And what is the definition of "is"?

Sex, is what you make of it, not how you make it.

all of that arousal is sex to me

it's the top of the list of God's gift to humanity -- why disparage any of it? As long as you are following the golden rule with others, who cares?

hmm. Is oral sex, Sex?
Is oral sex...
Sex?

ahem~ I'm thinkin' they call it oral Sex for a reason.:)

Ummmm. Why do you ask?!

Please, NEVER ask that question again! Anything that involves gentials going into a mouth, hole or breast have been deemed as sexual behavior if not sex.

some good ideas in there...but hmmm maybe we should have a clear, concise definition of "REAL sex" before we continue...seems a lot of ppl have different ideas of what it is and isnt!

for example:
-are you following the dictionary definition? if so, which one?
-how about how different religions perceive sex?
-it seems that a whole lot of it depends on your state of mind and that of your partner -- what do you think??
-how does that apply to your own ethics and morals?

maybe that was the point of the original question, though :D

Oral sex is sex. Vaginal intercourse is sex. Anal intercourse is sex. The only difference between the types of sexes are the types of outcomes and the different feels.