Tiny Dancer

OK so obviously some fetishes are apparent and you just know what you like, but is it possible to have a fetish that you don't or didn't know about?

I ask this because my boyfriend and I were talking about his foot fetish. He said to me you realize you have one too right? I was taken off guard and was a little insulted at first. But we talked about it and I can see where he is coming from but I don't we can consider me having a foot fetish as well. His point of view is that I have a fetish with my own feet.

You be the judge,

I always have my toes painted, I think that my feet are just ugly other wise. I love it when my feet get touched (but almost every girl loves a foot massage), kissed, licked, and I will have to admit I like it when they get cummed on. Then if I'm lucky (like I think I am) have him lick the cum off and snowball it to me. Also I don't mind rubbing my feet on his cock. I personally think that I like doing that one because he really enjoys it. We will also play footsies all the time, but wouldn't that because my boyfriend has a foot fetish?

So feel free to tell me your thoughts on all of this, would really like to hear what you ladies have to say.

settie

I have a similar situation, though not the same fetish, which I will leave a mystery.
Here's my perspective on it, with the fetish my boyfriend and I share, that was initially his.

I think when in a truly committed relationship, where complete trust and understanding is the goal, and things like that are shared, that openness from the male about his fetish intrigues the female, or, partner. Men don't open up so easily, I find, and when they do, their communication is practically peaked, which women love. So they take an interest on the fetish as well, because its an aid in communication, and usually, whatever turns him on, turns you on too.

From there, your own fetish forms, even if you don't realize it. You crave the attention you get from him when you two are focusing on that fetish, its another incredible way to bring you two together.

...did that make sense? lol

Tiny Dancer

Yeah that does make since, That might be it, we have talked about it more and he is still convinced that I have a fetish with only my own feet. Who knows hopefully more lady's will post and share their in site.

But I completely agree with the whole opening up and coming together and sharing the most intimate and personal things that you can only share with that special someone.

ametc

I have a fetish for guys masturbating. I didn't realize this until I caught my boyfriend going at it and it turned me on immensely.

lostgirl

I'll second that! I love to watch men 'handle' themselves.

Tiny Dancer

Wow, I'm so not into that, but when I am masturbating and i know they are watching me while we do it at the same time. I don't look at him though.

The Fluffy One

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ametc

Oooh, yes. I also like being spanked and bitten. A little pain thrown in helps the blood rush.

snowy

I freely admit that I have a foot fetish for my own feet, and no one else's.

I don't know that I would classify my love of watching men masturbate as a fetish...but it's definitely pushing it.

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mixedmedia

Just for the record, a fetish is a sexual attraction to objects that are not normally associated with sexual activity - like feet, stockings, fur, rubber, etc.

Not the same thing as turn-ons or kinks - which would be spanking, rough sex, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc.

Just for the record.

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The Fluffy One

I can't really think of any fetishs involving... objects though... except collars maybe and blindfolds....

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ametc

Maybe stockings, then. And ropes. Or more like being tied up.. but, yeah.

Tiny Dancer

Bondage is always fun as long as it's with the right person. You really have to be trusting to put your self in that sort of position.

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I think we have settled that it's just a kink, it doesn't get me going sexually but I love taking care of them and what not.

ametc

Seems more like a kink to me. Like when my man shaves, I guess. It's a small thing that helps.

JustDoll

I have a fetish for hands ... a man's hands are soo incredibly sexy. But ofcos it has to be big, strong and the bone on the back of the hands that tails from the base of the fingers down to the wrist has to be very distinct and big. It also has to be thick when viewing from the side. The fingers have to semi-long and nails needs to be trimmed because when i fantasize about being fingered by those hands, i dun want to know the nails will cut or hurt me. And ofcourse my boyfriend has the sexiest hands I've seen and he can get me cum without even unzipping his pants. I am so thankful for that.

Other than that...I have a fetish for my a man being rough with me, like he wants to rape me but ofcos all without pain

I don't think I am the only one on this one..am i?

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ametc

You're not the only one, justdoll. I want my man to be rough with me, too. Like he wants me so bad... just toss me around and hold me tightly. I like hands, too... same kinda hands as you like, justdoll.

ItWasMe

For me, it's elephants.

Oh, and of course Santa Claus. A couple of years ago I bought hubby a pair of red velvet boxers with soft fur trim. The elastic waistband looks like Santa's black belt. Not sure if I developed my fetish for Santa because of this, or if I discovered the fetish after seeing him wear them. Probably the former.



I don't think that painting your toenails or enjoying foot rubs alone would necessarily indicate a fetish. Maybe if you're sexually attracted to your feet in general.

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Tiny Dancer

Yeah I think that it is a kink because I don't have any sexual a attraction to any of those things unless he is involved so then it's because he is enjoying it. I as well loved being tied up with rope or hand cuffs or so on. Bondage is my thing, it is the biggest kink that I have, just love it, i end up craving it. I can get off in other ways but oh when I get on that kick I just have to have it.

I love how open you all are being about this. Just what I was hoping for.

JustDoll

Ametc and Tiny dancer ~ Great minds think alike!


I guess its a natural tendency for women to want to submit to a man (ofcourse given you are attracted to them) and it makes you feel so weak in a good, sexy way!

okay good, i was worried that I was being too detailed with my explanation earlier.

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mixedmedia

I don't think it's necessarily a natural tendency. After all, many women who are attracted to men are aggressive and dominant.

And submitting doesn't make me feel weak at all - it makes me feel liberated. That is why I like this term that is often used - 'power exchange.' When it is right, the power is fluid and flows between you both, one relying on the other for momentum.

Don't overlook the power you have as a submissive woman. :-)

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Tiny Dancer

Dominance and submission is not about the women becoming weak with him. It takes a lot to really actually get to a point that you are comfortable with that kind of vulnerability. It's not to natural completely. I know plenty of women who are dominant over their men.

But with men I choose to be submissive and with women I am Dominant. It is interesting how the mind sets are different.



I as well think that it is just a kink and we both (my boyfriend and I) have come to that conclusion, because I don't need it at all to get off but it sure is hot and helps a little.

Shaindra

If I have a fetish, I haven't found it yet. There are plenty of sexual things that turn me on. Haven't found any non-sexual things that turn me on (unless you count an amazing pair of shoes, in my size, on sale....)

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JustDoll

Oh what i mean here is that it makes me feel weak and helpless in terms of being in bed with him, not in general and nothing political intended here. I am definitely not the aggressive and dominant type but I will not keep quiet when i feel even slightly threatened or insulted, but like tiny dancer, i prefer to be more submissive and allow my partner to be more dominant most of the time , but of course depending on the situation.

And i completely agree with you mixedmedia on the 'power exchange' between both. Its true, we've been through alot together for me to feel completely safe around him no matter in what state of being I was in and vice versa for him as well.

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xxSquirtxx

That's what I was going to say. Or close to it.

I have no fetishes, but my kink is definitely anal sex.

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