Are many women Bi-Curious?
 

How many woman actually wonder what its like to sleep with another woman? How many women try it?

Im a lesbian so my view is a bit biased. I am interested to know what straight women thought about it.

Please give me your views:confused:

I wonder about a lot of things. Doesn't mean I'd do it :)

< -- very 'bi-curious'.

sexoring a woman is near the top of my list of sexual things-to-do.

:D

As far as I figure I am bi, just havent had the op. to practice.

exactly my thoughts for me. i felt guilty when i kissed my bestfriend and got pleasure out of it. because then i had to deal with thinking.. "am i attracted to my friend?" or is it more generally "am i attracted to women?" it's definately the latter. try to ignore the other question. hehe.

I'm also in the "bi curious, haven't tried it" boat. It'll happen, I'm sure...just hasn't happened yet.

I've had a couple of relationships with women. It's the *person* I'm attracted to, their spirit and ass, that matters not their gender. My husband has some very feminine hands though, and he can write a book with what he knows about my pussy/clit that *I* didn't. Dedication, right? Heh.

I was Bi-Curious a few months ago....Till I found a partner that both me and my hubby like. Now I'm straight Bi

I consider myself bi, but to be honest, I haven't actually done anything with a girl. Right now, I'm in a monogamous relationship with a boy. He is comfortable with my sexuality (we check out girls together, and talk about it regularly), but is unwilling to let me do anything with a chic while with him. We've had extensive conversations about it, and though he seems to understand that I am still attracted to girls, and feel the urge to be with one, he believes that me having sex with a girl would be cheating on him just as much as if I slept with another guy. I respect this, though I am disappointed. It's really hard to explain to someone that you love that you feel unfulfilled because they are not both a girl and a guy (though I'm not interested in having sex with a transexual). For more on my dilemma, refer to my post in "women seducing women."

Definitely bi-curious--just seeking the right girl for me and my hubby

I've only had one experience with a girl but I wasn't physically attracted to her (even though she was really cool in all other respects), and this was all set up by someone else, so... eh. I'd rather find someone whom I actually feel a comfortable level of passion and intimacy so I can enjoy myself better than I did at that time. The whole encounter blew my mind, but I would imagine that I would've had a lot of fun if I were more attracted to this girl. This pretty much applies to guys as well, so I guess that's a given. Maybe some day I'll work up the nerve to make a move on another girl.

I guess I'm the odd ball in this group. I've had the opportunity to be with other woman and just wasn't interested. The closest I've come to being bi-curious was while recently reading some very sensual journals on tfp. Maybe I'm getting more open with age -- but the clit just doesn't do it for me the way a penis does.

Good topic! I suppose to some respect it'd be nice to do it with a girl once to see what the fuss is all about...but at the end of the day, I'm straight as a pencil. But it's not really that big a deal to me, and i wouldn't label myself as bi anything...amBIdextrous at best.

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Good topic wannabenakid247 ;)
i think most women would like to try it out, only a woman KNOWS how to touch another woman. I dont go around checking out women to see if they are good in the sack, but if the right one comes along then i am happy to try it(as long as my hubby is there)

I'd like to try it someday. It would definately have to be someone that both my husband and myself found attractive. I haven't brought up the subject in awhile, but once upon a time we both really considered it and even broached the subject with another girl.

I have been curious since high school (oh about 20 some odd years ago) and have always been interested. I was in a 3 some a few weeks ago and it was great.

Very relaxed with friends etc. However it was all for fun. I'd do it again for fun with them, but I doubt I would do another 3some with another couple.

I would sleep w/ another woman too, but it would have to mean something, it would not be for just sex. er then this would be something serious and then I'd have to tell my mom...oh the horrors of that!

I'm bi-curious and currently flirting with a bi woman and waiting for the right moment to...er...try it out. She's willing and has a crush on me and I don't think it would take much.

I think it's easy for a lot of women to be bi-curious or even bi. Women are so sexualized in our society it'd be hard not to be affected by it, and there's the whole psychological/Freudian argument about it being a lot harder for women to transfer from mother/woman to men as the object of affection.

I'm just straight. Maybe I'm boring but I'm very happy with my bf (Silvy). I'm not interested in sex with another man either.

But to be honest, girls are prettier! It would be a long way for me to kiss another woman though...

I'm straight, I've wondered about it, but dont really have the urge to try anything. If I see women in porn though it does turn me on.

im very bi-curious.. but i havent done anything with a woman.. yet....... i have a huge crush on this girl at my school, but im almost certain shes straight as an arrow.. oh well..

bi curious here too. i'm most interested in a threesome type situation. i wonder sometime if it has anything to do with the fact that my long term bf gets really turned on by the idea too. women are just so beautiful.

hmm. . . Im deffinitly curious. . . my few experiences were interesting, but i didnt not like it. . . the last one almost converted me but i love dick too much, so no mater what i would at least be bi. . .

