jRuntlets

Some might say this should go in the Sexuality section, but I want to know what you ladies think!

I was watching a program on Discovery Health (I'm an addict - all I do is watch that channel!) and it was talking about the more common age gap between men and women when they date.

The show stated that many older women are taking younger men as companions, because they have a better sex drive. Studies (according to the program) have concluded that women hit their sexual peak much later in life, thus needing a younger man.

I'm using "man" because that is what the program used as an example. If you are in a same sex relationship feel free to post!

Do you on average take a younger person, older person or a person of a similar age as your partner?

Also, if you'd like to imput: At what age do you think it is socially acceptable to date someone 10+ older than you?

I'm a strange person and I like to ponder these things.

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pinkie

Seven years younger.

guinnessgurl

six years older.

i think once a couple is both past the age of 30, then it would be socially acceptable for one of them to be 10+ older, well even past the age of 25 i suppose, because a 25 year old and a 35 year old doesn't seem that bad.....
i dunno, i'm a firm believer that every circumstance is different and everything is dependant on the people themselves....

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Sugar&Spice

I have usually only dated/been interested in older guys. They just always seemed a lot more mature and for some reason mysterious. I've dated a guy 3 years older and I worked with a guy who was 8 years older and would not have minded getting to know him a bit better.

As of now, I'm dating a guy my age and I never really thought I'd do that. We get along really good and I'm happy with him. I'm glad I was willing to give it a try.

I think it's socially acceptable to date someone 10+ years older then you somewhere in your mid to late 20's. If you are 18 and dating a 30 year old people wonder if he just can't get a woman his own age. But, when you are in your late 20's it doesn't really seem to matter to anyone how many years apart people are.

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Rubyee

I am currently with a man my age.

I would go as older as I had to if that meant finding someone I truly loved and could get along with. I don't think I would go younger. I dated someone younger for a long time, and it was a waste, physically, emotionally, and financially.

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raeanna74

Age never mattered much to me. Even when I was 19 it didn't. I was engaged at that age with a man who was 29. I did find that because he was deaf and the deaf culture caused some clashes between us he was also much more set in his ways while I was still forming habits and preferences. The age difference was part of the reason we broke up.

Hubby is 3 years and 2 months younger than I am. His age was never a determining factor as to whether I dated him or not. A lot of the age factor that makes a difference is how old you ACT and THINK not how old you actually are.

I've heard this too that women tend to pick younger men - could be. My parents are the same - Mom is 4 years older than Dad.

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Nancy

Loverboy is 1½ years older than I am. I prefer them older and more mature

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*edited*

Wow, this is the ladies lounge.. Sorry gals, I just followed a thread from a member profile..

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Averett

Hey you ^ you have boy parts, what are you doin here?

I know, I've seen em

As for me (since I have girlie parts and can post here ) age doesn't matter to me. But for some reason I always tend to get tangled up with guys a year younger than me. Just how it's worked out.

(edited cause when you type the laughing face and a ) after, it shows up as ) which is just silly)

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lurkette

ratbastid's about a year and change younger than I am. D & S are both about 2 years younger.

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sillygirl

My hunny is about 4 1/2 years older than I am. I've never connected with anyone so well. It's kinda funny, because I had a few people I knew and who knew me well (well-respected teachers, etc) who always told me I needed someone closer to their mid-twenties because then they'd have the maturity I wanted/needed as well as more intelligence. This is the first guy I've dated who was more than a year and a half older than me. I've never been more in love.

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*Nikki*

I used to be with a older guy for 6 years.

Well let me tell you something. For a change I decided to try a younger one........and I will never ever go back to older.

The sex alone is reason enough.

Mehoni

Four years older... The oldest was 23 years older.

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ariekitten

i haven't been dating for that long really. up until i was 17, i dated slightly older guys (1-2 yrs), then i dated some slightly younger ones (1-2 yrs), and now i'm dating a guy who is not even a year older than me. so i dont' really care what age....but i definitely tend to date people nearer to my age, it may change though as i get older....who knows.

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Redgirl

Primal and I are the same age, but I have always been attracted to older men. Primal acted more mature than all the other guys in high school, so that's the only reason I think I ended up with a guy my age.

I always seem to attract guys who are at least 12-15 yrs older than me. There was one that was 20 yrs older and had a daughter only a few yrs younger than me.

I'm an old soul, so maybe that's why older guys are attracted to me.

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Mel

My guy is a few months younger than me, and to answer your other question, I think it becomes socially acceptable to date someone ten years older when you turn Thirty

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ShaniFaye

Dave is 4 1/2 years younger than me....I only dated older men when I was 18-20...in my first marriage my guy was 3 years younger than me

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i've dated two years younger, one year older, four years older, my age, and currently with someone two years older.

