Woman Admits Lengthy Sexual 'Relationship' With 8-Year-Old - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ophelia783 · 09-19-2005, 03:30 PM

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BRIDGEPORT, Conn. -- A 30-year woman admitted in court Monday that she had a lengthy sexual relationship with an 8-year-old neighbor whom police say she considered a fantasy boyfriend.
Imre was arrested last November on sexual assault charges after the boy's mother found a letter Imre allegedly had written to him, police said.

In the letter, police said Imre told the boy that she doesn't "want anyone but you. Now tomorrow it's supposed to rain, you can come over we can (you know what). Love ya! I want you!"

Police said the boy, the playmate of Imre's 7-year-old daughter, initially denied doing anything with Imre because he feared getting into trouble. When confronted, police said Imre acknowledged engaging in sexual acts with the boy.

According to the arrest affidavit, she told investigators she considered the relationship "like a fantasy and she was the girlfriend and he was the boyfriend."

Defense attorney Donald Papcsy said Imre suffers from a mental problem that made it hard for her to admit that what she did was wrong.

"She really believed she was in a fantasy relationship," Papcsy said.

The family of the young boy agreed to the plea deal, saying they wanted to spare him and Imre's daughter a lengthy trial in which the children would have to testify.

"This was a big step forward for the family," said George Ganim, the attorney for the victim's family.

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While I do agree that it was a very big step for the boy's family to make a deal, I don't think the same offer would've been given if the perp. was a man.

What are your thoughts on this?l

Borla · 09-19-2005, 03:34 PM

What exactly is an 8 year old capable of as a boyfried?

I mean, isn't think basically just a woman molesting a little boy? I guess it's hard to say to what level it went to without details, but she has to be way mentally ill to even start down that path.

Gilda · 09-19-2005, 03:37 PM

While I can hardly blame the boy's parents for not wanting to subject him to the trauma of a trial, it's difficult for me to stomach the idea of a confessed child molestor getting any leniency.

Gilda

Sugarmouse · 09-19-2005, 03:38 PM

it scares me how phuqed some ppl are

Coppertop · 09-19-2005, 03:42 PM

This was definitely treated different according to the sex of the offender.

analog · 09-19-2005, 04:00 PM

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Defense attorney Donald Papcsy said Imre suffers from a mental problem that made it hard for her to admit that what she did was wrong.

Yeah, it's pretty common. It's called, "I don't want to go to jail." Fucking bitch.

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Originally Posted by Coppertop

This was definitely treated different according to the sex of the offender.

Female sex offenders are pretty much never afforded the same level of disdain, disgust, and punishment as males do. That is not AT ALL to say the punishment for males is high- on the contrary, most punishments are way too lax as they are... but female sex offenders seem to always get the slap on the wrist- and that's disgusting.

Child molesters are the lowest filth on the planet. I don't see how the state allows the parents to say, "no trial". Bullshit. That woman needs to be put away.

JumpinJesus · 09-19-2005, 05:20 PM

I can never conjure the appropriate words to express the level of disgust I feel towards child molesters. Since I don't exactly wish to let fly a stream of expletives, I prefer to say that I sincerely hope that karma catches up to this woman in a hurry.

fightnight · 09-19-2005, 06:01 PM

I don't feel like this is something I ever even really hear about happening. Maybe that's because they aren't treated as harshly, although I'd have to imagine that it's also a much less frequent occurrence in general

Angel · 09-19-2005, 06:08 PM

This makes me sick! Mental problem? Yeah, anybody who molests children has mental problems! In my opinion there are no deals to be had. She should be punished just as a male would be. In addidtion, there are ways to try a preditor without causing undue stress on the child. This young boy is likely to suffer years of emotional distress due to the invalidation of his parents almost as much as he will by the sexual invasion itself. grrrr

flat5 · 09-20-2005, 02:29 AM

The article does not say she did not go to jail. It said a plea bargain was reached.

f6twister · 09-20-2005, 07:33 AM

I found this story regarding the case which says she was sentenced to 12 years but suspended after 6 years in prison. In other words, she only serves half of the 12 years unless she violates the rest of the terms of probation. It also states that with time served and good behavior, she could be out in four years. Not nearly enough time for the crime committed.

