I'm with redgril and onodrim, I put bisexual. For me women are mainly a sexual attraction, I'll fool around but I'm not one for a relationship with women. That and I'm very picky about women (as in alot of the women I could fool around with are not attractive to me). But I am with a man now and he is open to three somes and some experimentation on my part. I'm not as picky about men though and I find it more comfortable to be with a guy long term than a woman.

Heh cadre, I saw my name in your post and had to go back and re-read what I wrote myself because it's been so long! :lol:

I'm glad I did though because with time and new insight and experiences I'd have to adjust my thoughts a bit. I still identify myself as bi-sexual, but in a deeper sense as opposed to a purely sexual attraction. Now, I don't know that I could ever enter into a commited a relationship with a woman such as marriage, but I do believe that I could have a very serious and meaningful relationship with another woman aside from the sex itself. As Gilda very informatively pointed out, bisexuality seems to exist along a spectrum. I'd say I am likely around a 4 on that scale. I definintely have a stronger preference for men and imagine myself with a man as a life long partner. However, I am drawn to women on both an emotional and physical level and could easily hold a steady relationship with another woman.

The way you describe it would make you a 2; bisexual but more attracted to the opposite sex. A 4 would be bisexual, but more attracted to the same sex.

I'm one of those who is definitely into fantasizing about sex with other partners in particular two or three women here at TFP, but would very likely not act on that because my commitment to my mate is so strong that it would feel like a betrayal.

Gilda

Thank you for the clarification. :)

Well, alright then. :) No, I completely understand. I feel the same way about ktspktsp, even though I am curious as ever. It is mostly an up-and-down curiousity, though this week I seem to be a bit more horny than usual (in terms of attraction to women)!

I know that it would take some major discussion with him before I even entertained the idea of acting on anything (and likewise, I know it would go the same if he was curious about trying things). :icare: We are very open about our desires and needs, and I love that facet of our relationship. I am very satisfied with the monogamy we have, and the hot fantasies we can share. :crazy: But I don't think we have closed the door completely on the topic... but I like it where it is, for now. :)

Still, let us know if anyone has a party! :lol:

Same goes for me. I can't imagine doing something deliberately that would hurt him.

Voted definitely straight as I don't think fantasies really count. My best friend and I played around as teens and at that time it was really fun, but I LOVE men, have more male friends than female and, quite frankly, enjoy a good old fashioned missionary pounding LOL :lol:

My self-prescribed Kinsey number shifts on occasion. It may just be due to the people I encounter though.

I'm definitely bisexual though, with an estimated average Kinsey of three.

Well, i Love men too... and an old fashioned missionary pounding? sign me up :) hehe
And i also typically have always been friends with guys, not esp. women for some reason. I find I often relate to men better.

I find my sexuality shifts periodically... some months i'm really into fantacizing about women and that's all i will have fantasies about... other months, it's all about men... I've given up trying to understand why it shifts and i just accept it :)

When i think of women... it's not just on a sexual attraction level... I hope that one day I will have a relationship with a woman on an emotional/sexual level, but i admit... i will probably always feel more comfortable in a hetero relationship, i'm not sure if this is because of society or because that's just what i'm used to.

sweetpea

Why is this thread so scary to me!??! Eeeeek!

/me calms down a bit

I finally voted in the poll. I must have read this entire thread at least four times since it's been created.

I think if I would have voted in here before, I would have picked 'bi-curious', but I finally settled on 'definitely bisexual'. I'm the kind of person who would dive into lesbian experiences just because I wanted firmly to stand up for my sister's right to be a lesbian, completely disregarding my own feelings and desires. So, for a while, I thought maybe I was just fooling myself into thinking I was attracted to women.

Recently, I've come to a better understanding of my attraction to both men and women. It's not just about the person; it's also about the circumstance. That's big for me, to admit that it's not just about finding a person who resonates with me and to whom I am attracted, so I'll repeat it. It's not just about the person; it's also about the circumstance.

With men, because it's so easy to be part of what's socially acceptable, there are many many many more circumstances that I will find acceptable as a requisite to beginning a relationship or sexual activity. With women, I am apparently more selective. Extremely selective... both in the matter of which people I find attractive and which circumstances I find acceptable. Looking back, I realize that unappealing circumstances have already crushed a number of potential relationships and/or opportunities for sexual activity with women I have encountered.

No worries, SC, it was scary to me as well. I also finally voted - and ended up bi-curious. While I consider myself to be extremely straight, every once in awhile I find myself attracted to one girl or another. And although, I've never acted on it - I wouldn't rule it out, either. I'd agree, it's all about the circumstance.

Well I am looking back and seeing I didn't really write anything here, which shocked me!

