Sexual Orientation Poll
 

I searched a bit and didn't find a poll like this, so I thought I'd give it a go. Which way do you swing?

This poll is prompted partly by abaya's thread in sexuality about whether gay men feel welcome at TFP. it was an interesting discussion, but the conclusion seemed to be that there were no gay men on TFP, or at least none who would say so. I thought this would be a good chance, anonymous chance for them to make their presence known. Plus, I thought it would be interesting in general :) .

I, for one, am a straight male.

There is no poll???

I voted interested in men...I"ve had a few interesting and fun experiences with women, and plan on continuing to do so in the future...but I'm primarily attracted to men. Good thing for hubby ;)

Tried to vote "interested in Medusa"....wasnt there, so I settled for the next best thing

There's one openly gay/bi male that I can think of, and a few more that I've probably forgotten.

I'm a straight male, btw.

Goodness.

Look at the poll result.

What a surprise!!

:)


Mr Mephisto

I responded male interested in women. However something made me wish I was a female interested in both. And like Mephisto, I was surprised at the results thus far. I'm also surprised that people may be afraid/reluctant to disclose their sexual orientation here. Of all the forums on the Internet, this is the one that I would think people would find gay bashing to be unacceptable.

And FWIW, I wouldn't be any good at being gay because I don't care for anal sex.

One would think...and i think the TFP is a more welcoming place than most.

But, the main problem is simply lack of critical mass. If these issues come up, at least from a male perspective...there are only a few active voices to answer. there are a lot of good allies...and i'm grateful for that work, but it doesn't provide a replacement for queer participation.

Think of the kinds of questions you might expect to be answered if you posted in Tiltled Sex. Would a gay poster find a similar response and information?
Think of some of the threads posted in Politics. I understand that a "clean up" effort is currently being made, but past threads have included personal attacks on queer posters. That's going to have a consequence for queer participation here.

Yes, the TFP is more welcoming than most online communities. But that's a comparison to a pretty low standard, one that i think this community has the potential to vastly supercede. And with due respect to Seretogis (see Abaya's thread for his response on the 2nd page), i think that intentional effort is necessary. Simply put...without trying to do so, this community is not going to have queer voices here. Assuming that this place is non-discriminatory simply becuase it is not actively supressing queer voices is just not a rational assumption. Our situation in a broader culture that silences queerness is cause for us as the TFP to assume that queer voices are not automatically welcome.

FWIW: plenty of gay folks don't care much for it either.

I think there are quite a few people who are mainly into in one gender but also slightly interested in the other one - is bicurious the right term? It would've been interesting to see those on the poll too.

Female, interested in both, though I prefer women most of the time.

I've always been curious as to how ^^ that ^^ works...And it's always more acceptable coming from a woman, a man says that, and he's pronounced G.O.A...But a woman says it, and boy, doesn't the male mind being its escapades into the gutter..?

Voted for male and both, as seen in my thread in tilted living about a month back. But yeah, I'm bi

Voted for male and interested in women (and lots of them.)

male interested in women...particularly the crazy brown eyed, blue haired one watching the screen right now ;-)

Hey I was number 69, my favorite number!!! :thumbsup: :D

In my teens I did many things. Wouldn't change them for the world.
At my age now the gate swings only to my wife of 23 years :love:

I just pray that I'm never tempted for I still love the boobies of the world!
I am only human (male pig) and subject to moments of weak thought. :lol:
Wife knows how flirty I get. She has her fun too. I still get jealous. Love is really great :suave:

I do remember that sometime ago there was a thread started by a gay (male) member, in which he complained about TFP been not very supportive to male gay members. I can't find it, so it may have bee in a previous version of the TFP. Thing is that I've always thought that the TFP is a very liberal community who accepts anyone despite it's gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, etc..., as long as you have something interesting and respectfull to say. Hooray for the TFP!!!

I doing my best to be "INTERESTED IN NEITHER" but the poll won't allow it and neither will my hormones.

This past year at school, a kid in my Photography class came out as bi, but preferring guys. He told everyone at our table. If anyone had a problem with it, they kept quiet.

Well these polls only work if everyone replies I guess.

Male interested women here. (another one haha)

Asta!!

I like tits and ass.

^ So post ops are in too? :lol:

Asta!!