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Woman Pleads Guilty to Molesting Boy

Monday September 19, 2005 7:01 PM

By MATT APUZZO

Associated Press Writer

BRIDGEPORT, Conn. (AP) - A 30-year-old woman who believed she was in a ``fantasy relationship'' with her daughter's 8-year-old playmate admitted having repeated sexual contact with the boy and accepted a plea deal Monday that likely will send her to prison for six years.

Tammy Imre pleaded guilty to two counts of risk of injury to a minor, a reduced charge that the boy's family accepted to spare both children time on the witness stand.

Imre, a secretary, was arrested in November on sexual assault charges after the boy's mother found a letter that Imre wrote.

In the letter, police said, Imre told the boy that she didn't ``want anyone but you. Now tomorrow it's supposed to rain, you can come over we can (you know what). Love ya! I want you!''

Imre admitted engaging in sexual acts with the boy but said the kissing and fondling stopped short of sexual intercourse. The two were in bed together naked at least once, she admitted Monday.

Imre quietly changed her plea to guilty and admitted the facts in the case. Her mother and brother were in court.

State social workers have custody of Imre's daughter, who told police she saw her mother and the boy doing ``disgusting'' things.

``This was a big step forward for the family,'' said George Ganim, the attorney for the boy's family.

Defense attorney Donald Papcsy said Imre suffers from a mental problem that made it hard for her to know that what she did was wrong.

``She really believed she was in a fantasy relationship,'' Papcsy said.

Imre will be required to register as a sex offender after she is sentenced Nov. 4. The plea deal calls for a 12-year sentence suspended after six years. With an early release and credit for time served, she could be out of prison in four years, Papcsy said.

Prosecutor Cornelius Kelly acknowledged Imre had mental problems but said he had not seen the psychiatrist's report and said the likelihood of an insanity defense was not a factor in his decision to accept a plea.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/uslatest/s...288558,00.html

stevo · 09-20-2005, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by f6twister

I found this story regarding the case which says she was sentenced to 12 years but suspended after 6 years in prison. In other words, she only serves half of the 12 years unless she violates the rest of the terms of probation. It also states that with time served and good behavior, she could be out in four years. Not nearly enough time for the crime committed.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/uslatest/s...288558,00.html

Just in time for puberty. 4 yrs - What the hell are some people thinking? At least she'll be a registered sex offender.

zVp · 09-20-2005, 10:30 AM

I say put her away. Child Molestation is just digusting, regardless of which sex.

texxasco · 09-20-2005, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by ophelia783

Taken from News4Jax.com

While I do agree that it was a very big step for the boy's family to make a deal, I don't think the same offer would've been given if the perp. was a man.

What are your thoughts on this?l

Well first off.... Thank God this didn't happen in Texas...we have enough of her kind locked up already. I also agree that had it been a man, I doubt there would have been any offer made. I guess for some reason they think women child molesters are not as bad as their male counterparts. To me a child molester is a child molester, regardless of gender.

Not to threadjack here, but I would like to add to this discussion if I may. Having firsthand experience dealing with this sort of inmate within Texas prisons, I know for a fact that their lives behind bars is anything but pleasant. I agree with locking them up, and locking them up for a long time, and allowing them to experience prison life for as long as possible. But, my problem is this...In Texas there is no such thing as rehabilitation really. If inmates change any, it is because they want to, and that's it. The general public has this get tough on crime stance all through the discovery of what the criminal did, continuing on thru the trial, and right up to conviction and incarceration.... then that's where it stops. Then people like me get to deal with the crap that gets sent our way, knowing our hands are tied on what we can do, say or hwo we are allowed to treat these scumbags. So, what will happen is she will do her time, then get out, register as a sex offender, and then what?