I am definately bisexual. However my husband is very monogamous and this restrains me. He believes that our relationship should be exclusive and I must admit I knew this before marrying him. However there have been many times already I have just wanted to reach out and touch someone:) Knowing that it would hurt and upset him stops me though.

If I were still unattached I would more then likely be in a girl/girl relationship.

I'm not married but I am kind of the same way. I'm thinking it's that "you want what you can't have" thing. It gets me every time. ;)

I voted bi-curious. I had a brief relationship with a girlfriend when I was about 10 or so which I abruptly broke off when it started to get "heavy." I think for years after that I was ashamed of it and as a result was strongly turned off by the idea of sex with another woman. But, for the last few years, I've had fantasies about other women and I don't think I'd refuse an opportunity to be with a woman who turned me on. So I guess I got over it, lol. Only thing is, I'd prefer more masculine women as opposed to the average male fantasy of two pornstar-types getting it on. I guess that connotes my natural tendency towards straight relationships....

I've only ever been with men, but almost 100% of my fantasies are of women. Men in person are great, but in my imagination the only thing that turns my crank is a woman. I voted bi-curious because I'd love to try something with a woman but I have no idea where to start. I guess I would find a woman just like finding a man ... haha.

Curiosity is definitely the right word for it, because I just have no idea what it would be like and I'd love to satisfy that curiosity, even if it turns out that women "in person" just don't do it for me. (I doubt that, but I just don't know for sure!)

I consider myself definitely straight. However, I am starting to understand more and more of why women would rather be with another woman than with a man!

I'm still hedging on posting about why I voted the way I did. I'm definitly bi-sexual. But I've never had any experience with _anyone_ MALE OR FEMALE, other than my SO. I love men, but am equally attracted to women - and I do think that circumstances play a large role in the level of attraction. I don't really notice people sexually for the most part, so maybe that's not a fair assessment. I'm certainly not just basing it on fantasies or dreams. I'm open to anything. And there's a particular woman I _think_ I've actually been in love with for a long time. My husband swears that he wouldn't consider it cheating (he thinks it's hot) but honestly I'm not sure I wouldn't. I don't think experimenting is worth jeapordizing our relationship because I do value it so much. Nor would the possible results be worth jeapordizing my friendship with this woman. It's a confusing morass and all in all I'm glad that we practice monogamy. It keeps me from having to resolve my tangled emotions in that arena. I'm pretty sure that if I could over-come my own body image issues I would be willing to engage a third party in our relationship, or find a female love interest with his blessing. I can't help but wonder if he would _really_ be as okay with it as he thinks he would. I would still consider it cheating if he suddenly developed an interest in men and wanted to sleep with one... It would hurt if he sneaked and lied about it, no matter the gender of the partner. So I answered bi-curious because that is all I will probably ever be. ;)

Put me down for an invitation to that!

Where do you live again? ;)

i voted bi-curious, i love men, but there is something about a woman i just cant let go of. :icare:

lol, how did I miss you flirting with me? Well, I do declare...
;)

definitely str8......i love guys
just luv em

i don't believe in heterosexuality nor do i believe in homosexuality.
not a very popular ideology among either 'camps', but i just don't think that anything (and especially something as complex as human sexuality) is that black or white.
sexual orientation is a sliding scale, and it encompasses all shades of grey.
i firmly believe that socialization largely shapes sexual orientation and how one feels about sexual orientation or sex in general.

now i have to raise what will, no doubt, be an unpopular question:
what is the point of having a 'ladie's lounge'?
it seems that many of the threads started here are initiated based on what some guy (usually on the board) thinks, says, has questioned, etc.
so,... why not let them post and, actually, involve them in the discussion?
the way it is currently, it seems like many of the threads (certainly not all - and i am not really talking about this thread either - wouldn't have bothered posting in it otherwise) started in here are just set up more to catch the male members attention and serve as sort of a peep show (you can watch but don't touch or make a sound type thing).
this seems, more than a little, odd for a forum built on the concept of "the evolution of humanity, sexuality, and philosophy"... especially given that the site already seems to be largely dominated by the (stereotypically) male perspective.
this first caught my attention in the whole "what do we love about men" thread, which just totally turned me off to the 'ladies lounge'.
but i really didn't want to offend anyone (still don't - & i apologize if i am) or bring the convo you guys were enjoying down so- instead of saying anything about, i just decided not to post and haven't been back in this forum till now. but i've never been any good at keeping my mouth shut for very long.
anyway, does this seem like a problem to anyone else?
i just don't understand the intentions behind it. :confused: it's just, more than little, confusing to me.

Why Mizz Scarlett!

/morphs into "Joey" mode

How you doin'? :D

I voted a while back, bi-curious I think. Anywho, women are beautiful. I've done my share of drunken makeout sessions but I doubt I could ever be in a relationship with a woman. We're a little too unstable for my tastes :) But I'd still have sex with women. I'm just sayin...