What Getting Laid Can Do For You
 

To put it bluntly, I just got laid for the first time the other day (it wasn't exactly intercourse, but close enough). The story there is in another thread, and although it's a good one to tell, it's not really important here.

This thread is for all of the guys and gals out there who haven't had the pleasure of getting some (in whatever form is gratifying for you and your partner), but veterans, please post your remarks also. However, I'm sure pre-marital relations aren't for everybody, so use your own discretion. This is just my own account of how things are.

Flash back to tspikes at 17. I was the poster child Southern Baptist boy. Never drank, never smoked, never even kissed a girl. I masturbated a lot, but I would never tell anybody that. It was like that until my second semester of college. I started easing up on the morals; I began drinking on a weekly basis.

Enter last week. I was still in the same boat. Then Saturday night rolls around, and *poof* I'm a changed man. The act itself was amazing. Here's an idea of what it feels like (speaking from a guy's point of view): go to a strip club, and get a lap dance from the best dancer. Now imagine that pleasure multiplied by a thousand. My experience was like that, and there wasn't even insertion. However, I think that the after-effects are just as great.

It may have only been 5 days since then, but I feel totally different. I feel like I can tackle anything, like nobody can stop me, like I'm the king of the fuckin' world. I'm nicer to people. I'm having more fun with my friends, and talking to people I wouldn't normally talk to. I sleep better. I haven't masturbated since then (a marked improvement). I've studied more. I actually want to get up in the morning. I have more assertive conversations. I feel alive again. I feel like king of the fuckin' world.

So, as somebody who not too long ago believed that it would be worth it to save it all (and I'm still thinking maybe I'll stay a virgin in the coitus area, who knows), believe me, it's probably the best thing I've ever done.

Yeah, it's really a great boost your first time.

Well, you didn't really get laid... I made a thread similar to this recently, if you're interested. When I lost mine, I was indeed like you. It's been about 2 months now, and things seem to fall down a bit.

Think how much better it will be when you get it from someone you haven't paid!
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It is a boost to your self confidence, if it all goes well.
Your first time is rarely as you always envision it in your fantasies.
It's not all chocolates, bearskin rugs and open fires but a fumbling excitement and a prayer of "Oh god, don't let me cum just yet!"

Regular sex is a discovery of yourself but nevertheless, the first time is always a big boost.

It's like your first legal drink, or when you get given the car keys to drive on your own the first time.

tspikes I think the best thing that you can do now is try and reflect on why you might be feeling this way. For example, it might be that being accepted by your partner in that way was a boost to your self-esteem, or it could be something as simple as the positive physiological effect of orgasm...

Definitely worth exploring beyond "I got laid and I feel great!"

Sex is a great stress reliever and a fun way to do it. I can tell if it's been a day or two because I'm more irritable and have a lot of frustration. Not only does sex help with stress, it also makes you feel more sexy or attractive which is an ego-boost which always improves one's mood and self-confidence. Sex is great, Sex is good!

Welcome to the darkside


have a cookie.


Anywho.. although your first sentence makes my head spin, I'm glad you discovered the fun in sex. Just beware that the glow will eventually wear off and that you'll have to find a different stress reliever. Or... I guess you could just keep gettin some ass [now with insertion!!] and you'll be good.

I was that same kind of poster girl. A big part of my elation (is that a word?) was that I discovered that sex WASN'T the kind of downer that my 'no sex before marriage' elders had brainwashed me to believe. It was way better than I'd been led to believe. Sex without strings IS fun, is NOT a major guilt trip, and I am NOT 'living in sin' so long as I am repecting my partner's body and emotions. I still get that 'high' at times after sex.

You know that moment after masturbation, after the orgasm, when you have that clarity of thought? You're on an extended high.

A similar thing happened to me in September. I was starting to obsess (by my standards) over a woman I couldn't have. I had a date with another girl that ended all too well. My mind was clear after that. It was cleansed in everyway possible.

That's the only reason I have sex now.

Any Neil Stephenson fans here? There's a great riff in Cryptonomicon about the relationship between "time since last orgasm" and "ability to concentrate", with variables including whether it was masturbation or sex causing the release.

Hey, right now you ARE the king of the world. Enjoy it.

Sex once again has been reinvented for the very first time! :D

Woo hooooo!

Glad you found what you needed to be happy.