Too sore for sex?
 

This thread is posted on behalf of a male user:

"My partner and I have had a healthy sex life for several years, but in recent months have found that she is too sore to have sex more than once.

It seemed to start after she got thrush, but isn't definitely related, as it has continued after the thrush has gone (we had a similar problem when we first met due to our size discrepancy but got over it and could enjoy sex many times in a day).


Anyone had a similar experience and know what is going on, or have any helpful suggestions?"

I've had this issue before. There have been a few different reasons for it:

1. Long-lasting low-grade yeast infection. I didn't have any real symptoms, just really sensitive/thin skin that would tear during sex - and those tears REALLY hurt. Lube didn't make any difference, but going to the doctor and getting some medication did.
2. He was too big, I was too small, and he didn't spend enough time getting me turned on anymore. Lube can help with this one, but only for so long.
3. Sex lasted far too long. I start to get bored after 10-15 minutes unless the sex is REALLY good, and my personal lubrication starts to dry up as well. This can produce a ton of soreness, and I dated one guy who would take FOREVER to finish - we ended up having to resort to finishing him manually or orally after I'd gotten mine, because otherwise we wouldn't be able to have sex for a few days and the cycle would repeat.

I'm with PonyPotato. The low-grade yeast infection can leave the skin very friable. In my case, this did not respond to the usual vaginal creams etc. I needed to go with a holistic approach of eradicating yeast from my system (including low sugar diet and taking supplements like grapefruit seed oil) and I used tea tree oil (diluted in a carrier oil) topically.

I've been too sore for intercourse, but there is (or at least can be) more to sex than just intercourse.:)

Lindy

Lots of good reasons listed here: too long, too hard, not enough lube, some kind of infection--and there are possibilities beyond yeasties/candida.

So, have your girl go to the doctor to eliminate a medical reason, invest in a good lube without glycerin (it has been suggested that glycerin can contribute to yeast infections), make sure you're getting in enough foreplay, make sure you're not being too rough, and make sure that you're using enough lube. One of the reasons I get sore is sometimes sex will take so long and my body will stop producing as much as lube as I need. Don't be afraid to take a lube break.

Thrush is a yeast infection, so it's not for certain but likely that she is dealing with a yeast infection. It's a bit of a controversial issue, but people can be 'comprehensively' infected with yeast resulting in disorders of various manifestations. One solution is diflucan which is a pill that will pretty effectively 'clean' your system of yeast.

The problem is that it is very easy to become infected again. For instance, it is very common for men who have sex with women susceptible to yeast, to become carriers who will re-infect their partners after a course of medication clears it up. So sometimes it is necessary for you both to be treated. It's very important to change your bed sheets often and wash your underwear in hot water. Not to wear pantyhose or nylon panties (only cotton).

The fungus that causes yeast infections is very common in the body, but for some of us (including me) our bodies either have a low tolerance or we have been compromised in some way. Sometimes due to a course of antibiotics or a weakened immune system.

It's been maybe 10 years or so since I've gotten a yeast infection, but be sure to thoroughly cleanse or throw out your toys if you used any.

Is she on any form of birthcontrol? When I was on Yaz, it started becoming very painful for me to have sex, even when I was fully aroused and wet. Lube did not help either. This was one of many reasons I switched to an IUD. On Yaz, it felt very tight, sore and kind of burned when he entered me. This feeling did not go away as sex continued. Now that I am off Yaz, I no longer have this problem.