I think every woman has got to be a little "bi curiouse" if you want to call it that. I feel like some how it's just in our nature to be attracted to one another. I don't know... pics of chics turn me on, but as much as i love my vibrators, i don't know if that and tongue alone would do it for me. Nothing saticefies me quite as much as dick... but that's just me!

I'd say I'm bi, but it's been so long since I've been with a woman that maybe bi-curious is a better description. Too chicken to make an advance, so I've always waited for the experience to come to me. But I'm more than willing to have the experience again.

I hate to drag this up but...yeah...well...I'm gonna. ;)

I am bi. For a while in my life I had only attraction for women, actually. I've had a few relationships with women that lasted as long and even longer than some of the relationships I've had with men.

Sometimes it's a purely sexual thing for me but then I'll find this amazing woman and it becomes more than just sexual. It's actually just as good of a feeling as being with a man, is. A woman knows certain things about other women. We have this way of communicating our feelings without actually saying anything. It's just really a beautiful thing.

and how does an experience come on to me?? :(

You know...really...you just have to go out and be really open. If you are than usually when you talk to someone you'll either get a vibe or you wont. There are more women out there that are willing to experiment a little than you think!

If you meet one openly lesbian or bisexual woman than that opens up a door to a few more, and than a few more and so on. At least that's how it worked here for me.

*smiles* Have patience, hon! Trust me, you'll think it was well worth the wait.

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I am sorry about that.
I am very Bi curious. But there are so many things to worry about diseases and if I include my husband would I get jealous of them together. Although the thought of watching him with somone else really turns me on. We were talking about this and we decided that it would be great if I could clone myself. It would be perfect.
If my husband agreed I think I would go for it. The sooner the better.

I'm definately Bi. Even before I even considered the idea I had fun goofing off with my girl friends and kisses a couple. At the time I wasn't thinking of doing anything else and didn't consider it sexual.

Once hubby suggested the idea to me and eventually the opportunity arose to try it I loved it. I'm so bi since then. Been with about 8 other women.

Personally I think there's a lot of women out there who won't even consider it because of the social stigma that most religions put on that type of lifestyle. It takes actually trying it to know if you have the tendency I think.

It all started for me when we started swinging. In the first couple we started seeing the woman was bi curious but not always the first to move. Her hubby and I were playing and she and my hubby were taking a break and watching us - he encouraged her to come over and play and I just did what felt natural to me. All of my anxiety went out the window and I had a great time. The coolest of all was that it was with hubby and we've gotten to be friends with that couple too.

It's a powerful experience. Nothing like being with a man. It's more of a giving tender act. I have one friend who I love to play with when we all get together. She and I shower and all and kick the guys out. It's "girls time" and we've gotten to know eat other well. I personally think every woman should at least consider the idea. I didn't know what I was missing out on.

oh dear...that's a great freudian slip there :lol: :o :p

(and seriously your whole post is good and enlightening, as yours oft are, particularly regarding sexual/relation type topics)

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I consider myself bi although I've never had a girl on girl experience. I know that my boyfriend Spinach_Indeed would be ok with it and he wants to do the same with a guy, but I think I would want a relationship and not just sex. I've never had meaningless sex before though, so I don't know how I would deal with it. There is this one girl who I have talked to a few times who comes to my school who I am totally into. I don't think sh'es attracted to me though, she goes for girls who dress in all black and have piercings. Me-- I'm miss colorful all natural. Oh well. I think about her so much though that I have dreams about her every few nights. I've never dreamt about somebody so much.

That's one of the most frustrating things about arranging a FMF/MFM threesome or any intimate relationship. I'm not about capricious, meaningless sex. I like intimacy, and I can't be comfortable about it or enjoy it unless I'm sure that it's mutual. That's got to be about as bad as rejection, when you know that the feeling's not mutual, and that you're so intensely attracted to someone who simply does not share the same level of interest. Alas.

Wow collide. You totally said it. I'm glad to know that someone's able to be intimate and be in a relationship. Thanks for sharing. I thought I was just strange to not be able to turn off my feelings when it comes to physical intimacy.

I do understand what you are saying. I more or less got into the lifestyle for hubby. The matter of intimacy was one thing that did bother me to begin with. Those of us in the lifestyle get pretty close with those that we meet on a regular basis. There is concern and a family feeling there that I would never have expected. It's a different level of intimacy and affection. There is always the affection of my husband even when we are playing - we're just giving each other pleasure in a different way. With the girls that I enjoy playing with regularly we have a relationship of sorts. The thing about our lifestyle is that it's understood that no one will leave their partner for someone else in the lifestyle. I hope this makes any sense. I find it hard to put into words how this actually feels.

