Sugar&Spice

I posted this question in Titled Sexuality, but I don't think the guys are gonna answer all that truthfully.

I'm just curious as to how long your guys can actually last. I had a discussion with two of my friends and both of them thought that the actual act of sex itself only lasted 5 minutes. One of them has been with her boyfriend for almost 3 years now...and on a good day he'd last 5. So, I'm now wondering if this is how a lot of guys are or if I just got lucky with my boyfriend who can go as long as I need him to.

raeanna74

Hubby varies a LOT. I know tricks that speed him up if I want. We also have learned some ways to slow down. He has actually gone up to 45 min one time. I was so worn out. lol Guess I need to get into shape.

But it varies so much depending on the stimulation, and how turned on he is simply by the situation. Age seems to have an effect too the older they get the more they understand their body and can make it do more of what they want - Usually.

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cherriesue

My ex varied...he could last forever if he really wanted to...but it got to a point where he didn't care if I was satisfied so it started to get shorter and shorter

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SiN

Hm...I think there's a variety of factors to take into consideration here....condom, circumcision, and whatever else.

Anyways, to answer the Q -

I'd say about 15-45 mins is average for me and bf. Uncut, no condom.

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*Nikki*

I would rather that my guy didnt last a long time. Long time=sore for me.

He can last a few minutes or I'd say up to 15 minutes. The thing about that is that he can go several times in a row with little or no break inbetween.

He is the most sexually potent boyfriend I have ever had in that aspect. I don't think I could ever go back to a guy who is down for the count after one or two sessions.

shannon

i've never really paid attention to the time. i would guess it would last anywhere from 15 minutes to maybe an hour? but i don't know, i could be thinking it last longer because it seems like a lot of pleasure happened or something...i find the biggest variable for us is how much he has cum in the last little while. if he hasn't cum for a few days or something then it's no time, if he masturbated right before i came over then it's forever. there's a ton of variability. at trivia at our campus pub one week they had a beer question asking how long was the average length for intercourse, and the answer ended up being one minute. i couldn't get over that. that would mean that there would be people low enough to account for anyone who took a really long time too! i don't know where they got that info though.

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Amethyst

My husband and I once tried to see how long we could go and he lasted almost two hours. It was a lot of fun that night and we were both really sore the next day. Usually it's between 15-30 minutes. Sometimes less when it is just a quickie.

flamingpeach

I guess 10 - 15 minutes.


Any longer then that and I get quite sore, so I am happy with the length.

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fallenangel

I already posted my reply in tilted sexuality, and i don't know if anyone read it there, and i'll be damned if i know how to set up a link *sigh*

I'll cliff note it for you...

Long enough when i want it long, but every now and then all i want is a quickie! woohoo

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SiN

'tis easy

either:

1. just paste a link. If the board software 'reads' it as a link (starts with http: or www. for example) it will 'automatically parse url's' by default. (that means it puts the [*url]www.somelink.com[*/url] (without the *) tags around the text, and magically, it's clickable.

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(ps) back on-topic: some of you mention soreness..and yes, that does happen to me (or even him sometimes) if we do it for too long. Sucky part is then I usually need 24+ recovery hours.

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sexymama

Usually as long as it takes me to come -- lucky me!

(The ex never lasted more than 3 - 5 minutes.)

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anti fishstick

it's hard to tell.
we have these sessions that last about 4 hours with little breaks (pee, recover, etc) in between. i guess one sitting could be as long as 1 1/2 hours or as short as 40 minutes.

yes, soreness is a problem and it often seems like i physically have too much sex for my body to handle.. but i've thought up ways to work around this that seem to be working

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Nancy

my loverboy is skilled so he can last forever if he wants but I'd say that the average for us is at least one hour...

soreness is a problem for me as well but during my recovery the next day(s) we just resort to anal/oral

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gabshu

My guy lasts around 15-20 min and i think the mos he has lasted is like an hour. but sometimes he goes on for a really long time and ends up not having an orgasm, so who knows.

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lisa

It varies a lot!

sometimes, we haven't seen each other in a long time (meaning a week or so) and then it might be quicker then we both expected

But when we're both well balanced, i guess it can be from 15 minutes to 30, maybe 40 minutes... it's hard to put a time on it... i remember once that i did look at the clock (before and after) and i was surprised how long it took

But for us, to both make us last longer, i think we'll need some condition-training! Usually i can't "ride" him longer then five to ten minutes or so; after that i'm totally exhausted, and he has to do the finishing job ;


Any of you have any tips on this, for me to last longer physically (by wich i mean, that my mussles -in my legs and so- don't get so tired so soon...) ???

qtpye4u84

WEll, it depends on if has had some or not.
He lasts longer when hes already had some.
We, normally cum at the same times and if we don't he either gets some ore I get some but we both end up geting some,it takes times. so any where from 2 min to 20 min but some times longer.

