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wannabenakid247 09-10-2003 11:08 AM

Are many women Bi-Curious?
 
How many woman actually wonder what its like to sleep with another woman? How many women try it?

Im a lesbian so my view is a bit biased. I am interested to know what straight women thought about it.

Please give me your views:confused:

Averett 09-10-2003 11:21 AM

I wonder about a lot of things. Doesn't mean I'd do it :)

SiN 09-10-2003 11:36 AM

< -- very 'bi-curious'.

sexoring a woman is near the top of my list of sexual things-to-do.

:D

gummby 09-10-2003 11:49 AM

As far as I figure I am bi, just havent had the op. to practice.

anti fishstick 09-10-2003 01:04 PM

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Originally posted by gummby
As far as I figure I am bi, just havent had the op. to practice.
exactly my thoughts for me. i felt guilty when i kissed my bestfriend and got pleasure out of it. because then i had to deal with thinking.. "am i attracted to my friend?" or is it more generally "am i attracted to women?" it's definately the latter. try to ignore the other question. hehe.

SabrinaFair 09-10-2003 01:13 PM

I'm also in the "bi curious, haven't tried it" boat. It'll happen, I'm sure...just hasn't happened yet.

Shyla Loral 09-10-2003 03:03 PM

I've had a couple of relationships with women. It's the *person* I'm attracted to, their spirit and ass, that matters not their gender. My husband has some very feminine hands though, and he can write a book with what he knows about my pussy/clit that *I* didn't. Dedication, right? Heh.

Ladyhawke 09-10-2003 03:23 PM

I was Bi-Curious a few months ago....Till I found a partner that both me and my hubby like. Now I'm straight Bi

siryn 09-10-2003 03:40 PM

I consider myself bi, but to be honest, I haven't actually done anything with a girl. Right now, I'm in a monogamous relationship with a boy. He is comfortable with my sexuality (we check out girls together, and talk about it regularly), but is unwilling to let me do anything with a chic while with him. We've had extensive conversations about it, and though he seems to understand that I am still attracted to girls, and feel the urge to be with one, he believes that me having sex with a girl would be cheating on him just as much as if I slept with another guy. I respect this, though I am disappointed. It's really hard to explain to someone that you love that you feel unfulfilled because they are not both a girl and a guy (though I'm not interested in having sex with a transexual). For more on my dilemma, refer to my post in "women seducing women."

yoshi 09-10-2003 04:09 PM

Definitely bi-curious--just seeking the right girl for me and my hubby

collide 09-10-2003 04:51 PM

I've only had one experience with a girl but I wasn't physically attracted to her (even though she was really cool in all other respects), and this was all set up by someone else, so... eh. I'd rather find someone whom I actually feel a comfortable level of passion and intimacy so I can enjoy myself better than I did at that time. The whole encounter blew my mind, but I would imagine that I would've had a lot of fun if I were more attracted to this girl. This pretty much applies to guys as well, so I guess that's a given. Maybe some day I'll work up the nerve to make a move on another girl.

sexymama 09-10-2003 06:48 PM

I guess I'm the odd ball in this group. I've had the opportunity to be with other woman and just wasn't interested. The closest I've come to being bi-curious was while recently reading some very sensual journals on tfp. Maybe I'm getting more open with age -- but the clit just doesn't do it for me the way a penis does.

lafemmefatale 09-10-2003 08:01 PM

Good topic! I suppose to some respect it'd be nice to do it with a girl once to see what the fuss is all about...but at the end of the day, I'm straight as a pencil. But it's not really that big a deal to me, and i wouldn't label myself as bi anything...amBIdextrous at best.

lady 09-11-2003 02:32 AM

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lisal 09-11-2003 06:10 AM

Good topic wannabenakid247 ;)
i think most women would like to try it out, only a woman KNOWS how to touch another woman. I dont go around checking out women to see if they are good in the sack, but if the right one comes along then i am happy to try it(as long as my hubby is there)

Jonsgirl 09-11-2003 03:42 PM

I'd like to try it someday. It would definately have to be someone that both my husband and myself found attractive. I haven't brought up the subject in awhile, but once upon a time we both really considered it and even broached the subject with another girl.

Baileys 09-12-2003 08:34 PM

I have been curious since high school (oh about 20 some odd years ago) and have always been interested. I was in a 3 some a few weeks ago and it was great.

Very relaxed with friends etc. However it was all for fun. I'd do it again for fun with them, but I doubt I would do another 3some with another couple.

I would sleep w/ another woman too, but it would have to mean something, it would not be for just sex. er then this would be something serious and then I'd have to tell my mom...oh the horrors of that!

lurkette 09-13-2003 05:48 AM

I'm bi-curious and currently flirting with a bi woman and waiting for the right moment to...er...try it out. She's willing and has a crush on me and I don't think it would take much.

