lindalove

For me it is a feeling I find inexplicable; I can just pick up a vibe from someone most of the time.

Sometimes it's when they stare at you for too long at a bar, even when we've already smiled at you. Then following you around.

What Makes A Guy Creepy to you?

maleficent

What's with you and your seeming obsession with guys being creepy? I think you're hanging out in the wrong places...

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=93190

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raeanna74

I've had some guys approach me who were downright creepy. It wasn't their look it was their mannerisms and the subject matter of the conversation. In my definition creepy guys are those who

1. ask you to dance, go out with them, or anything that's significately date related more than twice in 10 minutes after getting a "no" in response the first two times.
2. his pickup line has something to do with religion (I've gotten this.)
3. brags about himself more than 3 times in 10 minutes.
4. picks his nose while talking to you and then flicks it on the floor or wipes it under his seat.
5. combs his hair OFTEN, as in every 5 or 10 minutes.
6. checks himself out in windows and mirrors often while you are talking to him.
7. follows you around the room after you've turned him down.

This is not an exhaustive list in the least and one of these is not a death sentence. These are just red flags and there are usually more than one that together that make the guy truely creepy. Anyone else care to add or amend any of these?? When I typed them I was thinking of people I've met who ended up being quite creepy and these were things that stood out to begin with.

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lurkette

Too much eye contact
Touches that linger just a bit too long
Obsessive attention
Inappropriate gifts (too expensive, too personal)
Inappropriate comments
Overly intimate conversation

Good example - I was shopping for glasses and the guy helping me was middle-aged, extremely talkative, and started telling me a story about some movie that was really sexual - some alien woman who survived by absorbing energy from men's orgasms, or as he described it "the point of ecstasy." *shudder*

Another example - I was in a meeting with some of my theater profs when I was doing design work in college, and one of them was super smarmy. I was swearing a tight turtle-neck body suit, and when I got up to leave I asked him about some other project, and his glance flickered to my chest and he said "I'll keep you abreast of things." Creep.

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mixedmedia

Men who are obviously drunk when they approach you, stand too close, touch you, wink, make sexual innuendo. In combination, none necessarily creepy on their own. But together make for one very creepy dude.

Men you don't know who ask you a lot of personal questions.....where do you live, where do you work (rather than what do you do?), can I have your phone number, do you live with someone, etc. Doesn't necessarily mean they are creepy, but it creeps me out. Puts me in an awkward position, cause I sure as hell am not giving specifics to someone I don't know.

savvypup

Guys that look you up and down and don't realise it's being really obvious. I don't mind if it's someone I find sexy, but if not eeeek!!!

That and someone who seems to know your moves and who's coming and going from your house. Had this happen to me recently, where they'd send me a text and I'd feel like they were peering through the windows at night because they knew who had left or that I was home. Very unnerving!!!

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Plummie

I dated a guy who started out nice enough but ended up being really creepy. Over a period of a couple months he became borderline obsessed and "stalkerish." He started by calling too often, stopping by my house unexpectedly when I didn't answer my cell, calling my friends to track me down, driving by my house throughout the day to see if I was home, buying expensive gifts, etc.

When I told him it wasn't going to work out, he refused to accept it and only grabbed on tighter out of desperation. Our final meeting was a scary one. I literally had to push him out the door and lock it behind me, only to listen to him ring the door bell over and over again. Then he left and started blowing up my cell (30 messages a day). I got a restraining order the next day, changed my phone number, and moved to a new address within the next month.

I haven't seen him in over a year, but it was totally crazy! Stay away from the creepy ones!

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Grasshopper Green

I really only have experience with this at the workplace, because when I go out, I'm almost always out with hubby. I've had several creepy experiences at work though.

I sometimes just get a vibe, sometimes it's too much eye contact, and sometimes it's the personal questions. There is a chip vendor at my work that has asked several girls very personal questions regarding their sex lives...essentially, finding out if she is married/involved, and then asking how many times she has cheated. We call him the creepy chip vendor and we all avoid him when possible. I've been stalked by an employee who got transfered to another store...why he wasn't fired is beyond me. He would form fantasy relationships with girls at work and try to give them expensive gifts or money. He was beyond creepy...he was scary. I also think it's creepy when guys openly stare at you, even though they know you know they are doing it. I don't like that at all.

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genuinegirly

Creepiness...
yeah. run into this one entirely too often.

a complete stranger stands within 2 feet of me, especially if they try to crack some jokes.
if a guy stands close enough to look down my shirt.
if they seem to enjoy spending time with me when I have no attachment.
they crack their neck while talking to me.
they scratch their dick on the subway.
they are paying too close attention to a girl in the room, or me.
they smell like some unidentifiable food/BO combination.
they brush up against me when there was another way around.

yeah... creepiness.

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Evileyez

hahaha....funny topic
i used to chill wid dis guy n just the way he looked at me use to creep me out
i can't really explain....we would be in the car n he would be drivin r sumtin n he would just be staring at me, it really made me uncomfortable and kinda iky
i dont kno if he thought that was sexy but his stares was more like one of those ppl that hadnt got some in a while

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ktthequeen

Close talkers, a la Seinfeld.
Overly-touchy people.
Excess eye contact, to the point of downright staring.

Puddintane

I think the creepiness often comes from a presummed familiarity. It's like the way they look at you, or the conversation they start breeches the typical social codes. They are too comfortable in the way they look at you or in the jokes they make.

I guess I am friendly to most people I meet, especially when I've had public jobs at bookstores or waiting tables. You have to be to be good at your service. Creepy men seem to take this as a cue that you like them and launch into this intimate langauge, either physically or verbally.

huggebare

Ok here are some creepy acts:
1. Guy in my law class who rearranges himself quite visibly.
2. Guys who give you love tokens such as fingernail clippings in a little bag.
3. Kickboxing coaches who ask you to come over and 'ride horses' on his farm whilst groping you in class.
4. Nice guy on a first date who announces that not only is he bi-polar, (nothing against bi-polars!) but feels a 'connection' with you which could be love unlike something he hasn't felt before.
5. Working on the streets selling sponsor children for a charity only to have a guy give you roses + chocolate in exchange for your number and a child.
6. Guys who approach you at ski lifts with their phone number on a business card and ask you to stay over in their chalet - don't forget to bring your bikini for the hot pool!

BlueBongo

I wuld definently have to say it's a vibe, as well it's just how a person is and what they present thsemselves/come off like.

Kinda like getting that child molesterish vibe or something.. just makes me very leary of people.. and they don't necessarily have to say a word. I just avoid them if I get a bad feeling like that.

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astrahl

I gotta chime in with "the vibe" thing. It isn't a series of events for me, it is a gut feeling. Trust your gut, ladies, we have instincts for a very good reason. We try to give the benefit of the doubt out of society's pressure for us to be polite, don't be fooled.

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