I see it all the time.... inmates discharged after completing their sentence, or paroled early for good behavior (especially sex offenders)....only to offend again, and then they're right back in prison for us to deal with. In most cases the inmates discharging are worse than when they were originally incarcerated.

If we could get past the shock of what she actually did, we also need to be asking ourselves, what is the best way to punish this person, and if it is incarceration.... why don't taxpayers want to fund programs aimed at rehabilitation, and reducing recidivism, or why aren't the penalties for this sort of crime a LOT harsher than they are right now? Either sentences need to be lengthened just to keep sex offenders off the streets if that is our goal, or do something with them while they are locked up if we are just gonan let them out in a few years.... All I see right now is a revolving door.. What's wrong with that picture?
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raeanna74 · 09-20-2005, 11:27 AM

I somewhat wonder if it wouldn't have been better for the boy to testify. Not that I would want him to have to relive that time in his life but I can't help but wonder if it wouldn't be crucial to his emotional healing to confront the offender and see that she got seriously punished. For an 8 yr old I cannot imagine the damage she's done. Not that it's easier on any other age, but 8 yrs old is a VERY formative age where it will take a lot for him to unlearn what she has 'taught' him. I am glad that his parents don't seem vindictive because that would make matters worse for him.

texxasco · 09-20-2005, 12:09 PM

I wonder about whether the boy ought to testify as well.... I just hope he receives the counseling he obviously needs.

5757 · 09-20-2005, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by JumpinJesus

I can never conjure the appropriate words to express the level of disgust I feel towards child molesters. Since I don't exactly wish to let fly a stream of expletives, I prefer to say that I sincerely hope that karma catches up to this woman in a hurry.

Well put. I can't imagine what karma could bring that could teach her a lesson. -?

Sweetpea · 09-20-2005, 07:28 PM

there is a certain double standard going on here, if the perp. had been a male, authorities would have gone to trial, not allowed a plea deal. I hope this disturbed woman gets what she deserves to the extent of the law.

Sweetpea

pig · 09-21-2005, 02:28 PM

Ewwwhhh....the Bad Touch. Whenever I read one of these things, I have to think to myself that I don't have all the information.

smackson · 09-22-2005, 10:48 PM

Thats sick and wrong

Salomon · 09-23-2005, 08:00 AM

Human Beings.....Wow.

pattycakes · 09-23-2005, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Salomon

Human Beings.....Wow.

actually... we are animals, and animals dont care about age. A minor is something society tells us... look at cats. cats can be born, as soon as they mature they can get preg... no amout of time till they are legal.

i for one think like an animal in some ways. I feel the idea of setteling down and marrying someone is crazy. this was brought on by religion. monkeys dont marry other monkeys. there are a few species that have one mate, but if we didnt have religion i dont feel we would be one of them.

I think that something with a child that young is wrong, because my parents and society taught me that. but what is the difference between a 17 yr and an 18 yr old... ehh maybe a few hairs?

hope this dosent make me look like so physcho rapist. its no ment that way...because im not a physco rapist@!

dualman7 · 09-26-2005, 06:02 PM

There are some real wackos out there.

Salomon · 09-26-2005, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by pattycakes

actually... we are animals, and animals dont care about age. A minor is something society tells us... look at cats. cats can be born, as soon as they mature they can get preg... no amout of time till they are legal.

i for one think like an animal in some ways. I feel the idea of setteling down and marrying someone is crazy. this was brought on by religion. monkeys dont marry other monkeys. there are a few species that have one mate, but if we didnt have religion i dont feel we would be one of them.

I think that something with a child that young is wrong, because my parents and society taught me that. but what is the difference between a 17 yr and an 18 yr old... ehh maybe a few hairs?

hope this dosent make me look like so physcho rapist. its no ment that way...because im not a physco rapist@!

No, you don't sound like a psycho, I get your point. But a 30 year old with an 8 year old? Thats too extreme in my book. The boy is still a baby. Do 8 year olds even get erections...I forget, myself. Never mind, carry on.

