Gjefflin

LOL! In all actuality...it wouldn't have really mattered if it was a woman and whether she was hot or not. Just the fact that there are a billion empty seats around me and someone sits "right" next to me when they don't have to tweaks my personal space bone and makes me question..."Why?"

bigoldalphamale

trew.

Cynthetiq

sweet spot of the theater next to the sweet spot of your *ahem*

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Gjefflin

Stop thinking about my sweet spot bro.

John Falcon

I like two armrests.

cheeterbo

i would have asked him "why" in a nice manner

tangledweb

I had never given this any thought until recently. I went to the movies with a good friend. We are both married males so I was not thinking of any sort of 'spacing' rules. I assumed that he was going to sit next to me so that we could MST3K the movie if it sucked or some such thing. He sat down with an empty seat between us. When I asked him about the space, he told me that he didn't want people to think that we were gay and seeing the movie together.

It totally threw me off because it was so unexpected coming from him. All of the "Guy-Space" rules mentioned before are all accurate regarding strangers but I have never thought about them in regards to a friend.

Polyphobic

Maybe some of us are just more comfortable with our sexuality. I could care less if someone thinks I'm gay. I know I'm not and don't really care if someone else thinks I am. It's just not an insult to me.

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BoCo

He broke some serious guy rules by sitting right next to you. My own buddies and I always leave a single seat in between us just so we don't come in contact when we both go for the arm rest. The only thing worse than what that guy did is if he had stodd right next to you in the bathroom with 10 other empty urinals right beside him.

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Polyphobic

Guy rules?
That's hilarious.

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todd

Amazing. That first paragraph was stated amazingly well. So incredibly true.

Gjefflin

I completely concur! And I made sure that he "didn't" get that arm rest. I had already laid claim to it so he wasn't going to glom it from me. What a strange egg that dude was.

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raeanna74

I'm guessing he was just being anal about being in the center of the screen. It matters a LOT to hubby too - Wierd sometimes.

He also probably didn't read your body language right. I read somewhere that there are basically 3 places to sit in a row or chairs or on a bench. They are interpreted as follows

Center - DON'T sit next to me I want ALL my space. (Granted, in a theater, people tend to sit more center for the viewing purpose and not body language reason.)
Far side - Don't sit RIGHT next to me but you can sit here in the row/bench too.
Sightly off center - Go ahead and sit anywhere you want.

If I don't want people to sit next to me I tend to go for the end because there are some people who tend to rebel against the message that "Center" conveys and will sit close to me anyway. Maybe that's what happened here.

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Gjefflin

Well...I do believe this is mostly a man thing. A few women have responded here but it'd be interesting to take some sort of a poll to see how many women would mind that as opposed to how many men.

balefire88

unconciously, i've followd the urinal rule, then i took an online quiz, that showed me i always pick the urinal so that there's a space in between, so now i kinda know i do it, and its habit, so i stick to it

if i had to sit in a movie theater alone, i'd try to leave a seat on both sides fo me empty so i dont bother anyone, unless the only such seats like that are 'neck-breakers'.

howerver, i don't get the "if i go with my guy friends, we'll sit one seat apart"...good lord, are u guys friends or not? man, afterall i'm going to hang out with them, if i wantd that much space and comfort, i'd go to the theatre alone...i also suppose it just feels rude...i generally dont talk during mvoies, but sometimes (rarely) my friends will lean over and whisper, though they always take care not to let it be heard by anyone else...so, sittin aprat would totally defeat that....i figure some guys just do it cause they dont wanan be seen as gay...that comes off as homophobic to me..but hey, to each their own

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p0thead

yeah, sitting in a dark room right next to a male stranger while there is plenty of open space would make the movie experience pretty bad

Gjefflin

Well it wasn't a movie killer. It sucked for all of the first 10 minutes while I was trying to figure out what was going on and then after that I forgot about the dude.

Nafter

Wow, i didnt know people made such a big deal over this, id probably be that guy heh, when i into a cinema, im all bout findin the best seat to watch the film, i couldnt give a toss if its next to someone or on my own. Unless im with a mate then try and get enough seats in a row so if its crap we can bail, talk during the ads etc. If you had such a big deal w/ it jus talk to the guy, not like hes gonna jump you for talkin to him. It was slightly wierd that he didnt immediatly sit next to you, but maybe the social stigma got him, and had to pluck up the courage to break it? who knows
I do like people who seem to have this wierd desire to sit w/ one chair inbetween each other though, means i can usually get the best seat if i go in own me own even if its pretty crowded.

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Azharen

I don't know dude, maybe he just really digged the vibe U were giving off.

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Gjefflin

Yeah....I do kinda give off a damn good vibe. hehehehe

Blade21292

But I'm the jerk that always uses the one in the middle when there are only three... JUST to make the other guys uncomfortable.