Women for maids...
Men! What is it with men that they all seem to want a woman to "take care of them?" My boyfriend flat out told me the other day that men get girlfriends to take care of them, to cook, clean and do their laundry. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't mind doing things like that for him, BUT he should appreciate it right?? UGH! I told him he was in the wrong relationship and that he might be looking for a maid LOL!:mad: |
Huh. That's usually due to immaturity and/or selfishness. Or just plain being an asshole. Sorry to be blunt, but I call it like I see it.
How old is your boyfriend? And how long have you been together? If I was with someone who was seriously the way you are describing your boyfriend... I'd kick him to the curb (and probably kick him in the balls, on the way to the curb) in a heartbeat. My husband (who was a boyfriend just 3 months ago, so don't start thinking we're super old) :D cooks most of the time, and we split up cleaning and doing laundry pretty equally. We try to take care of each other, not one person doing all the work. I don't think either of us would have it any other way. |
Yes, you should tell him that a maid would make life easier for him, she wouldn't complain and would do everything he wants, since she's getting paid.
Sarcasm aside, that sucks, but a lot of guys subconsciously like it when their woman picks up after them - even if they don't mean to be that way I think for many it's kind of hardwired in their brains. I for one will not tolerate it - neither should you. I can't believe your boyfriend said that to you and thinks it's ok. |
I'm with abaya. My husband does all of the cooking and we share the other household chores equally. Usually we are working on chores together so that we can get the job finished quicker...then we can just relax and enjoy our 'free time' together.
Your boyfriend sounds like he is from the stone age. How about you get him to do YOUR laundry an cook for you? |
Are you sure he wasn't joking?
If not, then you might want to have him checked for Tourette's Syndrome or some other involuntary vocal disorder. Personally, I like cooking for and generally taking care of things for someone I love. But I would never, in the first place, be with someone who thought it was my responsibility to do those things for him. Even if its imbalanced there would have to be the spirit of respectful give and take for it to be gratifying. |
Kristen, I had to tell my last boyfriend that I wasn't his "mommy" and you might want to consider telling your boyfriend the same. As an aside, that boyfriend is my husband of 28 years and he does all of the cooking and cleaning now. It is a good division of labor between us.
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I believe in equal division of labor, if one works and the other doesn't then the one who is at home while the other is working should do things like clean or cook. If you both work then you both need to partake in cleaning and cooking. As far as the original post it may seem stone age but as much as guys like having a girl take care of em, we all know girls like the guys to make money to spend on them and to do work for them. |
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...Are you serious?! |
Okay, so either your boyfriend was joking, or he has some serious misconceptions of what a real relationship is about.
My husband and are all about equality. I do the dishes and laundry and cooking, he does the dishes and laundry and cooking. It all depends on our work situations. ;) |
Hahahahaha. The whole splitting stuff was the same for us too... when we first got together. :p It slips. It really does. Unless the other person is used to taking care of themselves in the first place, things stop being so perfect.
However. I didn't say that they can't be fixed. Four months ago I did pretty much everything, took care of the baby, AND nannied an almost two year old. Now, things are almost even. Regardless, kick his ass. :) |
I think it depends on the people...there are times when I feel like being extra nice and then there are others when I would like extra care and attention. I'd say it's pretty equal between the two of us. For chores..I don't really think we do any chores since we both live in dorms :-p but when we're over at one anothers place we try to keep it clean for the most part...washing off dishes etc.
Sounds like this guys a quack.... |
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I like taking care of my wife. We have a housekeeper that takes care of most of the cleaning, but I'm the one who prepares morning and afternoon tea and makes the evening meal when we don't eat out.
Balance is about meeting both partner's needs. Expecting that one partner is going to do all the housework because of her sex, or a feeling of entitlement to that from a girlfriend isn't a healthy way to go into a relationship. |
In my opinion, the key here is that both partners have to feel like they are putting in as much as the other.
In a previous relationship, I did my boyfriend's laundry and helped clean his house (we weren't living together), but he drove me everywhere and bought the food. He was busy working and had little time to do chores, and I was a struggling student who didn't have much money so it worked very well for us. However I have to stress that he didn't "expect" me to be his maid. It was just an ideal solution for both of our living situations at the time. |
your b/f is full of shit, he needs to grow up AND go out and meet some men in the real world
Dave does all our cleaning and laundry (and the "heavy duty, company is coming to stay cleaning is done by both of us) and I do the cooking. |
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