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Old 04-09-2009, 08:11 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Bouncing Back from Pregnancy the French Way

I came across this article and I was stunned. I had never heard of this so-called French approach. It certainly doesn't happen in Portugal!

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I thought this was strange but fascinating.

Would you want to have this 'treatment'? I keep thinking that, though it may be the last thing on my mind after giving birth, I think a lot of the time after having kids women seem to feel lost and confused, unsure what their role is or who they are. Their lives and bodies are changed. This might help them see that they don't need to compromise their own selves to have a child. Not just the exercises, but just the whole mentality. A nudge in the right direction might be helpful. Though this seems a bit extreme. What do you think?
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:38 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Fascinating!
It makes me wish I were French.

I wonder if the women who go through this treatment have fewer instances of post-partum stress disorder than women who are left to their own devices.

I wonder if there is an equivalent system in any other country - and if it has similar success.

I like the idea of doctors encouraging their patients to not put on much weight during pregnancy. My sister recently gave birth to her fifth child. During her pregnancy, she did not want to gain weight. She still had some weight from her previous pregnancy (mainly because she breastfed her previous child until she found out she was pregnant with the next). She didn't see any reason to gain more weight. Her physician kept pestering her about it - encouraging her to eat a diet that she viewed excessive and unhealthy. These patterns of excessive consumption are typically carried on beyond the birth and nursing of a child in the US. How many overweight mothers do you know? How many of those feel helpless and lost in their role as a mother? I've known quite a few. I think that encouraging them to take on a regimen, and possibly a personal trainer, will help them to regain that part of themselves that they feel they have lost - and will make them healthier, happier parents to their children.
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Old 04-09-2009, 05:41 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Bah.
I think it holds one to a standard that, should they not meet it, intensifies any feelings of feminine inadequacy they might harbor. And breastfeeding does not always ruin the girls-I breastfed twins and can still see my navel. And the spouse and I resumed our sex life right after the bleeding stopped. I think resuming that portion of a relationship is more mental that physical. In that sense, having some help may be in order.

Trying to remain thin during pregnancy is not always a healthy way to go, either. It's not an excuse to pig out, but it shouldn't put fears of pounds into one's head either.

I'm sure there's a happy medium and it's great that the French government pays for everything. But it doesn't seem like they treat childbirth itself with a great deal of respect.
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Old 04-09-2009, 08:08 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Interesting. Very interesting.

I'm not a mother, but I've done considerable research on pregnancy and childbirth. I find it interesting both personally and academically. One thing that bothers me is the how many people seem to see motherhood as desexualizing. (which is very odd considering "where babies come from") I don't know exactly what's at the heart of this issue--I don't think it's any one thing.

I like the idea that new mothers are being reminded that they are sexual beings, and encouraged to resume sex within weeks of childbirth. I don't, however, like the idea that (at least in this woman's narrative) it seems to be focused on pleasing one's husband. I also don't like that breastfeeding is discouraged. I'm not sure what kind of mother I will be when the time comes, but I am committed to breastfeeding. Like ngdawg, I think there's a healthy happy medium to be found.
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