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Forever if I want him too. Usually its all about me for about fifteen minutes ( which usually mean cuming constantly) and then we focus on him a bit.
Quickies are great also!!

punkgrl1984

my boyfriend averages from 20 minutes to and half and hour

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Redgirl

He goes as long as I need him to. Sometimes that's 10-15 min, and sometimes it's an hour. I'm not a girl who likes the marathon sex. I'm kind of like a guy, I come 1 time, really hard, then I'm done and ready to sleep. He is like most women, he can go multiple times with no rest and would prefer to come twice most of the time. This is a good thing for those times when I take forever and he comes before me. Sometimes we just keep going and it pretty much stays hard for the next round.

I prefer us to come at the same time, but he generally tries to hold back just a little so he can enjoy my orgasm. Then he lets go right after.

Of course, we've had 12 years to perfect this!

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sexymama

Vary your positions. Exercise regularly. If you want to stay on top, move your legs to a new position -- even an inch one way or the other can help.

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icksters

The longest my SO and I have gone for was about for an hour and a half. We were bored, in his dorm...alone...and you know what they say, time flies when you're having fun. I coulda swore I was walking funny the next day, I was so sore.

lissa

WHen my bf and I have sex it varies on how long he can last. One time he lasted about 40 minutes, and there have been times where he can only last about 10, so it all depends!

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minyn

10 minutes to hours. nifty control he has on his orgasm.

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Unga

Hrmm well the first time lasted about 3 seconds. He argues that it was 30 :P

I don't really pay attention to the time but i'm guessing at least 15 minutes? He stops ever so often to hold back his orgasm until he cant any longer

nspanky34

Usually my bf lasts 5-10 minutes with foreplay of course, but the trick is to get your guy to masturbate earlier in the day. If my guy masturbates he lasts up to a half hour more than if he didn't.

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wonderwench

My guy generally lasts 15 - 45 minutes for the main event. The longer he goes, the more difficult it is for him to cum - penises can get desensitized. We've found that taking a break and letting him resensitize gets both of us back into it.

Agreed on the masturbating prior - if he does that, he can go for a couple of hours.

RainbowBright

Sometimes it's a quicky a matter of minutes sometimes it's longer. I don't like it to go on forever, mostly chasing the orgasm i guess. And after I'm like a guy I just wanna lay back and sleep, and maybe go eat a sandwich.

Alyssa

I'd say average 10-15 minutes here! No complaints, if it goes longer, I usually get sore or tired.

pinkie

It always depends on the circumstances. He can keep himself from cumming til I cum, or make it a quickie if our daughter is coming home soon.

When we first met, we'd go for hours though.

Apache

I think for us its usually around 30 min. If you add foreplay into that, from the time we start to fool around till the time it's over it its around 40 min. sometimes longer.....

The only time we have quickies I think is if one of us wakes the other one up in the middle of the night and you have to get up in a couple hours. That's about the only time we're in a rush

Acetylene

Sounds like my ex lol.

My current bf comes between 5 and 10 minutes but doesn't lose his erection so it basically lasts as long as we want it to, between 30 minutes and 2 hours.

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Xapphire

Jaid stays hard after orgasm, so we can go for hours (and do when we have the chance), or for a quickie we can get him off in as little as 5 minutes or if we don't expect to be interrupted or have to go anywhere, it probably takes him 30 minutes because he'll stop himself to last longer.
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Mel

It varies, depends on how long we want it to last

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mew

Longest my x lasted was 30 mins (first cum), and 1 hr (after 1st cum)

claustin8605

My SO has lasted up to almost 90 minutes (an hour and a half) before, which no complaints here. But I guess if you are sexually active on a reguar basis it helps. But I love it when he lasts for a while so might I say my SO is very satisfying to me, but also tiresome :-P

Cedar

< 3 minutes, and it's especially bad because we're in a commuter marriage and maybe only have sex once a month. And then he's like, "Wait, let me try again." No thanks, honey. I had an ex that could go for quite some time and was rather proud of it. That was sort of cool.

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Blonddie

5-50 mins. Depends on alot of things. Sometimes we even get to do it again!

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combatmedicjen

What's all this about being sore?? C'mon ladies, condition that vagina!! Build up some calluses!!

Me and hubby do our horizontal work-out once or twice a day. He has amazing control over his orgasms, and he doesn't need any sort of break between sessions. This means that I will always be quite satisfied

As for time, we've made love all night before, but the average is usually 30-45 minutes. Even our quickies aren't that quick... usually about 15 minutes...

I don't know, I just can't get enough of him!