Blonddie

I am curious to know how long have you known your best friend? (SO's don't count) Is your best friend of the same or opposite sex? And what makes them your best friend?

I'll go first:
My best friend is a girl like myself. We have been best friends for 20 years, and oddly enough we didn't like each other when we first met! But she has been my trusted confidant for all these years, I know I can tell her anything and she will support me, and is always there is I need help.

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joemc91

Mine is another guy who I've known literally my entire life. We went to different schools but always saw each other at church when we were younger. We both stopped going to church but his family moved in up the street. We're fairly similar despite very different personalities. He's one of those guys who can strike up an interesting conversation with anybody, I don't exactly have that superpower. We've known each other so long that we probably know things about each other that no one else does.

This is one thing I truly miss about moving. I have no best friend out here, so it feels much more alone than it did at school or when I am home.

frogza

I knew my best friend for 13 years. We were very much alike, people thought we were brothers. We were both artists and enjoyed being being in the mountains. It was comforting to have someone to talk to about anything and everything.

He moved to the other side of the country not too long ago and we kept in touch by phone and email. A few months ago though I got a call from his wife to tell me that he had killed himself.

maleficent

I talk about my best friend a lot, I think I've got him up to superhero status now, and if he were still alive, he'd tell me that he is human with feet of clay, but he's not here to defend himself so....My best friend was a guy who I knew since kindergarden(more than 30 years)... thru family moves and life before the internet, we pretty much managed to stay in touch with each other. He was the only person I could completely trust and he just added so much to my life. Thru good times and bad times, Tom was just always there... 4 years later, there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss him or wish I could just pick up the phone and tell him what he meant to me one last time. (I'm a person who's really bad with friendship, Tom was easy - prolly because he was there before I became so deranged as a human being and he was immune to me)

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shesus

My best friend and I were very close during junior high and high school until our senior year. We had a huge falling out our senior year nearly resulting in a ist fight. A mutual friend had to pull me away from her. She basically didn't approve of my boyfriend and choices I had made lately involving sex and drugs. About 6 years after that, I looked her up and opened the lines of communication again. I wouldn't consider us 'best' friends because I don't tell her everything because of past experiences. Plus, she's more domesticated than me. However, we've been talking again for about 4 years and it's nice.

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Meditrina

Throughout my life I have had best friends that seem to come and go. My sister is truly the only one who has been there for me all the time. She was there for me every night when we were growing up to talk to about everything. She was there for me the night I broke up with my crazy boyfriend, and kept me from calling him back. She is truly more than a sister for me. However, there are some things that are better left unsaid and I feel that I cannot tell her everything anymore. I still love her, and she is still my best friend. I do not have 1 person that I can tell everything to anymore, not even my SO.

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raeanna74

I've had bestfriends before. First one decided she didn't want to associate with me when it came to Junior High. I was not in the 'in' group but she was.

Second best friend - in college. We're living far apart in the State and have very different goals now. Once in a while we hear from each other but beyond that we're out of touch.

a couple friends currently - they include the neighbor: We've really only known each other since this spring, and another who's youngest is my daughter's best friend.

Then there's hubby - he will always be my best friend. We've known each other for 10 years - married 6 1/2. Met working for the computer department at college.

What exactly do you define as a best friend?? Call them daily? Weekly? chat on the internet? I've always found it hard to be really close to any one person. REALLY close. I'm open and will discuss anything openly but that closeness is hard to find.

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Daoust

My best friend and I have been going to the same school since kindergarten. I think that we were only in the same class together three times, Grades 5, 6 and 8. In between Gr.6 and 7 we became closer friends. In University he went to Mount A and I went to Carltoon, and we managed to keep in touch fine. He was my best man at my wedding.

The best thing about best friends is the ability to pick up right where you left off from the last conversation, whether or not that conversation was a day, a year or 5 years previous. Sure, things change and circumstances change, but true friendship, true friends will always stay the same.

This refers to best guy friend. Obviously my wife takes priority, but I'm talking best friends like Blossom and Six, Snake and Joey, Charlie Brown and Linus.

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Karby

my best friend is a guy i've known since 10th grade. both of us still live in the same city we grew up in, are still friends, and still hang out with from time to time. honestly i really don't see what the big deal is about having friends of the opposite sex. even now i still find it quite odd (to the point of annoyance, even), that when we're out together people automatically assume that we're a couple. and we have to correct them saying "no, we're just friends."
we really have no physical attraction/chemistry for each other whatsoever.

