gummby

I need to know if I'm the only one who is turned on by this....

A few weeks ago my husband had a dream that he was in a three-some with me and this cute little waitress that we saw at a coffee shop. He was so turned on for days, but that's one of those duh kinda statements. I asked him about it and he told me basicly that I got attention, but no penis for me. He just had sex with her and she had sex with me....and so on. I found myself sooo turned on by the thought of watching him have sex with her while I got "external stimulation". In fact it turned me on so much that I asked him to tell me about it when we were using my toys to get me off.

I've known for quite awhile that I know the difference between sex and love for us and that I don't consider anything cheating unless I'm not there. Also something that seems kind of wierd to me, not many people are comfortable with the thought of penitration by thier partner. It turns me on to no end.

Ok so now that I've written a novel, am I wierd or is there anyone else that feels this way.

Minx

While the idea of a three-some with another girl does turn me on, if I'm totally honest I would have to admit that I am much too much the jealous type to let a SO have his way with another lady. Him watching the fun we are having.....sure! Him doing the other chick....nope! I know it's not fair but that's the way I feel about it. *shrugs*

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SiN

no i don't think you're weird, the same idea/fantasy turns me on too.

i think for me the appeal is from a couple things -

1. being able to basically watch 'live' porn right in my bed, with my sexy bf as the star

2. harder to explain but perhaps you will understand anyway -

there is a part of me i think that would be uncomfortable with it, but the very act of challenging that part of me, overcoming it, and being able to be *that* sexually comfortable i think would be very cool. i can (and have many many times) fantasize about how it would be to just be there watching, listening...but just leaving the two of them alone to fully enjoy themselves...(plus to be that giving, unselfish, is also a turn-on)...
does this make sense? i can elaborate more, or perhaps one of you lovely ladies knows what i mean?

great topic, thanks for posting it

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gummby

That's exactly how I feel about it. Yay, I'm not the only one....Yay.
Now if I could just meet some really open, attractive chick that would be willing....and lived around here.

SiN

tihii

i too am happy to finally see that someone else understands

no shit. i kno how you feel. and for me, there's the added disadvantage of language barrier.

i can speak enough German to get by and do normal things, but in my german class, they've not taught us how to pick up chicks.

i'm not in a hurry tho..to be honest, i'm not sure if i'm 'ready' to go *there* yet.

i think i'd be better just trying the standard 3some with me and her doing most of the stuff first.

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gummby

yeah, I agree with the standard 3 some first. but still I cant even find someone for that part

Ladyhawke

sweetie....I think it's a complete turn on to watch my hubby have sex with anthoer woman....And a big turn on for him to watch me have sex with another man...or woman (depending on my mood)

But I see where you are coming from though...and it's not a easy question to answer. The best way I can is to recommend a movie called 'Chasing Amy' by Kevin Smith (My hubby's fav director) Watch it with him. It should give you both some insight into the threesome

I've said it before...threesomes aren't for everyone

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gummby

thanks for the advice....

The cool thing about my husband and I is that if we have discussed anything in detail it's this subject. But i will have to keep an eye out for that movie. Thanks again

Shyla Loral

Watch my hubby have sex with another woman?? Hell no, that's MY penis!!!! And that penis ain't seein any pussy but mine, or my pussy would attack him like godzilla vs. king kong.

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Baileys

Oh boy...

I've been the other woman that was asked and I actually freaked so I think I'm weird!!!

It just seemed to me that everything up to actually having sex/penetration was okay, but that wasn't and all I can think is because 'well, that's your husband'.

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shannon

i think everything else would be ok, but the penetration i think is mine. i don't really know why, i'm just possesive i guess.

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Vyxen

I don't think you're weird at all! Looks like quite a few women feel the same way, as do I. =)

I love to fantasize about about another woman joining and all of us touching eachother. I get very excited at the thought of him penetrating the girl I'm interested in at the moment (but she lives pretty far away, so this won't come true for a few months) while she goes down on me, yum!

But as was said, it really is tough to find a compatible woman for the 3rd party! I lucked out... the girl we're thinking of trying this with has become a wonderful friend and we flirt all the time without any troubles, so I think she's a great match for us. I wouldn't do it with anyone I didn't trust.

I do know there are bars or meeting places specifically for swingers. Maybe that's a good place to start, I really don't know for sure. =) Just make sure to be very open and talk about it a *lot* before trying it. Have fun!

cruisergirl

I am a veeerrry jelous person, so the thought of my man even touching another woman is just too much for me. I have thought about it, though, but doing it is something entirely different.
I've talked about it before with my husband, and we've come to the conclusion that if he's not allowed to touch her, then there's really no point and it's no fair. So, there goes that idea.

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raeanna74

Hubby and I haven't had a straight up 3 some. I've seen him with other women and played with them. I have no fear or jealousy though because her husband is there playing too. I think the couple swap makes things more secure. You don't have the same kind of fear or worry that things are going to get wierd with your friend later.

I do get turned on by watching hubby or even by leaving the room and knowing that another woman is enjoying his talents. I'm confident that he'll come back to me so nothing holds me back from allowing him this pleasure and he knows that I trust him in this. The trust and the giving relationship necessary for this makes everything in the relationship more full.

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gummby

raeanna74

it's funny you should say that, because about two weeks (if that long) after i posted this thread, the hubby and I ended up joining a local swinger group. We haven't done any playing yet but have met some really cool open minded people.

On a semi related note. I find it interesting how many people there really are that are interested in this lifestyle. It really helps you understand yourself to be able to talk to people (espcially in person) about how you feel about it and get all the different views.

emidew22

I feel like that's the kinda thing that would be really great if no emotion was involved, but that's just something i can't control. My emotions swing out of control over the most stupid little things, if i were in that type of situation with someone i loved, i'd start to worry that he didn't need me anymore and thus didn't want me, and maybe she's a lot better in bed than me, i wonder if they're meeting up without me for a little bit of fun... you get the idea. It's something that could be really really exciting for someone how has a grip on themselves, but i just don't need that type of stress.

gabshu

Thats pretty cool. I think that I wouldn't like to see my boyfriend penetrate me and another girl. It would freak me out and make me paranoid about koodies, I know its kinda silly and there's ways to prevent that, but that's just me. Besides if you have your boyfriend always and you know that he wants you then theres nothing to worry about.

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ally

I would be way to jealous, but my boyfreind doesn't seem to think 'stuff' like that is a goo idea either.
We tried having sex with other people once and since then neither of us have been inclined to do it again.