Do you like to watch (or listen)?
 

Nikki asked if you keep your eyes open during sex, but I want to know if there are any female voyeurs out there.

Once in college, my bf was over and my roommate was in her room with her fiance (they had just gotten engaged recently). The apartment had bedrooms upstairs that had cutout windows in the walls that looked out onto a tall 2-story den. I was on the phone in my bedroom downstairs, and my bf was watching tv in the den. It was late at night after we had been all out together, and my bf comes in and says, "come in here, I think your roomate and her fiance are going at it!" I was about to chastize him for listening in on them, but as I came into the den, I could hear them too. Something at that moment made me really horny and I was transfixed by the sounds of the lovemaking. We both stared at the cutout window for a moment or two, then headed back to my bedroom to take care of business ourselves.

I never thought before that I would enjoy the thought of others making love, but being so close to it without them knowing about it was sort of exciting for me. I never told them that we could hear them, and I've never been close to others having sex since then, but the thought still excites me.

Anyone else have similar experiences?

oh, definitely.
i was at my boyfriend's apartment with another couple of mutual friends and a fifth wheel... my boyfriend went to make sure that the fifth wheel got on her bus alright and i was left alone with the other couple having sex in my boyfriend's bedroom. i got incredibly turned on and downright giddy. hehe.

and to everyone who enjoys watching and listening, do you enjoy watching a partner masturbate as a sort of foreplay? i do.

I can say I have seen and heard people having sex and it really does nothing for me. much like watching/listening to porn.. no effect. I lived with an ex and another couple a few years ago... one afternoon they didn't know I'd come home and my roommates were having sex... steph yelled out "PUNISH MY PUSSY!" in the middle of it.. and all I can do is laugh and tell everyone about this. but that is also a big reason listening does nothing for me. But that's awesome it gets others in the mood.

For me, it depends on the people who are involved. One of my friends got involved in a foursome once. I had to wait for her to finish before we could go back to her home. That didn't do anything for me. Another time though, a close high school friend was playing with her boyfriend in the backseat of my boyfriend's car. That was really hot. Watching and listening can both be a turn on in certain situations.

I like to watch and listen, but I like to be involved in it even more!

Ew...I once heard my parents getting it on. Such a turn-off that I didn't even want to *think* about sex for a few days. I've never had a really positive experience seeing or hearing other people in real life, and porn always sounds so fake that it doesn't seem like an example of what "real" sex is like.

Sabrina-

Ok, you turned up another dimension to this question, but I'll let someone else start a new thread with it. I've never heard my parents having sex (or walked in on them or anything like that), but the thought of them having sex gives me the creeps. Why is that? I just don't like to think of them that way!

Most of the time, commercial porn doesn't do it for me either, but somehow, watching (or hearing) two people I know have sex is a big turn-on for me. Maybe because of the authentic passion involved, I don't know.

i've never been in that situation. and i would be shy to do stuff knowing someone could be watching or listening. but i think i should get over this fear.. at least somewhat bcos my bf and i are going camping to see a concert with his friends in a couple weeks.. and we get our own tent ;)

I find the thought of watching or listening to someone else having sex is highly erotic. It definately gets me going!! A very very long time ago my boyfriend and I fooled around with another couple in the same room and it was a huge huge turn on. Both watching them and knowing they were watching us. I would have to be very selective over who was watching though if I was ever going to do it again. I guess there's a little of the exhibitionist in me as I find it very exciting doing it in a public place where you might be watched.

OMG yes yes yes! This is a huge turn on!!

I don't like to watch unless I get to participate somehow.

I am fiercely protective of what I claim as mine, so I will not let anyone be involved with me and mine.

but between what is mine, and I...my eyes stay open. And I want his open as well. I want his eyes to watch my lips lock around...I want him to see the desire on my face and the thrusting of my body and my sweat on my brow and the twitches in my arms as my muscles tire...I want to absorb his needs and read what he needs next and how far to go and how his eyes fly open wider and ....

sex is sensual...meaning senses...all of them...