Brandy85

Okay, I'm kinda new so this is my first thread.

Well, what bring this subject up, I am 20 years old and the boyfriend who is about to be 26 years old, and been with him for 3 years. I guess in general I think most men have very healthy sex drives. Well at the beginning of our relationship is was like we couldn't get enough of each another.. But of sudden it just stop.. No question no answer no nothing just stopped.. Not even a warning. Now I've been reading through the threads today, and my boyfriend is now screctly a porn junkie.. He is denial of it, we live in the same apartment and I DO pay the internet bill which we didn't have to have.. And ask him politly out of respect not to look at so much porn like he used to hide from me.... And he gotten stealthy at deleting it... But I have another ways to check. So anywho... I do not mind the porn at all.. I am unfornatly one of thoes women who have to remind themselves they he is no compairing me to the porn, and he is aware of my problem.. But ONE DAY I decide since we have dramatily slow down on the sex for the pass two years, I am going to spice things up a bit, I even download the porn to watch with him and so on spice up the night.. COMPLETE failure... And he comes out of no where and claims, " Brandy sorry I just havn't EVER had a sex drive". Which I find unbelieveable.. Maybe I am just not educated enough of sex and men...

So please someone enlighten me on this issue of my... and so advice if possible.

taboo

how can he never have had a sex drive if he was all over you in the beginning of your relationship?

maleficent

There are a lot of things that can cause a sex drive to dimish, stress, medication, attitude... a lot of things....

check out this thread:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=104632 it might give you some insight.

Have you also talked to your boyfriend, not in the heat of non-passion, but when you are both relaxed about how you are feeling, and your lack of a sex life is making you feel, without being accusatory, but just saying how you feel...

I was reading an article recently, that summed up the men and porn so beautifully, I figured I will share it here... Men don't look at porn because they expect you to look like or act like or dress like the models, they look at porn because they like to look at other people doing such things...

Did you think that perhaps you picked the wrong moment to spice things up... find out what's going on inhis life...

__________________

Brandy85

Well he did at one time want sex, but now he treat it as a chore.. I have and get upset with me. He say he just doesn't really care for sex, but he a porn junkie... Maybe he like to look but not touch? I have no clue.. Just for some reason I feel it my fault why he doesn't want me...

uptown

He obviously likes naked women and sex honey, as long as it doesn't involve you. I've been there,done that and can only advise you to bail and soon, you're young, at 20 yrs old you can do better.