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BlueBongo · 11-10-2003, 08:58 AM

K..... I am always finding myself ill or not feeling well (or just too damn tired sometimes) because of evil acid reflux disease or just other issues with my body and I find it uncomfortable to have intercourse during these times... but it it does seem like it is every day.

I wouldn't say it's my sex drive.. because I really do enjoy it when my boyfriend touches me and makes me feel wonderful, as he always does.

I just can't figure it out but it's really getting on my nerves because I don't know how to control it or make these things go away very well.

As far as the acid reflux I'm basically screwed with that the rest of my life.. and it does make my body a living hell to deal with 95% of the time... I hope to get a decent job after the move with great benefits so I can have surgery to get this dealt with.

I just know it bothers my boyfriend because of his thwarted advances and frankly I am ready for a transplant for someone with no medical issues.

Just want some ideas on other things I might do to improve this...ie more physical activity (which I don't get would be a plus), living more healthy than I do... probably. But I wanted other opinions... so please help me out with any advice you may have.

Thank you!

lurkette · 11-10-2003, 12:28 PM

I don't know if you've gone to see a doctor about the acid reflux, but that might be a good start. There are some great drugs now to deal with that kind of thing - my mom and my father-in-law both have issues and have been doing really well with the medications they're on.

Another thing you could do, and this is going to sound "woo-woo" but it worked for my mom and my sister, is to have your food sensitivities tested. You can do this a number of ways:

1. go to an allergy specialist
2. go to a kinesthesiologist (this is somewhat controversial and I'm a little skeptical, but this is what my mom and my sister did, and what they found out from the kinesthesiologist worked for them)
3. test things yourself by eliminating one thing for a week or two and seeing how your body reacts - e.g., eliminate dairy, or refined wheat, or tomatoes, or garlic, or whatever for two weeks and see if things get better. But do them one at at time so you can tell what's the culprit.

This can help with some of the symptoms of acid reflux. Do you have genuine acid reflux, or do you have a hiatal hernia? (You mentioned surgery...)

If the acid reflux is making sex uncomfortable you should try different positions that don't aggravate it. If it's just that it's a constant level of discomfort that makes you not want to have sex, then you should probably have it looked at till you find a treatment that works for you. Nobody should have to live with that kind of discomfort 95% of the time, and it can't be good for you, besides.

Good luck!

sillygirl · 11-10-2003, 01:03 PM

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I hope to get a decent job after the move with great benefits so I can have surgery to get this dealt with.

Before resorting to surgery or medications, why don't you contact a naturopathic doctor? I know some people don't go for this, but it really does work! I know a guy here in Az who has helped tons of people. Acid reflux is a problem that can be solved by balancing your body.

sexymama · 11-11-2003, 10:07 AM

I have acid reflex too and have dealt with it for years by taking Prevacid. There are other wonderful drugs out there that work just as well -- even some over the counter now. So, deal with the obvious first and manage it. Other suggestions: elivate the head of your bed; stop eating at least 2 hours prior to going to bed; limit your alcohol intake; and exercise.

As for other issues, if there are any, I'd say go with the flow and accept the advance even if you don't feel "in the mood." Once things start to heat up, you may get into it more. At age 22/23 you may be having some guilt issues around enjoying sex (I don't know how you were raised -- just speaking from experience). Let go and enjoy! There is nothing wrong with a good, healthy sexual relationship. My personal difinition of healthy -- if it feels good and you both want it, go for it! Good luck!

BlueBongo · 11-12-2003, 02:54 PM

Yeah... I do have the genuine thing (acid reflux).. it really is a problem and makes me constantly uncomfortable. Unfortunately I am currently on state insurance which does not cover the (strength of) medication (of the many I have tried). I found Prilosec has helped.. but I am still constantly having troubles. I have had to ration what medication I have to when I need it because I just can't afford 200-300 a month for 40mg Prilosec. i'm gonna head down to Mexico around thanksgiving and see if I can't get a decent amount at a low price.. but I don't even know if I should do that because I will most likely not be able to afford the move to VA if I do that.... right now I am just concentrating ALL of my efforts to get across the country at the end of the year.

As for my sexual relationship, I do feel horrid all the time (because of the various medical problems) which just shuts me down and in the end not only upsets me, but I do know if bothers my boyfriend as well. Through my constant problems he has felt that I don't want to be close to him because I am pushing him away when I feel like I do. But I am considering the surgery because I know I will feel better afterwards and it will hopefully improve how I feel after I've consumed food.....
It's just all a vicious cycle that I am having trouble trying to control.

But I will take the advice given and see what I can do to just attempt to improve my general health. Thank you!

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 12:21 PM

add over the counter pepcid if you can to your prescription it might help... the stress your feeling about your sexual problem is intensifying your acid reflux. Might want to see a therapist just to relax a lil....