Yea that makes sense. In a way it's like how me and Spinach can talk about who we have crushes on but we know that we will always come back to eachother.

I am extremely bi-curious, but it has just come about in the past couple of months, which is hard because the whole time I have been in the same, serious, monogomaus, long term relationship. I think that the best thing to do would be to swing with another couple. The problem is finding one to do it with.

We got lucky. There's lots of sites similar to "dating" services sites. There's a site (I think mostly for people from our area) that you pay to post on called Swingvillage.com if I remember right. We posted there a long time ago. Our "subscription" ran out a while back but that wasn't until we got results. You exchange emails back on forth with people who you are interested in. They post pics and other info. We met our first couple through there. They were very well experienced and laid back. We met to just talk and IF something happened and we wanted to have more fun than that was up to us. Look around for sites like that. It seems that's one good way. ALSO Yahoo has a number of Swinger Groups that have parties. I would recommend going to a "Meet and Greet" Party first and not a "On Premise". Anything that happens between people happens off the party site with the Meet and Greet but not with the other type.

I don't mean to get off subject. I wanted this info to be out there but didn't know where else to put it. Hope it's useful at least.

thanks for the advice. so i guess i should just meet more girls? :P hehe i sound like a guy. but i always talk to people and assume they're straight. and if they talk about a boyfriend, then that's over for me.. in my head at least

Thanks for the info Reanna!

Im a lesbian also, but I have had sex with men, and its not only not the same, it totally feels alien, and unerotic to me to be with a man.

I've always thought about it, and I've even kissed a couple of girls....but I'm not sure, when it comes down to it, if it would feel right or not. Plus, I do beleive if you're in a relationship with a man, sleeping with another woman would be considered cheating, so I'll "stick to my dick" for now, and I'm happy enough to fantasize about the rest.

I am very bi curious but i don't particulary like giving or getting oral, so I don't think I'd actually have sex with a woman

ok, i went on my first pub crawl last night and i had so much bi-curious fun. ok, it was like nothing, just dancing erotically with other girls and kissing and stuff.
i think the problem with my friends and i, as dumb as it may sound, is that we're actually all really open. like we talk sex till we're blue in the face and it's nothing for me to come up behind on of my friends and rub between his legs or touch my friends breasts. but it's in this fun, playful way where it's really hard to know when someone is doing it for more and when someone is doing it to play and be flirty. i don't know if that makes sense to anyone else....

I have always been very attracted to girls. something about the level of intimacy you can share with someone the same gender is amazing...like oranges and oranges...sure apples and oranges go together in the sence they are both fruit, but only another orange really understands another orange ;) I love my boyfriend dearly and he is supportive of me being with other girls (a former swinger himself) but it takes a very special girl to get my intrest going. there has to be a physical attraction, but also a depth of character. someone I can converse with and not simply chat. Meeting girls is a bit of a challenge as well, because I am incredibly shy around them (go figure) and dont want to offend anyone with unwanted andvances so I tread cautiously and attemp to test the waters. More than likely it stems from the first girl I had a relationship with, who after several months decided she was no longer "bi" and refused to speak to me. If she would have just come to me and confided that she wasnt sure of her sexuality anymore instead of riverdancing on my feelings I would have beed okay with it. *end novel.
kate

I think that women have more attractive bodies on a purely visual level, but that I am more interested in men.
For me it's ok when my boyfreind and I have added a women, but i don't think I'd be into it by myself

I just found out that our married bi friend I have a crush on is lusting after me. I don't know quite what to do with this...seems like I should just go for it but there are so many "what ifs" and things to be negotiated - who can do what to whom, etc. I'm a little nervous.

I'm totally in the BI catergory, but I prefer man! i ahve done it both with three somes and just with another women! my only problem with being a straight lesbian is i need to be stuck every time I give or receive oral, and i prefer flesh to plastic !! lol

See, I've always been a bit...off. My Lover [a guy] calls me 'slightly bent'...

I wish I could try kissing a girl my age. Just to know what it's like...but then again, I wouldn't want to be unfaithful. And to me, kissing someone in the manner I want to try with a girl would be unfaithful since I'm in a relationship.

congrats lurkette! i hope everything gets sorted out and you get some action and i can live vicariously through you! good luck.

lurkette-

Go for it girlfriend! When you get it all sorted out, let us know how it goes!

I've always been interested in other girls. I guess because it's like unknown territory for me. But if I ever was in an intimate situation with another women I would just rather it be us two than with a guy involved. I think a guy would take the fun out of everything!