TnA au natural please

So, by the people in this poll and the people I know I will assume to be only attracted to the same sex is rare where as bi is far more common or perhaps someone knows of people who are?

Omnisexual! *laughs*

I like humans. We're fun.

I have been involved in some discussions with gay men on the philosophy board, esp. regarding the issue of gay marriage. Found most people to be respectful with only the occasional comparison to deviancies like beastiality or some such nonsense, and honestly it seemed to be genuine ignorance as opposed to nastiness.

I have, though, been struck by a consistant need by some straight men to jump on any board that involves bi-sexuality or gay lifestyle issues to simply state that they were straight so couldn't be of help in the discussion. I guess that is nice if it is meant as a show of support, but could come across as a bit alienating to somebody...

I call myself sexually ambiguous simply because I don't believe you choose who you love based on anatomical difference or similarity. I don't like to be called bisexual because I see myself as being interested in a continuum of people of multiple sexualities and perspectives, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or sex.

But yes, I am interested in both women and men.

I'm interested in men but I wouldn't say no if a female came into the picture.

I'd say I', 80% into women and 20% into guys. I date girls and can mess around with guys. I would definitely have "fun" with my female friends, but never my males friends. Not sure where that falls on the poll. Stupid gray area. I usually consider myself a '2' on the old kinsey sexuality scale.

http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resou...k-hhscale.html

Female, interested in women, and apparently the first in the poll. I've dated men, but found them not to my taste. On that Kinsey scale of hetero/homosexual, I'd probably be a 5.

Since two others have mentioned it, post-op transsexuals would be fine with me, as long as they are completely feminine.

And I know of more than a couple of guys who thought they wouldn't be attracted to a MTF until they met my sister.

Bisexual all the way :)

although, even though i'm married to a man and am totally attracted to him and our sex is great . . . I would identify as a "lesbian indentified bisexual" because i am more attracted to women sexually than men. But i think onesnoyowl hit it correctly for us bisexuals, that the heart makes it's own choices whatever the gender is.

Sweetpea

Straight as an arrow here :) Nothing but women

That would have made an interesting addition to the poll.

<Likes boobs, doesn't have any.

That would have made an interesting addition to the poll.

/me Likes boobs, doesn't have any.

yeah, i looked but couldn't find a link anywhere for any sort for the kinsey scale... Curse you google deficient fingers!!!!

Anywho, some of us are bi and just dont like to bother others with our relationships with EITHER gender.

I thought about including the Kinsey scale but I figured it would take too many poll options (1-7 for men, 1-7 for women). It could make an interesting poll though.

Does anyone know how you place yourself on that scale, like is there a definitive test or do you just guess?

Hm...I'm probably a 3 or 4 on the Kinsey scale.

iccky, I imagine you probably just "guess" based on self-knowledge. For example, I am married and occasionally find myself attracted to men besides ratbastid, but I am very powerfully attracted to women, so I'd probably say I'm primarily homosexual but more than incidentally hetero.

So much for anonymity.

After voting in this poll I'm not sure what the question or rather the results really answer. I'm not surprised by the results give the 180 responses of this small sampling of tfp users. The overwhelming majority of users are male and hetero. That's not really news. Curiousity about orientation....meeeh.... who cares? If you practice a little common sense when you contribute to these forums you'll make everyone who participates here feel welcome and free to express themselves appropriately. If you are an idiot the mods will see to it that you are decisively removed and I, for one, really like that.

I have always felt that all women are bisexual, some just don't know it yet.

So far I've convinced a few :D

I could only find THIS....

http://www.channel4.com/life/microsi...ter/index.html

It seems that I am exactly 50% gay - "Congratulations! You've scored right in the middle and are a happy and well adjusted hetero man!"

Hmm... seems I'm 26% gay and need to loosen up a bit. :p

I am a confident heterosexual male - but that confidence does not go far enough to allow my being comfortable if I found myself in bed with a lady and another male. I sincerely doubt I could function that close to another guy - nor would I be interested in finding out.

All the cues visual, olfactory and auditory would be skewed towards something completely other than sexual for me. Probably find myself rather upset and angry that "my turf" was being appropriated (I'm not being politically correct here, I know - just as honest as I know how without RL experience in this).

Hope I am on topic - and I am quite sure that any percieved discomfort on my part is not confusion over my interests/inclinations. Guys just don't do it for me.

