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creepysusie · 12-02-2007, 04:34 PM

Just curious

How long is too long to be without sex?
In a relationship? Between relationships? No relationship? Long Distance?
Does the "too long" time period change depending on your social schedule?

Discuss it out!

Shaindra · 12-03-2007, 06:01 AM

If you want it now...however long it's been since the last time is too long.

ItWasMe · 12-03-2007, 04:49 PM

Ah, hell, I read the thread title and thought this was going to be about "size." And I scrolled back up to make sure I was in the ladies lounge before replying. LoL.

Ok...I guess two weeks when hubby is gone with the army for AT every year is too long. But then when he's gone for two years with the military, eventually you don't think about it as much. Kind of like getting used to living on decaf instead of the real coffee.

Shaindra · 12-04-2007, 05:44 AM

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Originally Posted by ItWasMe

Ah, hell, I read the thread title and thought this was going to be about "size." And I scrolled back up to make sure I was in the ladies lounge before replying. LoL.

Ok...I guess two weeks when hubby is gone with the army for AT every year is too long. But then when he's gone for two years with the military, eventually you don't think about it as much. Kind of like getting used to living on decaf instead of the real coffee.

I don't even want to contemplate this. My boyfriend is in the reserves and will likely be called up in January for a year of service. Thankfully, he'll be stateside, but he'll be based 7 hours drive from here. I need to buy stock in Duracell.

Jezzabelle · 12-04-2007, 06:04 PM

I've been without for three months now and am going crazy... this is the longest I've gone without since I first started having sex about 5 years ago... I need to buy more batteries they are running out way too soon!!!!

Shaindra · 12-05-2007, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Jezzabelle

I've been without for three months now and am going crazy... this is the longest I've gone without since I first started having sex about 5 years ago... I need to buy more batteries they are running out way too soon!!!!

Go electric. It saves you from the midnight run to steal batteries from the kid's toys.

maleficent · 12-05-2007, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by creepysusie

Just curious

How long is too long to be without sex?=!

will be 2 years come march - before that it was about 4 years...

when you start counting in years and not months -it's too long..

masfina · 12-05-2007, 04:12 PM

Been letting go of a brief fling that is now shifting to friendship-mode. This "excursion" took place after a good year or two of... virtual shutdown. So...? Now that I ... remember.. And am now back in celibacy-mode [likely for some time]... Damn!

Time to shop for "toys", I suppose...

All I know is...I DON'T want to "shut down" again, after self-discovery on what was, for me, a profound level... Guess I need to do the dating-scene and hope I don't have to wait "too long" for more.. self-discovery.

Jezzabelle · 12-05-2007, 06:25 PM

Rechargeable batteries work pretty well too... I'm always scammin' them out of the charger and digital camera's to use them and then replace them before anyone finds out I've used them :-)

silvrdark · 12-05-2007, 07:09 PM

I always considered myself to be a very sexy person with a healthy sex drive, even if I'm not quite the vixen I was at 23. Lately my boyfriend complains that he can't keep up with me. It stinks to initiate and then get turned down... Makes a person feel rather unwanted. More than a few days seems like too long. I mean, I can always find ways to handle it, but it still gets to me a little.

Eowyn_Vala · 12-06-2007, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by silvrdark

Lately my boyfriend complains that he can't keep up with me. It stinks to initiate and then get turned down... Makes a person feel rather unwanted. More than a few days seems like too long. I mean, I can always find ways to handle it, but it still gets to me a little.

I was in this position about 2 years ago at age 21 with my hubby, and now I wish I was back to that. Currently going on 3 months without and I still have a pretty high sex drive. And he hasn't gone anywhere he just doesn't want any. I had to invest in a toy, and I just got new batteries too. I think I need to get the rechargable kind.

IdolGirl · 12-09-2007, 05:31 AM

I was in a 9 year relationship, and we broke up 1 year, 2 months and 1 day ago (but who's counting?). Add a bit more time to that, maybe another month, and that's how long it's been since I've had sex. I was too wrapped up in the breakup to even want sex for the longest time. It's only the last few months that I've actually been lonely, and thought about dating again.
as far as missing sex? I miss the intimacy, especially the kissing..but as far as the actual act? Well, that's what I have the purple bunny for.

Jenna · 12-10-2007, 04:42 PM

Well now after being in a 3 year relationship, I can say it's harder to go longer without sex.