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maleficent

I used to go thru that with my best friend... it used to make me crazy when people said "oh, you're just friends" .. like they were disappointed. It makes it seem like friendship is less than a relationship. When asked if we were a couple, the response was, nope, we're better than a couple, we're friends.

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Coppertop

I am 30, I have known my 2 closest friends for 25 years.

ngdawg

I've had a few 'best friends' throughout life, the longest being Patty, with whom I'd been best friends from 2nd grade on up until my 20's. Life, family, etc., caused us to drift apart; the last time we got together was 3 years ago, and, while it was a good day, I left knowing I had nothing in common with this woman any more.
Currently, my best friend is Becky. We first met four years ago-we both belong to a car club and decided, online in a chat, to meet in Charlotte, NC with a group of mutual friends. Now, when I head south for a visit, we always share a hotel room and she is always taking care of me, insisting on buying my meals, etc. We've had our arguments, but we always make up, understanding each other more each time. We actually have very little in common. She's divorced, no kids, lives in Tennessee with her mother, born and raised in the South. But it works.

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Strange Famous

I dont have a best friend really. I dont know anyone know that I knew from when I was 21 or younger. (other than family)

I'd really probably go so far as to say I really dont have any friends at all - acquientances, people I get along with at work, my GF, family - nothing else.

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flat5

I have some good friends. Some I have not talked to for years. Email, yes.
No "best friend". No friends locally who would invite me to dinner :-)
All my life I've been a loner. Had to learn to be.

KellyC

A few close friends here, but no best friends. The closest friend that can be considered a best friend is my childhood next door neighbor. I was friends with him until I was 9 then I have to move to the US. When I came back last winter I *think* I saw him, but more than 10 yrs of being apart and no contact whatsoever, we're now two total strangers, not even sure if it's him or not 'cause I don't regconize him, so I just assume it's him. I'm really bad at keeping friends.

People who have best friends whom they can confide in are truly lucky in my eyes. I wish I can have someone to tell him/her everything, but I don't. As a result I learn to suppress and keep a lot most of my problems to myself...

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Schwan

I've had three or four "best friends" in my time, but all of these friendships ended surprisingly easy. These days I tend to get familiar with people, but I don't get too close. No point, really.

ngdawg

One of the things I have noticed about having friends is the confidence they have in you to be able to tell you anything without fear it'd get told. I hold many friend's confidences and they know they stop at my ears. While not all are 'best friends', I would say at least 4 are. They know they can come to me and I know I can tell them anything as well. While Becky is my dearest friend, my others are all male.
To have a friend, I guess you have to be one first and be able to trust others.

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snowy

My best girlfriend and I became friends slowly and gradually. We were both hanging out with the same group of guys my sophomore year of college, and that fall the group resumed hanging out together. While we really hadn't been close the previous spring, the fact that we were the only two girls hanging out with these guys kind of forced us to become friends--and boy, once we started really hanging out together, we got very close. We've been close for three years now, I go camping with her family every year and am invited to every holiday they have, and consider her family my second family. Though we don't talk as often as I'd like sometimes, I know Wen is ALWAYS there for me and vice-versa. I know this is a friendship for the ages.

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Supple Cow

There are four people I consider to be my best friends, and I call them this because they are the four closest friends I have and there is no doubt in my mind that they will remain that way for the rest of my life.

The first three are my girlfriends from where I grew up: Funnel & Robbie, whom I've known for 10 years, and Nads whom I met a year later than the others. The backward, messed up town we grew up in is a badge of courage we all wear and they have been more like sisters to me than my actual sisters were for most of my life. The fourth is ubertuber, whom I've known for a little over 2 years. I love that guy most of all because from the moment we were first closely associated, he told me that I had the power to think for myself and make things happen... and he kept telling me until I believed him and didn't need him to tell me anymore.

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Grasshopper Green

I don't have a best friend. I have a good friend from high school that I call or email once in awhile and catch up, but she moved away and our lives have taken dramatically different courses, and we just don't have that much in common anymore. If I really had to say, I'd say my mom is my best friend, because I know I can tell her anything without her becoming judgmental, and we talk about anything and everything. I miss having a close girlfriend to call up and go shopping with and just talk.

