pinkie

My favorite anal toy is the classic dong.


Seriously, am I the only one???

StickODynomite

What if you just cant stand the feeling enough to "practice"... i guess you're screwed then right?

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xxSquirtxx

Well, hmmm. I suppose if you just don't care for it, then you just don't care for it. Nothing wrong with that, I suppose.

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pinkie

Yeah, I mean, if you don't like it, why do it?

Missy

Anal sex is like riding a bike (did i really just say that?). You have to PRACTICE, start small, and work up to it. I started with fingers, then moved on to smaller toys before I was completely comfortable with it. I'd say I had to have 20-25 experiences back there before I was comfortable with my bf having actual anal sex with me. Again, use lots of lube, and a few drinks never hurt.

StickODynomite

I like how you mention "drinks" in there. Lord knows I'd need a few to relax for that !

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Missy

I firmly believe that if it wasn't for having 'a few drinks', guys wouldn't get half the kinky shit they want off of us!

pinkie

Hm, I don't even drink...

xxSquirtxx

Neither do I.

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StickODynomite

Missy Oh yeah and as far as sticking my fingers in there---umm... I cant even stand sticking my fingers in my vagina. Just hate the feeling and I get nothing out of it. Just feels ... very uncomfortable.

I rarely drink. I've only had drunken sex once.. and I dont think I enjoy it as much as sober sex.

And besdies, I like trying different things.
Except for anal, because that just plain out hurts. . . not to mention I tighten up when anything goes NEAR my anus. That, among other things, may be causing the pain.

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errk

Use a lot of lube, and you have to be really relaxed... get on your knees doggy style and have him rub your lower back until you melt. Make sure you have a pretty good vibrator and you won't notice any discomfort.. and you will have an unbelievable orgasm

StickODynomite

The other day he just stuck his finger in there ..he says he meant to go for the other hole. It wasn't lubbed up a lot.. so it was uncomfy, but it still wasn't as painful as I thought it'd be ... I was very relaxed when he put it in, but when he went to take it out.. i tightened up and damn it hurt.

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KinkyKiwi

why hasnt anyone mentioned that you can buy lubes/lotions that have..i'm not sure exactly what its called..but like its for anal sex and you use it before and it kinda numbs your tush a lil-not so much so it doesnt feel good. you apply it, let it sit then rinse it. then use regular lube. almost all sex stores carry it

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Nancy

I just came across this when I was searching for...something

It might have some great tips on how to get rid of this pain/discomfort that you've been having so far

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ngdawg

I'm curious as to why, if one experiences pain with a certain activity, would they continue to do it-given they tried with lubes, etc? I tried it when I was young, I tried it now, I don't like being in pain that way. Maybe it's the way I'm built that I simply can't tolerate it. But, giving all things a fair chance, some things end up not being pleasurable at all.

jillian

i will repeat what everyone else has said.. TAKE IT SLOW!!! and i mean slow.. not 2 or 3 times and expect to take him all the way and have multiple orgasms like the movies lead u to believe... i started with fingers then small toys then bigger toys then i was ready for the real thing.. and all of this was over like a 3 month time span... a guy would slip a finger in every now and then.. a few weeks later tried a small vibrator which was really nice after a couple weeks of practice.. then a bigger vibrator which was really nice after alot of loosening up.. almost a month... then tried the real thing... and i have to agree the best position starting out is spooning.. it still is the easiest for a guy to enter when im in that position.. till im nice and relaxed back there.. then its whatever postion feels best.. but the key is take ur time.. its not gona happen if u rush it.. if u rush it and it doesnt work u probably arent gonna wanna try it again.. but if u take ur time the reward will be great

Squishor

Basically what has worked for me is a really slow entry time period. I do tend to get some acute pain at first but then if he just holds it there (not even fully in yet) without moving for a minute or two, then I'll adjust and the festivities can begin. Also over time it has gotten a lot easier, so that now I don't even find that necessary. It took years though, although I can't say I do it all that frequently. I don't know about the orgasm though - now I feel like I'm missing out.

tomdom

i like anal

Ananas

To get some really good insight, tips and techniques on anal, try reading some gay men's erotica, and check out gay men's health websites!

Seriously. Go to the experts when you want the best opinion. I learned everything I know about anal from gay men (just make the appropriate adjustments for the female side, and there you have it!).