animosity

First off I'd like to say I know there is already a vday gift thread. I didnt want to steal the focuss from the starter though. If you feel a new thread is not needed then please remove it.

okay, I am in a bit of a pickel. I have a girl that I just started talking to the last few weeks. I really like her(she knows this) and I am under the impression that she likes me too. I have not actually been on a date with her. We just hang out, in and out of class, at school. I would like to do something for this girl, but being that we are in no way together, I do not want to be too forward. She mentioned to me this morning in class that no one has ever bought her flowers....

any ideas? I really do not like doing the norm, and I really do not like Vday to begin with. But I want this girl to know I think she is special.

Blaspheme

That's all you need to know, no need to ask the people here. The lady in question just told you what she wants. If you get her some nice flowers then you get credit for having paid attention and remembering what she told you, but if you get her anything else you'll most likely get dinged a few points for not paying attention no matter how nice your gift is. Women are funny that way.

Go big with the flowers, a huge bouquet or three, and include a note saying something to the effect that you thought it was such a shame she'd never been given flowers that you had to try to make up for lost time. It's an easy excuse to make a big statement about your intentions towards her without looking like some kind of desperate stalker.

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ironmaiden7o7

I would take it as a hint that she said noone's ever bought her flowers. Since you're not in a relationship with her, stay away from roses, I'd say get some flowers, exotic ones, different colors. Get a card, nothing too cheesy or mushy, something that describes your feelings. Or, it would be better if you get a blank card and write a few things about her, like things that you notice and like about her. I am sure she would love that. If not a card, write a note, tell her how you feel about her, it's always a good thing when you tell someone how you feel about them, especially if you feel that she shares some of the same interests with you. Good luck, let me know how it goes!

animosity

Thanks for the input.

I Think I will do the flowers. Only problem is that I am dead broke. I had an idea last night. I dont know which I will do. But I will either buy her some flowers(good call on not getting roses), or I will draw her some flowers and make it into a card... She likes my drawings and has asked me to draw a portrait of her(I'd do that for the gift, but I already told her I am I going to do it, and I dont have enough time b4 monday to do a project like that.)

Thanks again for the input. I'll let you know how it goes.

.....I really like this girl.

THGL

You can do roses but don't get red ones. The different colors mean different things (but I don't recall what means what... except red means love).

Just call the florist and tell them you want a half-dozen or dozen roses of different colors (but not red) and they'll put something really nice together for you.

streak_56

She gave you a huge hint. Flowers.... just find out what she likes or go with roses. Also, try to be thoughtful, I've noticed with my vday experience (never had a date on vday except for this year)... that thoughtfulness is something that my girlfriend likes. Usually its about the thought, not how much money is spent.

maleficent

Grocery stores sell flowers, at a lot less than a florist would, they generally aren't the quality that a florist would have, but if we're going on the thought is what matters most, you can can get a nice bouquet or two for a reasonable price. (though part of the thrill of getting flowers is having them delivered - -maybe send a friend with them to give to her)

So, you've got some artist in you, if she's asked you to draw her picture... but there's that budget thing..
Why not use some creativity -- paint some pretty designs on paper, and make her paper flowers... Requires, tissue paper, scissors and pipe cleaners.

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clavus

Play dumb. Give her various bags of unbleached flour, baker's flour, rice flour, corn flour...

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animosity

lmao! you just made me spit OJ all over my monitor.

I have the drawing.... I recycled an old drawing of mine. spiffed it up a little bit.

That paper flower idea sounds good too.

samiam

If you can afford it, an orchid plant is the ideal gift. It is unusual, exotic and with proper care, the flowers will last for months reminding her of you.

amonkie

Maybe what you could do is give her the drawing - which is VERY nice, btw , maybe a single flower. It's the thought that counts, and you're showing both your talent and your attention. Does she have a specific favorite flower? Maybe getting 2 or 3 stalks and tying them together with a nice ribbon - you've just made your own bouquet, and it's usually much cheaper. Home Depot and Costo both have good quality flower bouqets that are significantly cheaper than a florist.