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abaya

I guess I have three close friends... two are from elementary/jr. high/HS, and another one is from college. They are all very different kinds of people, and I only see each of them maybe once or twice a year and talk a few times more than that (phone, e-mail)... but we support each other pretty much unconditionally. That's valuable to me. There have been other friends who wanted to stay in touch, and with whom I go back just as far, but I let the communication ball drop with them because our friendships just weren't as... solid? Enduring? Deep? Dunno... it just wasn't there.

There is another friend from grad school who I am close to--we could call each other at 3am if we needed to cry (which used to be my definition of a best friend)--but I wouldn't put her in with the "best friends" until a good length of time has passed (like 10 years). This is because in my life, I have had many "best friends" who evaporated after a few intense years... and now I hesitate to give that label to anyone until we've stood the test of time. I started realizing this especially after I was a bridesmaid in 4 weddings, including one as a maid of honor, and KNEW that none of those girls was a "best friend," so how could they know that I was their "best friend" in return?... they were way too young to get married (22-24), not even knowing who their best friends were.

Oh, and all of these people are women, because I was best friends with a guy a couple of times and it shattered me when I fell in love with them but couldn't have them. Now, my current SO is pretty much my best (guy) friend, and I wouldn't to have another guy close to me anyway, since I don't think that's right (for me). But no best (girl) friends... just close friends with a history.

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ryfo

best friend male like me known him for 25 years, he died a year ago from cancer. I still regard him as my best friend and he will not be easily replaced. BTW he was also my SO friend before my SO and I met, so we both knew him before we met each other.

ruggerp11

My best friend I've known over 10 years. We went to school together and have kept in touch ever since. There can be periods where we don't talk for months but whenever we get together its like we were never apart. I feel different when hes around, relaxed. He doesn't usually drink a LOT unless I"m around because he feels comfortable then. I miss having him close, but I'm proud of him for becoming a pilot.

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Carno

I have two best friends. One of them I have known my entire life (twenty years) since our mothers were good friends. He actually was born five days after I was. I don't talk to him as much since I went to college, but much like ruggerp11, every time we see each other it's like we were never apart. I don't think we will ever cease being best friends.

My other friend I met through my first best friend. I have known him for about eight or nine years. Over time all three of us became best friends, and I think we will always be. I would do anything for either of those guys.

My roommate is pretty much another of my best friends, but I have only known him for three years. I don't think I will ever lose contact with him either. Especially since we are both joining the military, we will both have that much more in common.

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little_tippler

I don't know if I'd call them best friends, but I have a few friends who I consider important in my life, apart from the aquaintances. The thing is, a lot of the time the people I become close with move away or become distant for several reasons.

I have 3 friends who I'd say are the closest I have/had to best friends.

One I place above the rest because I get on the best with her and she has been the most constant and supportive out of all of them. I have known her for 13 years since we were both 12 years old, and I feel very close to her, even though for the past 6 years she has been living in a different country to me. That's the sucky part. I still miss her and when we are back together again it's great, but I'm not sure I can call her my best friend anymore as I don't think she feels quite the same about me anymore. Mainly because her life has acquired a different social reality, she lives in London and has piles of friends and I live in Portugal and have very few friends. Our lives have developed in different ways.

Another of these friends I have known since we were four, so that'll make 21 years of friendship. However, she has changed quite a lot over the years and has had different phases where we were closer or less so. I have less of a connection with her in regards to the first friend I mentioned.

The 3rd of this group is a girl who I have known since we were 9, so that makes 16 years of knowing her. She lives in the same place as me, but I don't see her almost at all. She unfortunately has a horrible boyfriend who everyone hates (except her), and makes it unbearable to be with her. He has brainwashed her and isolated her from her friends. I don't even know if she still has friends. It's quite sad. I miss her very much. But I don't know if I like who she has become anymore.

I then have one friend who I met at 18 in University. She would be my most recent best friend. We have also drifted apart a bit now because we finished uni and went our own ways, she also has a weird boyfriend and has now had her first baby, so we have little in common and though I still like her, her boyfriend has turned her into a 35 year old housewife.

Everyone else is just aquaintances I guess. I have a hard time making new friends, and have few friends as it is.

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mystmarimatt

I've had a few best friends through the years, from elementary school through junior high, but it wasn't until I was in high school. I found my closest, best friend I've ever had. We're running on 5 years. We met when I was a Junior and she was a freshman. Right from the start, we just clicked. Our senses of humor matched, and we just so easily told each other everything. We've had our fights and our rough spots but I wouldn't trade her for the world.