I think it's easy for a lot of women to be bi-curious or even bi. Women are so sexualized in our society it'd be hard not to be affected by it, and there's the whole psychological/Freudian argument about it being a lot harder for women to transfer from mother/woman to men as the object of affection.

Marie 09-13-2003 08:11 AM

I'm just straight. Maybe I'm boring but I'm very happy with my bf (Silvy). I'm not interested in sex with another man either.

But to be honest, girls are prettier! It would be a long way for me to kiss another woman though...

koli70 09-13-2003 12:46 PM

I'm straight, I've wondered about it, but dont really have the urge to try anything. If I see women in porn though it does turn me on.

grrl_in_az 09-14-2003 01:22 AM

im very bi-curious.. but i havent done anything with a woman.. yet....... i have a huge crush on this girl at my school, but im almost certain shes straight as an arrow.. oh well..

shannon 09-14-2003 09:18 AM

bi curious here too. i'm most interested in a threesome type situation. i wonder sometime if it has anything to do with the fact that my long term bf gets really turned on by the idea too. women are just so beautiful.

fallen_angel 09-15-2003 09:37 PM

hmm. . . Im deffinitly curious. . . my few experiences were interesting, but i didnt not like it. . . the last one almost converted me but i love dick too much, so no mater what i would at least be bi. . .

emidew22 09-17-2003 07:58 PM

I think every woman has got to be a little "bi curiouse" if you want to call it that. I feel like some how it's just in our nature to be attracted to one another. I don't know... pics of chics turn me on, but as much as i love my vibrators, i don't know if that and tongue alone would do it for me. Nothing saticefies me quite as much as dick... but that's just me!

galaxygirl 09-18-2003 07:43 PM

I'd say I'm bi, but it's been so long since I've been with a woman that maybe bi-curious is a better description. Too chicken to make an advance, so I've always waited for the experience to come to me. But I'm more than willing to have the experience again.

Harmonia 10-06-2003 05:32 PM

I hate to drag this up but...yeah...well...I'm gonna. ;)

I am bi. For a while in my life I had only attraction for women, actually. I've had a few relationships with women that lasted as long and even longer than some of the relationships I've had with men.

Sometimes it's a purely sexual thing for me but then I'll find this amazing woman and it becomes more than just sexual. It's actually just as good of a feeling as being with a man, is. A woman knows certain things about other women. We have this way of communicating our feelings without actually saying anything. It's just really a beautiful thing.

anti fishstick 10-06-2003 05:45 PM

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Originally posted by galaxygirl
I'd say I'm bi, but it's been so long since I've been with a woman that maybe bi-curious is a better description. Too chicken to make an advance, so I've always waited for the experience to come to me. But I'm more than willing to have the experience again.

and how does an experience come on to me?? :(

Harmonia 10-06-2003 05:49 PM

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Originally posted by anti fishstick
and how does an experience come on to me?? :(
You know...really...you just have to go out and be really open. If you are than usually when you talk to someone you'll either get a vibe or you wont. There are more women out there that are willing to experiment a little than you think!

If you meet one openly lesbian or bisexual woman than that opens up a door to a few more, and than a few more and so on. At least that's how it worked here for me.

*smiles* Have patience, hon! Trust me, you'll think it was well worth the wait.

Amethyst 10-06-2003 07:09 PM

opportunity

Amethyst 10-06-2003 07:14 PM

I am sorry about that.
I am very Bi curious. But there are so many things to worry about diseases and if I include my husband would I get jealous of them together. Although the thought of watching him with somone else really turns me on. We were talking about this and we decided that it would be great if I could clone myself. It would be perfect.
If my husband agreed I think I would go for it. The sooner the better.

raeanna74 10-07-2003 11:17 AM

I'm definately Bi. Even before I even considered the idea I had fun goofing off with my girl friends and kisses a couple. At the time I wasn't thinking of doing anything else and didn't consider it sexual.

Once hubby suggested the idea to me and eventually the opportunity arose to try it I loved it. I'm so bi since then. Been with about 8 other women.

Personally I think there's a lot of women out there who won't even consider it because of the social stigma that most religions put on that type of lifestyle. It takes actually trying it to know if you have the tendency I think.

It all started for me when we started swinging. In the first couple we started seeing the woman was bi curious but not always the first to move. Her hubby and I were playing and she and my hubby were taking a break and watching us - he encouraged her to come over and play and I just did what felt natural to me. All of my anxiety went out the window and I had a great time. The coolest of all was that it was with hubby and we've gotten to be friends with that couple too.