09-19-2005, 03:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
Borla Junkie	What exactly is an 8 year old capable of as a boyfried? I mean, isn't think basically just a woman molesting a little boy? I guess it's hard to say to what level it went to without details, but she has to be way mentally ill to even start down that path. __________________ Coimhéad fearg fhear na foighde!!!!

09-19-2005, 03:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	While I can hardly blame the boy's parents for not wanting to subject him to the trauma of a trial, it's difficult for me to stomach the idea of a confessed child molestor getting any leniency. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert

09-19-2005, 03:38 PM	#4 (permalink)
Sugarmouse Insane Location: Preston lancs(i know i know)	it scares me how phuqed some ppl are __________________ Sugarmouse=Festered

09-19-2005, 05:20 PM	#7 (permalink)
JumpinJesus Junkie Location: Chicago	I can never conjure the appropriate words to express the level of disgust I feel towards child molesters. Since I don't exactly wish to let fly a stream of expletives, I prefer to say that I sincerely hope that karma catches up to this woman in a hurry. __________________ "I can normally tell how intelligent a man is by how stupid he thinks I am" - Cormac McCarthy, All The Pretty Horses

09-19-2005, 06:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
Angel Naughty Just Right Location: Euphoria	This makes me sick! Mental problem? Yeah, anybody who molests children has mental problems! In my opinion there are no deals to be had. She should be punished just as a male would be. In addidtion, there are ways to try a preditor without causing undue stress on the child. This young boy is likely to suffer years of emotional distress due to the invalidation of his parents almost as much as he will by the sexual invasion itself. grrrr __________________ In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was within me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

09-19-2005, 03:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Coppertop Getting Medieval on your ass Location: 13th century Europe	This was definitely treated different according to the sex of the offender.

09-19-2005, 06:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
fightnight Insane Location: The lovely Northeast	I don't feel like this is something I ever even really hear about happening. Maybe that's because they aren't treated as harshly, although I'd have to imagine that it's also a much less frequent occurrence in general

09-20-2005, 02:29 AM	#10 (permalink)
flat5 Very Insignificant Pawn Location: Amsterdam, NL	The article does not say she did not go to jail. It said a plea bargain was reached.

09-20-2005, 10:30 AM	#13 (permalink)
zVp Tilted Location: Woodbridge, Ontario	I say put her away. Child Molestation is just digusting, regardless of which sex. __________________ "Even a stopped clock is right twice a day."

09-20-2005, 11:27 AM	#15 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I somewhat wonder if it wouldn't have been better for the boy to testify. Not that I would want him to have to relive that time in his life but I can't help but wonder if it wouldn't be crucial to his emotional healing to confront the offender and see that she got seriously punished. For an 8 yr old I cannot imagine the damage she's done. Not that it's easier on any other age, but 8 yrs old is a VERY formative age where it will take a lot for him to unlearn what she has 'taught' him. I am glad that his parents don't seem vindictive because that would make matters worse for him. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

09-20-2005, 12:09 PM	#16 (permalink)
texxasco Insane Location: Somewhere in East Texas	I wonder about whether the boy ought to testify as well.... I just hope he receives the counseling he obviously needs. __________________ ...A Bad Day of Fishing is Better Than a Great Day at Work!

09-20-2005, 07:28 PM	#18 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	there is a certain double standard going on here, if the perp. had been a male, authorities would have gone to trial, not allowed a plea deal. I hope this disturbed woman gets what she deserves to the extent of the law. Sweetpea __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

09-21-2005, 02:28 PM	#19 (permalink)
pig pigglet pigglet Location: Locash	Ewwwhhh....the Bad Touch. Whenever I read one of these things, I have to think to myself that I don't have all the information. __________________ You don't love me, you just love my piggy style

09-22-2005, 10:48 PM	#20 (permalink)
smackson Upright Location: West Valley City, Utah	Thats sick and wrong

09-23-2005, 08:00 AM	#21 (permalink)
Salomon Loser	Human Beings.....Wow.

09-26-2005, 06:02 PM	#23 (permalink)
dualman7 Crazy	There are some real wackos out there.