Beyond her, I have the guys I live with at school, 3 of my fraternity brothers, and on the totem pole, they're just below my best friend. It helps that they adore her as well, It makes having her come down for the weekend a lot cooler.

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hunnychile

This is pure poetry and truth, right now - cuz I'm a basket case worrying about my best bud, Steve & his family in Ft. Meyers, FLA. I pray they are all protected from hurricane Wilma. And to Joyce in Orlando. May God protect and comfort them all.

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5757

I have two very very good friends. I guess you could say they are my best friends. One of them is my brother. The other is a very good friend to my brother and me. The other is male. I have been best friends with the mutual friend for about 5 years. I feel like I have two brothers really. I can talk to them about anything. Run to them anytime. The friend that isn't my brother has a girlfriend that accepted me from the beginning. She never questioned our friendship. She has always trusted that we are strictly friends. Im grateful for her ability to see the truth in all of it. She has friends who do not feel the same way and they often "warn" her about me.

I don't know what I would do without my boys!

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Glory's Sun

I try to avoid the whole best friend thing. Maybe it's because the ones I've had in the past always stabbed me in the back.. or I did something to them. Now I just have a bunch of friends without any of them holding more significance than another. A lot less drama that way.


edit: I guess I lied a bit. I have 2 people that I would do anything for. They've moved away tho so it's very rare that we see each other.. the bond is still there tho.

SERPENT7

My bestfriend is a girl. (I am not.) I call her my bestfriend, but we haven't known each other THAT long.
Besides, we goto school together, and everytime i meet someone, the semester ends, and so does the friendship. So, i will have to wait and see how long this one lasts before making a real assessment.

pattycakes

my bestfriend is a female... what makes her my bestfriend is how we can talk for hours about a rock... or randomly question everything ... ie why is the sky blue... why does the sky get red at night ( we have found some answers) when we go out to eat we make noise, when we go to the store we make noise. Inside jokes, laughter, and fear....

my bestfriend and i have no fears when we are together ( as long as we both dont fear the same thing) we know tha when we fall the other will be there to catch us..... to hold us when we walk across a train track bridge....

my bestfriend likes fishing camping...... but most importantly my bestfriend likes me fo who i am for what i do and the many MANY MANY MANY stupid things i say.

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Mantus

I've got two.

One is a girl, who I've known since I was 12 years old. We dated andshe was my first serious relationship. I've known her for 13 years now.

The other is a guy, we met in grade 9, though things have been rather rough in that friendship, we are sort of drifting appart

texxasco

I have a best friend, and his name is Shawn. He and I met my sophomore year of High School, in 1980, and we have been best friends every since, some 25 years now. His and my life has been strangely similar, in that we have both been married and divorced the same number of times, dated the same kind of girls, and had the same setbacks and obstacles to overcome. He was there for me through the death of my youngest brother in 1997, and we continue to be there for each other, even though I moved away in 1998. I am his twin daughters Godfather, and he and I have been each others best man at all our weddings. We live almost 200 miles apart now, but talk several times a week and see each other at least 2 weekends a month. He's like family to me really. When I retire I plan to move back "home" and it'll be nice to have my buddy nearby like old times.

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kylie

my best friend and i know each others since we started going to grammar school now around 14 years but 4 years ago i moved to here in the US and then everything changed. i used to hang around by her apartment all the time cos my mom always gamble and i dont like it , so i stayed as long as i can in her house to do whatever, sometimes even just to nap there.
we talk about boys and everything that stupid that we can laugh so much till tears come out.
but since i am all the way here, i cant call her as often , she has a job and new life with and totally different friends. i am so jealous and i feel bad that i have to come here and leave her cos now we are not as close. and nothing can bring back how we are

Rogue

well i have alot of good friends,as we all spend time together,y it be drinking,partying,going to the beach,watching movies,playing cards or just being together.i relly blessed to have all of them in my life,would never trade them for the world..or would it,heheh,nope i won't.
Then there's Lee-Anne,my best'est friend in the world.We met in Grade3,can still remeber it like yesterday.We've been freinds now for about 18 years,very long time.We tell each other everything,no secrets. She understands my mood swings( i need a special person to be able to understand that..lol)anyway she's just the best in my life.THANK YOU LEE

jizzmasterp

I've been best friends with mine since I was three, so thats about seventeen years now.

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