It's a powerful experience. Nothing like being with a man. It's more of a giving tender act. I have one friend who I love to play with when we all get together. She and I shower and all and kick the guys out. It's "girls time" and we've gotten to know eat other well. I personally think every woman should at least consider the idea. I didn't know what I was missing out on.

SiN 10-07-2003 01:22 PM

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Originally posted by raeanna74
... It's "girls time" and we've gotten to know eat other well. I personally think every woman should at least consider the idea. I didn't know what I was missing out on.
oh dear...that's a great freudian slip there :lol: :o :p

(and seriously your whole post is good and enlightening, as yours oft are, particularly regarding sexual/relation type topics)

:icare:

little limey 10-08-2003 05:32 PM

I consider myself bi although I've never had a girl on girl experience. I know that my boyfriend Spinach_Indeed would be ok with it and he wants to do the same with a guy, but I think I would want a relationship and not just sex. I've never had meaningless sex before though, so I don't know how I would deal with it. There is this one girl who I have talked to a few times who comes to my school who I am totally into. I don't think sh'es attracted to me though, she goes for girls who dress in all black and have piercings. Me-- I'm miss colorful all natural. Oh well. I think about her so much though that I have dreams about her every few nights. I've never dreamt about somebody so much.

collide 10-08-2003 05:46 PM

That's one of the most frustrating things about arranging a FMF/MFM threesome or any intimate relationship. I'm not about capricious, meaningless sex. I like intimacy, and I can't be comfortable about it or enjoy it unless I'm sure that it's mutual. That's got to be about as bad as rejection, when you know that the feeling's not mutual, and that you're so intensely attracted to someone who simply does not share the same level of interest. Alas.

little limey 10-08-2003 07:47 PM

Wow collide. You totally said it. I'm glad to know that someone's able to be intimate and be in a relationship. Thanks for sharing. I thought I was just strange to not be able to turn off my feelings when it comes to physical intimacy.

raeanna74 10-09-2003 06:21 AM

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Originally posted by little limey
Wow collide. You totally said it. I'm glad to know that someone's able to be intimate and be in a relationship. Thanks for sharing. I thought I was just strange to not be able to turn off my feelings when it comes to physical intimacy.
I do understand what you are saying. I more or less got into the lifestyle for hubby. The matter of intimacy was one thing that did bother me to begin with. Those of us in the lifestyle get pretty close with those that we meet on a regular basis. There is concern and a family feeling there that I would never have expected. It's a different level of intimacy and affection. There is always the affection of my husband even when we are playing - we're just giving each other pleasure in a different way. With the girls that I enjoy playing with regularly we have a relationship of sorts. The thing about our lifestyle is that it's understood that no one will leave their partner for someone else in the lifestyle. I hope this makes any sense. I find it hard to put into words how this actually feels.

little limey 10-09-2003 07:12 AM

Yea that makes sense. In a way it's like how me and Spinach can talk about who we have crushes on but we know that we will always come back to eachother.

Rubyee 10-09-2003 03:33 PM

I am extremely bi-curious, but it has just come about in the past couple of months, which is hard because the whole time I have been in the same, serious, monogomaus, long term relationship. I think that the best thing to do would be to swing with another couple. The problem is finding one to do it with.

raeanna74 10-09-2003 08:03 PM

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Originally posted by Rubyee
The problem is finding one to do it with.
We got lucky. There's lots of sites similar to "dating" services sites. There's a site (I think mostly for people from our area) that you pay to post on called Swingvillage.com if I remember right. We posted there a long time ago. Our "subscription" ran out a while back but that wasn't until we got results. You exchange emails back on forth with people who you are interested in. They post pics and other info. We met our first couple through there. They were very well experienced and laid back. We met to just talk and IF something happened and we wanted to have more fun than that was up to us. Look around for sites like that. It seems that's one good way. ALSO Yahoo has a number of Swinger Groups that have parties. I would recommend going to a "Meet and Greet" Party first and not a "On Premise". Anything that happens between people happens off the party site with the Meet and Greet but not with the other type.

I don't mean to get off subject. I wanted this info to be out there but didn't know where else to put it. Hope it's useful at least.

anti fishstick 10-10-2003 12:12 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Harmonia
You know...really...you just have to go out and be really open. If you are than usually when you talk to someone you'll either get a vibe or you wont. There are more women out there that are willing to experiment a little than you think!

If you meet one openly lesbian or bisexual woman than that opens up a door to a few more, and than a few more and so on. At least that's how it worked here for me.

*smiles* Have patience, hon! Trust me, you'll think it was well worth the wait.


thanks for the advice. so i guess i should just meet more girls? :P hehe i sound like a guy. but i always talk to people and assume they're straight. and if they talk about a boyfriend, then that's over for me.. in my head at least


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