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Old 05-28-2003, 10:46 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hopes and dreams

When I was a young girl, pre-teen, I had dreams of what my life would be like when I was a grown up. I dreamt of the wedding I would have (even planned it out), my career, children, etc. I had it all planned out.

Now, I find myself nowhere near those dreams. I'm divorced and about to get married for the second (and hopefully last) time. I have no children (yet). And I am not a doctor or an architect...

Did you have these childhood dreams? If so, what were your dreams and how close are you to living them?
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Old 05-28-2003, 11:23 PM   #2 (permalink)
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When I was younger I wanted to be a stand-up comic.

Yeah, I said stand-up comic. I can be funny if I try really hard... and everyone is drunk.
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Old 05-28-2003, 11:42 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I never had those kinds of dreams, only because as I started to dream, I was brutally awoken by reality. I followed the parental promise of get good grades go to a good high school. Go to a good high school get good grades, go to a good college. Go to a good college get good grades, and get a good job. Get a good job, meet a nice girl, settle down get married and raise a nice family.

I had met my soulmate when I was overseas and still in college. I had a vivid dream the moment I met her that we were destined to be together. We eventually did get together. We lived together, she cheated on me with a coworker, and I was devastated. I dropped out of college because I was making mad money as a computer consultant, and didn't want to be distracted by my heartache. I eventually moved from LA to NYC, a move that when I was younger would have never considered.

So I set myself on a path of build the best of what's available and make the most of it.

I never knew what I wanted to do for a career, it just kind of fell into it place. I consider myself lucky that even though I dropped out of college, I've had the fortune of working for Fortune 100 companies in decsision making capacities and getting paid handsomely for it.

My wife, whom I met on the job and became good friends with before we started dating asked me a question when we first met, and I pose it to the rest of the forum since it does have relevance to Jadz's initial question..."When do you give up the dream?"
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Old 05-29-2003, 04:17 AM   #4 (permalink)
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hmm...I seemed to get about where I wanted.
But I don't know how the hell I got here.
I certainly didn't do it the planned, traditional way.

But now that I've grown up, I've got a new dream.
Family, travel, and a doctorate in Theoretical Physics.

Ask me again in about 10 years.
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Old 05-29-2003, 04:25 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Old 05-29-2003, 04:31 AM   #6 (permalink)
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i had lots of dreams... being a doctor... an famous actress... the first female scientist in space *chuckle*... all sorts of things... i was going to have three girls (just like my mom)... and i was going to name my first, Christina *laughing*
- that was in reference to the "Chrissy" doll for those of you who might remember... you know... the one with the really long pony-tail hair thingy that you could pull out, and make short again by winding a large knob on her back...*snicker*

funny how one the one hand my life turned out NOTHING like i expected... but on the other hand, it's "feels" exactly right... including all of the CRAP that happened along the way...

my core dreams though... about family, and children... those remain, and have been fulfilled... not exactly the way in which i expected... but the unpredictability seems to be just another aspect of the magic of it all...
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Old 05-29-2003, 05:36 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I just need the supermodel wife and a few million bucks and I'll have everything I need. (I already have the great job and awesome kids)
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Old 05-29-2003, 05:57 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Wanted to be a musician and I got what I asked for.
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Old 05-29-2003, 08:38 AM   #9 (permalink)
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I'm still pretty young, but I'm nowhere near where I wanted to be at this point in my life.
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Old 05-29-2003, 11:42 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Well i wanted to be a Disc Jockey...not by what they have for todays standards.....but while going to school for that I realized I didnt have the voice for it. Mean while in one of my other classes I found what I really like to do. I am a video editor, and I occasionally teach people how to do it. I love doing it and the one thing i think is so wonderful about dreams is that you can change them. Hell my goals (dreams) are WAY different then they were even 3 or 4 years ago, and for that I thank god! I like where I am now..and I hope I hit half my dreams in the next 4 years...but if not..I am still a happy man...


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Old 05-29-2003, 12:45 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Still dreaming here I guess.

I know what I want.....it just seems so far away.

I want to be married with a family and have a career.

I still don't know what the career will be, although I do lean towards a couple different things.

Luckly I do know who the man will be. So at least I got one part figured out.
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Old 05-29-2003, 12:57 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I wanted to be a gentic engineer.

After a couple years in UC Davis as a Genetics major, my dad took me aside and told me, "You are getting B's in your science classes. You are going to be a lousy scientist. I'm paying for this education. Do something else."

I realized he was right. I looked around me and saw brilliant people who understood the subjects far more deeply than I did. I wanted to be a scientist ever since I was in first grade, but it was obvious that I didn't have the brain-power for it.

It still makes me sad, even though I'm retty successful in my non-science occupation.
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Old 05-29-2003, 01:26 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Like 99% of everyone in this world... my dreams have not gone as planned. I now am getting married and have baby on the way, but I never got a chance to finish college.

But, I am taking my dreams and making them happen... I have enrolled in college and am pursuing completing my degree so that I am able to get a better job. I am currently at wells fargo, but it doesn't pay what I want. Luckily, I am only 21 and have a lot of time to get my life under control... and headed in the right direction.
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Old 05-29-2003, 05:11 PM   #14 (permalink)
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When I was 3, I scribbled on the wall and said, " 'ite, 'ite ! "
It's a famous family story.
Since then I've been an artist and a writer.

Live the dream.
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Old 05-29-2003, 05:22 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I've always had visions of becoming wealthy! It hasn't happened yet - Oops! Gotta run down and get a lottery ticket!
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Old 05-29-2003, 05:37 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I didn't get "the dream", which for unknown reasons solely focused on a career (what I wanted to be when I grew up). The dream was at various times to be a vet, a fireman, a professional athlete, and a teacher.

When I was younger, I never gave tremendous thought to who I would share the other aspects of my life with....finding that answer dramatically reshaped what I wanted to do. I met someone I wanted to marry and build a life with.....making what I did less important than the quality of life it afforded me. I don't mean money, although certain practicalities become more important with a wife and child, but more accurately, what the job did for my quality of life.

I chose my wife because I loved her. I chose my job because it made me happy and was a steady and dependable income. My life has become less about major achievements, saving the world, or fame.....and has become more about the infinite little things that keep us moving forward......being able to provide for my family, making it home before my son goes to sleep, knowing how to make him (and my wife) laugh, and going to bed knowing that I am fighting the good fight.

I didn't get my dream. But my dream was replaced with something different.

Keep plugging away Jad. May the next one be the best and last one.
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Old 05-29-2003, 05:55 PM   #17 (permalink)
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I chose my wife because I loved her. I chose my job because it made me happy and was a steady and dependable income. My life has become less about major achievements, saving the world, or fame.....and has become more about the infinite little things that keep us moving forward......being able to provide for my family, making it home before my son goes to sleep, knowing how to make him (and my wife) laugh, and going to bed knowing that I am fighting the good fight.

I didn't get my dream. But my dream was replaced with something different.

Keep plugging away Jad. May the next one be the best and last one.
Very well said, in my opinion. That is awesome, that's something I want to remember and quote.

I'm only 17, so I guess it is difficult for me to judge how close I am to my dreams... I can only hope and pray that the path I want is the path God has set for me. I like to think I'm on my way... going to a good school, a lot of people have a lot of faith in me.... but I also can't help but feel that with all that is right something is bound to go terribly wrong... anyone follow me?

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Old 05-29-2003, 06:04 PM   #18 (permalink)
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"useful" would be nice...
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