Aaah, I hope you're right :)

I think a huge part of the trend many people seem to have noticed of women being more likely to be into women is that our society completely sexualizes women. If you want to get all Freudian about it, it's easier for women to continue to fetishize the female (the relationship with the mother) than to transfer that attention to males.

That reminds me of Three To Tango where Oliver Plat tells his bosses wife

"Oscar is omnisexual. He swings...every which way." :lol: I love that movie.

Asta!!

I'd venture that most women are bisexual to some degree, but our culture tends to encourage them to supress their attraction to other women, or to express it in platonic ways. Women are much more free to compliment others on their physical attractiveness than men, touch their friends in casually affectionate ways, etc. in addition to what Lurkette said about women being sexualized in our society.

Look at popular teen fashions. For girls, it's the micro-slut look; tight midriff baring shirts, spaghetti straps, short skirts, etc. Girl's popular fashion seems to be all about showing skin and sex appeal. Boys teen fashion is baggy clothes two or three sizes too big, a do rag and hat turned sideways, baggy sports Jersey, long shorts, knee socks, pants down around the upper thighs and boxer shorts exposed. Very little skin, and not the least bit sexy.

That said, I think my wife would identify as completely homosexual, a six on that Kinsey scale. She's never had sex with a man, and finds the idea a little repulsive. My sister on the other hand, would be a 0 on that scale, finding the idea of sex with a woman just as repulsive.

There are a lot of women who are naturally bisexual, who later identify as lesbian due to having been abused or raped or otherwise soured on sexual relationships with men due to bad experiences; I'd fall into that category.

I took the Gay-O-Meter test, and it came out

Gilda is 20% Gay

You're such a girlie girl it's a wonder if your lovers even realize you play for the ladies team!

The first part is way, way off (to quote Hayden Fox, I'm pretty sure I'm in the high nineties) but the comment is right on the money.

I love women, but am simultaneously horrible at interacting with them.

these poll results don't surprise me at all for some reason, haha.

In any event.. I am a male interested in women now. I used to be bi-curious, but that was a "phase" and have since gotten out of it. That's not to say that I'm not open enough to talking about sexual things with guys or knowing if a guy is handsome or not, I just don't swing that way entirely. :)

That made sense to me at least. :P

I am unpleasantly surprised to see how few women we have here compared to men, or so it seems. Oh, and straight dude here.

I like to appreciate the beauty in anyone, male or female. My S/O have historically been guys, yet my fantasies have almost always involved women. Although I have been attracted to a few women, I have never acted on the attraction. Well, almost never . . . I have a friend who gets very flirtatious and loves to touch me when she drinks, and, well, let's just say I don't push her away :icare:

One of my good friends asked me for my "top five list;" he describes the list as the top five famous people I would like to be with. I had to think about it, but my list currently has two guys and three women.

My guy and I have discussed and are open to welcoming another person into our lives . . . wow, until this moment, amonkie was the only other living soul I'd told.

My feeling about sexuality in general . . . love is love, sex is sex, whether it be men with men or women with women or a combination. IMO, one form is no better than another. When love or joy are found, it is no one else's business but the people involved, KWIM?

I am so homophobic I have issues wiping let alone ever admitting I would like both sexes and not just the female variety.

By the way the above was a joke.... before anyone pm's me and tells me how I have offended.... it truly is just a joke..... I have a weird sense of humor sue me.

nice to see a poll like this and not asking everyone to say if they r gay or straight or bi ( gay means lesbians too ) but the poll makes it anon for ppl who dont want to disclose to say what they feel.

Women only for me, but different strokes for different folks.

Well you haven't officially met me --But Hi, you've now met one who is absolutely 100 percent strickly dickly.. Women? Pass thanks... and any woman who has ever met me will say that's a good thing...

Women can be pretty to look at, but wanting to be intimate with them is an entirely different story.
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However.. I don't get the point in labelling yourself... why does it matter whether you are into men, women, farm animals... you're a person.. and that is what matters.. I honestly have no interest in and really could care less about what a person does in their bedroom.

I've heard that before ;)

Whoa I'm 50% gay apparently (according to that quiz thingy).
I am bi, but I would rate myself as a 2 on the Kinsey scale... which is more like 10% gay.

I'd probably also rate myself around a 2 on the Kinsey scale. Ended up being 36% gay on the scale.