I am also bi-curious! I did have a experience many years ago. I would love to do it again with my husband.... He would like it to! Just never had an opportunity to explore this...It would thrill me to death to come home with a cute girl and have fun! Women know what to do! :)

Sigh. I'm getting all impatient - my friend and her husband are making up their minds - who wants to do what with whom, whether it's a good idea, etc. Turns out BOTH of them have a thing for me. I'm not used to being this popular :) This is old hat for them - they've got a semi-open marriage and have had threesomes/foursomes before. But I'm on tenterhooks waiting to find out if/when this is going to happen, and who gets to do what with whom. On the other hand, all the anticipation and excitement has lit a fire under me and Ratbastid - we've been fucking like teenagers lately, and it's been super hot :-D If nothing else, at least we have that!

i just find it hard to approach other woman, even if i want them to join with SO and myself.
How do i approach them??ideas tips please>:)

I sometimes watch porn movies, beause my husband leaves me unfilled after sex. He refuses to go down on me or try new positions. He hardly ever tells me that he loves me. This weekend the girls from the office are going out, it also happens to be the weekend that my husband will out of town for bussiness. The rumor in our office is that Susan just broke up with her housemate, I am going to drop little hints around Susan that I want her. This will be my first bi experience and if we hit it off over the weekend I am going to leave my husband for her.

I just got off the phone with Susan, and she wants me to come over. I never thought things would move along so fast. I am so excited about meeting with Susan but at the same time I am also a little scared to tell you the truth. I wanted to wait until the office party when I had a few drinks and felt looser. What should I do?

I know if Susan ever touched by privates, I would just melt. I am so nervous about meeting with her, but then anything would be better than the love that I recieve from my husband including my vibrator. Oh dear what should I do?

Are many wemon bi curious?
 

When I was thirteen years old my mother told me about the birds and the bees. After our little talk, she gave me a pack of rubbers for my boyfriend. I wasn't long before we were having sex. Now that I am married to a dead beat sex partner, I have been thinking about my office mate at work. Her name is Susan. Susan is a kissy huggy type of person who like to show her affection. The other day we were sitting beside each other having lunch when she placed her hand on the inside of by thigh just above my knee. And when she turned to look into my face we just stared into each other eyes for what seem like a long time. If she could have only read my mind..... just maybe we would have not finished lunch.

Hey Dana good luck just take it as it goes. Let us know what happens.

Girls are so soft and gentle...ahh. I like girls. I have been with a couple girls, great experiences. But I really like cock! My partner(male) is the most compatible lover I can ever imagine having.

Last night I got my first taste of girl action. It was just making out, but oh what hot making out! Followed by extremely good sex with Ratbastid, who got to watch the whole thing, as did the other woman's husband. While they were upstairs relieving their sexual tensions, Ratbastid and I were downstairs on the couch putting on quite a sound show for them :D I think this takes me firmly out of the "curious" category and puts me right in the "bi" column. I soooooo want to do that again ... she got a bit spooked or hesitant or something, perhaps because we were all 4 there and hadn't really laid down any ground rules or anything. Anyhow, as hot as it was it wasn't a fraction of what I've imagined doing with her. Just confirmed that yup, I REALLY like women. I hope she decides we can go further next time (or that there'll be a next time), otherwise I'm gonna have to go hang out with antifishstick and scope girls :D Or invite antifishstick over for some exploration of our own ;)

sigh... this is what I want. man or woman!

*blinks* omg. i wouldn't complain at ALL. *laughs* it's so fun being a swinger. i was just thinking about this today too... my first and only makeout session with a girl. my bestfriend. since she was my bestfriend, i was a little ashamed to find the situation pleasurable. we were drunk, and the next day she laughs about it and says "it's not like we got any pleasure from it or anything". we were also in relationships at the time :D it wasn't a -makeout session- as it was only about four seconds but DAMN.. *sigh* i want to do more with a girl!

Sorry, there was a lot of discussion, but if you're not, you're just not. THANKS.

I'm also in the bi-curious boat. I haven't done anything as of yet, but i'd really like to. The oppurtunity has arised, but it was a with a very close friend and i was worried about what would happen with our friendship afterwards. I think i'm much more "intimitaded" by women too, whereas i find it easy to approach a guy no matter how experienced he is sexually, it's hard to approach an experienced woman. Not to mention i can be super shy at points. But despite all that, it's on the top of my "to try" list for sure!

I kissed i girl a few years back and I enjoyed it a lot.... I'd like to go all the way with a woman some time.. just haven't found one yet :(

Heh. I'm hardly curious. I'm openly bi. My very first kiss was with the girl who lived next door. I've had more serious relationships with the gals than I have the guys.

I figure that I have about a 70% female/30% male attraction split. Of course, it would figure that I'd get saddled down with a ManThingy. ;) At least he's open-minded and will let me play with my very own GirlieThingy, should I come across one. wOOt!