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Frenchie

I think it all depends on the guy himself. As most of you have heard the saying, "guys mature three years later than girls"... it might be true in some cases, but you yourself has to see it.

I am with my man who is two years older than me... give or take a couple of months. But I have never been with a guy who was more mature... or suited to my tasted before him.

sexymama

I'm curious why younger isn't a choice? Lebell is 3 years younger than me.

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jRuntlets

Sorry sexymama, I completely spaced on the younger aspect! Is there any way one of the mods could post it up there?

Personally, I'm a fan of older guys. Most of the guys in my age range right now are so excited by their penis and beer that it's just not worthwhile to date them until they're about 23 or so.

My motto for (most) guys in the 18-21 age bracket tends to be: "Yes, I have breasts. No, you can't see them. Yes, you have a penis. No, I don't want to see it."

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Eclipse26

Definitely need a younger option...

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BlueBongo

Well... my husband is 2 yrs older than I am..... so I suppose that doesn't help I've always gotten along better with people older than me in all relationships... not sure why, that's just how it's worked out.

As far as an appropriate age for a 10+ yr difference... I don't know that age really matters if the relationship works and the people involved are happy. I suppose if one was 25 and the other was 15... might be an issue legally, but I just figure if they're happy and it works well.. there age really shouldn't be an issue.

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stephthegeek

Mine is 21 years older. A whopping difference, I know We've been together six and a half years though, so it's still working for us!

phedre

mine is 7 months younger. and yes i also think dating someone more than 10 years older/younger would be fine for 30+. a friend of mine seems to gravitate towards younger men but none have worked out yet, partially because those guys were pretty much just looking for sex. maybe they thought they could score because she's older? i dunno.

pinkie

Me too... My husband is seven years younger.

gabshu

I kinda like younger guys. It's almost as if they are more eager to please. I've never had a real relationship with one, but I am attracted to them all the time. They are fun for a once in a while type of thing.

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ironchefrocks

My first bf is 11 years older than I am, #2 ~10 months younger, and current is 3 months younger. Not that I learned a lesson or anything the first time, but I guess as I grew older, guys my age did as well

divagrrrl

I am 35 and I prefer younger men, in the 25-30 age range; although I am not opposed to dating older men, it seems that only the younger ones are asking me out.

I find the younger men to have fewer hang-ups, be more spontaneous, and more likely to meet...ummm... certain needs.

Impisheye

My SO is 22 years younger than me. We've been together for nearly four years which is a bit of a surprise to me because I thought it was just a bit of a lark at first. Doesn't bother us but I think it bothers other people quite a bit as we get a few stares...but that may be just as much to do with the fact that he is 16 inches taller as well...odd couple I guess.

Untitled

I voted same age. My boy right now is 3 weeks older than me.

My parents are only 3 weeks apart, so I grew up with that as my role model. I've always thought I'd be with someone who was close to my own age, and I'm sure this is why.

Chloe

I usually go for people the same age as me or a few years older. My boyfriend is the same age as me (well, he's technically 1 month younger).

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Squishor

I'm 41 and my boyfriend is 33 - we usually don't notice the difference except for sometimes when we talk about music. I date younger men because I can.

KimBauer

Hmm, slipped and put 4-10 years Got used to it..

My S/O atm is 3 years older.

Jwest

I am 33 and am seeing someone who is 46. I met him when i was 24, he was much more senior than me at work and i basically thought he was an old man (which is funny considering he was only 36). When our paths crossed again professionally, 18 months ago, we really hit it off. it was interesting because i usually gravitate to good looking men around my age, but i fell in love with his personality and in the end - his looks weren't important and i find him extremely attractive. I look very young for my age and he isn't a young looking 46 by any stretch. He's also very senior and has a lot of power in the industry i work in, so there are lots of snide comments about me being a gold digger, which isn't true. I don't care though. I knew that he was the one when i realised that whenever he entered the room, I lit up like a christmas tree, and that is so much better than being seen with any young good looking guy.

StickODynomite

My SO is 6 months older than I am.. I dont particularly like men that are much older than i am. I generally dont go younger, a year max (usually the younger the more immature). So right around my age is ideal for me...

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I just broke up with my boyfriend who is 9 years younger than I am. The age difference became apparent when I realised that we are in two totally different places in our lives. I'm 35 and have a growing business and if I'm going to have kids (a mighty big IF), I'm going to need to settle down fairly soon. He's just getting his life started and has a bit more maturing to do. He's a great guy though. sigh.

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RomancehasDied

2 years younger

jenjen

is 1 1/2 months younger than me

noctypair

I am 21, he is 36. Happily married and delighted