Shyla Loral · 11-13-2003, 12:33 PM

Also Prilosec, previously available only by rx, is now over the counter to deal with acid reflux. It's very effective, and cost only $20 a month. Also, find out what foods make you the most "acid" like, and try to avoid those. If there are certain times of the day you'd like to have sex, try to avoid eating anything that would upset you around that time. Are you lactose intolerant? That can irritate acid reflux, and you can take lactaid. Chamomile tea and peppermint tea both soothe the stomach. Also, for when I''m really feeling it, I make a tea out of fresh peeled ginger root and boiling water, let it sit 10 minutes, and drink it. Ginger is a natural anti nauseant and it boosts the immune system.
Good luck and huggs!
Shyla

BlueBongo · 12-11-2003, 07:13 AM

Thanks for the suggestions all!

I do appreciate them.

raeanna74 · 12-11-2003, 09:22 AM

I know my father struggled with acid reflux for a long time and tried everything he could. At one point he was caused more trouble because he had heliobacter pylori bacteria in his stomach.

Later he finally managed to get surgery to tie his esophagus a little tighter where it enters the stomach. The muscle that's supposed to keep the acid from coming back up had been damaged by the bacteria.

I wish you the best and hope you find a solution soon.

Cherry · 12-11-2003, 05:29 PM

It sounds like you've gotten a great deal of wonderful advice from the ladies already, so I'll just send along a heaping dose of ~*magical healing mojo*~

I know that health problems can really put a damper on the libido, but if you tackle the issues one at a time instead of trying to find a cure-all can make it a little less overwhelming.

11-10-2003, 12:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I don't know if you've gone to see a doctor about the acid reflux, but that might be a good start. There are some great drugs now to deal with that kind of thing - my mom and my father-in-law both have issues and have been doing really well with the medications they're on. Another thing you could do, and this is going to sound "woo-woo" but it worked for my mom and my sister, is to have your food sensitivities tested. You can do this a number of ways: 1. go to an allergy specialist 2. go to a kinesthesiologist (this is somewhat controversial and I'm a little skeptical, but this is what my mom and my sister did, and what they found out from the kinesthesiologist worked for them) 3. test things yourself by eliminating one thing for a week or two and seeing how your body reacts - e.g., eliminate dairy, or refined wheat, or tomatoes, or garlic, or whatever for two weeks and see if things get better. But do them one at at time so you can tell what's the culprit. This can help with some of the symptoms of acid reflux. Do you have genuine acid reflux, or do you have a hiatal hernia? (You mentioned surgery...) If the acid reflux is making sex uncomfortable you should try different positions that don't aggravate it. If it's just that it's a constant level of discomfort that makes you not want to have sex, then you should probably have it looked at till you find a treatment that works for you. Nobody should have to live with that kind of discomfort 95% of the time, and it can't be good for you, besides. Good luck! __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

11-11-2003, 10:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	I have acid reflex too and have dealt with it for years by taking Prevacid. There are other wonderful drugs out there that work just as well -- even some over the counter now. So, deal with the obvious first and manage it. Other suggestions: elivate the head of your bed; stop eating at least 2 hours prior to going to bed; limit your alcohol intake; and exercise. As for other issues, if there are any, I'd say go with the flow and accept the advance even if you don't feel "in the mood." Once things start to heat up, you may get into it more. At age 22/23 you may be having some guilt issues around enjoying sex (I don't know how you were raised -- just speaking from experience). Let go and enjoy! There is nothing wrong with a good, healthy sexual relationship. My personal difinition of healthy -- if it feels good and you both want it, go for it! Good luck! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

11-13-2003, 12:21 PM	#6 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	add over the counter pepcid if you can to your prescription it might help... the stress your feeling about your sexual problem is intensifying your acid reflux. Might want to see a therapist just to relax a lil.... __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 12:33 PM	#7 (permalink)
Shyla Loral Crazy Location: Austin	Also Prilosec, previously available only by rx, is now over the counter to deal with acid reflux. It's very effective, and cost only $20 a month. Also, find out what foods make you the most "acid" like, and try to avoid those. If there are certain times of the day you'd like to have sex, try to avoid eating anything that would upset you around that time. Are you lactose intolerant? That can irritate acid reflux, and you can take lactaid. Chamomile tea and peppermint tea both soothe the stomach. Also, for when I''m really feeling it, I make a tea out of fresh peeled ginger root and boiling water, let it sit 10 minutes, and drink it. Ginger is a natural anti nauseant and it boosts the immune system. Good luck and huggs! Shyla __________________ "Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead" Ben Franklin, Poor Richard's Almanac. Meff r0x

12-11-2003, 09:22 AM	#9 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I know my father struggled with acid reflux for a long time and tried everything he could. At one point he was caused more trouble because he had heliobacter pylori bacteria in his stomach. Later he finally managed to get surgery to tie his esophagus a little tighter where it enters the stomach. The muscle that's supposed to keep the acid from coming back up had been damaged by the bacteria. I wish you the best and hope you find a solution soon. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

12-11-2003, 05:29 PM	#10 (permalink)
Cherry Tilted Location: Yonder	It sounds like you've gotten a great deal of wonderful advice from the ladies already, so I'll just send along a heaping dose of ~magical healing mojo~ I know that health problems can really put a damper on the libido, but if you tackle the issues one at a time instead of trying to find a cure-all can make it a little less overwhelming. __________________ In walked a man in the shape of a man, holding a hat shaped hat...