMsGirl Tilted Location: Bakersfield, Ca	My fiance doesn't care at all. We just put a towel down and then throw it in the washer when we're done.

10-18-2004, 06:07 PM	#16 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	Yeah, depo totally made me lose my sex drive. It sucked. Please share more info about the cup! __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

10-18-2004, 06:19 PM	#17 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	oh that sooooo totally stinks.. ugh well at least if it happens to me i'll know that its still the birthcontrol lol...pills doing the same thing...maybe thats how they make them so effective? weight gain and you lose your sex drive...double hit...ouch __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.

10-19-2004, 05:20 PM	#18 (permalink)
themisfit Tilted Location: none of your fuckin' business	it bothers me more than hubby, and that is more due to just not feeling well...as far as periods go...anyone thought of trying the new Seasonal pill? __________________ At length my cry was known: Therein lay my release. I met the wolf alone And was devoured in peace. ESVM

10-20-2004, 04:45 PM	#19 (permalink)
Kyp's Girl Upright Location: Oregon	My husband has the same problem so we usually dont ahve sex during that week. Last edited by Kyp's Girl; 10-20-2004 at 04:52 PM..

10-21-2004, 10:36 AM	#20 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	my friend is having liek HORRIBLE pain on the seasonal pill...the hormones mess you up pretty good..and please more info about teh cup...anyone... __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.

11-07-2004, 09:53 PM	#21 (permalink)
qtpye4u84 Flavor+noodles Location: oregon	Shower thing works, head and anal work also. I get really horny on my periods so my little toy gets a lot of attention. Boyfriend can't see blood thats not his, he will get light headed. Taking a shower with him around that time, he closes his eye's. __________________ The QTpie

11-09-2004, 09:17 AM	#22 (permalink)
kollege_gal2000 Tilted Location: Edinburg, TX	My boyfriends ok with the subject. Again he also understands that it is a way of life. He looks forward to my period as do I for a comfort of not being pregnant. We've used the shower, I also masterbate alot during that time, and yes toys are good to use also. __________________ I am not afraid of tomorrow; for I have seen yesterday and love today!

11-22-2004, 01:54 PM	#23 (permalink)
Life_Force Upright Location: Tennessee	My honey is okay with it as long as I am comfortable. I have heard that your sensitivity level goes way up during the cycle and it seems to be true. The only draw back is the mess the bloody war leaves behind so I usually do oral on him or ask him to accompany me in the shower. Oooh La La and Wha La.. no mess. __________________ Free your mind and your ass will follow.

11-22-2004, 02:47 PM	#24 (permalink)
aphroditeskiss1 Insane Location: Albuquerque, NM	The instead cup is a tampon alternative. I've never tried it but I've heard they work well. I bet if you Google "instead cup" you'll find their website or something. __________________ "You always said destiny would blow me away. But nothing's gonna blow me away"- Something Coporate " I do not pop pills! I take them and I eat them..." - Foamy's friend

11-22-2004, 05:38 PM	#25 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	My mom used that cup thing for awhile. She loved them, but you gotta stuff them up there yourself, whereas with tampons you can use an applicators.

11-23-2004, 10:46 AM	#26 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	My hubby will go down on me, even if I'm bleeding... it's usually me that doesn't want it during that time due to pain and mess.

11-24-2004, 09:19 AM	#27 (permalink)
Maleigh99 Upright Location: Texas	I think, for us, it's not a huge deal since we've been dealing with periods monthly since puberty. Guys don't know about that crap. It's gross to most of them. Hell, it's gross to most of us. The unknown can freak a person out and they're pretty fond of their members and probably don't want to see it covered in blood. Just my opinion.

11-28-2004, 09:31 PM	#29 (permalink)
indigochild111 Crazy	Wow, I didn't know that about the pill or the depo shot. Huh, makes me think twice about it..I happen to enjoy sex. As for the boyfriend and sex during my period well..I'm pretty sure that he'd have sex with me while it's pretty messy. When he's horny...well..he's horny. But, I'm usually in way too much pain and feeling waaaay too disgusting at that time. We've done it when I'm lighter...I've noticed that when I get aroused I stop bleeding for the time being.

11-29-2004, 12:45 AM	#31 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	I bought a trial size pack of instead cups for 2.99 (the cost of shipping the little buggers) with an instructional video (oh!) and a coupon for my next purchase Cant' wait to be on the rag again to try them out. __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

11-29-2004, 10:03 PM	#32 (permalink)
Anassa Upright Location: On a fucking island...no where near tropical unfortunately	My ex never minded it, however it made me pretty self-conscious to recieve oral. Usually I would wash prior, and then insert a tampon to inhibit more blood. We would put a towel down for sex, then we'd take a romantic shower together to clean up. Good luck with your cups __________________ Make love to the present... Fuck the past