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Fiver

lmao!!!!!!!!
I think you should go with your heart!!!!!

maleficent

The drawing is beautiful -- how about enclosing a poem with it - either one you wrote yourself-- or borrow from a famous poem...

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dirtyrascal7

okay, this suggestion is based on the assumption that you see her multiple times throughout the day with breaks in between...

you could give her a single flower each time you see her throughout the day and with the last flower give her the picture with a poem... or even better, an invitation to go on a date sometime. you'll know if the invite is a bad idea or not based on her reactions throughout the day... that way you can play things by ear and decide just how forward you want to be.

MSD

A yellow rose with a red tip symbolizes falling in love. You could get her those. A Thornless rose represents love at first sight. If you have been building up to it, peach-colored signifies that you want to move up and finally be together.

edit: here's a list of rose colors and their meanings http://www.rkdn.org/roses/colors.asp

animosity

Thanks again people. I have done a portrait of her now. I have a date with her Saturday, at which time I will give her the portrait(I cant wait until monday to give it to her). I like all of these ideas. They are really helping. I just hope this all works out. I am investing a lot of time in this.

you can check out the portrait in Tilted Artwork.

animosity

OK... well here is the update. I gave her the portrait & rose(drawing) on friday. Saturday we were supposed to do something, but she blew me off for the 2nd time. I have decided to leave it at that.

Thank you for your suggestions, but I will not be getting her anything for Vday.

dirtyrascal7

sorry to hear that, man... but its good that you don't seem too bent out of shape about it and even better that you aren't wasting time by going after someone who's not interested. i wish i had been that mature with a few different girls... but i was a fool and refused to give up. haha

animosity

Thanks. I am more annoyed than anything. But I could be jumping the gun. She did have a legit excuse(if she wasnt lying).

I have a one strike you're out rule. It keeps me from wasting time with girls who just want to play games.

Averett

What was her reason for not getting together with you?

I'd suggest letting her know you're still interested, but that the ball is in her court

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animosity

I have been trying to do something with her for the past week. I realize she is busy with her normal routine so the plan was to hang out saturday(during the week just wasn't playing out). Saturday, she told me she had to go eat dinner at her mothers house at 6, and then she called my back at 9:30 saying she was sick. Normally I would believe her about being sick, but she said something about her friends not caring that she was sick and leaving her alone. This leads me to believe that I was her back up for the day, and she only called for sympathy. She said something about doing something on sunday instead, so I called her sunday morning. She was short with me, so I didn't even bring it up.

She sounds like she is trying to hint at the fact that she does not want to date me, which is fine. I just wish people would be honest. I could respect honesty.

But anyway, the ball is not in her court. I am moving on to another hottie in another class.

Thanks again to everyone for the great ideas. Maybe I can use them on a different girl at another time.

superredhead

a great to get beautiful flowers without spending the money is going out and picking her a wildflower bouquet and dress it up with a ribbon. not only can you great some great colors, you can find some really pretty flowers. you could write something on the ribbon to tell her how you feel about her. perhaps that will win her over.

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animosity

Final update:

The girl got me a bag of candy. I didnt get her anything, but I stand by my decision not to do anything for her. It was a good choice.

Averett

Well that was nice of her. Who knows, maybe your story with her isn't finished yet.

Hopefully she'll get her act together and stop blowing you off

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kitsune

you know, it's a lot more sincere when you don't do thigns formally. you could get her flowers, but pick them yourself. and do it in front of her. don't go on dates, just go to her house or ask her to go to your house or find somewhere interesting to walk to in your town. laugh a lot, laugh at the things you think are funny, try to make her laugh, and if she doesn't make a joke like "why do you hate me so much!" be her friend. you know what i mean? aww i just read that you said you're moving on. hhhrmmm maybe my advice still stands? or maybe it's bad advice. who knows