I'd say a month and I'd be going nuts. But I'm not the type of person who needs to be in a serious relationship to have sex with someone.

jewels · 12-10-2007, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by creepysusie

How long is too long to be without sex?
In a relationship? Between relationships? No relationship? Long Distance?
Does the "too long" time period change depending on your social schedule?

Discuss it out!

In a relationship: 8 hours is too long!
Between relationships: Can you say 5 months so far

way too long!
Long distance: Don't know that I could handle that; never done it.
Social schedule: Sometimes, but only by a couple of hours.

Seems to me that when I'm getting it, I can't live without it. When a relationship ends, its hard to let go and I always second guess the reasonings behind the breakup. But after some time, maybe 3, 4 or 5 months, I stop obsessing about the great sex that I miss and only recall it on occasion. Then I manage to survive without it for longer periods.

ItWasMe · 12-11-2007, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by masfina

Time to shop for "toys", I suppose...

Be very careful shopping and buy a quiet one, if you have kids. You don't want a little one running into your room yelling "mommy mommy I heard a scawy noyze!"

12-02-2007, 04:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
creepysusie Tilted	How long is too long? Just curious How long is too long to be without sex? In a relationship? Between relationships? No relationship? Long Distance? Does the "too long" time period change depending on your social schedule? Discuss it out!

12-03-2007, 04:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
ItWasMe But You'll Never Prove It. Location: under your bed	Ah, hell, I read the thread title and thought this was going to be about "size." And I scrolled back up to make sure I was in the ladies lounge before replying. LoL. Ok...I guess two weeks when hubby is gone with the army for AT every year is too long. But then when he's gone for two years with the military, eventually you don't think about it as much. Kind of like getting used to living on decaf instead of the real coffee. __________________ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . "Ok, no more truth-or-dare until somebody returns my underwear" ~ George Lopez I bake cookies just so I can lick the bowl. ~ ItWasMe

12-05-2007, 04:12 PM	#8 (permalink)
masfina Upright Location: Louisville, KY... Via Boston, New Orleans, Chapel Hill, Kenya, seattle, and.. California cities.	Been letting go of a brief fling that is now shifting to friendship-mode. This "excursion" took place after a good year or two of... virtual shutdown. So...? Now that I ... remember.. And am now back in celibacy-mode [likely for some time]... Damn! Time to shop for "toys", I suppose... All I know is...I DON'T want to "shut down" again, after self-discovery on what was, for me, a profound level... Guess I need to do the dating-scene and hope I don't have to wait "too long" for more.. self-discovery. __________________ If you love someone... Set them free. - Sting

12-03-2007, 06:01 AM	#2 (permalink)
Shaindra Psycho Location: Massachusetts	If you want it now...however long it's been since the last time is too long.

12-04-2007, 06:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
Jezzabelle Upright	I've been without for three months now and am going crazy... this is the longest I've gone without since I first started having sex about 5 years ago... I need to buy more batteries they are running out way too soon!!!!

12-05-2007, 06:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
Jezzabelle Upright	Rechargeable batteries work pretty well too... I'm always scammin' them out of the charger and digital camera's to use them and then replace them before anyone finds out I've used them :-)

12-05-2007, 07:09 PM	#10 (permalink)
silvrdark Upright	I always considered myself to be a very sexy person with a healthy sex drive, even if I'm not quite the vixen I was at 23. Lately my boyfriend complains that he can't keep up with me. It stinks to initiate and then get turned down... Makes a person feel rather unwanted. More than a few days seems like too long. I mean, I can always find ways to handle it, but it still gets to me a little.

12-09-2007, 05:31 AM	#12 (permalink)
IdolGirl Tilted Location: Florida	I was in a 9 year relationship, and we broke up 1 year, 2 months and 1 day ago (but who's counting?). Add a bit more time to that, maybe another month, and that's how long it's been since I've had sex. I was too wrapped up in the breakup to even want sex for the longest time. It's only the last few months that I've actually been lonely, and thought about dating again. as far as missing sex? I miss the intimacy, especially the kissing..but as far as the actual act? Well, that's what I have the purple bunny for.

12-10-2007, 04:42 PM	#13 (permalink)
Jenna Psycho Location: Wisconsin	Well now after being in a 3 year relationship, I can say it's harder to go longer without sex. I'd say a month and I'd be going nuts. But I'm not the type of person who needs to be in a serious relationship to have sex with someone.