09-09-2004, 06:37 PM | #41 (permalink) | |
it's jam
Location: Lowerainland BC
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I could handle having more, but that ain't gonna happen
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09-10-2004, 12:05 AM | #45 (permalink) |
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We have 2, pretty happy with that. They are close in age and are pretty tight as friends and playmates. I grew up in the middle of three, never saw it as a big deal. I couldn't imagine more than that, between attention and money for each of them, it would be tough.
There are a lot of days where it would be great to have none, just put the dogs in the kennel and go... but life would seem so empty without them |
09-10-2004, 03:48 AM | #49 (permalink) |
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Location: Barrie, Ontario
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I respect the "zero children" opinions, but I couldn't imagine life without my two daughters. We contemplated trying for one more child - hoping it was a boy - but we decided that two kids is the perfect number for us.
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09-10-2004, 08:35 AM | #50 (permalink) |
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I think there are two questions (not that you asked, exactly):
Adoption or not? How many? The benefits of adoption are many. There must be thread here about adoption, mustn't there? We spent a month in Vietnam to pick up our daughter, and it was the among the best months of my life. Would be thrilled to answer PMs about adoption, as I don't have much time to post on that now. As far as how many, I would vote one. I'm shocked there aren't more people that say that. With one, you still have some semblance of your own life. With two children, that is gone. This is validated by observing our many friends with one child, and the friends with more than one. As far as the siblings to play with issue, it's far over rated. Many siblings DON'T play with each other. And many single children (like ours) have many many friends. There isn't a day that goes by that there isn't contact with other kids. The best of both worlds! |
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Location: Kingston, Ontario
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09-10-2004, 10:16 AM | #53 (permalink) |
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Location: The Wild Wild West
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From a parent of three, two is a pretty good number.
One child was fairly easy. (planned) Two wasn't very hard. (planned) The addition of the third made the workload go up exponentially. (you're what?!?!) As my wife says, having the third child makes you feel like you have 5 kids. I love all of my kids, but taking care of three is much, much harder then taking care of two. It doesn't help that the middle is potty-training and the youngest is in diapers.
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09-10-2004, 10:32 AM | #54 (permalink) |
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Location: happy place
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I always wanted a boy and a girl, however, there were other plans for me in the works. I had one son, actually thought I'd rather not have anymore. Became pregnant unknowingly, then lost the baby. Couldn't seem to get pregnant again fast enough. I don't think you really truly understand your needs or wants until it is out of your hands. I did become pregnant and had a second son. Happy as hell with them
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09-10-2004, 10:39 AM | #55 (permalink) | |
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09-11-2004, 04:53 AM | #56 (permalink) |
Who You Crappin?
Location: Everywhere and Nowhere
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The correct answer is more than 1. I know it's a generalization, but I know WAY too many people who were "only children" who fit into the stereotype of being spoiled, unwilling to share (even as adults), and used to getting their own way on everything. I think kids learn a lot socially by having siblings.
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09-11-2004, 11:34 AM | #57 (permalink) |
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Location: South Carolina
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ideal: none...I really do not see myself as being a good parent. I would be the most loving, adoring, caring, hardworking father in the world....but...I would rather not bring someone else into this world and i'd rather use those skills to help out someoen who is here already..
and maybe the chinese or muslims or whomever will outbreed 'us' but that's fine, I don't have to 'think of the children, won't somebody please, think of the children" I'm kidding, partially, but i do not believe in a cold war of breeding...
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09-11-2004, 02:23 PM | #59 (permalink) |
see the links to my music?
Location: Beautiful British Columbia
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alot of you don't want kids........hmmmmmmmmmm.......
.....best damn things i've ever made were my kids. 1 boy-12,........1 girl-8. i still get to learn along with them and it's a great experience. ...and i'm lookin' forward to the way they turn out....... magic # of kids for me is 2........ (cuz i got snipped and can't have anymore)........[sarcasm](another real great experience)[sarcasm] |
09-11-2004, 03:06 PM | #61 (permalink) | |
it's jam
Location: Lowerainland BC
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09-11-2004, 08:17 PM | #63 (permalink) |
Frontal Lobe
Location: California
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None, I say.
I'm not so sure that siblings teach children to get along. Maybe it depends on the person, but my experiences growing up with my sister taught me to hoard small pieces of cheese and hide in closets - basically like a rat. |
09-12-2004, 08:18 AM | #64 (permalink) | |
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Location: Kingston, Ontario
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09-12-2004, 03:04 PM | #67 (permalink) |
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Location: About 50,000 feet in the air... oh shit.
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It's a simple answer... PI.
Nah, I agree with two as well. Not too hectic, good social balance between the kids. 3 is a bit wierd and 1 is right out. 4 gets a bit crazy to keep up with... and so does everything above it. (I come from 2, so I may be a bit bias.) |
09-12-2004, 04:43 PM | #69 (permalink) |
Alien Anthropologist
Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana
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I used to say I never wanted kids. Now, I know that I made a huge mistake and should have had one or two. They are real miracles and love incarnate.
Ideally, have as many as You can afford to care for, keep healthy and help educate. It's amazing how many 'brilliant sounding' tfpers are saying 'None' to this post...which makes me wonder which demographical groups are having the most kids, out there in the World. Just wondering, because statistics reflect that the higher the person's IQ - the less likely that person is to procreate, in general. Any thoughts?
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09-12-2004, 07:12 PM | #70 (permalink) |
Helplessly hoping
Location: Above the stars
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I didn't think I ever wanted children...
...then I got pregnant. Now I have this amazing 13 year old person who is the most wonderful thing that could have ever come into my life. Also, we lost her dad 3 years ago, and she is so much like him sometimes it is just mind blowing. I am so appreciative that she's here with me. Best thing I ever did. |
09-13-2004, 06:57 AM | #72 (permalink) |
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Location: Boston
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2 as long as it's one of each
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09-13-2004, 10:17 AM | #75 (permalink) |
The Death Card
Location: EH!?!?
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Wow, I can't imagine not wanting to have children... I would be very upset if my heritage died off with me, and I didn't leave a little piece of me behind in this world.
I think I'm going to be a great dad, I want no more than three kids... Any more than three and you need to buy a bigger car.
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09-14-2004, 06:50 PM | #78 (permalink) | |
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Wow. I can completely understand that some might not want children of their own. But your answer seems to imply that that's the only choice that makes sense for anyone. If everyone followed your advice, wouldn't the human race die out? I'm just interested in hearing where you're coming from . |
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09-14-2004, 08:00 PM | #79 (permalink) |
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I'm one of three, and I wouldn't have traded my childhood for anything. We always had each other growing up, but now we're scattered throughout the country. I miss my little bros
I have a 9-year-old stepson, whom I love to pieces, and I want two of my own someday. |
09-15-2004, 09:44 AM | #80 (permalink) | |
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Location: Kingston, Ontario
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Ya I would like to know why you wouldn't want to keep your family name going? |
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